Ukufunda Isibuko Ngaphakathi Nokubona Amaphethini Angaphakathi Aphindaphindayo

Ukuzibuka Okungcwele, Ukuzindla Kwangaphakathi, Nomkhuba Wokuqaphela Izimpendulo Zemizwelo Zansuku Zonke

Sanibonani bathandekayo emhlabeni, nginguZook wase- Andromeda itshe lokuqala lesisekelo elizokhonza abaningi phakathi kwenu kahle njengoba nifuna ukucaca okukhulu, ukuthula okukhulu ngaphakathi kwenu, kanye nokunyakaza okuhle kakhulu ngezinguquko eziningi ezinizungezile. Ukuqala kwenani langempela kutholakala enkambisweni elula kakhulu, yize umphumela wayo ufinyelela kude futhi uvula okuningi. Ukunyakaza kokuqala ukuzimisela ukufunda isibuko ngaphakathi. Abaningi phakathi kwenu babheka ngaphandle kuqala bese bezibuza ukuthi kungani izigcawu ezifanayo zibonakala ziphinda ngobuso obuhlukene, izindawo ezahlukene, amagama ahlukene, kanye nesikhathi esihlukile, kodwa nokho ziphethe ukunambitheka okufanayo, ubuhlungu obufanayo, ukuqina okufanayo, ukungaqiniseki okufanayo, noma ukulangazelela okufanayo. Okuphindaphindayo akuyona nje isenzakalo sangaphandle. Iphethini ngaphakathi kuwe ifuna ukubonakala ngokugcwele, futhi kuze kube yilapho ibonwa ngokwethembeka nokubekezela, izoqhubeka nokugqoka izingubo ezintsha futhi ime phambi kwenu futhi. Yingakho sibeka ukubaluleka okunjalo ekubukeni. Ukubuka kuyikhono elingcwele. Ukuqaphela ngaphandle kokuzahlulela okunamandla kuba yibhuloho elibuyela ekuhlakanipheni kwakho. Ukuqaphela ngaphandle kokushesha kuba isibani endleleni encane. Ukuqaphela ngaphandle kokuhlobisa kukuvumela ukuthi uhlangane nawe ngendlela eqondile newusizo.

Imiphefumulo eminingi ethandekayo eMhlabeni izama ukuziguqula ngokugxumela esiphethweni esikhulu, kuyilapho umnyango wangempela useduze, ucela kuphela ukuqaphela okuthule. Qaphela okukushukumisayo. Qaphela okukudonsayo. Qaphela okufiphaza isikhala sakho sangaphakathi. Qaphela ukuthi yiziphi izigcawu ezihlala engqondweni yakho ngemva kosuku oluphelile. Qaphela ukuthi yimaphi amagama akhulunywa ngomunye abonakala ekungena kuwe futhi aqhubeke ekhuluma isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kwengxoxo. Umlando wansuku zonke walezi zinto uba usizo olukhulu. Lokhu akudingeki kube umkhuba oyinkimbinkimbi, noma isiko elinzima elizwakala njengomthwalo osindayo. Ikhasi elilula, incwadi yokubhalela, uchungechunge lwamanothi agcinwe ngobuqotho, kungaveza izimemezelo ezingokomoya ezingaphezu kwekhulu ezikhulunywa ngaphandle kokujula. Bhala phansi okukuthinte kakhulu phakathi nosuku. Bhala okuthathe ukuthula kwakho, bese ubhala okubuyisele emuva. Bhala phansi isimo, umuntu, ingxoxo, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, umcabango owavela ngaphakathi kuwe. Isenzakalo sangaphandle sibalulekile, kodwa impendulo yangaphakathi ibaluleke kakhulu, ngoba impendulo yangaphakathi iyindlela yokungena esakhiweni esifihliwe ngaphansi kwesenzakalo.

Ukuphinda Amaphethini Okuphila, Izinto Ezibangela Imizwa, Nokwakheka Kwangaphakathi Ngaphansi Kwemicimbi Yangaphandle

Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa, bese kuba amasonto, ukubhala kwakho ngesandla kuzoqala ukukukhombisa lokho ingqondo yakho ebikuphinda, lokho imvelo yakho yemizwa ebilokhu ikujikeleza, nokuthi yiziphi izinkolelo ebezihlela ukuhlangana kwakho buthule. Abaningi kini bacabanga ukuthi ushintsho lufika ngokunqoba zonke izinkinga ngesikhathi esisodwa. Indlela ehlakaniphile nenomusa ukuthola intambo evela ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngoba amaphethini aphindaphindwayo aveza ukuthi ukunaka kwakho kufanele kube kuphi. Isenzakalo esisodwa singaba nje ukubhulasha okudlulayo ngesimo sengqondo somunye umuntu, ukudideka komunye umuntu, umsebenzi womunye umuntu ongakaqedwa. Ukuphindaphinda kuthwala umyalezo ohlukile. Ukuphindaphinda kuthi, “Sicela ubheke lapha. Sicela uhlale nalokhu. Sicela uqaphele ukuthi yini ebilokhu isebenza ngaphansi kobuso.” Mhlawumbe uthola ukuthi ukwenqatshwa kuvela ngezindlela eziningi. Mhlawumbe uthola ukuthi yonke indumiso evela komunye umuntu ikuphakamisa isikhashana, kanti ukungabikho okuncane kakhulu kokuvunyelwa kukushiya ungaqiniseki. Mhlawumbe ubona ukuthi ukubambezeleka kuhlala kuvusa ukukhathazeka, noma ukuthi impumelelo ilandelwa ngokushesha umuzwa wecala, noma ukuthi ukusondelana nabanye kuvusa isidingo esiphuthumayo sokuhoxa. La maphethini akuzona izijeziso. Ayizimpawu. Zikukhombisa lapho ukwakheka kwakho kwangaphakathi kulungele ukubuyekezwa khona.

Umbuzo owusizo kakhulu ungase ubuzwe, futhi unamandla amakhulu ngenxa yobulula bawo: “Yindaba engiye ngizixoxela yona?” Izindaba zakha ukuqonda, kanti ukuqonda kwakha impendulo, kanti impendulo imema okuhlangenwe nakho okuhambisanayo. Ezinye izindaba zasendulo. Ezinye zaqala ebuntwaneni. Ezinye zazuzwa ngokuphindaphindiwe komndeni, ngamasiko ahlangene, ngezivumelwano ezithule ezenziwe kudala, noma ngezenzakalo ezindala eziye zahlala zisebenza ngaphakathi emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Kodwa ngisho nendaba endala kakhulu ingaqashelwa. “Abantu bayahamba.” “Kumelwe ngisebenze kanzima ukuze ngifanelekele ukukhululeka.” “Akekho ongibona ngempela.” “Ukuphepha kuza kuphela ngokulawula.” “Ukubaluleka kwami ​​​​kuncike kulokho engikukhiqizayo.” “Uthando kumelwe lutholakale.” “Ukuphumula kumelwe kuthethelelwe.” Lezi zindaba zingahlala ngaphansi kokuphila kwansuku zonke iminyaka eminingi ngenkathi zibonakala zivamile ngokuphelele. Ukubhalwa kwazo ephepheni kuqala ukukhulula ukubamba kwazo, ngoba uma indaba isibonakala ngokucacile, ayisahambi ngawe ungabonakali.

Ukuphikisana Okufihliwe, Izinkolelo Ezikhawulelayo, Nombuzo Wokuthi Imicabango Yakudala Isilungele Ukuba Yimiphi

Esinye isici esicebile saleli tshe lokuqala siphathelene nokuphikisana. Umuntu angabamba imiyalelo ephikisanayo ngesikhathi esisodwa bese ezibuza ukuthi kungani indlela engaphambili izwakala ibhidlikile. Ingxenye eyodwa yomuntu ifinyelela ekukhuleni, kanti enye ingxenye inamathela ekwazaneni. Inkolelo eyodwa imema inala, kanti enye ihlebeza ukuthi ukwamukela okuningi kakhulu kuzodala ukulahlekelwa, umona, noma ukungazinzi. Izwi elilodwa licela ubungane obujulile, kanti elinye lakhe inqaba ephelele nxazonke zobuthakathaka. Isimo sangaphakathi esihlukene asikwazi ukunikeza isimemo esicacile sokuhlangenwe nakho. Yingakho ukuphikisana kufanelwe ukunakwa kwakho ngomusa nangobuqotho. Sesha izindawo lapho isifiso sakho esishiwoyo kanye nokulindela kwakho okufihliwe kungafani. Sesha izindawo lapho uthi yebo ngamazwi akho futhi cha ngesimo sakho sangaphakathi sonke. Sesha izindawo lapho ithemba likhona kodwa imvume ingakanikezwa.

Uma ukungqubuzana sekuqashelwe, ubumnene buba yigugu kakhulu kunokusebenzisa amandla. Kukhona ukuhlakanipha ekuthatheni inkolelo eyodwa ebalulekile ngesikhathi. Lokhu kunciphisa inqubo ngendlela ezuzisa kakhulu, ngoba ukuguqulwa okujulile kuvuthwa kahle ngokuxhumana okuqhubekayo. Khetha inkolelo evame ukuvela, noma leyo ebonakala ithonya abanye abaningi. Yinike ukunaka kwakho okuzinikele isikhashana. Yisho ngokucacile. Qaphela ukuthi ivela kanjani ezingxoxweni, ekukhetheni, ekuphenduleni, ekulindeni, ekuphatheni kwakho wena, ekuphatheni kwakho amathuba, ngisho nasekumeni komzimba wakho njengoba uhamba usuku lonke. Inkolelo enjalo iqala ukulahlekelwa igunya layo elidala ngalolu hlobo lokubona okuqhubekayo. Usuka ekuphilweni yiphethini uye ekubeni yilowo ongakubona, akubize, futhi ekugcineni akubumbe kabusha.

Njengoba lokhu kubona okujulile kuqhubeka, omunye umbuzo usebenza kahle: “Lo mcabango usulungele ukuba yini?” Lo mbuzo ushintsha ikhwalithi yobuhlobo bakho nephethini elidala. Esikhundleni sokulishaya, ukulihlazisa, noma ukuzama ukulikhipha ngomzamo onzima, ucela ukuziphendukela kwemvelo. Yonke imicabango ekhawulelayo yake yasebenza umsebenzi othile wokuvikela, noma ngabe lowo msebenzi usuphelelwe isikhathi eside uwusizo. Eminye imicabango ivikele ubumnene. Eminye ivikele ubumsulwa. Eminye ivikele isithunzi. Eminye ivikele inkumbulo yokuba yingxenye. Uma lokhu sekuqondwa, yonke indlela yakho iyashintsha. Iphethini elidala alisaphathwa njengesitha. Liba yisithunywa esinesikhathi sokubusa esiphelele. Umcabango owakhelwe phezu kokuntuleka ungase ulungele ukuba nethemba ekuhlinzekeni. Umcabango owakhelwe phezu kokungabonakali ungase ulungele ukuba ngumuntu ozaziyo. Umcabango owakhelwe phezu kokuqapha okuqhubekayo ungase ulungele ukuba ngumuntu ozethembayo. Umcabango owakhelwe phezu kokuntuleka komuntu siqu ungase ulungele ukuba ngumuntu okhululekile esimweni sakhe seziphiwo.

Ukuzindla, Ukuphupha Ngezincwadi, Nokuvumela Ukuqonda Okujulile Kwembule Incazelo Yangaphakathi Efihliwe

Isikhathi esinikezwa ukuzindla buthule sisekela lokhu okwenzeka ngezindlela abaningi abangaziqondi ngokugcwele. Ngesikhathi sokuzindla, izendlalelo ezijulile zobuntu bakho ziqala ukufaka isandla. Ukuqonda kungena kancane. Ubudlelwano buyavela. Izigcawu ezikhohliwe zibuya nencazelo entsha. Umusho owazwakala eminyakeni edlule ngokuzumayo wembula umthelela wawo. Inkumbulo eyayibonakala incane ibhekwa njengeyakhayo. Iphupho eliphindaphindayo liba nokubaluleka. Impendulo yomzimba ongakaze uyiqonde kahle iqala ukuba nomqondo. Yingakho ukuzindla kungeyona into engenzi lutho. Kuwukuthula kokuhlanganyela. Kuvumela izindawo ezicashile zobuntu bakho ukuthi zikhulume endaweni oyidalile. Akudingeki uphoqe isambulo. Udala indawo yokuba sifike.

Amaphupho angaba abangane kulesi sigaba sokuqala somsebenzi. Iphupho livame ukuqoqa lokho ingqondo ephapheme engakakulungisi, futhi likuveze ngezimpawu, izigcawu, izingcezu, kanye nemibono efanelwe ukuhlonishwa. Amaphupho angakukhombisa isimo sakho samanje semizwa. Angadalula ukukhathazeka okudala okusasebenza ngaphansi kobuso. Angabonisa impikiswano phakathi kwezingxenye ezahlukene zomuntu. Angakukhombisa lapho ukukhula kubizela khona, lapho umthwalo omdala ucela ukukhululwa khona, lapho imvelo yakho enkulu izama ukuthola ukunaka kwakho. Umuntu, indlu, umgwaqo, ukudla, isiphepho, igumbi, into ephukile, isitimela esilahlekile, isivakashi esibuyayo, indawo egcwele amanzi, ingane ekhohliwe, ingubo entsha, izitebhisi ezifihliwe—ngasinye singaba nencazelo maqondana nomhlaba wakho wangaphakathi. Ukugcina irekhodi elilula lamaphupho eceleni kwamanothi akho ansuku zonke kungajulisa ukuqaphela kwakho amaphethini aphindaphindwayo futhi kunikeze isimo kulokho umuntu wakho ojulile aseqalile ukukukhombisa kona.

Izitatimende Zokuhlela Kwansuku Zonke, Ukubuyekezwa Komklamo Wangaphakathi, kanye Nesisekelo Sokuqala Sokuguqulwa Kwangempela

Ngakho-ke, isigqi esisebenzayo saleli tshe lokuqala lesisekelo singaba lula kakhulu. Ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye, hlala buthule isikhashana bese uqoqa ukunyakaza okunamandla kwangaphakathi kusukela emahoreni angemuva kwakho. Bhala phansi okukushukumisile. Qamba umcabango owavela. Buza ukuthi iyiphi indaba endala engaba nomthelela. Qaphela ukuthi leyo ndaba izibonakalise yini ngaphambili. Zizwa ukuthi omunye umcabango eceleni kwayo udonsela kolunye uhlangothi. Bese ukhetha umusho owodwa ophethe ikhwalithi olungele ukuyihlakulela. Yenze iphile, yenze ikholeke, futhi uyenze isondele emandleni akho amanje. “Ngiyakwamukela ukuqina.” “Ngiphephile ukubonakala.” “Ukwamukela kuzwakala kungokwemvelo kimi.” “Izwi lami lifanele ekamelweni.” “Ukukhululeka kungaphila ngaphandle kokuzinikela.” “Sengivele ngithwele ukubaluleka kwami.” Umusho onjalo uba yisitatimende sokulungisa usuku olulandelayo, hhayi ngoba uzama ukuzikholisa ngokuphindaphinda okungenalutho, kodwa ngoba unikeza ingqondo yakho isimiso esisha sokuhlela.

Bathandekayo abaningi bayawushaya indiva ukubaluleka kwalesi sinyathelo sokugcina. Umusho owodwa ocacile, okhethwe ngobuqotho futhi udluliselwe osukwini olulandelayo, ungaqala ukushintsha izinqumo zakho ngezindlela ezizwakala zicashile ekuqaleni bese kamuva zibonakala zijulile. Ushintsha lokho okuqaphelayo. Ushintsha lokho owamukelayo. Ushintsha ithoni okhuluma ngayo nawe. Ushintsha uhlobo lwesimemo osidlulisela kwabanye ngokungazi. Ushintsha lokho okucabanga ukuthi kungenzeka. Yile ndlela isibuko esiqala ngayo ukushintsha. Ushintsho luqala ngaphakathi, bese luvela emazwini akho, ngesikhathi sakho, ukuma kwakho, okulindelweyo, ukukhetha kwakho, ukuzimisela kwakho ukuhlala ukhona, kanye nekhono lakho lokwamukela lokho okwakubonakala kukude. Kancane kancane, umhlaba wangaphandle ubonakalisa ukwakheka kwangaphakathi okubuyekeziwe.

Ngakho-ke, lokho esikubeka phambi kwakho akuyona imfihlakalo eyinkimbinkimbi, yize kuvula izendlalelo eziningi. Funda isibuko ngaphakathi. Gcina amanothi athembekile ezimpendulo zakho zangaphakathi. Qaphela ukuphindaphinda. Buza ukuthi iyiphi indaba ebilokhu isebenza. Thola ukuthi ukuphikisana kuhlukanisa kuphi ukunyakaza kwakho. Nikeza inkolelo eyodwa ephakathi ukunaka kwakho okuzolile. Hlala nayo kuze kube yilapho yembula ukuthi isilungele ukuba yini. Yamukela usizo oluvela ngokuzindla nangamaphupho. Thatha umusho owodwa omusha uye osukwini olulandelayo bese uwuvumela ukuthi ulolonge ukubona kwakho. Indlela yokuguqulwa kwangempela iqala lapha, ngoba umuntu ongabona ukwakheka kwangaphakathi ngaphandle kokufulathela useqalile ukubuyisa izihluthulelo zokuba kwakhe.

Ukuzithethelela, Izinqumo Zangaphakathi Ezindala, Nokukhulula Imijikelezo Ephindaphindwayo Yemizwa

Ukuzilahla, Izinqumo Zangaphakathi, Nokuthi Izindaba Zomuntu Ezindala Ziqhubeka Kanjani Nokwakha Indlela Yomuntu

Iningi elikhulu phakathi kwenu lichithe iminyaka lizama ukuqhubekela phambili ngenkathi liphethe izinqumo ezindala ngaphakathi kwenu, futhi lezo zinqumo zikulandele ebudlelwaneni, emsebenzini, enkonzweni, ekufundeni ngokomoya, ekuphumuleni, empumelelweni, ngisho nasezikhathini zangasese lapho kungekho muntu khona futhi ingqondo iqala ukuxoxa izindaba zayo ezindala futhi. Isisekelo sesibili sicela indlela ehlukile. Sicela ukubuyiselwa kwentethelelo, futhi ikakhulukazi ukubuyiselwa kwentethelelo kumuntu, ngoba ukuzisola sekuyinto evamile emasikweni abantu kangangokuthi abaningi abasaqapheli ukuthi kukhuluma kangaki ngaphakathi kubo, ukuthi kuphakama ngokushesha kangakanani, nokuthi kwakheka kanjani indlela yabo ngokujulile.

Wonke umuntu unezinkumbulo ezisenesisindo. Ezinye zinamathele emazwini ake akhulunywa ngokushesha. Ezinye zinamathele ezinqumweni ezenziwe ngokudideka. Ezinye zinamathele emathubeni aphuthelwe, ezikhathini zokuthula, ezikhathini zokweqisa, ezikhathini zobuthakathaka, ezikhathini zokubamba, noma ezikhathini lapho umuntu wayengazi ukuthi angahlangabezana kanjani nokuphila ngokuvuthwa okukhulu. Abaningi baphatha nezifungo ezindala, yize bengavamile ukuzibiza ngalelo gama. Isifungo singase sizwakale njengokuthi, “Ngeke ngiphinde ngithembele kanjalo.” Isifungo singase sizwakale njengokuthi, “Kumelwe ngizibonakalise njalo.” Isifungo singase sizwakale njengokuthi, “Ngizohlala ngiqaphile ukuze ukudumala kungangifinyeleli.” Isifungo singase sizwakale njengokuthi, “Ngizothwala konke ngedwa.” Lezi zivumelwano zangaphakathi zivame ukuvela ngezikhathi ezikhokhiswayo, futhi nakuba zibonakala zinikeza isivikelo, ziqhubeka ngokuthula ziqondisa ulwazi kuze kube yilapho ziqashelwa futhi zikhululwa ngobumnene.

Uhlu Olungcwele Lokuzisola, Izinkumbulo Ezibuhlungu, Izifungo Ezindala, Nokumangalelwa Kwangasese Ngomuntu

Yingakho sikumema ukuthi uqale ngokuthatha uhlu lwezinto, yize uhlu lwezinto ngale ndlela lungcwele futhi luyimfihlo kakhulu. Hlala phansi nekhasi phambi kwakho bese uqoqa imithwalo emidala esabuya ukukuvakashela. Qamba ukuzisola okungapheli engqondweni yakho. Qamba izigcawu obungaziphinda ngendlela ehlukile. Qamba izinqumo ezisavusa amahloni, usizi, noma ukuzigxeka. Qamba izinsolo zangasese ozithwele iminyaka eminingi. Qamba izindima ozithathe kuzo ezingasafanelani nokuthi uba ngubani. Qamba izithembiso ozenzile ebuhlungwini eziye zakha isakhiwo sezinsuku zakho. Kukhona amandla athule ekubhaleni lezi zinto phansi, ngoba lokho okufana namafu kuyabonakala, futhi okubonakalayo kungagcina kuhlangatshezwane nakho.

Ukuguquka kokuqala kokuthethelela kungokwakho. Abantu abaningi bakuthola kulula ukukhulula omunye umuntu kunokuzikhulula, futhi lokhu kwembula ukuthi ukuzahlulela kuye kwahlanganiswa ngokujulile kangakanani nendlela yokuphila yomuntu. Umuntu angakhulisa ukuqonda ngaphandle ngenkathi ehlala eqinile ngaphakathi. Umuntu angakhuluma ngesihe ngenkathi esifihla ngasese esikhathini esidlule sakhe. Umuntu angathwala uzwela ngezinkinga zabanye ngenkathi egcina ubukhali basendulo kuye. Le ndlela igcine imiphefumulo eminingi ethandekayo iboshwe ezinguqulweni ezindala zobuntu bayo, futhi yehlise ukukhula kwayo ngaphezu kwalokho abakuqaphelayo. Ngakho-ke, ukuqala kwenani elikhulu kulele ekukhulumeni ngaphakathi ngomusa nangokucacile. “Ngiyakhulula lesi sikhalazo kimi.” “Ngibuyisela lo mthwalo omdala.” “Angisadingi lesi sigameko ukuba singichaze.” “Ukuhlakanipha sekuqoqiwe, futhi ngivumela abanye ukuba bahambe.” Izinkulumo ezinjalo, ezikhulunywa ngobumnene futhi kaningi, ziqala ukushintsha isimo sezulu ngaphakathi.

I-Karma Evinjiwe, Ukuphindaphinda Imijikelezo Yemizwa, Nokuqaphela Isivumelwano Ngaphansi Kweziphethini Eziphindaphindayo

Lokho abanye kini abakubiza ngokuthi i-karma evinjiwe kungaqondwa ngendlela elula kakhulu. Cabanga ngakho njengendaba yangaphakathi engaqediwe ehlanganiswe namaphethini okuphendula aphindaphindwayo. Isenzakalo esidala sishiya uphawu. Uphawu lubumba ukulindela. Ukulindela kuthonya ukukhetha. Ukukhetha kudonsela ukushintshana okujwayelekile. Ukushintshana okujwayelekile kubonakala kuqinisekisa uphawu oludala. Eduze naseduze kwendilinga kuhamba kuze kube yilapho othile ema isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuze athi, “Ngiyakubona lokhu. Ngiyabona ukuthi lokhu bekulokhu kuphinda kanjani. Ngiyabona isivumelwano ngaphansi kokuphindaphinda. Ngilungele ilungiselelo elihlukile.” Ngale ndlela yokubona, umjikelezo omdala uqala ukukhululeka. Akukho lutho oluyimfihlakalo oludinga ukungezwa ukuze lokhu kube wusizo. Iphethini iba sobala uma usuzimisele ukuyilandelela ngokwethembeka.

Indlela ehlakaniphile iveza inkumbulo eyodwa ngesikhathi. Abantu abaningi baba nesifiso sokwelapha konke ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi inhloso yabo iyafaneleka; nokho, izingqimba ezijulile zoshintsho zivame ukuvula kangcono ngokunaka okuzinikele okunikezwe intambo eyodwa ephilayo. Khetha isigcawu esisodwa esisadonsa. Khetha ukuzisola okukodwa okuvame ukuvela. Khetha isahlulelo esisodwa sangasese esisalokhu sisemuva kwengqondo yakho. Hlala naleyo ntambo eyodwa ufunde ukuma kwayo. Yini oyinqumile ngawe kuleyo nkathi? Yisiphi isifungo esakhiwa lapho? Yini owaqala ukuyilindela kwabanye ngemva kwalokho? Lesi senzakalo esisodwa sikuthonye kanjani ukukhuluma kwakho, ukwamukela kwakho, ukuzimisela kwakho ukubonwa, ukuzimisela kwakho ukwethemba, ukuzimisela kwakho ukuphumula, indlela yakho yothando, indlela yakho yokuzivikela, indlela yakho yokusondela enjabulweni? Imibuzo enjalo iletha ukujula emsebenzini futhi iguqule ukuthethelela kube isenzo esiphilayo sokubuyekeza.

Isifundo Sangempela, Amanxeba Aphindaphindwayo, Nokubhekana Nobuhlungu Obudala Ngokuqwashisa Nokuqedela Okukhulu

Okunye ukuqonda okubaluleke kakhulu kuphathelene nesifundo ngokwaso. Ukuthethelela akukuceli ukuthi usule ukufunda. Kukucela ukuthi uyeke ukugcina ubuhlungu njengobuntu bakho. Ukuhlakanipha kungahlala kuyilapho ulaka luhamba. Ukuqonda kungahlala lapho amahloni ehamba. Imingcele evuthiwe ingahlala lapho i-alamu endala ihamba. Ukubona okucacile kungahlala ngenkathi ukuzijezisa kuhamba. Lo mehluko ubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba abaningi kini babambelele ekusindweni kwangaphakathi ngaphansi kwenkolelo yokuthi ngaphandle kwako benizolahlekelwa ukufunda kwenu bese niphinda lokho okwake kwabangela ukuphazamiseka. Iqiniso elijulile liya kolunye uhlangothi. Uma isifundo sesiqondwa ngempela, ubunzima abusasebenzi. Ukufunda kuyacaca uma kungasasongelwa ngaphakathi kokuhlasela. Uba nekhono kakhudlwana, uzinze kakhudlwana, futhi uqonde kakhudlwana lapho umthwalo omdala usubekwe phansi.

Ngezinye izikhathi, inxeba elidala libonakala liphinda endaweni entsha, futhi umuntu angase azizwe eshaqekile ukuthi into ethile ecatshangwa ukuthi iphelele ibuye futhi. Sicela ukuba uqonde lokhu ngendlela emnene. Ukuphindaphinda kuvame ukukhombisa ukuthi ungqimba olujulile selusondele ngokwanele ukuba luhlangatshezwe. Indawo entsha ingase ithwale ukunambitheka kwendala ngaphandle kokuba ifane. Umuntu omusha angakhuluma ngezwi elifana nelinye elidala. Ukudumala okusha kungase kufane nelasendulo futhi kwembule lapho indawo ethambile isafuna ukunakekelwa kwakho. Ukuphindaphinda okunjalo akudingeki kuhunyushwe njengokwehluleka. Izikhathi eziningi kubonisa ukuthi ubuwena bakho bulungele ukuqedwa ezingeni elivuthiwe kunangaphambili. Uhlangabezana nephethini ngokuqonda okukhulu, ukuzinza okukhulu, kanye nekhono elikhulu lokukhetha ngendlela ehlukile. Lokhu kubalulekile. Ngezindima ezinjalo, phumula bese ubuza, “Yini eboniswayo futhi?” “Yini esala ingakapholi lapha?” “Yisiphi isiphetho engizama ukusiphakamisa ngami?” “Ukuqedwa bekuzobukeka kanjani kulesi sigaba?” Imibuzo enjalo idala ububanzi. Ikususa ekuziphendukeleni bese uyibeka ebukhoneni. Inxeba eliphindaphindwayo lingase libe yiklasi, indawo lapho ungasakhulumi khona isivumelwano esidala, ungasamukeli indima endala, ungasaweli esinqumweni esidala sangaphakathi, futhi ungasakhi ukukhetha kwakho okulandelayo kusuka kumbhalo ofanayo wasendulo.

Okuhlanganisiwe Ukuthethelela, Ukuziphatha Okusha, Imingcele Enempilo, Nokuphila Ilungiselelo Langaphakathi Elibuyekeziwe

Ukuthethelela kuthola ukujula okukhulu uma kuhambisana nokuziphatha okusha. Ukukhululwa kwangaphakathi kushintsha kakhulu, futhi ukuziphatha kwansuku zonke kuyaqinisa lokho kukhululeka kube yisimo. Ake sithi uzixolele iminyaka eminingi yokupha ngokweqile ngenkathi ulangazelela ukwamukelwa ngasese ngokunakekelwa okufanayo. Ukuziphatha okusha kungasho ukukhuluma ngokucacile ngemingcele yakho. Ake sithi uzixolele ngokuthula okugcinwe ukuze kulondolozwe ukuvunyelwa. Ukuziphatha okusha kungasho ukusho okubalulekile ngenkathi izwi lakho lisathuthumela. Ake sithi uzixolele ngokubambelela kulokho obekuphelelise injongo yakho isikhathi eside. Ukuziphatha okusha kungasho ukukhetha indawo entsha, isikhathi esisha, indawo entsha, noma amaphethini amasha ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ake sithi uzixolele ngokunciphisa iziphiwo zakho. Ukuziphatha okusha kungasho ukubeka umsebenzi wakho phambi kwabanye ngaphandle kokulinda kuze kubonakale kuphelele. Ngezenzo ezinjalo, ukuthethelela kuyabonakaliswa. Kuyeka ukuba ngumqondo bese kuqala ukuba yilungiselelo eliphilayo.

Ukuzithethelela, Ukuvuselela Ubuwena, Nokukhulula Imithwalo Endleleni Yangaphakathi

Ubunjalo Obusekelwe Emthwalweni, Izincazelo Zemizwa, Nokuthi Ungubani Ngaphandle Kobuhlungu Obudala

Njengoba uveza lokhu, uzothola nokuthi ubunikazi obuthile buxhomeke ekutheni uhlale uthwele kanzima. Lokhu kungamangaza ekuqaleni. Ubunikazi obuthile bakhelwe phezu kokuba ngumuntu osinda kuzo zonke izinkinga. Ubunikazi obuthile busekelwe ekunganakwa njalo. Ubunikazi obuthile busekelwe ekubeni umsizi ongamukeli. Ubunikazi obuthile busekelwe ekuqondweni kabi, ekunwetshweni ngokweqile, ekungakhethwa, ekushiyweni, noma ekuhlolweni okungapheli. Nakuba lobu bunikazi buzwakala bujwayelekile, buvame ukugcinwa ngokulandisa kwangaphakathi okuphindaphindiwe futhi buqiniswe ngokuhunyushwa okubeka ezenzakalweni zansuku zonke. Uma intethelelo iqala ukwenza umsebenzi wayo, lobu bunikazi bungase buzizwe bungazinzile, ngoba incazelo endala yokuzichaza ayisafaneleki kahle njengoba yayinjalo ngaphambili. Ukungazinzile okunjalo kuyingxenye yokuvuselelwa. Incazelo entsha yokuzichaza ifuna ukuvela.

Zibuze ngobuqotho obujulile, “Ngingaba ngubani ngaphandle kwalo mthwalo omdala?” “Ubani obengasala uma lokhu kusolwa kwangasese kungishiya?” “Ngingakhuluma kanjani, ngikhethe, ngiphumule, ngidale kanjani, ngithole kanjani, futhi ngixoxe kanjani uma ngingasahleli kahle ngalesi silonda?” Imibuzo enjalo iveza ubuwena obanzi. Idala isikhala sobuntu bokuqala, obungakhiwanga ngokuphelele ebuhlungwini obudala. Le nguqulo entsha yobuwena ivame ukuzola, kulula, iqondile kakhulu, ayidlali kakhulu, isekelwe kakhulu, futhi ikwazi ukusondelana ngokoqobo nokuphila. Kungase kuzwakale kungajwayelekile ekuqaleni. Hlala nakho. Ubuwena obukhulu buthatha isikhathi ukuhlala ngokugcwele, ikakhulukazi kulabo asebenesikhathi eside behlelwe ngaphansi kokucindezeleka.

Ukubuyisela Ubungane Bangaphakathi, Ukuzihlonipha, kanye Negunya Elimnene Ngaphakathi

Ukuzithethelela kungaba yisenzo sokubuyisela ubungane bakho nawe. Abantu bavame ukuhlukana nenkampani yabo yangaphakathi. Bayazicindezela, bazigxeke, baziqhathanise, bazijahe, bazingabaze, bese bezibuza ukuthi kungani ukuthula okujulile kunzima ukukugcina. Ukuthula kukhula ngokwemvelo lapho kukhona inkampani enhle ngaphakathi. Cabanga ngokuba umngane ozinzile kuwe. Cabanga ukhuluma ngaphakathi ngendlela umdala ohlakaniphile noma umngane ozinikele angakhuluma ngayo. Cabanga uletha isineke ezindaweni ezisazizwa zingaphelele. Cabanga ngokuba ngumuntu othembekile ekugcwalisekeni kwakho. Lokhu akukhona ukuzitika. Lokhu ukuvuthwa. Kudala ukuqina kwangaphakathi futhi kwenza ukukhula kungabi nesiphithiphithi kakhulu.

Umkhuba walesi sigaba somsebenzi ungenziwa ngamahora ajwayelekile kakhulu. Ekupheleni kosuku, beka ukunaka kwakho endaweni eyodwa ezwa sengathi ishaywe uvalo. Buza ukuthi yisiphi isahlulelo esisebenza kuwe lapho. Kubhale ngokucacile. Bese ubuza ukuthi leso sahlulelo sake sazama ukuvikela ini. Bonga ngesivikelo, ngoba ngisho namaphethini aphambene ayevame ukuqala njengomzamo wokugcina into eyigugu ingashintshi. Bese ukhetha umusho wokukhululwa. “Lokhu kukhokhiswa sekuphelile.” “Isivumelwano esidala siphela lapha.” “Ukufunda kwami ​​​​kusala, futhi umthwalo wami uyahamba.” “Ngizibuyisela emseni.” “Ngikhetha igunya elimnene ngaphakathi.” Hlala buthule nomusho. Phefumula. Bese ucabanga ngesenzo esisodwa esiwusizo ongasithatha ngosuku olulandelayo esiqinisekisa ukukhululwa. Lokhu kuxhumanisa ukubuyekezwa kwangaphakathi nokuziphatha okuphilayo, futhi iphethini iqala ukushintsha ngokushesha okukhulu.

Ukukhulula Izifungo Ezindala, Ukususa Igunya Ezivumelwaneni Zesikhathi Esidlule, Nokukhetha Izivumelwano Ezintsha

Omunye umkhuba uhilela ukufeza izifungo ezindala ngqo. Uma isifungo sesitholiwe, sikhulume ngokuzwakalayo. Yizwa ithoni yaso. Yizwa isikhathi empilweni yakho lapho saqala ukubamba khona. Bese usikhuluma ngenhlonipho nangokucacile. “Wafeza injongo kanye. Isizini yakho isiphelile.” “Angisasidingi lesi sithembiso.” “Ngiphila ngesivumelwano esihlukile manje.” “Ukusekelwa kungangifinyelela.” “Ukusondelana kungasondelwa ngokuvuthwa.” “Ukwamukela nokupha kungahamba ndawonye.” “Indlela yami ayidingi ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo.” Inqubo enjalo ingazwakala ithinta kakhulu ngoba ususa igunya esivumelwaneni esidala bese ulibuyisela ekuqaphelweni kwakho kwamanje.

Njengoba lezi zinto zenziwa, kulandela ukwanda kokuzihlonipha ngokwemvelo. Ukunakekelwa okukhulu komuntu siqu kukhula kalula. Izinqumo ziqala ukuthuthuka. Imingcele ecacile yakheka ngaphandle kobunzima. Ukuphumula kuba lula ukufinyeleleka. Ukwamukela kuba lula. Inkonzo iba hlanzekile ngoba ayisaqhutshwa yisidingo esifihliwe kuphela. Ubudlelwano buba qotho kakhulu ngoba awusaceli abanye ukuthi baxazulule lokho okungaxazululwa yinguqulo yakho yangaphakathi kuphela. Izinguquko ezinjalo zingase zibonakale zilula, kodwa zishintsha isakhiwo sendlela yonke yomuntu.

Ukwanda Okungokomoya Ngesihe, Izinqumo Ezikhishwe, Nokuba Inkampani Ethembekile Kuwe

Impilo engokomoya ecebile nezinzile ayinakwakhiwa phezu kobutha obungaxazululiwe ngomuntu siqu. Ukwanda kuyajula lapho ukuthethelela kuvulele khona indlela. Ukuhlakanipha kugxilile ngokugcwele lapho izinqumo ezindala zikhishwe khona. Imvelo yakho enkulu isondela lapho kunendawo yayo. Lesi sisekelo sesibili,-ke, asiyona ingxenye encane yendlela. Siwumkhawulo ophilayo. Qoqa izinkumbulo, ukuzisola, izifungo, kanye nezinsolo zangasese ezisaphethe icala. Phendukela kuqala kuwe ngesihe. Bheka amaphethini aphindaphindwayo njengezindilinga ezingakaqedwa ezilungele ukuqedwa. Nikeza umucu owodwa wenkumbulo inhlonipho yakho ephelele. Gcina isifundo bese ubeka umthwalo. Namathisela intethelelo ngokuziphatha okusha. Susa ubuwena obuncike ebuhlungwini obudala. Yiba yinkampani ethembekile kuwe, futhi uvumele lobo bungane obubuyiselwe buvule izinga elilandelayo lokukhuphuka kwakho, uzojabula ukuthi wenze kanjalo.

Ukubonakaliswa, Ukunakekelwa Kwansuku Zonke, Nokuhlonipha Umzimba Njengengxenye Yendlela Yokwenyuka

Ukuvuthwa okunembile kakhulu kuqala ukuvuka ngaphakathi komuntu uma umzimba ususondele ngenhlonipho, ngoba ukufuna okuningi okungokomoya eMhlabeni kuye kwafundiswa ngebanga, ngokucindezeleka, ngokuzama ukuphakama ngaphezu kwezidingo ezivamile, nangomkhuba wokubeka ukuhlakanipha endaweni ethile ngale kokunakekelwa kwansuku zonke, isigqi sansuku zonke, kanye nokubonakaliswa kwansuku zonke, kuyilapho indlela ejulile imema into elula kakhulu futhi eguqula kakhulu. Umzimba wakho uhlanganyela kuyo yonke imithandazo oke wayikhuluma, kuyo yonke ithemba oke walibamba, kuyo yonke imithwalo oke wayithwala, kuyo yonke imvamisa oke wayimema, nakuyo yonke inguquko umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi oye wazama ukuyenza. Ngomzimba wakho, konke ukuqaphela kwakho kumele kudlule, kuhlale, futhi kuphile.

Abaningi kini bafunde ukuhumusha izimpawu ezivela phezulu ngenkathi bekhohlwa ukuthi bangafunda kanjani lokho isimo sabo esikukhulumayo izinyanga, futhi ngezinye izikhathi iminyaka. Ukukhathala kunesimo solimi. Ukungaphumuli kunesimo solimi. Ukuqina kunesimo solimi. Ukukhathazeka kunesimo solimi. Ingqondo ehlakazekile inesimo solimi. Izitho ezisindayo zinesimo solimi. Ukulala okungakhululekile kunesimo solimi. Ukuphefumula okusheshayo kunesimo solimi. Isimo sakho sikhuluma njalo, futhi uma usuqala ukulalela ngesineke, uzothola ukuthi umzimba awukaze uphikise ukuvela kwakho. Ubulokhu uhumusha isimo sakho sangaphakathi futhi ucela izimo lapho kungasekelwa khona ukuvumelana okukhulu.

Ukulala, Ukuphefumula, Ukuvuselela, Nokubuyiselwa Okuhlanganisiwe Kokuzinza Okungokomoya

Ukulala Njengendawo Yokulungisa, Ukuhlelwa Kabusha Kwesimiso Sezinzwa, Nokuvuselelwa Kwangaphakathi Okujulile

Enye yezindawo zokuqala zokubuyiselwa ilele ebuthongweni, ngoba ubuthongo buyithempeli lokulungisa, lokuhlela kabusha, lokunakekela ngokuthula, kanye nokubuya. Ngesikhathi sokulala, kuningi okuhlelwe ngendlela ingqondo ephapheme engakwazi ukuyihlela. Umzimba uyazivuselela ngemijikelezo yasendulo nehlakaniphile. Umuntu ojulile uxazulula imibono. Uhlelo lwezinzwa luyathamba futhi luhlele kabusha. Izitho nezicubu zenza umsebenzi wazo ofihliwe. Imibono yangaphakathi ingazihlanganisa namaphupho. Ukuqonda kungavuthwa lapho. Usizi lungakhululeka lapho. Ukucaca kungalungiselela lapho. Ngakho-ke, inhlonipho yokulala iba yisici esiyinhloko sokuqina ngokomoya. Umuntu oqapha ubuthongo ngesisa unikeza wonke umuntu wakhe isimo esingcono sokuphila kuso.

Ubuhlobo obuwusizo nokulala buqala ngaphambi kwesikhathi sokuphumula ngokwako. Isikhathi sokugcina sosuku sinethonya elikhulu. Ingqondo ephuthumayo, ukukhuthazwa okuqhubekayo, izikrini ezikhanyayo, izingxabano ezingaxazululwanga, ukudla okuphuzwayo sekwephuzile ngaphandle kokuzola, kanye nemithombo engapheli yolwazi oluqhekekile konke kulandela umuntu ebusuku. Umzimba bese uzama ukuphumula ngenkathi usaphethe umsindo wosuku. Isigqi sakusihlwa esithambile singashintsha kakhulu. Yehlisa ijubane ngaphambi kokuphumula. Fiphaza indawo ezungezile. Vumela umzimba ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi usuku lusondela ngaphakathi. Dala ukulandelana okujwayelekile okubonisa ukulula. Amanzi afudumele, ukufunda okuthule, ikhasi elilula lokuzindla, ukwelula kancane, ukuphefumula okuncane okuhamba kancane, isikhathi esifushane ngaphandle ngaphansi kwesibhakabhaka sakusihlwa, lezi zinto zingase zibonakale zincane, kodwa ziphindaphindwa ngokungaguquguquki zifundisa umzimba ukuthi ungawethemba kanjani ukwehla kwawo ekuphumuleni.

Ukuqwashisa Ngokuphefumula, Uhlelo Lwezinzwa Luzolile, Nokubuyisela Umzimba Esigqini Sangaphakathi Esilinganiselayo

Ukuphefumula nakho kufanele ukunakwa kwakho ngokuzinikela, ngoba ukuphefumula kungenye yezindlela ezisheshayo lapho umoya wangaphakathi ungashintsha khona. Iningi labantu liphefumula ngokwenjwayelo, futhi umkhuba uvame ukukhombisa ingcindezi, isivinini, ukuqapha, noma ukuphazamiseka. Ukuphefumula okungajulile kugcina umzimba ulungele ukuphuthuma okwengeziwe. Ukuphefumula okugcwele kumema iphethini ehlukile yokusabela. Ngokuphefumula okuhamba kancane, okuzinzile, umzimba uthola umyalezo ocacile wokuthi ungase uhlale, ukuthi ungase uphumule, ukuthi ungase ubuyele esigqini esilinganiselayo. Abantu abaningi abafisayo ngokomoya bafuna amathuba amakhulu ngenkathi beqhubeka nokuphefumula sengathi babhekene nobunzima obungabonakali usuku lonke. Indlela ehlakaniphile icela ubulula. Misa isikhashana usuku lonke bese uzwa umoya kusukela ekuqaleni kokuphefumula kuze kube sekuqedweni kokukhipha umoya. Vumela izimbambo zivuleke. Vumela isisu sithambe. Vumela umoya weluleke ngomusa, hhayi ngamandla.

Umzimba ufunda ngokuphindaphinda ukuthi ububanzi buyatholakala. Ukuphefumula okumbalwa okuqaphile okuthathwa izikhathi eziningana phakathi nosuku kungashintsha ikhwalithi yesizini yonke yangaphakathi. Umuntu angasebenzisa lokhu kuphumula ngaphambi kwengxoxo, ngaphambi kokuqala umsebenzi, ngemuva kokuthola izindaba ezinzima, ngaphambi kokushayela, ngaphambi kokudla, ngemuva kokufika evela endaweni ematasa, noma phakathi nosuku lapho umuzwa wokujaha usuqalile ukuqoqana ngamandla kakhulu. Ngalezi zenzo ezincane zokukhumbula, umzimba uyayeka ukudonswa amahora amaningi bese uqala ukuhlanganyela kuzo ngokuqina okuhlukile. Uma ukuqina kukhula, ukuqonda kuba hlanzekile, ukusabela kuba okuzenzakalelayo kancane, futhi umuntu uthola ukuthi uyakwazi kakhulu ukuqonda, ukubekezela, kanye nokuphendula okuhlakaniphile.

Ukunciphisa Ukukhuthaza Okweqile, Ukususa Imfuhlumfuhlu Yezinzwa, Nokudala Isikhala Sokubuyela Kwejubane Langaphakathi

Esinye isici salesi sigaba sesithathu siphathelene nenani elikhulu lokukhuthaza abantu abaningi eMhlabeni abaziveza kulo njalo. Ingqondo egcwele kusukela ekuvukeni kuze kube sebuthongweni ngezindaba, imibono, izithombe, izexwayiso, ukuphuthuma, ingxabano, ukuqhathanisa, kanye nemifudlana engapheli yemicabango engaqediwe iqala ukulahlekelwa yisigqi sayo semvelo. Umzimba awukwazi ukuhlala ngokugcwele ezimweni ezinjalo, ngoba uhlala usabela kulokho okutholayo. Ukuxubana kwezinzwa kwakheka ukuma, ukuphefumula, ukugaya ukudla, ukulala, imizwa, kanye nekhwalithi yokunaka ngokwako. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ukudla okuhlanzekile kuba yisipho ekuziphatheni kwakho. Khetha okufakwayo ngokunakekela okukhulu. Umzimba nengqondo kuyachuma lapho kunokuthula okwanele ukubhalisa okuyiqiniso kuwe kanye nobubanzi obanele bokugaya ulwazi njengoba lufika.

Izinqumo ezimbalwa ezilula zingabuyisa okuningi. Shiya izikhala ngosuku lapho kungekho lutho oludliwayo. Suka kude nedivayisi ehlala icela ukunakwa kwakho. Hlala uthule imizuzu embalwa ungenamsebenzi ohambisana nokuthula. Shayela ngaphandle kokugcwalisa lonke ivesi ngolwazi. Yidla ukudla okukodwa ngaphandle kwesihenqo noma umsindo ngemuva. Hamba ngaphandle kokuphatha amazwi ayishumi nambili ahlukene ekhanda lakho. Chitha isikhashana ekamelweni lapho kungekho muntu ocela lutho kuwe. Lezi zinketho ziyimithi yomuntu ozimele. Zibuyisela ikhono lakho lokuzwa ijubane lakho futhi zivumela umzimba ukuthi uphume ekuzibandakanyeni okuqhubekayo.

Imvelo, Umsindo, Nemikhuba Yansuku Zonke Ebuyisela Ibhalansi Esimweni Somuntu

Izwe langaphandle liphethe nokudla ngezindlela abaningi abakhohliwe ukuzibheka njengezibalulekile. Umoya omusha, isibhakabhaka esivulekile, ukufudumala kokukhanya kwelanga, umuzwa womhlabathi ngaphansi kwezinyawo, ukuhamba komoya ezihlahleni, iphunga lemvula, isithunzi esithule setshe, amanzi, igatsha, iqabunga, inhlabathi, namafu, konke lokhu kubuyisela okuthile okuyisisekelo ngaphakathi kwesimo somuntu. Imizimba yakho ayiklanyelwe ukuhlala ngaphakathi ngokuphelele, ngaphansi kokukhanya okwenziwe, izungezwe izindawo ezakhiwe, ihlukaniswe noshintsho lwezinkathi kanye nolimi olucashile lwezwe eliphilayo. Ukuhamba ngaphandle akulona nje ukuhamba ngaphandle. Umzimba uyaphinda ulinganise lapho. Ingqondo iyakhulula ukubamba kwayo. Ukuphefumula kuyashintsha ngokwayo. Imisipha ithola imiyalelo ehlukene. Izinzwa ziyavuka ngendlela ebumbene kakhulu. Isikhathi esivamile ezweni eliphilayo elikuzungezile siba yindlela yokukhumbula ukuba kwakho lapha.

Yima ekukhanyeni kwasekuseni imizuzu embalwa. Vula ifasitela bese uvumela umoya ohambayo ukuthinta isikhumba sakho. Beka izinyawo zakho phansi ngokwazi. Qaphela izimo zamaqabunga, ukuhlelwa kwamafu, ukukhala kwezinyoni, iphunga elishintshayo losuku. Lala phansi otshanini noma uhlale phansi uncike esihlahleni noma uhambe eceleni kwamanzi lapho ungakwazi khona. Izenzo ezinjalo zibuyisela isilinganiso. Zifundisa umzimba ukuthi ukuphila kubanzi kunomthwalo wemfanelo futhi kubanzi kunokucindezela. Ziphinde zidale indawo yangaphakathi ethambile lapho kungavela khona ukuqonda okukhulu nokudala.

Umsindo ungenye indlela yokubuyisela, futhi uyindlela endala kakhulu. Ithoni ithinta umzimba ngqo. Ukuhuba kungahlalisa isifuba nomphimbo. Ingoma emnene ingalawula ukuphefumula. Umsindo ophindaphindwayo wezwi ungaduduza ingqondo futhi udlidlize ezindaweni ezicindezelekile. Ingoma ingavula lokho umcabango ongenakukufinyelela. Iningi lokhokho bakho laliqonda ukubaluleka kwethoni ezwakalayo, umthandazo okhulunywa ngokuzwakalayo, amagama aphindaphindwayo ekuzinikeleni, umculo osetshenziswa osizini, ekugubheni, ekudluleni, kanye nokubuyisela. Abantu banamuhla bavame ukungawathandi amandla ezwi labo, kodwa izwi lakho liyithuluzi lokuhleleka. Ngomsindo, umzimba ungakhunjuzwa ngokuhambisana. Lokhu akudingeki kube yinto yomkhosi noma eyinkimbinkimbi. Ukuhuba okuthambile ngenkathi uhamba endlini kungashintsha isimo sengqondo sonke. Ingoma ephindaphindwayo imizuzu embalwa ekuseni ingaqoqa izingxenye zakho ezihlakazekile ndawonye. Ukuhlabelela emotweni, ukucula ngenkathi upheka, ukucula ngenkathi uhlanza, ukukhuluma amazwi esibusiso ngosuku lwakho, konke lokhu kusebenzisa umsindo ukudala ilungiselelo langaphakathi elinobungane. Ngisho nokukhetha ukulalela umculo omnene, noma ukuchitha ingxenye yosuku ngaphandle komsindo wemishini, kungasekela ukubuyela komzimba ekulinganiseni okukhulu. Umsindo uba usizo ikakhulukazi lapho ingqondo igcwele, ngoba ithoni ingahamba lapho ukuhlaziya kuzungeza khona kuphela.

Ukudla, Ukunyakaza, Ukuphumula, Imikhuba Yansuku Zonke, Nokuphatha Okusebenzayo Kwesimo Sasemhlabeni

Ukudla, ukunyakaza, nokuphumula nakho kufanele kukhulunywe ngomusa nangobuhlakani. Abantu abaningi baye baguqula lokhu kwaba yizinkundla zempi, besebenzisa isiyalo ngaphandle kobubele, bephatha umzimba njengomshini okufanele ulungiswe, ulinganiswe, uthuthukiswe, noma uphathwe, kuyilapho indlela ethelayo iqala ngobuhlobo. Buza ukuthi yini ekondlayo. Buza ukuthi yini ekushiya ucacile. Buza ukuthi yini ekushiya unesithukuthezi, usinda, noma ungazinzile. Buza ukuthi hlobo luni lokunyakaza olukusiza uzizwe uphila ngaphakathi kwesikhumba sakho. Buza ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lokuphumula olukubuyisela ngempela. Lena imibuzo ejulile, futhi izimpendulo zayo zingahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Ukulalela kubaluleke kakhulu kunokulingisa lapha. Ukudla okuphuzwa ngokuthula kunemiphumela ehlukile kunokudla okugwinyiwe ngenkathi uhlonyisiwe. Ukuhamba okulula okuthathwa ngokungaguquguquki kusebenza ngokujulile kunomzamo omkhulu oshiya umzimba ukhathele. Ukulula ngokuqwashisa kungavula izindawo zokucindezeleka okugciniwe okungeke kuvumele ukucindezeleka. Isikhathi sokulala phansi ngokuthula singabuyisela amahora angaphezu kwalawa achithwa ucindezela ukukhathala ngoba ingqondo isiqiniseka ukuthi ukubaluleka kumele kutholakale kaninginingi.

Isigqi esihlakaniphile sihlonipha ukondliwa, ukunyakaza, kanye nokuphumula njengabangane komunye nomunye. Ukudla kuyasekela. Ukunyakaza kuyajikeleza. Ukuphumula kuyahlangana. Ndawonye kudala isimo sangaphakathi esinempilo lapho amakhono akho amakhulu angavela khona. Imikhuba yakho nayo ifanelwe ukuhlolwa ngokwethembeka, ngoba impilo yansuku zonke ibunjwa kakhulu umkhuba kunokuphefumulelwa kuphela. Umbuzo owodwa uba usizo kakhulu lapha: “Ingabe le ndlela yokuphila isekela ukuzinza okukhulu, ukuvuleka, kanye nokutholakala kimi?” Phatha lo mbuzo kancane emisebenzini yakho. Yilethe kulokho okudlayo, lokho okubukayo, indlela okhuluma ngayo, ukuthi uhlala uphapheme kangakanani, ukuthi uzibophezele kangakanani, ukuthi usabela ngokushesha kangakanani kwabanye, ukuthi uhamba kangaki, ukuthi umisa kangaki, ukuthi uchitha kangaki izimpawu zomzimba, nokuthi ugcwalisa kanjani izikhala zosuku lwakho. Imikhuba idala buthule izimo lapho indlela yakho ivuleka khona. Isekela ukwenzeka kwakho noma yenza kube nzima ngezipho zakho ukuthi zifike futhi zihlale.

Imiphefumulo eminingi ezinikele ngokomoya nayo iye yahlakulela umkhuba wokuhambahamba ekukhathaleni ngenkulumo ephakeme. Babiza umzimba ukuthi uqhubeke lapho umzimba ubucela ukubuyiselwa. Baguqula ukuzwela kube yisizathu sokuqhubeka nokupha. Baphatha ukuwohloka njengokungathi kuwubufakazi bobuhle. Bazama ukudlula lokho umzimba okucelayo ngokusobala. Le ndlela idala ukucindezeleka, futhi kancane kancane ukucindezeleka kufiphaza ukuqonda. Ukuzinikela kweqiniso kuhambisana nokuhlakanipha. Ukuhlakanipha kuyaqaphela ukuthi ukukhathala akuyona ibheji okufanele uyigqoke. Isimo sakho siyachuma ngaphansi kokuphathwa okuhle. Amandla ahlala isikhathi eside ngokunakekelwa. Inkonzo iba nomusa ngokwengeziwe ngokugcwalisa kabusha. Ukubona okucacile kuba lula lapho umzimba ungacindezelwa njalo ngaphezu kwalokho ongakusekela.

Abanye kini kuzodingeka bafunde ijubane elisha ngokuphelele. Abanye kuzodingeka benze lula. Abanye kuzodingeka bathole usizo. Abanye kuzodingeka banciphise inani lezibopho abazithwele. Abanye kuzodingeka balale kakhudlwana, bakhulume kancane, badle kalula, bahambe kancane, noma bachithe isikhathi esiningi kude nomsindo kanye nesidingo. Ngayinye yalezi zinguquko ingazizwa ithobekile, ingathokozisi ngisho nobuntu obufisa intuthuko engokomoya ephawulekayo; noma kunjalo, ushintsho olukhulu luvame ukuqala kulezi zinqumo ezithobekile, ngoba zibuyisela indawo lapho umphefumulo wakho kufanele usebenze khona. Lesi sisekelo sesithathu-ke, siwukubuyela ekuhlonipheni isimo sakho sasemhlabeni. Qapha ubuthongo njengendawo yokulungisa. Yiba umngane wokuphefumula futhi uvumele ukuthi kunciphise isimo sakho sangaphakathi. Susa ukukhuthazwa okweqile ukuze ijubane lakho liphinde livele. Chitha isikhathi ngaphansi kwesibhakabhaka naphakathi kwezinto eziphilayo ukuze umzimba ukhumbule ukuthi kufanele uphile kuphi. Sebenzisa umsindo ukuze ududuze, uqoqe, futhi uzibuyisele. Letha umusa ekudleni, ekunyakazeni nasekuphumuleni, futhi uhlole imikhuba yakho ngamehlo acacile nangokwethembeka ngesineke. Vumela indlela yakho ifake ukugcwaliswa ngezindlela ezingokoqobo, ngoba umzimba ohlala kuwo awuhlukile ekuqhubekeni kwakho.

Isiqondiso Samaphupho, Umkhuba Wokuzindla, Nokuxhumana Kwangaphakathi Nomuntu Ojulile

Indawo Yamaphupho, Imibuzo Yokulala, Nokuvula Ubusuku Njengendawo Yesiqondiso

Kuwo wonke uhambo lomuntu, indawo yamaphupho ibilokhu isebenza njengendawo yokuhlangana phakathi komuntu ovukayo kanye nezingxenye ezijulile zobuntu bakhe. Ebuthongweni, ingqondo ematasa futhi ehlungayo iyakhulula ukubamba kwayo, izindima zangaphandle ziyathamba, futhi lokho obekuhleli ngaphansi kosuku kuqala ukuvuka nokuzihlela ngezindlela izinzwa zangaphakathi ezingazibona. Isigcawu siyavela, uphawu luyaphinda, umuntu okhohliwe kudala umi emnyango, indlu ivuleka emakamelweni obungazi ukuthi akhona, umgwaqo ugoba ngendlela engalindelekile, ingane iyavela, isitimela asisekho, amanzi amaningi ayawela, ukudla kuyahlanganyelwa, izitebhisi ziyehla noma zikhuphuke, umngane omdala uyabuya, ingubo ibekwa ezandleni zakho, futhi ngasinye salezi zithombe singase sibe nencazelo kulowo ozibonayo.

Isiqalo esiwusizo siyakheka ngaphambi kokuba ubuthongo bufike. Pheka umbuzo owodwa ocacile ebusuku. Gcina umbuzo ulula. Gcina uqotho. Gcina useduze nokuphila kwakho kwangempela. “Yini engingayiboni kahle?” “Yini edinga ukunakekelwa kwami?” “Iyiphi indlela yangaphakathi eyakha lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okuphindaphindiwe?” “Yisiphi isinyathelo esilandelayo esingangisiza ekuphunyukeni kwami?” Imibuzo enjalo imema umuntu ojulile ukuba ahlele izinto ngenkathi uphumule. Umbuzo oqondile ufana nokuvula umnyango nokubeka isibani emnyango. Utshela izindawo zangaphakathi lapho ukunaka kwakho kulungele ukuya khona, futhi ngokwenza kanjalo kuvumela ubusuku ukuba bube yindawo yokuxhumana esikhundleni sendlela edlula nje ngaphandle kokuqaphela.

Ukuqopha Amaphupho, Izimpawu Eziphindaphindwayo, Nokuhumusha Izithombe Zangaphakathi Ngobumnene

Ukujula kukhula ngokuhambisana lapha. Umbuzo owodwa obuzwe ngenhlonipho ubusuku nobusuku uqala ukuqoqa impendulo. Ezinye izimpendulo zifika ngephupho elicacile. Ezinye zifika ngomuzwa lapho uvuka. Ezinye zibonakala kamuva ngosuku ngokuqaphela okungazelelwe, ingxenye ekhunjulwayo, noma isenzakalo sangaphandle esifana nempendulo obuyifuna. Isiqondiso sihamba ngezindlela eziningi, futhi umuntu oqhubeka ebuza ngobuqotho kancane kancane ufunda amaphethini aso. Ukulala kuba ngaphezu kokululama. Ukulala kuba yindawo yeseluleko. Eduze kombhede, gcina incwadi yamanothi, ikhasi, noma ezinye izindlela ezilula zokurekhoda. Lo mkhuba ubaluleke kakhulu kunalokho abaningi abakuqondayo, ngoba amaphupho ahamba ngokushesha lapho evuka futhi ingqondo evamile ivame ukuwasusa ngaphambi kokuba inani lawo liqashelwe. Umusho obhalwe ekulaleni okuyingxenye ungagcina intambo evula kamuva lonke igumbi lokuqonda.

Amagama ambalwa anele ekuqaleni. Bhala phansi indawo, izibalo eziyinhloko, umuzwa onamandla kakhulu, into engavamile, umusho ohlaba umxhwele, isithombe esiphindaphindwayo. Bhala phansi ngisho nengxenye ebonakala ingabalulekile. Isango elikhiyiwe, igumbi elibomvu, isiteshi esinabantu abaningi, isilwane esibuyayo, isicathulo esilahlekile, umgwaqo ojwayelekile ngaphansi kwesimo sezulu esihlukile, izwi ngemuva kwakho, ingane esanda kuzalwa, udonga oluwayo, imephu, isitsha esingenalutho, zonke lezi zinto zingase zibe nokubaluleka okukhulu kunalokho ingqondo evukile ecabanga kuqala. Ngokuhamba kwezinsuku namasonto, incwadi yakho yokubhalela iqala ukwembula amaphethini. Ukuphindaphinda kuba ngomunye wothisha ababaluleke kakhulu. Uhlobo oluthile lwendlu lungavela kaninginingi. Amanzi angase ahambisane nezinkathi ezithile zemizwa njalo. Izimoto zingase zibonise indlela ohamba ngayo empilweni, kungaba ngokuzethemba, ukushesha, ukubambezeleka, ukungabi nandaba, noma ukungaqiniseki. Umzali, isithandwa, umuntu ongamazi, uthisha omdala, umfowabo, ingane, ngayinye ingamelela isici semvelo yakho noma isihloko esisasebenza ekuphileni kwakho kwansuku zonke. Izimpawu eziphindaphindwayo zidinga ukunakwa ngokucophelela ngoba zibonisa lapho inqubo ejulile iqhubeka khona. Intaba efanayo ebonakala emaphusheni amaningana ingakhomba isifundo esisodwa esikhula ngokubaluleka. Iphasishi eliphindaphindayo lingasho ukuthi kukhona umkhawulo ongakaweqi. Isilwane esiphindaphindayo singase sibe nemfanelo yemvelo, ukuzinikela, ukuqapha, ukuzivumelanisa nezimo, noma amandla afuna ukubonakaliswa okugcwele ekuvukeni kwakho.

Ukuhumusha okuwusizo kuqala ngobumnene, hhayi ngezinhlelo eziqinile eziphoqelelwe kuzo zonke izithombe. Impilo yakho yangaphakathi ikhuluma ngolimi olubunjwe okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho, izinkumbulo, kanye nobudlelwano. Inja ephusheni lomuntu oyedwa ingase imele ukwethembeka, kanti komunye ingase iveze inxeba elidala noma isibopho esiyigugu. Isikole singase sibhekisele ekwahluleleni komuntu oyedwa kanye nasekukhuleni komunye. Qala ngobudlelwano bakho. Buza, “Lo muntu, indawo, noma uphawu kusho ukuthini kimi?” Buza, “Lokhu kungikhumbuzani empilweni yami yangempela?” Buza, “Yimuphi umfanelo oboniswayo lapha?” Uphawu luvula kahle kakhulu ngobuhlobo, hhayi ngokuxhamazela.

Ukuzindla, Ukuthula, Nokukhulula Ukusebenza Ekuzijwayezeni Okungokomoya

Ukuzindla nakho kungokwalo mnyango wesine, yize ukuzindla ngomqondo ongokoqobo kuvame ukuba lula kunalokho abaningi abakwenzile. Ukuzikhandla okukhulu komuntu kungene ekuzijwayezeni okungokomoya, futhi ngalokho kuzikhandla kufike ukungezwani, ukuqhathanisa, kanye nokuzama ukuzindla ngendlela efanele njengokungathi ukuthula kuyimpikiswano okufanele inqotshwe. Ukuzindla kwangempela kuyisenzo sokuhlangana. Kuyimbuyiselo. Kuwukuhlala phansi nobuntu bakho ngobuqotho, ngokuthula, nangokwamukela. Ngokuzindla, izingxenye ezihlakazekile ziqala ukuhlangana. Ngokuzindla, umzimba ufunda ukuthula. Ngokuzindla, ingqondo iyancipha. Ngokuzindla, umuntu omkhulu uthola indawo yokwaziwa.

Indlela ewusizo iqala ngokukhululwa kokusebenza. Akukho zilaleli ezikhona lapho kuthule ngempela. Akukho mabanga anikezwayo. Akukho gunya elingabonakali elilinganisa ukuthi ukhiphe ingqondo yakho kahle kangakanani noma ukuthi usube ngokomoya kangakanani ngemizuzu engamashumi amabili. Inani lisekuthinteni, ngokwethembeka, ngokujwayelekile, kanye nokuzimisela ukuqhubeka ubuyela. Hlala phansi kalula. Phefumula. Vumela umzimba uhlale phansi. Zizwe isisindo sakho lapho uhleli khona. Qaphela ubuso obungaphansi kwakho. Qaphela umoya ohambayo nophumayo. Qaphela imicabango ngaphandle kokuyilandela yonke. Inhloso akukhona ukuyeka ukucabanga ngamandla. Inhloso ehlakaniphile ukuvumela ukucabanga kulahlekelwe ukulawula kwakho okuqhubekayo phezu kokunaka kwakho.

Ukulalela Uthule, Ukuzindla, Nokwamukela Isiqondiso Esiwusizo Empilweni Yansuku Zonke

Ukulalela kubaluleke kakhulu lapha. Abantu abaningi bangena ekuthuleni ukuze baqhubeke nokukhuluma ngaphakathi sonke isikhathi, becela, bephinda izinhloso, bebukeza izinkinga, behlela izinhlelo, futhi begcwalisa ukuthula ngomzamo. Indlela ethela kakhulu ifaka phakathi ingxenye yokulalela. Phumula ngemva komthandazo wakho. Misa isikhashana ngemva kwenhloso yakho. Cela, bese uthula ngokwanele ukuze wamukele. Ekuqaleni, ukulalela kungase kuzwakale kungenalutho noma kungajwayelekile, ngoba isiko labantu liqeqeshe abantu abaningi ukuba bahlale besebenza engqondweni njalo. Hlala nokuthula. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuvela olunye uhlobo lomusho. Umusho ungase uvele. Ukuqaphela kungase kwakheke ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Inkinga ethile ingase ibe lula ngokuzumayo. Ukukhathazeka okudala kungase kulahlekelwe amandla. Isinyathelo esilandelayo singase sibe sobala. Umuzwa wokukhululeka ungase ufike ngaphandle kwamazwi nhlobo. Lezi yizindlela umuntu wangaphakathi aqala ukukhuluma ngazo uma esenendawo.

Ukuzindla kujulisa lokho amaphupho nokuzindla okuqala ngakho. Ngokucabanga, uthatha isihloko esisodwa esiphilayo bese usivumela ukuthi sivele ngaphakathi kokuqaphela okuhamba kancane nokubanzi. Inani lapha lisekucabangeni okuqhubekayo. Umuntu angacabanga ngokubonakaliswa okuphelele kwezipho zakhe, ukuma kobuhlobo obuvuthiwe, incazelo yenkonzo, ikhwalithi yokuphumula kweqiniso, iphethini yokwamukela, ukusetshenziswa kwezwi, uhlobo lokuzinikela, umuzwa wekhaya ngaphakathi kuye. Letha isihloko esisodwa ekuthuleni bese usivumela sande. Siphendule kancane. Phila eceleni kwaso isikhashana. Vumela incazelo yaso ejulile ivele ngezingqimba.

Ukuzindla ngamakhono akho aphezulu kakhulu kungaba ushintsho olukhulu. Lokhu akusho ukwakha ubuwena obuyiphupho obenziwe ngobukhulu, ukuphelela, kanye nebanga elivela kubantu abavamile. Umbono owusizo kakhulu uphethe ukufudumala, ukujula, kanye nesisekelo. Cabanga ngesimo sakho esiphelele uphila ezinsukwini zakho zangempela. Ukhuluma kanjani usuka kuleyo ndawo? Uhamba kanjani egumbini? Uhlangana kanjani nomunye umuntu? Uthwala kanjani umzimba wakho? Uphatha kanjani umsebenzi, imali, ukusondelana, ukuthula, kanye nokungaqiniseki? Yiziphi izimfanelo eziba ngokwemvelo lapho? Ukuqina? Ukuphana? Ukulula? Inkulumo ecacile? Ububanzi? Ukuthembeka? Ukuba khona? Ukuzindla ngobuwena bakho obuvuthiwe kuqala ukwakha izindlela zangaphakathi lapho ubuwena bungavela khona kancane kancane.

Ukubukeza Amaphupho Anamandla, Ukuthembela Ekwazini Kwangaphakathi, Nokwakha Isigqi Sansuku Zonke Sesiqondiso

Abanye phakathi kwenu bazothola ukuthi amaphupho aqinile ahlala izinsuku eziningi, noma ngisho neminyaka, becela ukuphinda babuyelwe. Buyela kubo. Wabhale futhi. Hlala nabo uzindle. Buza ukuthi iyiphi inkinga yokuphila bephapheme okungenzeka ukuthi bebeyikhuluma. Iphupho lebhuloho elidilikayo lingaxhuma ebuhlotsheni noma ekuguqukeni obungakakulungeli ukuvuma ukuthi bekungazinzile. Iphupho legumbi elifihliwe lingahambisana nethalente noma inkumbulo elinde ukuhlolwa. Iphupho lokulahlekelwa yizwi lakho lingabonisa amaphethini angempela ekukhulumeni nasekuthuleni. Iphupho lokubeletha lingakhomba emsebenzini, ubuwena, noma ikhwalithi yangaphakathi elungele ukungena esimweni. Ngokuphinda ungene amaphupho anjalo ngenhlonipho, incazelo yawo ivame ukuvuthwa. Lokho okwakubonakala kungavamile kuqala ukuveza ukucaca okuphawulekayo.

Ngezinye izikhathi, isiqondiso kulindeleke ukuthi sivele kuphela ngezindlela ezimangalisayo noma eziphakeme, kuyilapho ezinye zezeluleko ezithembeke kakhulu zifika ngezindlela ezivamile kakhulu. Isiqondiso esicacile singase sikutshele ukuthi ushayele ucingo olulodwa, usule ekhoneni elilodwa legumbi, ubambezele isinqumo izinsuku ezintathu, ubhale incwadi, ushiye isivumelwano esithile, uphuze amanzi amaningi, uhambe ekuseni, ukhulume umusho owodwa obulokhu uwuphethe, uphumule ngaphambi kokuphendula, noma uqale umsebenzi omncane owuhlehlisile izinyanga. Isiqondiso esingokoqobo sivame ukufika ezweni elingokoqobo. Sithinta usuku lwakho. Sibumba isenzo sakho esilandelayo. Asizimemezeli njalo ngobukhulu. Ngezinye izikhathi sibonakala njengesiqondiso esilula nesiwusizo esibuyisela ukunyakaza lapho bekukhona ukudideka khona.

Yingakho ulwazi lwakho olukhulu lufanele ukwamukelwa ekuphileni okuvamile. Isiqondiso singesasemakhishini, ezimotweni, emahhovisi, ezingxoxweni, ezingadini, emisebenzini, ezincwadini, ekukhetheni, kanye nesikhathi. Isiqondiso singesasekuhlelweni kwama-aphoyintimenti, ngamazwi akhethwe ngesikhathi sokushintshana okunzima, ngomqondo wokuthi isimemo esithile asihambelani nawe, ngokusobala okungazelelwe ukuthi iphrojekthi idinga uhlobo oluhlukile, ngokuqaphela ukuthi iphethini isiziqedile, ngokushukumiseleka ukuphuma ngaphandle imizuzu eyishumi, ngokwazi ukuthi ingxoxo kumele yenzeke namuhla hhayi ngenyanga ezayo. Isiqondiso esinjalo siyasebenza, siseduze, futhi siyaphila. Ubuhlobo obuqinile nomuntu ojulile bukhula ngokwethembana okwakhiwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ukwethembana kuyakhula njengoba ucela, wamukela, uqopha, ucabanga, bese uqaphela ukuthi lokho okufike kangaki bekunembile, ngesikhathi, futhi kuwusizo. Iphupho eliqondwa ngoLwesithathu lingachaza impendulo engokomzwelo ngoLwesihlanu. Ukwazi okuthule okwamukelwa ngokuzindla kungasindisa izinyanga zezinkinga. Umusho obhalwe lapho uvuka kamuva ungaba yisihluthulelo sesikhathi sonke sokuphulukiswa. Lezi zinto ziqinisa ukuzethemba kule nqubo. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuphindaphindiwe, uyeka ukubheka ngaphandle imvume yokukholelwa kulokho impilo yakho yangaphakathi ebikukhombisa kona sonke isikhathi.

Enye ingxenye ebalulekile yalesi sigaba iphathelene nesigqi. Isiqondiso siya ngokuya sizwakala kalula lapho kukhona khona ukujwayela. Umuntu onikela ngemizuzu emihlanu njalo ekuseni kanye nemizuzu emihlanu njalo kusihlwa ukuze azilolonge ngokuthula uvame ukuthola okungaphezu kwalowo olinda izimo ezingavamile ngaphambi kokuhlala phansi ethule. Ubulula buyanqoba lapha. Imizuzu embalwa yokwethembeka ishintsha kakhulu. Hlala phansi. Phefumula. Buza. Lalela. Qopha. Zindla. Thatha umbono owodwa wosuku. Phinda. Ngalesi sijikelezo esincane, umnyango uvuleka kabanzi. Yamukela isiqondiso ngezindlela ezilula nezisebenzayo bangani abathandekayo, ngoba umuntu omkhulu uvame ukukhuluma ngendlela ewusizo kakhulu ngemiyalelo evamile. Ngalezi zindlela, indlela yakho ithola umngane obelokhu eseduze, elinde ngesineke ukuthi uphendukele ngaphakathi bese uqala ingxoxo.

Ukuqonda, Ukuphila Kwansuku Zonke, Nokuletha Ukuvuthwa Okungokomoya Empilweni Engokoqobo

Ukuphila Ukuqonda Okungokomoya Ngamahora Avamile Nokubuyisela Indlela Egunyeni Langaphakathi

Iningi lenu liqoqe ukuqonda okukhulu eminyakeni edlule. Nifundile. Nilalele. Nibekezelele. Nizivulele ukufunda okungokomoya, ukulungiswa kwangaphakathi, ukukhumbula, kanye nomuzwa omkhulu wenhloso. Isigaba esivuthiwe sendlela sicela into elula kakhulu futhi enamandla kakhulu: faka konke lokho empilweni yosuku. Kufake ehoreni ovuka ngalo. Kufake endleleni osebenzisa ngayo imali, indlela ophendula ngayo umlayezo, indlela onikela ngayo isikhathi sakho, indlela ongena ngayo ekamelweni, indlela onquma ngayo ukuthi yini okufanele isonto lakho, nendlela osabela ngayo lapho amazwi angaphandle ethi ayazi indlela yakho kangcono kunawe.

Futhi 'OKUKHULU' abantu abaningi baye badlulisela ukuqondisa kokuphila kwabo buthule kuziphathimandla zangaphandle ngaphandle kokuqaphela ngokugcwele ukuthi bakwenzile lokho. Abanye bakudlulisela ezibikezelweni ezimangalisayo, kulabo abakhuluma ngokuqiniseka ngezinxushunxushu ezizayo, ukuvuka, ukuwa, ukuvuka, izambulo, kanye namaphuzu okuguquka. Abanye bakudlulisela kothisha abazethemba kakhulu kunokwazi kwangaphakathi komlaleli. Abanye bakudlulisela enjabulweni ehlangene, ekucindezelweni komphakathi, emibuthanweni lapho ulimi olumangalisayo kanye nezimemezelo ezinesibindi kudala umuzwa wokuba yingxenye. Abanye bakudlulisela emifudlaneni engapheli yemidlalo yezepolitiki, imidlalo yezemidlalo engokomoya, imidlalo yeshashalazi yamasiko, noma imibono eqinile yalabo ababonakala benencazelo enkulu ngakho konke okwenzekayo emhlabeni. Ngemikhuba enjalo, umuntu ulahlekelwa kancane kancane ukuthungwa kwesiqondiso sakhe sangaphakathi.

Ukubuya kuqala ngenkumbulo elula: indlela yakho icela ukuba uphile ngayo kusukela ngaphakathi kuya ngaphandle. Isiqondiso singatholakala ezindaweni eziningi. Ukuhlakanipha kungafika ngezincwadi, othisha, izingxoxo, ukutadisha, umthandazo, amaphupho, ngisho nangamazwi adlulayo akhulunywa ngesikhathi esifanele. Kodwa akukho mthombo wangaphandle ongathatha indawo yokuqonda kwakho okuhlakulelwe. Akukho zwi elivela ngaphandle elingaphila izinsuku zakho ngenxa yakho. Akukho filosofi, akukho sibikezelo, akukho simiso esikhulu, akukho ubuntu obukholisayo obungazi ngokugcwele ukuthi yini oyilungiselelayo, ukuthi umzimba wakho ucelani, ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buveza ini, ukuthi umsebenzi wakho uzama ukuba yini, noma ukuthi isizini yakho elandelayo yokukhula idingani ngempela. Indlela ehlakaniphile ivumela ukufaka okuvela ngaphandle ukuthi kusebenze njengereferensi, ugqozi, noma isimemo, kuyilapho isilinganiso sakho esijulile sihlala siyisici esinqumayo.

Ukuzwa Kwangaphakathi, Ukuqonda Okusekelwe Emzimbeni, Nokukhetha Izindlela Ezisekela Ukwembuleka Okujulile

Umbuzo owusizo kakhulu ungahambisana cishe nayo yonke indlela yokuzikhethela: lokhu kuvula ini ngaphakathi kimi? Eminye imigwaqo yandisa ukuqina kwakho. Eminye imigwaqo iletha ubulula. Eminye icela umthwalo wemfanelo, umzamo oqotho, kanye nokusebenzisa kahle iziphiwo zakho. Eminye ijulisa umusa kuwe nakwabanye. Eminye ikushiya ungahlakazekile futhi utholakala kakhulu kulokho okubaluleke ngempela. Eminye imiyalelo yakha ubuhlobo obuhlanzekile nesikhathi, ngemali, ngomsebenzi, ngokusondelana, kanye nenkampani yakho yangaphakathi. Eminye imilayezo ingadala injabulo isikhashana, kodwa uma ukukhanya kokuqala sekudlulile, uthola ukuthi umzimba wakho uqinile, ingqondo yakho inomsindo, isimiso sakho sigcwele, inkulumo yakho ayibe qotho kangako, futhi izinsuku zakho zijikeleza ekubonakaliseni, ekuxosheni, ekuvikeleni, noma ekuphenduleni njalo.

Umzimba uvame ukwazi impendulo ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo izimisele ukuyivuma. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlolwa kwangaphakathi okuzolile kungenziwa. Thatha ukukhetha ukuthula bese uhlala eceleni kwayo isikhashana. Zizwe ukuthungwa kwayo. Zizwe ukuthi kwenzekani ekuphefumuleni kwakho. Zizwe ukuthi amahlombe akho athambe noma ayaqina. Qaphela ukuthi ingqondo yakho icwebezela buthule noma iqala ukugijima ngokuzithethelela, imicabango, ukuphuthuma, kanye nengcindezi. Qaphela ukuthi ukukhetha kucela ukuba khona kwakho nokuvuthwa noma kumane kuxhume isifiso sakho sokwamukelwa, injabulo, isimo, noma ukubaleka. Lolu hlobo lokuzwa alucacile. Lukhula ngamandla ngokusebenzisa, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi luba ngenye yeziqondiso ezithembeke kakhulu umuntu angazithuthukisa. Indlela evumelana nokwembuleka kwakho okujulile ivame ukukushiya uqoqene, uthembekile, futhi ukwazi ukuzithwala kahle ezinsukwini ezilandelayo.

Ukuthi Cha, Ukuvikela Ubuqotho, Nokucwenga Lapho Isikhathi, Inkulumo, Namandla Kunikezwa Khona

Enye ingxenye ecebile yalesi sigaba sesihlanu iphathelene nekhono lokwenqaba lokho okukukhipha amanzi, okukuhlakaza, noma okukunciphisayo, ngisho noma kubonakala kumangalisa ebusweni. Abaningi kini basathi yebo ezindaweni lapho wonke umuntu wenu esevele ehlebeza ngokuthi cha. Abanye bathi yebo ngenxa yenhlonipho. Abanye ngenxa yomkhuba. Abanye ngenxa yokukhathazeka ngokuthi omunye umuntu angase adumazeke. Abanye ngoba ukuthi yebo sekuxhumene nobuntu, ukuba usizo, noma ukuba yingxenye yomndeni. Abanye ngoba sekuyisikhathi eside benconywa ngokuthwala okungaphezu kwalokho okungokwemvelo ukuba bakuthwale. Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, lokhu kudala ukuvuza okuqhubekayo kwamandla. Amahora ayanikezwa. Ukunaka kuyaphuka. Umzimba uyanwebeka ngokweqile. Umuntu wangaphakathi uba nzima ukuwuzwa. Intukuthelo iyaqoqana buthule.

Umkhuba ocwengekile kakhulu ukuhlonipha lokho okusekela ukuphelela kwakho nokugcina iminikelo yakho ngalokho okungafakwa ngobuqotho. Ukuthi cha okucacile kungaba isenzo sokucwenga. Impendulo ehlehlisiwe ingaba isenzo sokucwenga. Ukuthi, “Lokho akungifanele,” kungalondoloza ubuqotho bakho ngaphezu kwencazelo ende. Umuntu ovuthiwe ufunda ukuthi angabona kanjani umehluko phakathi kwalokho okumnweba ngezindlela eziwusizo nalokho okumhlakaza nje. Ezinye izimemo ziyakwandisa. Ezinye izimemo ziyakunciphisa. Ezinye izibopho ziqinisa isiyalo kanye nekhono. Ezinye zigcina isimiso sakho sigcwele kuyilapho umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi ungatholi lutho oluningi kuwe.

Indlela ehlakaniphile ifundisa ukonga ubuwena. Isikhathi sakho, ukunaka kwakho, inkulumo yakho, umzimba wakho nothando lwakho konke kuyigugu. Kusebenzise ezindaweni lapho kungagxila khona, kukhule, futhi kusakazeke khona ngencazelo.

Ukushiya Imibhalo Yesisulu Nesilima Ngemuva Nokufunda Ukuhwebelana Kwangaphandle Njengolwazi Lokukhula

Ukulungiswa okwengeziwe kuza ngokushiya izindaba ezindala lapho wonke umuntu kumele abe yilowo olimele noma olimele. Isiko labantu liqeqeshe abaningi ukuhumusha impilo ngalezi zindima, futhi uma lezo zindima seziba umkhuba, yonke ingxoxo iqala ukuzihlela nxazonke. Bese yonke ingxoxo enzima iba ubufakazi bombhalo owodwa omdala. Ukudumala ngakunye kuba ukuqinisekiswa kokulindela kwesikhathi eside. Ukungaqondi kahle ngakunye kuba ubufakazi bokuthi iphethini efanayo isabusa. Kukhona okuwusizo kakhulu okutholakalayo uma usuphuma kulesi sigaba esincane bese uqala ukubuza umbuzo obanzi: yini le ngxoxo engibonisa yona ngamaphethini ami, ukucabanga, imingcele, inkulumo, okulindelwe, kanye nokukhetha kwami? Ngalo mbuzo, izenzakalo zangaphandle ziba ulwazi, futhi amandla akho okuphendula aqala ukukhula.

Ukuphila kwansuku zonke yilapho lokhu kuvuthwa kufanele kufinyelele khona. Imali iyakucela. Umsebenzi uyakucela. Ubudlelwano buyakucela. Inhlalakahle yomzimba iyakucela. Ngemali, uboniswa lokho okubalulekile, lokho okuhlehlisayo, lokho okusebenzisayo ukuze uthole induduzo, lokho okongelayo, lokho okugwemayo ukukubheka, kanye nohlobo luni lwekusasa olulungiselela buthule. Ngomsebenzi, uboniswa indlela ohlobana ngayo nomnikelo, ukuqashelwa, inkonzo, ikhono, isakhiwo, kanye nokuzihlonipha. Ngobudlelwano, uboniswa indlela ocela ngayo, indlela olalela ngayo, indlela owamukela ngayo, indlela onamathela ngayo, indlela ovikela ngayo, indlela othamba ngayo, nendlela ohlala ngayo ukhona lapho omunye umuntu ehlukile kulokho okulindelwe. Ngokunakekelwa komzimba, uboniswa ukuthi uzimisele kangakanani ukuhlonipha isitsha okumelwe siphile ngaso zonke lezi zifundo.

Ukuhleleka Okusebenzayo, Imali, Umsebenzi, Ubudlelwano, Nokwenza Ukukhula Ngokomoya Kubonakale Empilweni Yansuku Zonke

Ubunethemba lokuthi intuthuko engokomoya izosusa isidingo sokuhleleka okusebenzayo, kuyilapho umklamo ojulile umema kokubili. Indlela ecacile yangaphakathi kanye nempilo yangaphandle engahlelekile kudala ukungezwani okungadingekile. Ukuvuthwa kudinga ukuvezwa okusebenzayo. Naka izindaba zakho. Funda ukuthi umsebenzi wakho udingani ngempela. Hlela lokho okuye kwaba yimfucumfucu. Lungisa lokho okudinga ukulungiswa. Khetha ubudlelwano obuvumela indawo yobuqotho. Khuluma ngokucacile lapho ukuthula sekubize kakhulu khona. Phumula lapho kufanele ukuphumula. Landela lokho oqalayo. Izenzo ezinjalo azihlukile ekuqhubekeni kwakho. Yizona kanye izindawo lapho ukuqhubekela kwakho phambili kubonakala khona futhi kuwusizo.

Ukuqonda, Ukuziqondisa, Nokubuyekeza Imiphumela Yezinqumo Zansuku Zonke Ngokuhamba Kwesikhathi

Ukubuka Imiphumela Yesikhathi Eside Yendlela Nokuqaphela Lokho Okusekela Ngempela Ukuzinza Kwangaphakathi

Ukuqonda kuyajula ngokubuka imiphumela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sangempela. Umuntu akudingeki afinyelele esiphethweni ngemva kosuku olulodwa, isimo sengqondo esisodwa, ingxoxo eyodwa, noma igagasi elilodwa elidlulayo lentshiseko. Qaphela ukuthi indlela ikwenza kanjani emasontweni nasezinyangeni. Qaphela ithoni eyidalayo enkulumweni yakho. Qaphela ukuthi ikusondeza yini entweni yakho noma ikugcine ujikeleza ekukhuthazeni kwangaphandle. Qaphela ukuthi uyathembeka kakhudlwana, ukhululekile, uqotho kakhudlwana, unekhono lokusiza, futhi uzinze kakhudlwana esikhumbeni sakho. Qaphela ukuthi izinqumo zakho ziholela ebuhlotsheni obuhlanzekile, ukusetshenziswa kwezinsiza ngokuhlakanipha, kanye nesimo sezulu sangaphakathi esizinzile kakhudlwana. Isikhathi sembula okuningi. Okuhambisana nenani langempela kuyaqhubeka nokwembula ubuntu bayo ngokuxhumana okuphindaphindiwe.

Indlela efanele ukuyikhetha ngokuphindaphindiwe yileyo ekwenza ube banzi, uqonde kakhudlwana, ube nomusa kakhudlwana, futhi ube nesisekelo. Indlela ewusizo iyakuqoqa. Iqinisa ikhono lakho lokuhlala ukhona. Yenza ubulula bube buhle kakhulu kunokusebenza. Ivumela iziphiwo zakho ukuba zivele ngezindlela zemvelo neziwusizo. Ikufundisa indlela yokuphila ngokuqina okukhulu ngaphansi kwezimo zangaphandle ezishintshayo. Ikusiza ukuthi uhlale nawe ngendlela ecacile. Ithuthukisa inkulumo yakho kanye nokukhetha kwakho. Ivumela uthando ukuthi luhambe ngokukhululeka kakhudlwana. Ikhuthaza umthwalo wemfanelo ngaphandle kobunzima. Yenza impilo yakho ibe lula ukuhlala kuyo ngaphakathi.

Ubuhlakani Obuthule, Ukuba Khona Okuqinile, Namandla Azolile Okuziqondisa Kwabantu Abavuthiwe

Uhlobo lobuhlakani oluthule nalo luqala lapha. Abaningi eMhlabeni basacabanga ngamandla omuntu njengokubonisa, ukumemezela, ukuqina, noma ukulawula okubonakalayo phezu kwabanye. Amandla ahlala isikhathi eside anokwakheka okuzolile. Avela kumuntu owaziyo ukuthi yini engeyakhe nokuthi yini engesiyo. Avela kumuntu ongama kancane ngaphambi kokuphendula. Avela kumuntu ozwa imibono eminingi ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yisizinda sakhe. Avela kumuntu okhetha ngokucophelela, okhuluma ngokucacile, olandela, ophumula lapho sekufanele aphumule, futhi ovumela idrama yeqembu ukuthi idlule ezweni langaphandle ngaphandle kokuzibiza ngokuhlala ngaphakathi kubo. Lolu hlobo lokuziqondisa olusekelwe luphethe umusa. Lunesisekelo. Akuvamile ukuthi luzimemezele ngoba lungazwakala ngekhwalithi yokuba khona komuntu.

Omunye umkhuba owusizo ukubukeza izinqumo zakho ekupheleni kosuku ngaphandle kokuphawula okubukhali. Buza ukuthi unikeze igunya lakho kuphi. Buza ukuthi ukhulume kuphi ngokujulile kwakho. Buza ukuthi uvume kuphi ngokushesha kakhulu. Buza ukuthi uhlale uqotho kuwe. Buza ukuthi iphethini endala yahola kuphi. Buza ukuthi ukuvuthwa kwaholela kuphi ekuxoxisaneni. Bese ukhetha ukuhluzwa okuncane kosuku olulandelayo. Ngokuzindla okunjalo, impilo yansuku zonke iba yindawo yokuqeqesha. Kancane kancane, umhlahlandlela wangaphakathi uthola indawo eyengeziwe futhi imikhuba emidala yokusabela ilahlekelwa umyalo wayo. Ushintsho olunjalo lukhula ngokusetshenziswa okuqhubekayo. Asikho isidingo sokuphoqelela. Asikho isidingo sokubonisa. Kukhona ukuzimisela okuqhubekayo kokukhetha ngokunakekela okukhulu.

Inkonzo, Ukuveza Ubuciko, Ukupha, Nokuletha Ukukhula Kwangaphakathi Empilweni Yomuntu Ehlanganyelwe

Isevisi Ngokukhona, Isimo Sezulu, Nekhwalithi Yansuku Zonke Oyiletha Ezindaweni Zabantu

Zingelosi, kufika iphuzu endleleni yangaphakathi lapho konke ebenikufunda kucela khona ukuba kudlule ukuzindla kwenu kwangasese futhi kube yingxenye yomkhathi eniwulethayo ezweni elinizungezile. Umuntu angafunda iminyaka eminingi, angase aphulukise imithwalo eminingi yakudala, angase afunde ukulalela ngaphakathi, angase abe nokuhlakanipha ekukhetheni nasekuziphatheni kahle, bese kuvela esinye isimemo ngokuthula. Leso simemo sibuza kalula, ukuthi lokho enikuqoqile manje kuqala kanjani ukusabalala? Kuqala kanjani ukondla abanye, kuqinise indawo enikuzungezile, kucebise umsebenzi wakho, futhi kulethe ikhwalithi enhle ezindaweni zokuphila kwabantu ezihlanganyelwe? Abanye kini bacabange ukuthi inkonzo yinto emangalisayo, yomphakathi, noma ebonakala kakhulu, kuyilapho ukuqonda okujulile kuqala eduze kakhulu nekhaya. Inkonzo iqala ngekhwalithi yokuba khona okuthwala ekamelweni. Iqala ngezwi lokulalela kwakho. Iqala ngendlela omunye umuntu azizwa ngayo ngemva kokukhuluma nawe. Iqala ngokuthi amazwi akho aletha ukuqina noma ukudideka, ukuthi isikhathi sakho siletha impumuzo noma ingcindezi, ukuthi indlela yakho yokuphila idala ubulula kulabo abakuzungezile noma ibadonsela ekuphazamisekeni kwakho. Umuntu uhlala enikela okuthile emkhathini ohlanganyelwe. Ngisho noma kuthule, kukhona okunikezwayo. Ngisho noma kushintshiswana isikhashana, kukhona okushiywa ngemuva.

Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, isimo sakho siyingxenye yenkonzo yakho. Umuntu ozolile uyakhonza. Umuntu oqotho uyakhonza. Umuntu ofunde ukuhlala ekhona ebunzimeni uyakhonza. Umuntu obeke phansi ezinye zezigigaba zakhe zakudala uyakhonza. Umuntu okhetha ukucaca kunokusebenza uyakhonza. Umuntu okhuluma ngokucophelela uyakhonza. Umuntu olalela ngaphandle kokuphendula ingxoxo njalo abuyele kuye uyakhonza. Umuntu oletha ukuhleleka lapho kwakukhona ukuxinana, ukubekezela lapho kwakukhona ukushesha, noma ukufudumala lapho kwakukhona ibanga, usevele enikeza okuthile okubaluleke ngempela. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kulula, kodwa kunomthelela omkhulu. Umhlaba awubunjwa nje kuphela yizenzo ezinkulu, kodwa futhi yithonya eliphindaphindwayo lokuxhumana okuncane okuningi okuphakamisa noma okucindezela labo abadlula kukho.

Ukuveza Ubuciko, Ukwabelana Okuqhubekayo, Nokunikeza Isimo Kulokho Okuphilayo Ngaphakathi Kwakho

Ngakho-ke lesi sigaba sesithupha sicela indlela yokubonakalisa ngokuziveza. Lokho onakho ngaphakathi kuqala ukugxila kakhulu uma sekwabelwana ngakho ngandlela thile. Ukwabelana kungathatha izimo eziningi. Komunye umuntu kuba ukubhala. Komunye kuba ubuciko. Komunye kuba umculo. Komunye kuba ingxoxo esiza othile ekugcineni azizwe eqondakala. Komunye kuba ukudla okulungiselelwe ngokucophelela. Komunye kuba indawo eyenziwe yamukeleka kakhudlwana. Komunye kuba ukufundisa, ukweluleka, ukuhlela, ukulungisa, ukwakha, ukukhula, ukunakekela, ukucula, ukuklama, noma ukuvelela njalo ngendlela esiza abanye abantu bazizwe bezinzile ngaphakathi kwabo. Indalo ibanzi kakhulu kunalokho abaningi abakucabangayo. Ihlanganisa noma yini okuphilwa ngayo ngaphakathi kuwe.

Isigqi esiwusizo kakhulu ukudala into njalo, ngendlela ezwakala ingokoqobo futhi eqhubekayo. Ukuhlala njalo kubalulekile ngoba kufundisa iziphiwo zakho ukuthi zisakazeke kunokuba zihlale zigcinwe ngaphakathi kuwe. Abanye abantu balinda ukuphefumulelwa okuphelele ngaphambi kokuba bazivumele baqale. Indlela ehlakaniphile ukuvumela indalo ibe yingxenye yesonto. Kungaba ikhasi elilodwa elibhalwe ngokwethembeka. Kungaba isithombe esisodwa esidwetshwe. Kungaba umculo owodwa ohudulelwe eqophelweni. Kungaba isikhathi esichithwa utshala, ulungisa, uhlela, noma uhlela okuthile okuwusizo. Kungaba ikilasi elilungisiwe, ingadi enakekelwayo, ukudla komndeni okwenziwe kwaba okukhethekile, umlayezo ocatshangelwe kahle othunyelwe, umsebenzi ocwengekile kuze kube yilapho uphethe ikhwalithi ofuna ukuba nayo. Ngokuveza okuphindaphindiwe, izinsiza zakho zangaphakathi ziyatholakala kakhudlwana, futhi ukuzethemba kwakho kuzo kuyakhula.

Ukulungiswa Kobudlelwano, Ukupha Okuqhubekayo, Nokuthola Indlela Yakho Yemvelo Yokupha

Ukuceba okwengeziwe kuza ngokulungisa iphethini yobudlelwano ngesikhathi. Abantu abaningi bafisa ukubusisa umhlaba wonke ngenkathi beshiya amaphethini abo aseduze kakhulu engathinteki, kodwa izindawo oxoxa ngazo eduze zivame ukuba yiklasi eliqondile kakhulu. Ukhuluma kanjani nalabo obathandayo? Ulalela kanjani lapho othile ekudumaza? Ucela kanjani okudingayo? Usabela kanjani lapho omunye umuntu eletha imizwa, ubunzima, noma umbono ohlukile kowakho? Ubhekana kanjani nokuthula, ibanga, uthando, ukubonga, ukucasuka, nokungaqondi kahle? Ukulungiswa kwephethini yobudlelwano obuphindaphindayo kungasakazeka kakhulu, ngoba kushintsha uhlobo lokuba khona okulethayo kuzo zonke izixhumanisi zabantu ngemva kwalokho. Khetha indawo eyodwa elungele ukuvuthwa. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokukhuluma ngokucacile. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokulalela ngokugcwele. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokuphendula ngokusheshisa okuncane. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokuvumela ukwazisa ukuthi kuvezwe ngokukhululeka. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokugcina izwi lakho. Mhlawumbe kuphathelene nokunikeza omunye umuntu indawo yokuba yibo ngaphandle kokuzama ukumbumba abe isithombe osithandayo. Lapho ngisho iphethini eyodwa iqala ukushintsha, ikhwalithi iyonke yempilo yakho eyabiwe iyashintsha. Ubudlelwano abupheli ekubeni yizindawo lapho imikhuba emidala iphinda khona, bube yizindawo lapho ukukhula kwakho kukhula khona futhi kube usizo kakhulu kunakuwe nje.

Ukupha nakho kungokwalesi sisekelo sesithupha, futhi ukupha kuba namandla kakhulu uma kwenziwa ngendlela ehlala njalo. Umoya wokupha awuzivezi njalo ngeminikelo emikhulu yezinto ezibonakalayo. Ngezinye izikhathi ukupha kuthatha isimo sesikhathi esinikezwa ngokunaka okugcwele. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha isimo sesikhuthazo. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala njengobukhona obuthembekile. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala njengekhono elinikezwa ngehora elifanele. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala njengosizo olusebenzayo. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala njengomuntu okhetha ukuletha ithoni ezinzile esimweni esingase sidideke noma sicindezeleke. Ukupha kweqiniso kuthwala kokubili ukufudumala nokuhlakanipha. Kunikeza lokho okunganikezwa ngempela, futhi kwenza lokho ngaphandle kokuqeda amandla ophayo noma ukuguqula ukupha kube yisivumelwano esifihliwe.

Indlela yokupha eqhubekayo ifuna ukwethembeka. Yini ongayipha ngokuzinza? Yini ongayipha ngaphandle kokucasuka okuqongelela ngaphansi kwayo? Yiluphi uhlobo lokupha oluzwakala lungokwemvelo emvelweni yakho nasesikhathini sakho sokuphila? Abanye bangapha ngokungenisa izihambi. Abanye ngokufundisa. Abanye ngobuhlobo obuthandazayo. Abanye ngamakhono, ubuciko, ukuhlela, noma umsebenzi othule wangemuva ongabonakali omunye umuntu. Abanye ngokusekelwa ngezimali. Abanye ngokuhleka kanye nenkampani ekhuthazayo. Abanye ngekhono labo lokuhlala bezinzile lapho abanye bezizwa bekhungathekile. Uma usuqaphela uhlobo lokupha oluyiqiniso kuwe, kuba lula ukuluvumela lugeleze. Awusalingisi indlela yokupha yomunye umuntu. Uvumela indlela yakho ivele.

Inkampani Enhle, Insizakalo Engasizi Ukusindisa, Nokunikeza Usizo Ngaphandle Kokulahlekelwa Isikhungo Sakho

Inkampani nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Abantu bakhiwa yizindilinga abangena kuzo kanye nemizwa abachitha isikhathi beyizungezile. Umuntu owakha impilo ejulile nezinzile uzuza enkampanini ehlonipha ukwethembeka, umusa, ukuvuthwa, nokukhula. Lokhu akudingi indilinga enkulu. Ngokuvamile indilinga encane ithwala ukujula okukhulu kunobanzi. Abangane abambalwa abathembekile, abantu abambalwa abanobuqotho obungokwemvelo nabo futhi ukuma okungadingekile, kungamondla kakhulu umuntu. Inkampani enjalo ivumela ukuphumula. Ivumela iqiniso. Ivumela ukulungiswa ngaphandle kokuhlazeka. Ivumela ukugubha ngaphandle komona. Ivumela ingxoxo yangempela ukuba yenzeke. Cabanga ngekhwalithi yenkampani ekuzungezile. Ngubani okukushiya ucacile? Ngubani okusiza ukhumbule okubalulekile? Ngubani okhuthaza ingxenye engcono yakho ukuthi ize phambili? Ngubani owamukela kahle ukwethembeka kwakho? Ngubani ongakhuluma ngokwethembeka njengokubuyisela? Ngubani okwazisa ukukhula ngaphezu kokubonisa? Ngemibuzo enjalo, uqala ukuqoqa indilinga yakho ngokunakekela okukhulu. Inkampani enhle ayakhelwe ezithakazelweni ezifanayo kuphela. Yakhelwe ekuhlonipheni okuhlanganyelayo ngalokho okuyiqiniso, okuwusizo, nokucwengisiswa empilweni. Indilinga encane efana nale iba yindawo yohlobo oluthile. Isiza ilungu ngalinye ukuba libambe inkambo yalo ngokuqina okukhulu.

Inkonzo iba yimpumelelo ikakhulukazi uma ikhululiwe esidingweni sokusindisa. Abantu abaningi, ikakhulukazi labo abathuthukise ukuzwela nokunakekela, bathatha indima yokuthwala wonke umuntu buthule. Bazikhandla ngokweqile. Bagijimela ukuxazulula lokho omunye umuntu angakakusho ngokucacile. Bayalindela, bamukele, futhi banikele ngokweqile. Iphethini ejulile yenkonzo ithwala enye indlela. Ima eduze ngaphandle kokuthatha izintambo. Isekela ngaphandle kokulawula. Inikeza ngaphandle kokunamathela. Ithemba ukuthi umuntu ngamunye unenqubo yakhe, ijubane lakhe, kanye nezifundo zakhe ezenzekayo. Lolu hlobo lwenkonzo lubanzi. Luhlonipha isithunzi sabanye. Luyaqaphela ukuthi indima yakho ukunikeza lokho okungokwakho ukunikeza bese uvumela impilo iqhubeke ihamba komunye umuntu ngendlela yayo. Lokhu kudala ukushintshana okuhlanzekile kakhulu. Uletha lokho okuyiqiniso ukunikeza, futhi uhlala ugxile kuwe ngenkathi ukupha. Awunyamalali endimeni. Awukhi ubuwena obuhlala budingeka. Awunikeli ukunakekelwa ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ungowakho. Awenzi ukubaluleka kwakho kuncike ekutheni ungakuthwala okungakanani kwabanye. Kunalokho, uba yisitsha lapho ukuqina, ukuqonda, usizo olusebenzayo, isikhuthazo, noma ikhono kungahamba khona, kuyilapho ingaphakathi lakho lingaphazanyiswa. Lena indlela ecwengekile kakhulu yokukhonza, futhi ivikela ubumsulwa bokupha nokwamukela.

Umsebenzi Osekelwe Ekuchichimeni, Ukuqinisa Ithonya, Nokuvumela Ukuvuthwa Kwangaphakathi Kudle Umhlaba Obanzi

Umsebenzi wakho emhlabeni nawo uyashintsha uma lesi sigaba sesiqala ukuhlala endaweni yaso. Umsebenzi uba ngowondlayo kakhulu uma uvela kulokho okungabizwa ngokuthi ukuchichima kunokuba uvela esidingweni esifihliwe sokufakazela, ukuthola imali, noma ukuthethelela ukuba khona kwakho. Ukuchichima kunokunambitheka okuhlukile. Kuphethe ukupha ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Kuphethe ukuzethemba ngaphandle kobunzima. Kuphethe injabulo, ubuqotho, nokwabelana ngokwemvelo. Umuntu osebenza ngokuchichima akazithululi ukuze azizwe engokoqobo. Uveza lokho okuvele kuphila ngaphakathi kuye. Umzamo wakhe usekhona. Isiyalo sakhe sisekhona. Ukunakekela kwakhe kusekhona. Kodwa umthombo uzizwa uhlukile. Umsebenzi uqala ukugeleza ngokuhlanzekile ngoba awubanjwanga yingcindezi endala yokuba ngofanele ngomkhiqizo ongapheli. Lolu shintsho lungathatha isikhathi, ikakhulukazi kulabo asebenesikhathi eside bebopha ubuwena nokusebenza. Kodwa-ke kuwukucwengwa okubaluleke kakhulu. Zibuze ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko emsebenzini wakho uma ungasazami ukufakazela ilungelo lakho lokuba khona. Zibuze ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko lapho iminikelo yakho ivela ekugcwaleni, ekuzinikeleni, entshisakalweni, ekunakekeleni, emisebenzini yezandla, enkonzweni, kanye nasesifisweni sangempela sokuletha okuthile okuyigugu emhlabeni. Impendulo ivame ukwembula kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakho uba ngolinganiselayo, oqondile kakhudlwana, ozinzile kakhudlwana, futhi ovame ukuba nomthelela omkhulu ngoba uthwala ukucindezeleka okuncane okucashile ngaphakathi kuwo.

Izwe elikuzungezile liyazuza lapho abantu abaningi bephila ngale ndlela. Imizi iyazuza. Imindeni iyazuza. Ubungane buyazuza. Imiphakathi iyazuza. Izindawo zokusebenza ziyazuza. Amaphrojekthi ahlanganyelwe ayazuza. Umuntu oqoqene ngaphakathi, oqotho kakhulu ekuvezeni kwakhe, olinganise kakhulu ekupheni kwakhe, ocabangela kakhulu enkampanini yakhe, ohlala njalo empilweni yakhe yokudala, futhi osekelwe kakhulu endleleni akhonza ngayo, uba yithonya elizinzayo noma ngabe uyaphi. Bayasiza ngokuba yilokho abakuba yikho. Izenzo zabo zibalulekile, ngokuqinisekile, kodwa ithoni ngaphakathi kwezenzo ibaluleke kakhulu. Lesi sisekelo sesithupha-ke, sicela ukujikeleza. Vumela lokho okufundile kube yingxenye yomhlaba ohlanganyelwe. Khonza ngekhwalithi yobukhona bakho. Dala njalo ukuze lokho okuhlala ngaphakathi kuwe kuthathe ukuma. Lungisa iphethini yobudlelwano eyodwa ngesikhathi ukuze ukukhula kwakho kusetshenziswe ekushintshaneni kwangempela. Zijwayeze ukupha ngezindlela ezingahlala isikhathi eside. Qoqa indilinga encane esekela ukwethembeka nokuvuthwa. Nikeza usizo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yisikhungo sakho. Vumela umsebenzi wakho uphume ekugcwaleni kunokuba ucindezeleke. Ngalezi zindlela, indlela yakho iyeka ukuba yinto ephilwa ngasese kuphela futhi ibe yingxenye yokwakheka okubanzi kokuphila komuntu.

Ngakho-ke, bathandekayo eMhlabeni, siyanikhumbuza ukuthi lokho enikutshala ngaphakathi kwenu akusikho okwenu wedwa. Uma sekuvuthiwe, kuqala ukondla izikhala ezinizungezile, futhi ngale ndlela ukuba kwenu yingxenye yokuba yingxenye yokuba mkhulu kwabo bonke. Siyanithanda, ngokunihlonipha, nangokuqhubeka nobudlelwane bethu. NginguZook futhi 'Thina' singama-Andromedan. Sinithanda kakhulu, futhi siyabonga.