Isiqondiso sePleiadian Ngokuthethelela, Ubukhosi, Nokudalulwa Komhlaba Omusha

Ubizo Lokuvula Lokuthethelela Ne-Altare Langaphakathi Lobunye

Bathandekayo boMhlaba, nginguMinayah, futhi ngisondela kulo moya kanye neqembu lePleiadian eceleni kwami, nginikeza umfudlana wenkumbulo ekhanyayo engadingi ukuvumelana engqondweni yenu kodwa ezoshukumisa kancane ulwazi lwasendulo oluvele luhlala enhliziyweni yenu, ngoba isizini enkulu eyembulekayo idlula emhlabeni wenu manje futhi abaningi kini bayakuzwa ukuzamazama kwayo ebudlelwaneni benu, ezingxoxweni zenu, emijikelezweni yenu yezindaba, ngisho nasezikhathini zokuthula lapho niqaphela ukuthi nifisa kangakanani ngempela ukuphila ngomusa kunokuba kube njengokusabela. Ngokuvula kwalezi zinsuku—ngokukhishwa kolwazi ngokuzumayo, ukudalulwa komphakathi, izingcezu zeqiniso eziwela njengamatshe echibini lengqondo ehlangene—izinhliziyo eziningi zidonselwa entukuthelweni, ekusoleni, ekuphelelweni yithemba, noma ekuphelelweni yithemba, futhi siyavuma lokhu ngobuqotho, ngoba lapho amagama namanethiwekhi embulwa, lapho ukudalulwa kwakamuva noma ezinye izambulo zithinta ubuso bokuqaphela kwakho, umuzwa womuntu ungaba ukuqinisa, ukusola, ukuwela ekuphelelweni amandla, noma ukufinyelela isiqiniseko esinzima, kodwa isimemo esisilethayo sinembile kakhulu kunokuthi “thula,” ngoba ukuzola ngaphandle kokucaca kuba ukucindezelwa, futhi ukucaca ngaphandle kokuthethelela kuba ijele elisha elakhiwe ngezindonga ezifanayo ezindala. Ngaphansi kwesihloko ngasinye, ngaphansi kwawo wonke amahemuhemu, ngaphansi kwawo wonke amazwi okuvuma nokuphika, kukhona igumbi elithule ngaphakathi kuwe elingakaze lingcoliswe yilokho okubonile, futhi kulelo gumbi kukhona iqiniso elilula: ukuqonda kwakho kuyadala, ukuqonda kwakho kuyakhazimula, futhi noma yini oyinika amandla ngokunaka kwakho iba yintambo ephilayo kuwebhu owabelana ngayo nazo zonke izidalwa, yingakho sikhuluma ngokuthethelela njengomkhuba wobukhosi kunokuba kube yinhlonipho yomphakathi, ngoba ubukhosi busho ukuthi awuvumeli isiphithiphithi sangaphandle sibhale imithetho yezwe lakho langaphakathi. Ukuthethelela, ezikhathini esizisebenzisayo, ukukhululwa ngamabomu kokubopha okunamandla, isinqumo sokuyeka ukubopha amandla akho okuphila ekugwetshweni, ukuzimisela ukuma eqinisweni ngaphandle kokuba ukudlidliza kwesijeziso, futhi akususi imiphumela, akuceli ukuthi uvumele ukulimala, futhi akudingi ukuthi umeme noma ubani abuyele empilweni yakho ophule ukwethenjwa, kodwa kudinga okuthile abaningi abangakaze bakufundiswe: kukucela ukuthi uhlukanise ukubona ukuphikiswa kokudla okuphikiswayo, ukuze ukucaca kwakho kuhlale kubukhali ngenkathi inhliziyo yakho ihlala ihlanzekile. Cabanga nge-altare elingaphakathi elenziwe hhayi ngamatshe kodwa ngokukhanya, umkhawulo owela ngaphakathi kwakho nsuku zonke, lapho isivumelwano esilula senziwa khona ngokuphindaphindiwe—“Ngeke ngikhulekele ukuhlukana namuhla”—futhi yilokhu esikushoyo ngesitezi sokuthethelela sokuqaphela, isisekelo owenqaba ukuwela ngaphansi kwaso ngisho nalapho ubona umhlaba unyakaza futhi ushintsha, ngoba isitezi asiyona indlela yokusebenza kwabanye, kuyisakhiwo sangaphakathi esisekela ukuvumelana kwakho nobunye, futhi ubunye akuwona umqondo owuphethe ekhanda lakho, umuzwa ophilayo wokuthi akukho lutho futhi akekho ongaphandle kwensimu eyodwa yokuphila.

Ukuthethelela Okuncane, Izikhonkwane Zemizwa, Nokubuyisa Amandla Akho

Iziphepho zingase zivunguze enkundleni yangaphandle, futhi ingqondo ingakunikeza izithombe ezihlabayo, nezinkumbulo ezivuthayo, nezingxoxo ezizwakala zingenakwenzeka, kodwa indawo yokuqala lapho intethelelo ivuselelwa khona akukhona “lapho ngaphandle” ngamagama esikrinini sakho, “lapha ngaphakathi” ngomuzwa ophakama esifubeni sakho lapho uzizwa ukhashelwe yisintu, futhi sikumema ukuba uzijwayeze ukuthethelela okuncane ngesikhathi kuvela ukufinyela: qaphela ukuqina ngaphandle kokuzihlazisa, uphefumulele esikhaleni esingemuva kokuqina, bese uthi buthule, “Ngikhulula isibopho sami ekugwetshweni,” ngoba lapho wenza lokhu ubuyisa amandla akho entweni, futhi udala indawo yokuqonda ukuze kuvele njengesibani esicacile esikhundleni somlilo ovuthayo. Ukuhlukana kuwumkhuba oye wajwayezwa isikhathi eside emhlabeni wakho kangangokuthi uvame ukuzifihla njengobuhle, ukukukholisa ukuthi intukuthelo iwubufakazi bokuthi uyakhathalela, ukuthi ukwedelela kuwubufakazi bokuthi uvukile, ukuthi inzondo iwubufakazi bokuthi usohlangothini lokukhanya, kodwa lokhu kungenye yezinkinga ezinkulu zesikhathi sakho, ngoba inzondo imane nje iwukuzonda ukugqoka imaski, futhi ayikwazi ukukhiqiza ubunye, ayikwazi ukuzala isipiliyoni soMhlaba Omusha, futhi ayikwazi ukwelapha inxeba elihlangene elavumela ukuxhashazwa ukuba kube khona kwasekuqaleni, yingakho ukuthethelela kungabi yinto engenzi lutho; kuwukuqedwa okusebenzayo kwesipelingi "sethu ngokumelene nabo" ukuze insimu yobunye izwakale futhi ngaphakathi enhliziyweni yomuntu. Intukuthelo, uma iphakelwa, izama ukwakha isihlalo sobukhosi engqondweni yakho, futhi kusukela kuleso sihlalo sobukhosi iphikelela ekuphindaphindweni okungapheli, ukuphawula okungapheli, impindiselo engapheli, ngoba intukuthelo izwakala inamandla okwesikhashana ngenkathi intshontsha amandla akho ngasese ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi sicela ukuthi uqaphele lokhu ngokwethembeka: uma uyifunda indaba uze ungakwazi ukuphumula, uma uphikisana kuze kube yilapho umzimba wakho uzizwa usinda, uma uzijwayeza isijeziso kuze kube yilapho ukuphefumula kwakho kufushane, khona-ke ukuphambuka kwangaphandle kungene ngempumelelo ethempelini lakho langaphakathi, futhi ukuthethelela kuyisenzo sokuvala lowo mnyango ngaphandle kokuvala amehlo akho, ukhetha esikhundleni salokho ukugcina ukuqonda kwakho kuvulekile namandla akho engavinjelwe. Qala-ke, ngohlobo lokuthethelela olusondele kakhulu: thethelela ukusabela okusheshayo okwavela kuwe, thethelela ingxenye eyethukile, thethelela ingxenye ebifuna ukukhubeka, thethelela ingxenye ebifuna ukunyamalala, bese uphatha lezi zingxenye njengezingane ezibone okuningi kakhulu futhi ezingakazi ukuthi zingalisebenzisa kanjani iqiniso, ngoba uma unikeza ububele ezimpendulweni zakho zangaphakathi, uyeka ukubikezela impi emhlabeni, futhi kusukela kulolo bubele ungabe usudlulisela ukuthethelela okubanzi ngaphandle, hhayi njengesimemezelo sokuthi “konke kulungile,” kodwa njengokuqaphela ukuthi iqembu liyafunda, liyathuthuka, lidalula, futhi liyalinganisa kabusha, futhi uyenqaba ukuqeqeshwa ukuba nonya ngenkathi lokho kulinganisela kuqhubeka. Ukusebenza kuzokusekela kulokhu, bathandekayo, ngakho-ke ake sinikeze uchungechunge olulula ongabuyela kulo ngaphandle komcimbi futhi ngaphandle kokucindezeleka: lapho uvuka, beka ukuqonda kwakho esikhaleni senhliziyo ukuze uphefumule kathathu kancane, sho ngaphakathi ukuthi ukhetha ubunye kunokuhlukana, ubusise impilo yakho ngokuba khona esikhathini sokuguquka, bese unquma kusengaphambili ukuthi akukho ukudalulwa, akukho mpikiswano, akukho siphepho sedijithali esizokweba ikhono lakho lokuhlala unomusa, ngoba uma udala isimo sakho sangaphakathi kusengaphambili, usuku luhlangana nawe ngendlela ehlukile futhi umhlaba wangaphandle ulahlekelwa amandla awo okusebenzisa imvamisa yakho.

Ukuzimisela Okumnene, Amaza Eqiniso, Nokubona Okucacile Kothando

Ubumnene kumele bufakwe, ngoba ukuthethelela akunakuphoqeleka njengomnyango ovuleka, futhi abaningi baye bazama “ukuthethelela” njengendlela yokweqa ubuhlungu babo, kodwa bathole ukuthi ubuhlungu bubuya ngendlela ehlukile, ngakho vumela ukuthethelela kube ukuzimisela okuphilayo okukhula ngokwethembeka: vuma lapho ungakakulungeli khona, thambisa lokho ongakuthambisa namuhla, khulula lokho ongakukhulula namuhla, futhi ugcine imingcele yakho ingaphazamisekile uma ukuxhumana kungaphephile, ngoba ubunye abukona ukususa ukuqonda, buwukususa inzondo, futhi lo mehluko wenza ukuthethelela kuqine kunokuba kube yinto engenamsebenzi. Kusukela kuleli altare elingaphakathi ungabamba indlela elula ezokuhambisa ezinyathelweni ezilandelayo zalokhu kudluliselwa: vumela iqiniso lifike, vumela amanga achitheke, vumela imiphumela ithole izindlela zayo ezifanele, futhi vumela ukuqonda kwakho kuhlale kuzinikele ebunyeni, ngoba isipho esikhulu kunazo zonke ongasinika uMhlaba ngesikhathi sokwembulwa akukhona ukucija isahlulelo kodwa ukuqinisa ukucaca kothando, futhi ukucaca kothando yilokho okukuvumela ukuthi ubone ngaphandle kokuwa, ukwenza ngaphandle kobuthi, nokuhlanganyela ekushintsheni ngaphandle kokudliwa ubumnyama obubonayo.

Ukuqeqeshwa Ekuthetheleleni Kwansuku Zonke Nokulungiselela Ukudalulwa Okuzayo

Ubukhosi bukhula njalo uma ukhetha ukuthethelela ngezikhathi ezincane kakhulu, futhi lezo zikhathi ziningi kakhulu kunezindaba ezidumile ezikrinini zakho, ngakho-ke zijwayeze ngokucasuka okuvamile, ukuphawula okubukhali, umyalezo obambezelekile, ukungaqondi kahle ekhishini, ukubekezela komuntu ongamazi, ngoba ingqondo eziqeqesha ukuthethelela ezintweni ezincane ngeke ihlonyiswe kalula yizambulo ezinkulu, futhi inhliziyo eqhubeka ikhetha ubunye nsuku zonke izohlala ikwazi ukuhlangabezana nokuthuthumela komhlaba ngozwela oluphapheme futhi olunamandla. Ngakho-ke sikumema ukuthi uzizwe phansi ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho njengoba ufunda, ukuzwa ukuqina okuthule okwakhiwa ukuthethelela ngaphakathi kuwe, nokuqaphela ukuthi lokhu kuqina akubuthakathaka kodwa kucwengekile, ngoba kuvela engxenyeni yakho ekhumbula ukwakheka okukhulu kokuziphendukela kwemvelo, futhi njengoba singena manje endleleni i-polarity esetshenziswe ngayo ukuhlukanisa izinhliziyo zibe amakamu aphikisanayo, gcina i-altare langaphakathi likhanya kulokhu manje, ngoba imfundiso elandelayo izokukhombisa ukuthi ukuthethelela kuqeda kanjani ukukhanga kwezinhlangothi ezimbili futhi kubuyisela ubunye njengesipiliyoni sokuphila esisheshayo.

Ukuphulukisa i-Polarity Nokufakazela Ukuqonda Kobunye Ngezikhathi ZesAmbulo

Ukuphuma Eshashalazini Lamaqhawe Nama-villains

Ithiyetha yigama esilisebenzisa ngobumnene lapha, hhayi ukuphika okwenzekile emhlabeni wakho, kodwa ukuchaza indlela ukuqonda okungaguqulwa ngayo kube yizindima, izingubo, kanye nemibhalo, ngoba ingqondo ehlangene iqeqeshwe ukufuna amaqhawe nababi njengokungathi yileyo kuphela imephu etholakalayo, futhi ekujuleni komjikelezo wesambulo isilingo siba ukukhetha uhlangothi ngokushesha nokuthulula amandla akho okuphila ekuhlaseleni "omunye," ngisho noma ungakaze uhlangane nabo, ngisho noma ungayazi indaba ephelele, futhi yingakho kanye ukuthethelela kuba isenzo esithuthukile senkululeko: kuphuma emqondweni futhi kukubuyisele egunyeni lakho langaphakathi. I-Polarity ibilokhu iklanywa futhi ikhuliswa isikhathi eside ngoba iyasebenza ekuvuneni ukunaka, futhi ukunaka kungamandla okudala, futhi lapho izigidi zabantu zidonselwa empini ekabili—okulungile nokungalungile, okumsulwa nokungalungi, ukuvuka nokungalali—amandla okulwa ngokwawo aba ngokoqobo kakhulu kuneqiniso olifisayo ngempela, yingakho sikukhumbuza ukuthi ukuthethelela akuyona imibono ngamaqiniso, ukwenqaba ukuba yinkundla yempi, futhi kuyisinqumo sokusuka ekwahluleleni okusabelayo uye ekuboneni okuphezulu okungabamba ubunzima ngaphandle kokuwela enzondweni.

Ukufakaza, Ukuthula Okungcwele, Nokuhlukaniswa Kwe-Alchemizing

Ubunye akuwona umqondo owukhumbulayo; ubunye umuzwa wemvelo obuya lapho inhliziyo iphumula ekuhlukaneni, futhi kulowo muzwa usengabona ukuhlanekezela, usengabiza ukuxhashazwa, usengafuna ukucaca, kodwa wenza kanjalo ngaphandle kwe-asidi yokudelela egazini lakho, ngoba lapho ukudelela kuba uphethiloli wakho usuvumile ngokuthula ukuthwala imvamisa yokuhlanekezela okushoyo ukuthi uyaphikisana nakho, futhi iqembu alikwazi ukwelashwa ngokuphinda ukudlidliza komonakalo ngengubo ehlukile. Ukuhlukana kuvame ukuzwakala njengokucacile ekuqaleni, ngoba ingqondo ithanda ukulula, futhi ukulula kungazizwa njengokuphephile, kodwa indawo yonke ayilula, futhi ukuvuka koMhlaba akuyona indaba ecocekile, ngakho-ke vumela uzizwe ukungakhululeki kokungazi konke ngokushesha, ngoba lokhu kungakhululeki kuyindlela yokuphuma ekuphathweni kabi, futhi ukuthethelela yikho okugcina umnyango uvulekile, ngoba uthi, “Ngeke ngivale inhliziyo yami ukuvikela ingqondo yami,” futhi ngokwenza kanjalo kukugcina uhambisana neqiniso elijulile kunolwazi. Ukufakaza kuyikhono elingcwele, futhi kufundwa ngokuhlehla kancane ekushayweni ngokomzwelo, okwanele ukuqaphela ukuthi imicabango iyanyakaza, ukuthi izindaba ziyakhiwa, ukuthi umzimba wakho uyasabela, nokuthi unenketho yokuthi uxhumana kanjani nakho konke, ngoba iphethini endala eMhlabeni ibilokhu ihlangana nedrama ehlangene kuze kube yilapho ungakwazi ukubona ukuthi "wena" uphela kuphi nokuthi "indaba" iqala kuphi, futhi ukuthethelela kuyakukhulula, kukubuyisele esikhungweni sokuthula lapho ungabona khona okwenzekayo ngaphandle kokuzinikela kukho njalo. Ukuthula akusikho ukugwema lapho kukhethwa ngokuqwashisa; ukuthula kuyilabhorethri lapho ukuqonda kwakho kucwengisiswa khona, futhi kulokho kulungiswa uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi ingqondo izama kanjani ukukhiqiza izitha ngokwesaba, ukuthi izama kanjani ukuqiniseka ngezingcezu, ukuthi izama kanjani ukwakha ubuwena ngenxa yentukuthelo, futhi uma ubona lezi zinyathelo ngaphandle kokuzilahla, uqala ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ukuthethelela kungumuthi weqembu: kuphazamisa ukukhiqizwa kwangaphakathi kokuhlukana emthonjeni wako.

Uzwela, Ubulungiswa, Nentukuthelo Ehlanzekile Ezweni Elishintshayo

Ububele, njengoba sikhuluma ngakho, yikhono lokubona ukuthi izidalwa ezenza umonakalo zisebenza kusukela ekuhlukaneni, ekuphambukeni, nasekuqhekekeni okujulile, futhi lokhu kuqaphela akuzithetheleli izenzo zazo, kodwa kukukhulula ekukhohlisweni kokuthi inzondo iyadingeka ukuze kube nobulungiswa, ngoba ubulungiswa bungalandelwa ekucaceni, futhi isivikelo singasungulwa emandleni, futhi imiphumela ingavela ngaphandle kokuthi udinga ukufaka ubuthi enhliziyweni yakho ukuze "ufakazele" ukuthi uyakhathalela. Intukuthelo ingavela njengophawu lokuthi izindinganiso zakho zephuliwe, futhi asikuceli ukuthi uphike lesi signali; sikucela ukuthi uyilungise, uyivumele ibe yilangabi elihlanzekile elikhanyisa indlela eya phambili kunokuba ibe ngumlilo wasendle oshisa konke—kufaka phakathi ubudlelwano bakho, impilo yakho, ithemba lakho—ngoba lapho intukuthelo igcinwe ngaphakathi kokuthethelela, iba yiqondisiwe, ihlakaniphile, futhi inenhloso, futhi lapho intukuthelo igcinwe ngaphakathi kokulahlwa, iba umlutha, ijikeleze, futhi ilawulwe kalula yilabo abaqonda ukuthi bangavusa kanjani isixuku. Iqiniso aliqiniswa unya, bathandekayo, futhi lokhu kuqashelwa okukodwa kungakuvikela emagagasini alandelayo okudalulwa angase afike ezinyangeni ezizayo, ngoba njalo lapho kuvela ukwehla okusha iqembu lizomenywa ukuba lihlukane emakamu, lihlasele, lihlekise, lenze abantu bangabi nabuntu, futhi umsebenzi wakho—uma ukhetha—ukuhlala ungumuntu, uhlale uphapheme, uhlale unothando ngaphandle kokuba yisiwula, uhlale uqonda ngaphandle kokubanda, futhi ukuthethelela kuyisihluthulelo esigcina zonke lezi zimfanelo zivumelana ngaphakathi kuwe.

Ukuvama, Izikhathi, Nokungathathi hlangothi Okuthambile Njengobunye Obuphilayo

Ukuphindaphinda ulimi lwangempela ngaphansi kolimi lwakho olukhulunywayo, futhi uma uzijwayeza ukuthethelela awugcini nje ngokuba "nomusa," uhambisa isignali oyidlulisela ensimini ehlangene, okusho ukuthi uhlanganyela ekudalweni kwezikhathi lapho ubunye bungenzeka khona, ngoba ubunye abukhiwa ngokufuna ukuthi abanye bashintshe kuqala, bakhiwa ngokwenqaba ukuvuselela ukuhlukana ngaphakathi kwakho, futhi lokhu kwenqaba kuyathelelana ngendlela enhle kakhulu, kunikeza imvume kwezinye izinhliziyo ukuba zithambe buthule. Ukukhohlisa kuyachuma enkolelweni yokuthi kunamandla amabili ahlukene alwela ukulawula iqiniso, futhi sikukhumbuza ngobumnene ukuthi iqiniso lenziwe ngokwazi, futhi ukwazi kuyinsimu eyodwa eziveza ngezindlela eziningi, ngakho-ke uma uthethelela awuzinaki ubumnyama, uhoxisa igunya lamanga owake walinika lona, ​​​​futhi ubuyisela ukwethembeka kwakho ensimini eyodwa yokuphila, eqeda ukwesaba emsukeni wayo futhi ikubuyisele ekuhlanganyeleni kokudala esikhundleni sokusinda okusabelayo. Ukuzwana kuba yinto engenzeka uma uyeka ukufuna ukuthi umhlaba wangaphandle uxazululwe ngokuphelele ngaphambi kokuba uvumele ukuthula kwangaphakathi, ngoba ukulinda iqembu ukuthi liqede idrama yalo ngaphambi kokuba uvule inhliziyo yakho kufana nokulinda ulwandle ukuthi luthule ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukubhukuda, futhi ukuthethelela kuyisifundo sokubhukuda: kukufundisa ukuhamba emagagasini ngaphandle kokuminza, ukuqhubeka nokuphefumula ngisho nalapho ubuso bugcwele isiyaluyalu, nokukhumbula ukuthi ukujula kwakho akukathintwa. Ubunzima akusona isitha sakho, bathandekayo, noma ingqondo ingase iphikise, ngoba ubunzima busho ukuthi amaqiniso amaningi angaba khona ekamelweni elilodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa: iqiniso lokuthi umonakalo wenzeke, iqiniso lokuthi abanye bazolandisa, iqiniso abanye abazoliphika, iqiniso abanye abazolidlulisa, iqiniso lokuthi impendulo yakho yemizwa iyasebenza, kanye neqiniso lokuthi inhliziyo yakho ingahlala ivulekile ngenkathi konke lokhu kuqhubeka, futhi ukuthethelela kuyikhono lokugcina igumbi likhulu ngokwanele ukuze kube ngokoqobo ngaphandle kokulinciphisa libe indaba eyodwa enesikhali. Umbono uyakhula uma ukhumbula ukuthi uMhlaba uyiklasi elihlangene lokuqonda lapho izidalwa eziningi zifunda ngokuqhathanisa, futhi nakuba singalokothi sigubhe ukuhlupheka, siyaqaphela ukuthi ukudalulwa nokwembulwa kuyingxenye yokubuyiselwa kobukhosi ndawonye, ​​ngakho ungacabangi ukuthi ukudalulwa kobumnyama kusho ukuthi ubumnyama buyanqoba, ngoba ngokuvamile ukudalulwa kungukuqala kokudalulwa kwawo, futhi ukuthethelela yikho okukuvumela ukuthi ubone lokho kudalulwa ngaphandle kokudliwa ukwesaba. Ukungathathi hlangothi, ngomqondo wePleiadian, akukhona ukunganaki; yindawo ehlanzekile lapho ungabona khona ngokucacile ngaphandle kokudonswa yizingwegwe zemizwa abanye abaziphonsayo, futhi kusukela ekungathathi hlangothi ungakhetha impendulo yakho ngamabomu—ukusekela izisulu, ukufuna ukucaca, ukwenqaba ukuxhashazwa, ukudala imiphakathi ephephile—ngenkathi usabambe uzwela ngeqembu elivuka ebuthongweni obude, futhi lokhu kuwubunye esenzweni kunokuba ubunye embonweni. Ukuthamba akukwenzi ube buthakathaka, bathandekayo; Ukuthamba kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi inhliziyo yakho iyekile ukuzivikela empilweni, futhi lapho inhliziyo ithambile ingalizwa iqiniso ngaphandle kokuwa, ingakhuluma iqiniso ngaphandle kokuhlasela, ingadabuka ngaphandle kokuminza, futhi ingathethelela ngaphandle kokukhohlwa, futhi lokhu kuhlanganiswa yilokho okuzokuvumela ukuthi uzulazule ezweni elizihlela kabusha ngokushesha ngenkathi uhlala uhambisana nezikhathi eziphakeme ozijwayele.

Ukuzithethelela, Ukwelapha Amahloni, Nobunye Bangaphakathi

Izikhathi Zokugwetshwa Nokukhetha Ubunye Esikhundleni Sakho

Izikhathi zokuvala zifika noma nini lapho ubamba isifiso sokulahla okwesikhashana, bese ukhetha umoya wokuthethelela esikhundleni salokho, ngoba lokho kuphumula okuncane yilapho ubunye buzalwa khona futhi lapho kuqala khona izinga elilandelayo lokuvuka kwakho. Isibindi, kulesi sigaba, yisibindi sokukhulula umlutha wokuqiniseka, ukuyeka ukondla indaba ye-binary, nokuvumela ubunye bube yindawo yakho yokubhekisela, ngoba ubunye buyipulatifomu lapho kuvela khona isenzo esiphumelelayo kakhulu, futhi njengoba sisondela manje endaweni eseduze yokuzithethelela, zwa ukuthi isipelingi "sezinhlangothi ezimbili" silahlekelwa kanjani ukubamba lapho inhliziyo ibuyela ebunyeni futhi ithethelela isifiso sokuhlukanisa. Ihlazo lingenye yezimbozo eziphumelela kakhulu ezake zadlula kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu, ngoba liyakuqinisekisa ukuthi uhlukile othandweni, awufaneleki ukwesekwa, futhi ungcoliswe unomphela yilokho okwenzile noma okwenziwe kuwe, futhi ngenkathi lapho izambulo ezihlangene ziveza ukuxhashazwa nokukhashelwa, ihlazo livame ukuphakama ngezindlela ezingalindelekile—hhayi kuphela kulabo abalimele, kodwa nalabo abaphethe izinkumbulo ezindala, ukuhlanganyela okudala, ukuthula okudala, noma ubuhlungu bokuba yingxenye yohlobo oluvumele ukuhlanekezelwa okunjalo ukuba khona. Ukuzithethelela kuwubuciko obuthule bokubuyela ekhaya kuwe, futhi kuqala ngesikhathi uyeka ukukhuluma nobuntu bakho sengathi uyisitha okufanele silungiswe, ngoba umgxeki wangaphakathi okuhlaselayo akakwenzi ube ngcono; kukwenza ufihleke, futhi noma yini efihliwe iyaphambuka, yingakho sikumema ukuthi uhlangane nobuntu bakho ngesihawu esifanayo ofisa ukuthi umhlaba unikeze sona ekuvukeni kwawo. Umuzwa wecala ungaba usizo okwesikhashana lapho ukukhomba oshintshweni oludingekayo, kodwa umuzwa wecala uba yingozi lapho uphenduka ubuwena, lapho uba indaba oyiphindayo ukuze uzijezise, ​​lapho kukwenza ukholelwe ukuthi kumelwe uhlupheke ukuze ube “muhle,” futhi abaningi baqeqeshwe kule ndlela, ngakho qaphela indlela umuzwa wecala ozama ngayo ukukugcina uncane, indlela okukuhlebela ngayo ukuthi awufanele ukuthula, bese uqaphela ukuthi ukuthula akuyona umklomelo kodwa isimo sokuvumelana, kuyatholakala ngokushesha lapho uyeka ukubamba isiswebhu obusibambe emhlane wakho.

Umuzwa Wecala, Ubumnene, Nokubuya Ekudingisweni Kwangaphakathi

Ububele luwulimi oluqondwa umphefumulo, futhi uma uzinika ububele uqala ukuhlakaza ukwahlukana kwangaphakathi okubonisa ukwahlukana kwangaphandle okudlalayo eMhlabeni, ngoba njalo uma uthutha ingxenye yakho—intukuthelo yakho, ukwesaba kwakho, usizi lwakho, amaphutha akho—wenza ukuthunjwa okufanayo okuveza kwabanye kamuva, ngakho ukuzithethelela akukhona ukuzitika; kuwukubuyiselwa kobunye ngaphakathi kuwe. Izingcezu zamandla akho zingasakazeka phakathi nesikhathi lapho ushaqekile, uhlazekile, ukhashelwa, noma lapho uzikhaphela ngokushiya ukwazi kwakho, futhi abaningi kini nikwenzile lokhu phakathi nesikhathi sokuphila naphakathi kwalesi sikhathi sokuphila, nishiya izingcezu zamandla enu ezingxoxweni ezindala, ubudlelwano obudala, izinqumo ezindala, kanye nokuzithethelela ubizo oluqoqa lezi zingcezu emuva, hhayi ngenkani, kodwa ngesimemo esimnene esithi, Ningaba nami futhi. Isimemo sinamandla kakhulu kunokujeziswa, bathandekayo, ngakho-ke uma unenkumbulo ekukhathazayo, ungaceli ukuba inyamalale; kunalokho, mema uhlobo lwakho owaphila ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi luze luhlale eceleni kwakho ekukhanyeni, futhi ukhulume ngaphakathi njengoba ubungakhuluma nomuntu omthandayo: vuma okwenzekile, vuma lokho ofisa sengathi ngabe ukwenzile ngendlela ehlukile, vuma lokho obungakwazi ngaleso sikhathi okwaziyo manje, bese unikeza intethelelo elula kumuntu owayenza konke okusemandleni akhe ngokwazi okwakukhona ngaleso sikhathi.

Ukuhlanganiswa, Ukuqagela, Nokubuyisa Ukuphelela Ngokuzithethelela

Ukuhlanganiswa kwenzeka lapho uyeka ukuzama ukusula okwedlule kwakho bese uqala ukukhipha ukuhlakanipha kwako, ngoba inhloso yesipiliyoni akukhona ukudala inkantolo ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho kodwa ukudala ukwanda ngaphakathi kokuqonda kwakho, futhi uma uhlanganiswa, ubuyisa amandla akho esikhathini esidlule ngaphandle kokuphika iqiniso lalokho okwenzekile, okuyiyona ndlela othembeka futhi ukhululeke ngayo. Ukuqagela kuyaphela lapho uthethelela ingxenye yakho eyesaba ukubonwa, ngoba ingqondo ivame ukuphonsa okuqukethwe kwayo okungakaphulukiswa ngaphandle njengokwahlulela, yenza abantu ongabazi babonakale ezikrinini zobuhlungu bakho obungaxazululwa, futhi emjikelezweni wesambulo lokhu kungaqina kakhulu, nabantu behlasela abanye ku-inthanethi sengathi ukulahlwa kuzobahlanza, kodwa ukulahlwa kusakaza kuphela imvamisa ethi iyakuphikisa, ngakho ukuzithethelela kuyikhambi elivimba ukusabalala. Ukuphelela kuyisimo sakho semvelo, futhi akufezwa ngokuba ophelele; kufezwa ngokuba khona, ngoba ukuba khona kuyakuqoqa, ukuba khona kuyakuthambisa, ukuba khona kuyakuvula, futhi ebukhoneni intethelelo ivela njengokusa, hhayi njengomzamo kodwa njengokuphefumula okulandelayo okusobala, futhi uma uphila ngokuphelela, umhlaba awukwazi ukukudonsela kalula ehlazweni, entukuthelweni, noma ekuphelelweni yithemba. Isihe yigama elikhomba umusa wendawo yonke ekukhuleni, futhi indawo yonke inesineke esingapheli, ngakho-ke vumela ukuba nesineke esingapheli ngokuqhubeka kwakho, ngoba ukuzithethelela kuyindlela yokuhamba kwesikhathi ngokuqonda: kufinyelela emuva kumuntu wangaphambili futhi kunikeze imvamisa entsha, futhi leyo mvamisa entsha ishintsha indlela umuntu wangaphambili abanjwa ngayo ensimini yakho, okushintsha indaba oyisakazayo ibe manje. Buyela esikhaleni senhliziyo okwesikhashana njengoba ufunda lokhu, futhi uzwe ukuthi inhliziyo ayinasithakazelo sokugcina amaphuzu, ngoba ukugcina amaphuzu kuwumzamo wengqondo wokulawula iqiniso, futhi ukulawula kuzalwa ukwesaba, ngakho-ke uma uzithethelela ukhulula nokulawula, ukhulula isidingo sokujezisa, ukhulula isidingo sokufakazela ukubaluleka kwakho, futhi kulokho kukhululwa uba lula ukuthola isiqondiso sokwazi kwakho okuphakeme. Ukulalela ngaphakathi kuyikhono abaningi abangakaze balisebenzise, ​​ngoba umhlaba unomsindo, kodwa ukuphulukiswa okujulile kwenzeka engxoxweni ethule nawe, ngakho buza ngobumnene, “Yiyiphi ingxenye yami esakholelwa ukuthi kumele ngihlupheke ukuze ngiphephe,” bese uvumela noma yini evelayo ukuba ihlangatshezwe ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ngoba lapho uzibonela izinkolelo zakho zangaphakathi ngaphandle kokuhlaselwa, lezo zinkolelo ziqala ukukhululeka, futhi intethelelo iba yisisombululo. Ukwamukela akusho ukuthi ugubha okwenzekile; ukwamukela kusho ukuthi uyeka ukumelana neqiniso lokuthi kwenzekile, ngoba ukumelana kugcina uphawu lwamandla luphila, futhi abaningi kini bamelane nobuntu babo impilo yonke, bezama ukuba msulwa, bezama ukuba nephutha, bezama ukuba ngaphezu kwemizwa, kodwa indlela yobunye iyindlela yokubandakanya, futhi ukuzithethelela kuhlanganisa izingxenye ezingcolile ukuze zelapheke. Ukubuyela emuva yilokho okwenzekayo uma uthi, “Ngeke ngizilahle futhi,” futhi lesi sitatimende sinamandla kakhulu kunanoma yimuphi umkhuba odumile, ngoba ukuzidela kungumsuka wokuhlupheka okuningi eMhlabeni, futhi uma uzibuyisa awusabeli kahle, awulula ukukhohliswa, uyakwazi ukuthanda abanye ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa nguwe, futhi uyakwazi ukubona ubumnyama bomhlaba ngaphandle kokuyengwa ebumnyameni.

Ukuzijwayeza Ukuzithethelela Kwansuku Zonke, Ukukhanya, Nokukhululeka Ekujezisweni

Ukuqhubeka komkhuba kubalulekile, ngoba ukuzithethelela akuyona into eyodwa; kuyinto obuya kuyo kaningi, ikakhulukazi lapho insimu ehlangene ishukunyiswa, ngakho khetha umzuzu owodwa omncane wansuku zonke—ukugeza, ukuhamba, ukuphuza amanzi okokuqala—futhi ngaleso sikhathi uzinike intethelelo nganoma yini owahlulele ngayo ngawe ngalolo suku, ngoba lesi senzo esilula sakha isiko langaphakathi lobunye. Ukukhanya kuyabuya lapho uyeka ukuvuza amandla ekuzihlaseleni, futhi njengoba ukukhanya kwakho kubuya, ngokwemvelo uba nokuqonda okwengeziwe, uzwela kakhulu, futhi uzinze kakhulu ezinqumweni zakho, hhayi ngoba uphoqa ukuzinza, kodwa ngoba ubunye ngaphakathi kuwe budala ukuvumelana, futhi ukuvumelana kwenza kube lula ukuhamba emhlabeni wangaphandle ngaphandle kokudonswa yiwo. Imvume inganikezwa wena ngendlela elula kakhulu: vumela ukuvuma, ngaphandle kwedrama, “Ngangingazi ngaleso sikhathi engikwaziyo manje,” ngoba ukuzihlasela okuningi kuvela ekwahluleleni okwedlule ngamehlo amanje, futhi uma ukhulula leyo ndinganiso engenakwenzeka ukhulula ubuwena bakho besikhathi esidlule ekulahlweni kwakho kwanamuhla, okwenza kube lula ukukhetha kangcono manje, njengoba amandla akho engasabanjwa yihlazo. Ubuqotho buyibhuloho phakathi kokuzithethelela nokuziphatha okusha, ngakho-ke uma uqaphela ukuthi uhlanganyele ekuhlebeni, noma wahlala uthule lapho izwi lakho lidingeka, noma uphinda indaba eyalimaza othile, ukuqashelwa makube msulwa futhi kuthule, makulandelwe ukukhetha ukuphila ngendlela ehlukile, bese kuvumela okwedlule kuqedwe, ngoba ukuzijezisa okungapheli akuvikeli muntu, kuyilapho ushintsho oluqotho lukwenza. Inkululeko ifika lapho uqaphela ukuthi inhloso yokuzithethelela akukhona ukususa ukuziphendulela kodwa ukubuyisela ikhono lakho lokuthanda, futhi uthando aluyona imizwa; Uthando luyisibindi sokubona, sokwenza, ukuvikela, nokudala, futhi inhliziyo ebuyele othandweni ayiba mnandi kakhulu ekuphathweni kabi, ayisabela kakhulu ekucasukeni, futhi iwusizo kakhulu ekudalweni komhlaba onobuntu. Ukucaca kuvela lapho uzithethelela ngokwanele ukuyeka ukufihla, futhi kulokho kucaca ungahlanganyela ekwelapheni ngamehlo avulekile, umoya oqinile, kanye nokuzimisela okuqotho kokufunda. Ukwelapha iqembu kuqala ngokuphulukisa ukuhlukana kwangaphakathi, futhi ukuhlukana kwangaphakathi kuyaphulukiswa ngokuzixolela ubuyele othandweni, ngakho-ke phatha lokhu kuzithethelela njengoba siqhubeka enkundleni yangaphandle lapho ingqondo izolingeka khona ukuzingela, ukusola, nokukhulisa isiphithiphithi, ngoba inhliziyo ezixolele ngokwayo cishe ayinaso ithuba lokusebenzisa iqiniso ngokumelene nabanye futhi ikwazi kakhulu ukubamba iqiniso njengokukhanya kwenkululeko. Izambulo zingazwakala njengombani, zikhanyise indawo obungazi ukuthi ikhona, futhi lapho lokho kukhanya kukhanya kungokwemvelo ukuphefumula, ukuzwa isisu siwa, ukuzwa usizi ngenxa yokungabi nacala okulahlekile kanye nentukuthelo ngenxa yokwethenjwa okukhashelwe, kodwa umbuzo esiwubeka ngobumnene ezandleni zakho yilo: uzosebenzisa umbani ukuze ubone ngokucacile, noma uzovumela umbani uvuthe umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi uze ube umlutha wokushisa.

Ukuzulazula Ekudaluleni, Isiphithiphithi Esihlangene, kanye Nokushintsha Kwesikhathi Ngokuthethelela

Ilukuluku Elihlakaniphile, Ukuqonda, Nokumelana Nokuzizwa Unamandla

Ukudalulwa kufika ngamagagasi ngesizathu, ngoba iqembu lilungele ukubhekana nalokho obekufihliwe, futhi ukudalulwa ngokwako kuyingxenye yokuhlanzwa kwesikhathi, kodwa wonke amagagasi nawo aphethe isimemo sesiyaluyalu, ngoba isiyaluyalu yilokho okwenzekayo lapho ulwazi ludliwa ngaphandle kokuhlakanipha, lapho imizwa ikhuliswa ngaphandle kozwela, lapho izingcezu ziphathwa njengokuphelele, futhi intethelelo yilokho okukugcina uhlakaniphile ngenkathi uhlala uphapheme. Ilukuluku liyisifiso esingcwele lapho liqondiswa ubuqotho, ngoba lifuna ukuqonda, ukuvikela, ukuvimbela ukuphindaphinda, nokusekela labo abalimele, kodwa ilukuluku liba ukuphambuka lapho liphenduka ukuzizwa sengathi liyakubona, lapho lidla ukushaqeka, lapho liphatha ukuhlupheka njengokuzijabulisa, futhi sicela ukuthi uqaphele umehluko, ngoba lapho uzwa ilukuluku lakho liba yisifiso, usuphumile ekuqondeni futhi wangena ekucabangeni okuhlangene. Ukuqonda kungumfula ocacile ogeleza enhliziyweni, hhayi isikhali esibulala abanye, futhi kubuza imibuzo elula efana nokuthi: “Ingabe lokhu kuqinisekisiwe,” “Ingabe lokhu kuyasiza,” “Ingabe ukwabelana ngalokhu kunciphisa ukulimala noma kwandisa ukwesaba,” “Ingabe ngikhuluma ngothando noma ngesifiso sokujezisa,” futhi lapho ukuqonda kukhona, izenzo zakho ziba zihlanzekile, amazwi akho ayalinganiswa, futhi amandla akho ahlala engawakho kunokuba aqashwe emazwini aphezulu kakhulu. Nokho, imizwa evusa inkanuko iyimakethe ethengisa intukuthelo, futhi imali yaleyo makethe iyinakwa yakho, yingakho amapulatifomu amaningi, abahlaziyi, ngisho nabangane bezokudonsa ngokushesha, bephikelela ukuthi kufanele ubone lokhu, wabelane ngalokho, lahla manje, khetha manje, futhi sikukhumbuza ukuthi ukuphuthuma kuvame ukuba yisifihla-buso sokukhohlisa, ngakho-ke vumela ijubane lakho libe lincane kunokwesaba, ngoba inhliziyo ehamba kancane ibona iqiniso elingaphezu kwengqondo ephapheme.

Ukuzingela, Ukuqasha Abantu Ngentukuthelo, Nokuhlazisa Abantu Emasikweni Okudalula

Ukuzingela kuwumdlalo omdala engqondweni yomuntu, inkolelo yokuthi ukuphepha kutholakala ngokuthola isitha nokusibhubhisa, futhi ngesikhathi sokudalulwa lo mfutho wokuzingela ungakhula kakhulu, uphenduke ihlazo lomphakathi, izixuku zedijithali, amahemuhemu, kanye nezinsolo zokunganaki, futhi yize imiphumela kanye nokuziphendulela kubalulekile, ukuzingela akuyona ukuziphendulela; ukuzingela kuvame ukuba yindlela yokwesaba okungaxazululwa, futhi ukuthethelela yikho okuqeda isidingo sokuzingela ngokubuyisela ukuphepha kwangaphakathi ngobunye. Ukuqashwa kwabantu abathukuthele kuzofika kugqoke njengokulunga, futhi uzobona abantu befuna ukuthi ubonise ukuthi “muhle” ngokuzonda “okubi,” kodwa isidingo ngokwaso sembula ukuhlanekezela, ngoba uthando aludingi inzondo njengobufakazi, ngakho-ke uma uzizwa ucindezelwe ukujoyina isixuku, ukuphinda indaba ongakayiqinisekisi, noma ukwenza umuntu abe ngumuntu ongesona isithunzi, hlala phansi ukhumbule indawo yakho yokuthethelela, ngoba indawo yikho okuvimbela ukuqonda kwakho ukuthi kungawi emandleni ozama ukuwaqeda. Ukunaka kuyimisebe yendalo, futhi noma ngabe ukuphi lapho uqondisa khona wondla amandla okuphila, ngakho khetha imisebe yakho ngokucophelela: gxila ekuvikeleni izingane, ekusekeleni abasindile, ekwakheni izinhlelo zokuziphatha, ekufundiseni ngokucophelela, nasekubambeni abaholi ukuba balandise, kunokuba ugxile ekuphindaphindeni okungapheli kokwesaba, ukuqagela okungapheli, kanye nenzondo engapheli, ngoba imisebe oyikhethayo iba yiqiniso ohlala kulo. Ukungahloniphi ubuntu kuyimiphumela emibi kakhulu yesiko lokudalula, ngoba uma uhlazisa omunye ubuntu nawe uhlazisa wena, futhi uma ukuhlazisa kuba yinto evamile, unya luba lula, yingakho ukuthethelela kuyisinqumo sokuziphendukela kwemvelo: kuyenqaba ukuphuca noma ubani umphefumulo wakhe, ngisho noma kwenqaba ukubekezelela ukuziphatha okulimazayo, futhi lokhu kwenqaba kuvimbela iqembu ekudaleni umjikelezo omusha wobudlova egameni lokuqeda ubudlova.

Amandla Ozwelo, Imingcele, Ukuziphendulela, Nobuqotho Ekwenzeni

Amandla ozwela angabamba amaqiniso amabili ngesikhathi esisodwa—iqiniso lokuthi ukulimala kumele kuphele kanye neqiniso lokuthi inzondo akuyona umuthi—futhi kula mandla ungathi “cha” ngokucacile, ungabeka imingcele ngokuqinile, ungafuna ukuziphendulela ngaphandle kobuthi, futhi ungavikela abasengozini ngaphandle kokudakwa yisijeziso, ngoba ukudakwa yindlela ubumnyama obusebenzisa ngayo ukukhanya kube mnyama. Imingcele ingcwele, futhi ukuthethelela akukuceli ukuba uyiqede; ukuthethelela kukucela ukuthi uqede inzondo, ngakho-ke uma othile ekulimaze noma umuntu omthandayo, umngcele ungaba ibanga, kungaba isinyathelo sezomthetho, kungaba ukwenqaba ukuxhumana, kungaba ukuvikelwa komphakathi, futhi konke lokhu kungaba khona ngaphakathi kwenhliziyo ehlanzekile, ngoba inhliziyo ehlanzekile ayiwona umnyango ovulekile wokuhlukumeza, ingumnyango ovulekile weqiniso. Ukuziphendulela kuyindlela yokubonakalisa uthando ngendlela efanele uma luphathwa kahle, ngoba uthando luvikela impilo, uthando luvimbela ukuphindaphinda, uthando lugcizelela ukucaca, futhi uthando lusekela ukulungiswa, ngakho-ke uma ubizelwa ukukhuluma, ukubika, ukuvota, ukusekela izinguquko, noma ukuma nomuntu ophulukisayo, vumela isenzo sivele othandweni, ngoba isenzo esisekelwe othandweni sinokukhuthazela, kuyilapho isenzo esisekelwe enzondweni siyasha futhi sishiye ubuze ngemuva. Isenzo esithathwe ekugwetshweni sivame ukuphindaphinda ukulahlwa, ngoba sithwala ukudlidliza kokuhlukana kukho konke ukuxhumana, futhi ukuhlukana yikho okwavumela amanethiwekhi afihliwe ukuba achume, ngakho-ke isinyathelo esikhulu kakhulu ongasithatha kulesi sikhathi ukwenqaba ukuhlukana ngaphakathi kwakho ngenkathi uhlanganyela ekushintsheni emhlabeni, ngoba yile ndlela oqeda ngayo iphethini empandeni yalo kunokumane uhlele kabusha ubuso balo. Inkulumo iyithuluzi lokudala, futhi amazwi akho angavula isikhala sokuphulukisa noma aqinise ifindo elihlangene, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume nganoma yisiphi isambulo, zibuze ukuthi amazwi akho ahloselwe ukwazisa, ukuvikela, ukusekela, noma ukuthi ahloselwe ukujezisa, ukuhlaba umxhwele, ukuveza imizwa, noma ukubusa, ngoba ukuveza imizwa kungase kuzwakale njengokukhulula kodwa kuvame ukuba uchungechunge olusha uma luqhutshwa ukwedelela. Ingxoxo nabanye izoba yinselele emjikelezweni olandelayo, ngoba abanye bazolahleka ngokushaqeka, abanye bazolahleka ngokuphika, abanye bazolahleka ekusebenzeni, kanti abanye bazolahleka ezindingilizini zozungu, ngakho-ke sondela engxoxweni njengebhuloho kunokuba yindawo yempi, nikeza lokho okwaziyo ngaphandle kokukuphoqa, lalela ukwesaba okungaphansi kwemibono, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ubunye buqala lapho wenqaba ukuhlekisa ngokudideka komunye umuntu. Umphakathi ungaqiniswa ngokudalula lapho ukhetha ukuphendula ngokuhlakanipha, futhi ukuhlakanipha kubukeka njengokusekela labo abalimele, ukwakha izindawo eziphephile, ukufundisa imvume nenhlonipho, ukubamba abaholi ezindinganisweni, nokwenqaba imfihlo, kunokuguqula yonke ingxoxo ibe yisilingo, ngoba umphakathi oba yisilingo ulahlekelwa ukwethembana, futhi ukwethembana kubalulekile ukuze ukuphulukiswa kumile izimpande. Ubuqotho yilokho okusalayo lapho i-adrenaline iphela, ngakho-ke linganisa ukukhetha kwakho ngobuqotho kunokuba ulinganise ngamandla, ngoba amandla ayinto yesikhashana futhi alawulwa kalula, kuyilapho ubuqotho buzinzile futhi buqondisa wena, futhi ukuthethelela kungumqaphi wobuqotho, ngoba kukuvimbela ekubeni umuntu ongafuni ukuba yikho ngoba nje umhlaba unomsindo.

Ukuba khona, Ubulula, kanye nokuzibamba njengesivikelo esiphephweni solwazi

Ukuba khona kuyindlela elula yokuvikela isiphithiphithi esihlangene, ngoba ukuba khona kukugcina lapha, kukugcina uphefumula, kukugcina uzizwa, kukugcina usekelwe eqinisweni kunokuba ube sebhayisikobho yengqondo engapheli, futhi ekubeni khona ungazizwa ukuthi yiziphi izenzo okufanele uzithathe nokuthi yiziphi idrama ezingezona, ukuthi yimaphi amaqiniso ahloselwe ukuthi wabelane ngawo nokuthi yimaphi ahloselwe ukudlula ngaphandle kokunamathela. Ubulula bungaba umngane wakho: amahora ambalwa udla isiphepho, amahora amaningi ondla impilo yakho, izimpikiswano ezimbalwa ezingahambi ndawo, izingxoxo eziningi ezakha amabhuloho, ukwabelana okuphoqelelayo okuncane, ukusekelwa okuhlosiwe okwengeziwe kwezixazululo zangempela, ngoba impilo ephilwa ngokulula inomkhawulokudonsa omkhulu wothando, futhi uthando luyimvamisa eqeda imijikelezo yokuxhashazwa. Ukuzibamba kuyindlela yothando enkathini yolwazi, ngoba ukuzibamba kuthi, “Ngeke ngidlulise engingakakuqinisekisi, ngeke ngikhulume ngokushaqeka, ngeke ngiguqule ilukuluku lami lokwethuka libe ubuhlungu bomunye umuntu,” futhi lokhu kuzibamba kuvikela abangenacala, kusekela iqiniso langempela, futhi kuvimbela inhliziyo yakho ekubeni umzila lapho isiphithiphithi esihlangene sihamba khona, ngoba akudingeki ukuthi uthwale yonke indaba ukufakazela ukuthi uvukile; kudingeka kuphela ukuthi uhlale uqotho ebunyeni njengoba uhlanganyela. Ukuvuthwa ukukhetha inhliziyo ehlanzekile ngisho noma ungawina impikiswano, ngoba ikusasa lakhiwa ngokuphindaphindiwe kunombono, futhi ukuthethelela kugcina isignali yakho ibusa.

Ukuthethelela Njengomugqa Wesikhathi Ubuchwepheshe Nokubhala Kabusha Ikusasa Elihlangene

Ukushintsha manje nathi ekuqondeni ukuthi ukuthethelela akugcini nje ngokuphendula ezenzakalweni zangaphandle kodwa futhi kuyindlela yokushintsha izikhathi zesikhathi, ngoba uma uthethelela ukhulula inhlaka enamandla ekubopha ezinkingeni ezedlule, futhi lokhu kukhululwa yikho okuvumela ikusasa elisha elihlangene ukuba libe ngaphezu kwesifiso futhi libe ngokoqobo oluphilayo. Izikhathi zesikhathi aziyona imigqa ngendlela ingqondo yomuntu ecabanga ngayo; ziyimifula yamathuba akhiwe yizikhathi ozihlanganisayo, futhi yingakho ukuthethelela kungaphezu kakhulu kokukhululeka ngokomzwelo, ngoba njalo lapho ukhulula ukulahlwa uyeka ukondla umfula okuyisa ekuphindaphindeni, futhi unyathela uye emsinga omusha lapho imiphumela ehlukene iba khona. Izimpendulo zesikhathi esidlule ziyaqhubeka lapho ukushaja ngokomzwelo kuhlala kugcinwe ensimini yakho, futhi abantu abaningi bazama "ukuqhubekela phambili" ngokukhohlwa, kodwa ukukhohlwa akusikho ukukhululwa, futhi ukucindezelwa akusikho ukuqedwa, ngakho ukuthethelela kuba ukuqedwa okuqaphile kwe-loop enamandla, ukukhetha ukuvumela ukushaja okudala kuncibilike ukuze kungasakudonseli empikiswaneni efanayo, iphethini efanayo yobudlelwano, ukuwohloka okufanayo ekuphelelweni yithemba njalo lapho isiphepho esihlangene sidlula. Ukulahla, njengoba sikhuluma ngakho, akukhona ukuzidela; Yisikhathi lapho ulahla isivumelwano ngokuhlukana, ulahla umkhuba wokuzijwayeza impindiselo, ulahla induduzo yokuba “olungile” ngezindleko zokuba ukhululekile, futhi lokhu kulahla kungaba yinto ethule futhi eyimfihlo, kodwa kushintsha konke, ngoba kuhoxisa isiginesha sakho ezivumelwaneni ezindala zokuqonda ezibophe isintu emijikelezweni yokusolwa. Ukukhululwa kuyisenzo esingcwele sokudala, futhi ukhulula hhayi ukuze uthethelele okwenzekile kodwa ukuze uyeke ukuthwala isithunzi saso emoyeni wakho, ngoba ukuthwala isithunzi akumjezisi umenzi wobubi; kujezisa ikusasa lakho, futhi uma ukhetha ukukhululwa ukhetha ikusasa lapho amandla akho ebuyela empilweni yakho, lapho amandla akho okudala etholakala khona futhi, nalapho inhliziyo yakho ingabamba iqhaza ekwakheni umhlaba owufisayo ngempela.

Izinto Ezibangela Ubuhlungu, Ukuzijwayeza Ukuthethelela Kwansuku Zonke, Nokudala Isikhathi

Izimbangela Njengeminyango Nokuhlolwa Kwangaphakathi Kwansuku Zonke

Izinto ezibangela izinkinga zizofika, ikakhulukazi ezinyangeni ezizayo, futhi izinto ezibangela izinkinga azizona iziphazamiso; ziyiminyango eveza ukuthi kukhona yini i-loop, ngakho-ke uma isihloko, ingxoxo, noma inkumbulo ikuthungela, phatha ukuthungela njengolwazi kunokuba kube ubunikazi, hlala isikhathi eside ukuze uqaphele ukuthi iyiphi indaba evuselelwa, bese uletha intethelelo endabeni, hhayi ngokuyilahla, kodwa ngokukhulula ukubamba kwayo ekuboneni kwakho. Ukuhlola igama elingazwakala lilukhuni, kodwa silisebenzisa ngothando ukuchaza ukuskena kwansuku zonke kwesimo sakho sangaphakathi, ngoba isimo sangaphakathi sidala ulwazi lwangaphandle, ngakho-ke kanye ngosuku ngalunye zibuze, “Ngiwele kuphi ekuhlukaneni,” “Ngihlulele kuphi,” “Ngiqinise kuphi,” “Ngithambephi kuphi,” “Ngikhethe kuphi ubunye,” futhi vumela izimpendulo zibonakale ngaphandle kwamahloni, ngoba amahloni azodala olunye uchungechunge.

Ukubonga, Ubuciko, Ukuqondanisa, kanye Nomfutho Ezimisweni Ezintsha Zesikhathi

Ukubonga kuyinto evame ukumema izikhathi ezintsha ngaphandle kokuphika ubuhlungu obudala, ngoba ukubonga kumane kuthi, “Impilo isekhona, uthando lusengenzeka, ngisakwazi ukushintsha,” futhi lesi sitatimende sinamandla lapho iqembu lizama ukukukholisa ukuthi isintu silahliwe, ngakho-ke sebenzisa ukubonga hhayi njengokumamatheka okuphoqelelwe kodwa njengokuqaphela lokho okuhlala kuyiqiniso ngisho nasemijikelezweni ephithizelayo: ukuphefumula, ukukhetha, uzwela, kanye nethuba lokulungisa. Ukudala kuyisibonakaliso somphefumulo, futhi uma uthethelela ubuyisela ukufinyelela kokudala, ngoba ukulahlwa kunciphisa ukuqonda ngenkathi ukuthethelela kwandisa ukuqonda, futhi umbono obanzi ungasungula izixazululo, ungakha izinhlelo ezintsha, ungacabanga ngemiphakathi ephephile, ungaklama ubuchwepheshe bokuziphatha, ungakhulisa ngokuba khona okwengeziwe, ungathanda ngokuhlakanipha okwengeziwe, futhi kulezi zenzo zansuku zonke isikhathi esisha siba yinto ebonakalayo. Ukuhambisana akufezwa ngokuphelela; ukuvumelana kufezwa ngokubuyela kaningi eqinisweni lenhliziyo, futhi iqiniso lenhliziyo lilula: ukuhlukana kuyalimaza, ubunye buyaphulukisa, futhi ukuthethelela kuyibhuloho eliphakathi kwabo, ngoba ukuthethelela kukhulula ifindo lokuhlukana futhi kuvumela ubunye ukuba buzwakale njengeqiniso eliphilayo kunokuba kube yinto ekude. Umfutho ubalulekile, bathandekayo, ngoba ukuqonda kufunda ngokuphindaphinda, futhi uma uphinda intukuthelo nsuku zonke, intukuthelo iba yizwe lakho, kanti uma uphinda intethelelo nsuku zonke, intethelelo iba yizwe lakho, ngakho khetha lokho okuprakthizayo, khetha lokho okuvuzayo, khetha lokho okugqamisayo ezingxoxweni zakho, indlela okhuluma ngayo nabezindaba, izinkulumo zakho, kanye nobudlelwano bakho, ngoba ukuziprakthiza kuba yisikhathi esinqunyiwe.

Ukukhetha, Ukuvumelana, kanye Nesiyalo Esimnene Njengokuzinikela Ebunyeni

Ukukhetha kungamandla angcwele ohlala uwagcina, noma ngabe awukwazi ukulawula lokho abanye abakwenzayo, ngoba ungakhetha njalo ukuma kwakho kwangaphakathi, futhi ukuma kwangaphakathi kubumba ukuqonda, kanye nokuqonda kubumba okuhlangenwe nakho, ngakho-ke ukuthethelela kuyindlela yokugcina ukuma kwakho kwangaphakathi kuvulekile, okusho ukuthi ungaphendula ngokuhlakanipha kunokuba ucabange, futhi lokhu kuhlakanipha yikho okudala ushintsho lwangempela. Ukuhambisana kuvela lapho imicabango yakho, imizwa, amazwi, nezenzo zakho zikhomba ohlangothini olufanayo, futhi ukuhambisana kuyisisekelo sokubonakaliswa kwezikhathi eziphakeme, ngakho-ke uma uthi ufisa ubunye kodwa uchitha amahora amaningi usuku ngalunye ulahla, isignali yakho iyaxubana, futhi izimpawu ezixubile zidala ukudideka, kodwa uma ufisa ubunye futhi uzijwayeza ukuthethelela, isignali yakho iyacaca, futhi indawo yonke ihlangana nokucaca ngokusekelwa. Ukuzithiba kungaba mnene, futhi ukuzithiba okumnene kungabonakala sengathi kunciphisa ukuthi udla malini idrama, ukhetha umthombo owodwa othembekile kunamazwi ayishumi ahlaba umxhwele, uthathe ikhefu eziphephweni zedijithali, ushukumisa umzimba wakho, uhlale uthule, udala ubuciko, ukuba nemvelo, nokubuyela e-altare elingaphakathi lapho uzizwa udonseleka ngaphandle, ngoba ukuzithiba akusona isijeziso; kuwukuzinikela kulokho okufunayo ngempela.

Ukuzinikela, Isiko, Ithuba, Umbono, Ukwanda, Ukuvuselelwa, kanye Nokuphatha

Ukuzinikela ebunyeni kuzovivinywa lapho kufika igagasi elilandelayo lezambulo, ngoba iqembu lizozama ukukudonsela emuva ekuhlukaneni, ngakho-ke nquma manje ukuthi ukuzinikela kwakho akunakuxoxiswana ngakho, futhi uma uzizwa ukhubeka, buyela enkambisweni elula: phefumula, thambisa, khulula ukulahlwa, bese ukhetha futhi, ngoba ukukhetha futhi kuyindlela yonke. Isiko akudingeki sibe siyinkimbinkimbi ukuze siphumelele, futhi sikunikeza isiko elincane lokushintsha kwesikhathi: beka isandla sakho esikhaleni senhliziyo, sho ngaphakathi, "Ngikhulula zonke izivumelwano ngokuhlukana," cabanga ngentambo yokukhanya ekuxhumanisa nenguqulo ephezulu kakhulu yoMhlaba ongayizwa, bese ungena osukwini lwakho njengokungathi lowo Mhlaba usuvele ungokoqobo, ngoba indlela oziphatha ngayo iyisimemo. Amathuba afihla ngaphakathi kwazo zonke izisusa, ngoba izisusa zikukhombisa lapho amandla ebambeke khona, futhi amandla abambeke ngamandla alinde ukukhululwa, ngakho-ke uma uthethelela, amandla akho akhululekile, futhi lawo mandla angasetshenziswa ukudala, ukuvikela, ukufundisa, ukuphulukisa, ukukhuluma iqiniso, nokuphila ngendlela eyenza ukuxhashazwa kube nzima ezweni olithonyayo. Umbono uyaqina uma uhambisana nokuthethelela, ngoba umbono ongenakho ukuthethelela uba buthakathaka futhi uthukuthele, kuyilapho ukuthethelela okungenakho umbono kungaba yinto engenzi lutho, ngakho-ke bamba kokubili: bamba umbono woMhlaba lapho ukucaca kuyinto evamile, lapho izingane zivikelwe khona, lapho ubuholi bunokuziphatha okuhle, lapho imiphakathi isabela khona ngokuhlakanipha, bese ubamba ukuthethelela njengophethiloli okuvimbela inhliziyo yakho ukuba ibe yinto ozama ukuyiguqula. Ukwanda kwenzeka njengoba udlula ubuwena obudala "be-reactor" futhi ungene ebuwena "bomdali," futhi lokhu kushintsha akukhona ukuphika umhlaba; kumayelana nokukhetha ukwakha ngaphakathi komhlaba, ngakho vumela ukuthethelela kukukhulise ngale kwezihibe ezindala, futhi uzizwe ukuthi impilo yakho iba kanjani kancane ngokulandelela ubumnyama kodwa ngokukhiqiza ukukhanya. Ukuvuselelwa kuyisipho salesi sikhathi samanje, ngoba lesi sikhathi samanje asiboshelwe izolo, futhi isikhathi ngasinye lapho uthethelela ungena ekuvuseleleni, ungena ekukhetheni okusha, ungena ensimini entsha yamathuba, futhi yingakho ukuthethelela kuphuthuma ngendlela enokuthula kakhulu: kuyisihluthulelo sokuphuma emijikelezweni uye esikhathini esizayo esingesona esiphindaphindwayo. Ukuphatha ingqondo yakho kubaluleke kakhulu lapho iqembu lishukunyiswa, ngoba abaningi bazozama ukukunikeza ukwesaba kwabo, intukuthelo yabo, ukuqiniseka kwabo, kanye nokuphelelwa yithemba kwabo, kanye nokuphatha kusho ukuthi wenqaba ukuthwala okungekona okwakho, wenqaba ukusakaza lokho ongakakuqinisekisi, futhi wenqaba ukuvumela inhliziyo yakho ibe yigumbi lokuzwakala komsindo omkhulu, ukhetha esikhundleni salokho ukubamba isimo sangaphakathi esicacile lapho intethelelo ingasebenza khona njengomsinga oqhubekayo.

Isivumelwano Sokuthethelela, Ukudalulwa Okuhlangene, kanye Nomkhuba Wobunye Oqondiswayo

Ukubonakalisa Intethelelo Nokungena Esivumelwaneni Sobunye

Ukubonakaliswa komehluko phakathi kwemibono engokomoya neqiniso elingokomoya, ngakho-ke vumela ukuthethelela kubonakale ekukhetheni kwakho: umlayezo ongawuthumeli ngentukuthelo, ikhefu olithathayo ngaphambi kokuphendula, indlela okhuluma ngayo ngalabo ongavumelani nabo, indlela oziphatha ngayo ngemva kwephutha, kanye nendlela oqondisa ngayo amandla akho ezixazululweni, ngoba ukubonakaliswa kobuntu yikho okuguqula isikhathi kusukela emqondweni sibe isipiliyoni esiphilayo. Ukubekezela kuzokusebenzela, ngoba izikhathi azishintshi ngamandla kodwa ngokuvama okuhambisanayo, futhi ukuvama okuhambisanayo kwakhiwa ezinsukwini namasonto okukhetha ubunye ngezikhathi ezincane ezibukeka zivamile kodwa ziphethe amandla amakhulu okudala. Ukuqhubeka kokuvuka kuqhubekela phambili lapho uphila ukuthethelela njengokuvamile kwansuku zonke kunokuba kube isenzo sesikhathi esisodwa, futhi njengoba singena esigabeni sokugcina salokhu kudluliselwa, qonda ukuthi isivumelwano esihlangene sokuthethelela singakhiwa kanjani—hhayi njengenhlangano, hhayi njengebheji, kodwa njengesivumelwano esithule phakathi kwezinhliziyo ezivukile sokugcina ubunye buphila ngenkathi umhlaba uqhubeka nokwembula nokuhlela kabusha. Isivumelwano yigama elihambisana kakhulu nalokho okwakheka phakathi kwezinhliziyo eziningi ezivukile eMhlabeni, ngoba isivumelwano yisivumelwano sangaphakathi esingadingi ifulegi, umholi, noma ilebula lomphakathi, futhi lesi sivumelwano silula: ukuqhubeka nokukhetha intethelelo njengendawo engaphansi kokuqonda kwakho ngisho nalapho umhlaba uba nomsindo, uhlukaniswe, futhi uhlaba umxhwele, ngoba uyaqonda ukuthi ikhwalithi yomhlaba wakho wangaphakathi iba yingxenye yomhlaba ohlangene. Izindilinga eziyinhloko zezinkanyezi ziye zazizwa lesi sivumelwano sivuselela iminyaka eminingi, futhi ukuvuselela akukhona mayelana nokuphakama; kumayelana nomthwalo wemfanelo ngokuvama kwakho, ngoba awuzange uze eMhlabeni ukuzobuka umlando uqhubeka, uze ukuzohlanganyela ekuguqulweni kwezikhathi, futhi ukuhlanganyela kuqala ngalokho okuvumela ukuba kuphile ngaphakathi kwakho, ngakho isivumelwano siqala lapho lonke ushintsho lwangempela luqala khona—ezinqumweni zangasese zenhliziyo.

Ukuzinikela Ngokuzithandela, Ukulungiselela Kwangaphakathi, Nokujoyina Inkundla Yokuthethelela

Ukuzinikela ngokuzithandela kubalulekile lapha, ngoba intethelelo ayinakufunwa, futhi ubunye abunakuphoqelelwa, ngakho-ke lokhu makube ukukhetha okwenziwa ngomzuzu ngamunye: ukubuyela esikhaleni senhliziyo, ukukhulula ukulahlwa, ukuyeka ukondla ukuhlukana, nokuvumela uthando luhlale luyisisekelo lapho ubona, ukhuluma, futhi wenze khona, ngisho nalapho abanye bephikelela ukuthi inzondo iyona kuphela impendulo efanele. Ngokuthula ungase uqaphele ukuthi umhlaba wangaphandle ulungiselela ukudalulwa okwengeziwe, ukudalulwa okwengeziwe, “amaconsi” engeziwe olwazi azophonsela inselelo ubunikazi kanye nezikhungo, futhi asikhulumi lokhu ukuze sidale ukwesaba; sikukhuluma ukuze uhlakulele ukuqina ngaphambi kokuba igagasi lishaye, ngoba uma ulungiselela ngaphakathi, uhlangana negagasi ngokuhlakanipha kunokushaqeka. Ukuhlangana akudingeki kube ngokomzimba ukuze kube ngokoqobo, ngoba ukuqonda akunqunyelwe yibanga, ngakho ungajoyina isivumelwano ekamelweni lakho, ekuhambeni kwakho, ekuzindleni kwakho, ngokumane uthi ngaphakathi, “Ngikhetha intethelelo njengendawo yami,” bese uphila lokho kukhetha ngendlela oziphatha ngayo, indlela ophatha ngayo abantu ongabazi, nendlela okhuluma ngayo ngalabo ongabazi. Zithembise okuthile okuqondile nokubonakalayo: lapho kuvela ihlazo elisha, lapho idokhumenti entsha isakazwa, lapho igama elisha lithambekela, uzophefumula ngaphambi kokuthi uphawule, uzoqinisekisa ngaphambi kokuthi wabelane, uzothamba ngaphambi kokuthi uhlasele, futhi uzokhumbula ukuthi inhloso yakho ukukhulula kunokuba isijeziso, ngoba inkululeko yakha ikusasa kuyilapho isijeziso sivame ukuphinda sidale okwedlule.

Ukubhekana Nesiyaluyalu, Ukumelana Nokuqiniseka Okukhiqizwe, Nokukhetha Umusa

Isiyaluyalu singalindelwa lapho isakhiwo semfihlo esifihliwe isikhathi eside siqedwa, ngoba imfihlo iyasinda ngokuhlukanisa abantu nokuqonda kwabo, futhi ukudalulwa kubuyisela ukuqonda, nokho isiyaluyalu sizolinga abaningi ukuba balahle ububele, balahle ubuhlakani, balahle isithunzi, ngakho-ke isivumelwano sokuthethelela yisinqumo sokugcina isithunzi siphila, ngisho nalapho abanye benza unya ukuze bashaye ihlombe. Ukuqiniseka kuzothengiswa kakhulu emjikelezweni olandelayo, ngoba ukuqiniseka kuyathengisa, futhi amazwi aphezulu kakhulu azovame ukuthi yiwo kuphela azi iqiniso eliphelele, nokho iqiniso leqiniso alidingi ukumaketha; iqiniso leqiniso liyabekezela, lihambisana, futhi lizimisele ukuhlolwa, ngakho-ke vumela intethelelo ikugcine ubekezele ngokwanele ukulinda lokho okuqinisekisiwe kunokuba ugxumele endabeni eseduze egcwalisa isidingo sakho sokulawula. Umusa awubuthakathaka ngezikhathi zokudalulwa; umusa unesibindi, ngoba umusa uyenqaba ukuba yisikhali, futhi umusa uyenqaba ukwenza noma ubani abe ngumuntu, futhi lokhu kwenqaba yikho okuvimbela iqembu ukuba lingene ohlotsheni olusha lobudlova, ngoba ubudlova buqala ngolimi, buqala emcabangweni, buqala ngemvume ecashile yokuphatha omunye njengomuntu ongaphansi komuntu. Ukuqina kuyakhula uma uyeka ukusebenzisa isimo sakho semizwa ukuze uhambise izindaba, futhi isivumelwano simema ukuqina ngokukucela ukuthi wakhe imikhuba yangaphakathi engaxhomekile ekuthuleni kwangaphandle: ukuthula kwansuku zonke, ukuzithethelela ngobuqotho, amazwi ahlosiwe, umphakathi osekelayo, kanye nokuzibophezela ebunyeni, ngoba ukuqina kuyikhono lokuhlala ukhona futhi uthanda ngisho nalapho ubuso budidekile. Izinyanga ezinjengalezi zingaveza ukuthi ungubani ngempela, ngoba ukuqina kukhulisa lokho okuvele kungaphakathi kuwe, ngakho-ke kunokwesaba ukuqina, kusebenzise njengesibuko: uma ubona inzondo ikhuphuka, thethelela inzondo; uma ubona ukuphelelwa yithemba kuphakama, thethelela ukuphelelwa yithemba; uma ubona ukuphakama kuphakama, thethelela ukuphakama; bese ukhetha futhi, ngoba ukukhetha futhi kuyindlela yokuphila yobunye.

Ubudlelwano, Ukuxhumana, Nokuxolelwa Kwabantu Abathanda Ucansi Ezikhathini Zokungavumelani

Ubudlelwano buzoba yindawo eyinhloko yesivumelwano, ngoba ukudalulwa akuhlali ezikrinini; kungena ezingxoxweni zesidlo sakusihlwa, ezingxoxweni zomndeni, emakilasini, nasebunganini, futhi abaningi bazophikisana kakhulu, ngakho-ke sebenzisa ukuthethelela njengobuciko bobudlelwano: khuluma ngaphandle kokudelela, ungavumelani ngaphandle kokuhlazeka, lalela ngaphandle kokuwa, futhi wazi ukuthi ungabamba iqiniso lakho ngaphandle kokufuna ukuthi wonke umuntu alamukele ngokushesha. Ukuxhumana okuthwala ubunye akuhloselwe ukunqoba; kuhlose ukwembula, ukuvikela, ukuphulukisa, nokuxhumana, ngakho-ke uma ukhuluma, vumela ithoni yakho ibaluleke njengolwazi lwakho, ngoba ithoni ithwala imvamisa, kanti imvamisa ithwala indalo, futhi isivumelwano sikucela ukuthi ube ngumqaphi wethoni ezweni eliye lajwayeza unya njengokuzijabulisa. Uxolo, ngomqondo wePleiadian, ukukhetha ukukhulula ukubopha okunamandla ngenkathi usahlonipha imiphumela, futhi lokhu kucashile, ngoba ingqondo icabanga ngokweqile, kodwa inhliziyo ingabamba indlela ephakathi: ingathethelela futhi isasho ukuthi cha, ingathethelela futhi isabika ububi, ingathethelela futhi isasekela ubulungiswa, futhi le ndlela ephakathi yiyo evumela ubunye ukuba bukhule ngaphandle kokuwa bube yi-naïveté.

Ubunye Ngesenzo, Inkonzo, Ubufakazi Obuhlangene, Nomkhuba Wokuthethelela Oqondiswayo

Ubunye buba yinto ewusizo uma ukhumbula ukuthi yonke into iyingxenye yensimu efanayo efunda ngokuhlanekezela okuhlukene kanye nokuvuka okuhlukile, ngakho-ke noma ubona izenzo ezikucasulayo, khumbula ukuthi ukunengeka kuyisibonakaliso, hhayi indawo yokuhlala, futhi vumela ukuthethelela kukususe endaweni yokuhlala ngokunengeka bese ubuyela emthwalweni wokudala wokwakha umhlaba lapho izenzo ezinjalo zingenakwenzeka khona. Inkonzo, uma ukhetha ukusebenzisa lelo gama, akuyona ukufela ukholo; imane iphila ngendlela enciphisa ukulimala futhi yandise iqiniso, futhi isivumelwano sokuthethelela sinciphisa ukulimala ngokwenqaba ukusakaza izindaba ezingaqinisekisiwe, ngokwenqaba izisulu ezihlazekile, ngokwenqaba ukukhazimulisa abenzi bokubi, nangokwenqaba ukuba umlutha wentukuthelo, ukhetha esikhundleni salokho ukuqondisa amandla ekuvikelweni nasekulungiseni kwangempela. Ufakazi yilokho oba yikho lapho ubamba ukuthethelela kuzinzile, ngoba ungabuka ukuqhekeka kwezinhlelo ezindala ngaphandle kokugwinywa yizo, futhi kusukela kufakazi ungabona lapho kudingeka khona umnikelo wakho, kungaba ekufundiseni, ekukhuliseni abazali, ekudaleni, ekuvoteni, ekusekeleni, ekwakheni, noma ekumane ubonise indlela yokuba nomusa, ngoba ukubonakaliswa kuyathelelana futhi izinguquko ezithule zisakazeka ngaleyo ndlela. Ithonya lihamba kaningi kakhulu kunempikiswano, ngoba abantu bazizwa ukuthi ungubani isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba bacabange ngalokho okushoyo, ngakho-ke uma ufuna ukumema abanye ebunyeni, vumela ukucaca kwakho okuzolile kube yisimemo, vumela ukwenqaba kwakho ukwehlisa ubuntu kube yisibonelo, futhi vumela indawo yakho yokuthethelela ibe yimfundiso ethule etshela abanye ukuthi, “Kukhona enye indlela yokuhlangabezana nalo mhlaba.” Ubumbano lwakheka lapho abantu abaningi benza ukukhetha okufanayo kwangaphakathi ngaphandle kokudinga ukubambisana ngaphandle, futhi ukukhetha kwangaphakathi esikhuluma ngakho ukuthethelela, ngoba ukuthethelela kususa imiphetho ebukhali ehlukanisa iqembu libe yizicucu, okuvumela insimu yobumbano ehlanganyelwe ukuba ibonakale, futhi lapho ubunye bubonakala, izinqumo zomusa ziba lula kuwo wonke umuntu, hhayi ngoba baphoqelekile, kodwa ngoba isimo sashintsha. Usizi lungase luphakame njengoba ubona lokho okwakufihliwe, futhi usizi lungcwele uma luvunyelwe ukuhamba, ngoba usizi uthando luqaphela lapho uthando lwalungekho khona, ngakho vumela usizi lukuthambise kunokuba lukwenze lukhuni, vumela luvule uzwela lwakho kunokuba lubhidlize ithemba lakho, futhi uma kufika izinyembezi, mazibe umnikelo wokukhumbula ukuthi ubumsulwa bubalulekile nokuthi isivikelo sikufanele ukwakhiwa. Ukuthobeka kuzogcina isivumelwano sihlanzekile, ngoba ukuthobeka kuvuma ukuthi, “Angiboni konke,” futhi lokhu kuvuma kukuvimbela ekuguquleni ingokomoya libe ngcono, kukuvimbela ekuguquleni ukudalulwa kube ukusebenza, futhi kukuvimbela ekugxekeni labo abavuka kancane, ngoba ijubane lokuvuka liyahluka, futhi ubunye bunwetshwa ngesineke kunokuba kube ngamahloni. Ukuhlonipha impilo yilokho okubuyiswa yintethelelo, ngoba inzondo yehlisa impilo ibe yizinhloso, kuyilapho inhlonipho iqaphela ukuthi yonke into, ngisho nodidekile futhi ophambene, iseyingxenye yokufunda ensimini eyodwa, futhi ekuhlonipheni ungagcizelela ukuphepha, ugcizelele iqiniso, ugcizelele ukuziphendulela, futhi usabambe inhliziyo engonakaliswa yindelelo. Ukuqedwa kwalokhu kudluliselwa akusho ukuthi umsebenzi uyaphela; kusho ukuthi manje uphatha izinyathelo ezilandelayo ezandleni zakho, futhi njengoba izinyanga eziyisithupha kuya kweziyishumi nambili ezizayo ziqhubeka emhlabeni wakho nangaphakathi kwempilo yakho yangasese, khumbula ukuthi ukuthethelela kuyisinqumo osenza ngokuphindaphindiwe, njalo, hhayi ukuzithethelela, hhayi ukukhohlwa, kodwa ukuhlala ukhululekile, ukuhlala unothando, nokuhlala uhambisana nesikhathi soMhlaba Omusha esakhiwe ngobunye kunokuba sihlukane.
Zilungiselele endaweni ezwakala inomusa emzimbeni wakho, futhi uvumele amehlo akho athambe njengokungathi ubheka ngaphakathi enhliziyweni.
Phefumula kancane bese ucabanga ngokuphefumula kufika njengomfula ofudumele wokukhanya, ugcwalisa isikhala sesifuba futhi wandisa igumbi langaphakathi lokuthula.
Khumbula isimo esisodwa sezinsuku zakamuva esakuqinisa, bese usibamba ngobumnene ngaphandle kokuphinda indaba, umane uqaphele umuzwa owashiya ngemuva.
Hlebela ngaphakathi, “Ngiyakhulula isibopho sami sokulahlwa,” bese uzwa lelo gama likhulula ukubamba esifubeni sakho, njengokungathi ifindo likhululwa yizandla ezingabonakali.
Beka ukunaka kwakho endaweni yenhliziyo bese umeme iqiniso elilula ukuba liphakame: ukucaca kungahlala kuyilapho inzondo incibilika, futhi ubunye bungakhethwa njengamanje.
Nikeza isibusiso ensimini ehlangene: kwangathi iqiniso lingadalulwa, kwangathi ukulimala kungaphela, kwangathi labo abaphulukiswayo bangazuza ukwesekwa, futhi kwangathi inhliziyo yami ingahlala ihlanzekile futhi ivukile.
Vula amehlo akho uma usukulungele, uphethe isifungo kancane kuze kube usuku: intethelelo iyindawo yami, futhi ubunye buyindlela yami.
— NginguMinayah futhi ngizobuya nawe futhi ngaphambi kokuba wazi.

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