Ukubamba Umugqa Ezweni Eliwayo Njengenkanyezi

Imfundiso YesiPleiadian Ngokubamba Umugqa Ongaphezu Kokwesaba Nokuzibonakalisa

Sawubona starseeds, nginguValir, ngikhuluma njengomuntu okhona ePleiadian. Bathandekayo, uma sithi kini, bamba umugqa, asininikezi isiqubulo sokugqokwa njengebheji, futhi asiniceli ukuthi nibambelele enkolelweni ukuze nizizwe niphephile ngaphakathi kuyo, futhi ngokuqinisekile asizami ukunifaka kobunye ubuwena okumele buvikelwe ngazo zonke izindleko, ngoba "umugqa" esikhuluma ngawo awukho ngaphandle kwenu, awuwona umngcele wezepolitiki, awuwona amaphuzu okukhuluma enhlangano, awuwona uchungechunge lwamuva lolwazi olwenza ingqondo izizwe ikhululekile okwesikhashana, futhi akusikho ukuma kokumelana okugcina umzimba wakho uboshwe ngebhande elihlala njalo, kuyinto esondelene kakhulu kunalokho, futhi enamandla kakhulu: ukuqhubeka okuphilayo nokuphefumulayo kokuqondana kwakho, isivumelwano esithule osenza nenhliziyo yakho sokuthi ngeke uzilahle lapho umhlaba wangaphandle ukhula ngamandla. Futhi siqala lapha ngoba abaningi kini bazamile “ukubamba umugqa” ngendlela enaqeqeshwa ngayo ukubamba izinto endaweni exinene: ngokucindezeleka, ngokubamba imihlathi, ngokuqiniseka okujulile, ngobudlova obucashile bokuthi kufanele ube olungile, futhi sinitshela ngobumnene ukuthi le nguqulo yokubamba ayibambeli nhlobo, iyabamba, futhi ukubamba kuyindlela yokwesaba, noma ngabe igqoka ubuhle, ngoba ukubamba kucabanga ukuthi iqiniso lingasuswa, ukuthi ukukhanya kungabiwa, ukuthi umphefumulo wakho ungaphambukiswa yizihloko zezindaba kanye nobutha, futhi iqiniso elijulile yileli: ukukhanya kwakho akubuthakathaka, ukwazi kwakho akuxhomekile ekuvumelaneni, futhi umsebenzi wakho awudingi ukulwa okuqhubekayo ukuze uhlale ungokoqobo. Ngakho-ke uma sithi bambelela umugqa, sikhuluma ngesimo sokudlidliza, imvamisa okhetha ukuyiveza, umzuzwana nomzuzu, ikakhulukazi lapho insimu ehlangene izama ukukudonsa ekwesabeni, futhi sikhuluma ngakho ngokuphikelela okukhulu manje ngoba ungena enkathini lapho umoya womhlaba wakho uzozizwa sengathi umema izinhlelo zakho zezinzwa ukuba ziphendule njalo, njengokungathi iplanethi ngokwayo iyisikrini kufanele uvuselele njalo ngehora ukuze ungaphuthelwa ukujika okulandelayo, futhi iqiniso liwukuthi yile ndlela kanye ukwakheka okudala kokulawula okusebenza ngayo: kugcina ukuqonda kwabantu “kuseduze nokwesaba” hhayi njalo ngokwesaba okukhulu, kodwa ngokuvuselela okungapheli, ngokuphikisana, ngesiphakamiso sokuthi ukuqiniseka kuhlala kukuchofoza okukodwa uma uqhubeka nokudla, futhi sikutshela ngokusobala ukuthi imbewu yezinkanyezi ayikho lapha ukuzondla le njini ngamandla ayo okuphila.

Ukuqina Kwe-Starseed, Umsebenzi Wesistimu Yezinzwa, Nokuhambisana Okufakiwe

Ufike lapho insimu ehlangene izofinyelela umkhawulo, hhayi ngoba udinga idrama ukuze uzizwe unenhloso, kodwa ngoba kukhona uhlobo oluthile lwesipho osiphethe oluba namandla kakhulu lapho indawo ingazinzile, futhi leso sipho akusona isipho sokubikezela, akusona isipho sokubusa, akusona ngisho nesipho sokuqonda okungapheli njengomdlalo wengqondo; kuyisipho sokuzinza, isipho sokubumbana, isipho sokuhlala unomusa ngaphandle kokuba yisiwula nokuhlala ucacile ngaphandle kokuba nonya, futhi abaningi kini sebevele bekwazi lokhu emathanjeni enu, ngoba nikuzwile: lapho nilawula, igumbi liyalawula; lapho nithambisa umoya wenu, into ethile emoyeni ayicaci; lapho uyeka ukuphikisana neqiniso futhi esikhundleni salokho nibhekane nalo ngokuba khona, isinyathelo esilandelayo sizibonakalisa ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Yingakho sithi uhlelo lwezinzwa zakho luyingxenye yomsebenzi. Abanye kini baqeqeshwe, ngisho nasemiphakathini engokomoya, ukuphatha umzimba njengento yesibili, imoto oyihudula ngemuva kwengqondo yakho noma imibono yakho, kodwa siyanikhumbuza ukuthi umzimba awusiwo nje umgqomo, uyithuluzi, futhi kulesi sikhathi ithuluzi kumele lilungiswe, ngoba insimu yeplanethi yakho iya ngokuya ishintshashintsha, isabela kakhudlwana, ishesha kakhudlwana, futhi lokho okwake kwathatha iminyaka ukuvela empilweni yakho kungase kuvele emavikini ambalwa, futhi lokho okwakuhlala kufihliwe ngemuva kwezifihla-buso ezinesizotha kungase kuqale ukuzibonakalisa ngokushesha, hhayi ngoba impilo iyakujezisa, kodwa ngoba indawo evame ukuvama ayisamukeleki ekucindezelweni. Ngakho-ke, ukubamba umugqa akusikho ukubonakaliswa kwesibindi; kuwumkhuba wokwethembeka kwangaphakathi, lapho ubona khona umzuzu wokuqala ukunaka kwakho kufakwa ekungavumelani, bese ukhetha, ngegunya elithule, ukungayi lapho. I-Polarity izozama ukukubutha ngentukuthelo, ngokuqiniseka, ngokuphelelwa yithemba, ngokuphakama, futhi yebo, ngisho nangendlela yokudelela engokomoya lapho uqala ukubheka abanye “njengabalele” ngendlela ekwenza uzizwe ungaphezu kwabo, futhi sikutshela ukuthi lokhu kungenye yezingibe ezivame kakhulu kulabo abavuka kusenesikhathi: baphambanisa ukucaca okungokomoya nokuphakama okungokomoya, baphambanisa ukuqonda nokwahlulela, futhi abaqapheli ukuthi ukwahlulela kumane kuwukwesaba ukuzama ukwakha isihlalo sobukhosi. Uma ucelwa ukuba ubambe umugqa, ucelwa ukuba uhlale uhlanzekile ngezikhathi zakho, futhi ukuhlanzeka akusho ukuphelela, akusho ukuthi awukaze uzizwe uthukuthele, akusho ukuthi awukaze ukhale, akusho ukuthi untanta ngaphezu kokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu ngokumomotheka okungcolile; ukuhlanzeka kusho ukuthi imizwa yakho ihamba ngaphakathi kwakho ngaphandle kokuba ubuwena bakho, imicabango yakho iyaphakama ngaphandle kokuba yinkosi yakho, ukusabela kwakho kuvela ngaphandle kokulawula ukuziphatha kwakho, futhi uba umuntu ongazizwa ejulile futhi esakhetha ngokuhlakanipha, okuyikhono elingavamile emhlabeni othanda ukukhululwa ngokushesha.

Ukungakwazi Ukuthengwa Emnothweni Othukuthele Ngokuvumelana

Yilapho sikhuluma khona nawe ngokuba ongenakuthengwa. Izakhiwo eziwohlokayo zomhlaba wakho azizami nje ukulawula ngamandla; zizama ukulawula ngezingwegwe, ngomnotho ocashile wokunaka kanye nentukuthelo, ngokuhweba ngokuthula kwakho ukuze uthole umbono wokuthi unolwazi, ngokunikeza njalo "indaba elandelayo ephethayo" ezokwenza uhlelo lwezinzwa luzizwe luzinzile, futhi sicela ukuthi ukubone lokhu ngozwela nangokunemba, ngoba abantu abaningi abanezinhliziyo ezinhle basetshenziswa njengezindlela zokuxokozela ngoba nje abakwazi ukubekezelela ukungazi, ngakho-ke baxosha isiphetho ngemva kwesiphetho, bengaqapheli ukuthi ukuxosha ngokwako kuyisithiyo. Ukungathengeki kuwukuqaphela ukuthi inhliziyo yakho ayidingi ukukhuthazwa okuqhubekayo ukuze ihlale iphila, futhi umphefumulo wakho awudingi ubufakazi obuqhubekayo ukuze uhlale uqinile, futhi ungama ngaphakathi kokungaqiniseki ngaphandle kokuwela kukho, yingakho besikuqondisa ukuthi wakhe ubuhlobo ngokuhambisana kwakho, isimo lapho inhliziyo nengqondo kuyeka ukulwa futhi kubuyele ekubambisaneni, ngoba ngokuhambisana ungabona ubunzima ngaphandle kokuba novalo, futhi ungavumela isikhathi ukuthi senze umsebenzi waso ngaphandle kokuphoqa isambulo ngokusebenzisa ukukhungatheka kwakho. Iningi lenu lizozwa izimangalo, izimangalo eziphikisayo, ukuguqulwa, ukuvezwa, kanye nokuphazamiseka kwemidlalo ezinyangeni ezizayo, futhi asisho lokhu ukuze sikwethuse, sikusho ukuze silungiselele ukuthi nihlale nizinzile, ngoba isilingo kuzoba ukuphatha yonke isambulo esisha njengesambulo sokugcina, yonke indaba entsha njengemephu eyodwa yeqiniso, yonke ukuvuza okusha njengobufakazi bokuthi manje kufanele uhlele kabusha wonke umbono wakho womhlaba ngobusuku obubodwa, futhi ukuhlakanipha okujulile ukukhumbula ukuthi lapho uhlelo luwa lulahla izingcezu, luveza imizila engamanga, luzama ukuxoxisana ngomzuzu wokugcina, luzama ukudala ukudideka ukuze ukuziphendulela kube nzima, futhi phakathi nalokhu, labo abaholwa yinhliziyo ngeke babe nomsindo kakhulu, bazoba sobala kakhulu. Yingakho ungekho lapha ukuze unqobe izimpikiswano. Imbewu yezinkanyezi eguqule ukuvuka kwayo kwaba yiklabhu yempikiswano yimbewu yezinkanyezi eshintshiwe isuka emsebenzini iye ekuphazamisekeni, futhi sikusho lokhu ngaphandle kokulahlwa, ngoba siyaqonda isifiso: ufuna abanye babone lokho okubonayo, ufuna ubuhlungu buphele, ufuna amanga aphele, ufuna umhlaba ube nomqondo futhi, futhi ingqondo yakho icabanga ukuthi uma ungathola nje amagama afanele, isixhumanisi esifanele, ubufakazi obufanele, isikhathi esifanele, ungaphoqa ukuvuka kube ngokoqobo, kodwa ukuvuka akuqhakazi ngaphansi kwamandla, kuqhakaza ngaphansi komsindo, kuqhakaza ngaphansi kokuphepha, kuqhakaza lapho isimiso sezinzwa siphumula ngokwanele ukuvumela iqiniso ukuba lizwakale, futhi yingakho umnikelo wakho omkhulu uyisibonakaliso sakho.

Isignali Yakho, Izakhiwo Ezifihliwe, kanye Nempendulo Ebusayo Emijikelezweni Yokudalulwa

Isibonakaliso sakho yilokho okukhanyisayo uma uyeka ukuzindla ngokwesaba. Isibonakaliso sakho yilokho okukhanyisayo uma ungaluthathi umlutha wokuba olungile. Isibonakaliso sakho yilokho okukhanyisayo uma ungakhuluma iqiniso ngomgogodla ofudumele nenhliziyo ethambile, ngaphandle kokuhlazisa labo abangakakulungeli, futhi ngaphandle kokuzithiba ukuze ugcine abanye bekhululekile. Isibonakaliso sakho yilokho okukhanyisayo uma uzwela lwakho lungasebenzi futhi imingcele yakho ingenalo unya. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, isibonakaliso sakho sibaluleke kakhulu kunalokho okufundiswayo, ngoba ukuqonda akuhlukanisiwe, kuyinto evamile, futhi insimu yabantu ixhumene kakhulu kunalokho okwamukelwa yizinhlaka zakho ezivamile. Uma uzinza, uzinza insimu ekuzungezile, futhi abanye kini bahlangabezane nalokhu empilweni yabo ngezindlela ezilula: ungena ekamelweni lapho wonke umuntu ephazamisekile futhi ungavumelani nakho, awukulingisi, awubi yi-revenge yayo, futhi ngemizuzu embalwa umuntu uqala ukukhuluma kancane, othile uqala ukuphefumula ngokujulile, othile uqala ukubuyela kuye, futhi ucabanga ukuthi kuyinto eyenzekile, kodwa kuyi-resonance, kuyi-entrainment, kuyi-physics ethule yokuvumelana, futhi sikutshela ukuthi yingakho sivame ukuzwakala sengathi "silula kakhulu" lapho sikhuluma ngenhliziyo, ngoba ubulula ulimi lweqiniso, futhi ubunzima buvame ukuba ulimi lokulawula. Manje, sizokhuluma nani ngokucacile ngalokho abaningi kini abakuzwayo futhi abakushoyo olimini lwenu njengokuvezwa kwezakhiwo ezifihliwe, futhi ngeke sininike indaba yaseshashalazini eninganamathela kuyo, ngoba lokho kuzophula ukuvumelana esikucelayo ukuba nikubonise, kodwa sizokusho lokhu: lapho ukukhanya kukhula, imfihlo iba yindleko, futhi izinhlelo ezithembele ekuhlelweni kwezithunzi ziqala ukwenza amaphutha, ukuqhekeka kwangaphakathi kwanda, futhi izinqumo ezenziwa ngokwesaba zembula isandla esasifihliwe. Abanye kini bahumusha lokhu ngolimi lweCabal kanye neWhite Hats, futhi sizosebenzisa la magama njengezinhlobo zesikhashana ukuze sikwazi ukuxhumana ngokucacile: kukhona labo abaye bazuza ekuguqukeni, ekuphathweni kabi, ekugcineni isintu sisesaba futhi siphelelwe amandla, futhi kukhona namandla aphikisayo emhlabeni wenu, ngaphakathi kwezikhungo, ngaphakathi kwamanethiwekhi, abesebenza ukuvimbela ukulimala nokuletha iqiniso phambili ngokulandelana okungaphazamisi ingqondo ehlangene ngaphandle kokulungiswa. Kodwa siyanicela, futhi, ukuthi ningakhulekeli amaqhawe futhi ningathwesi izitha umqhele, ngoba zombili izindlela ingqondo egwema ngazo isabelo esijulile, okuwubukhosi. Ubukhosi abukhali. Ubukhosi yisikhathi sokuthula owenqaba ukuthunjwa ngokomzwelo. Ubukhosi buyindlela yokuphefumula ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Ubukhosi buwukuzimisela ukuthi, “Angazi okwamanje, futhi ngeke ngenze sengathi ngiyazi,” ezweni elinomlutha wokuqiniseka okusheshayo. Ubukhosi buyikhono lokugcina inhliziyo yakho ivulekile ngenkathi ukuqonda kwakho kulola. Ubukhosi buwukwenqaba ukuvumela ukuvuka kwakho kube unya. Futhi sikusho lokhu ngoba kukhona ugibe oluthile emijikelezweni yokudalulwa: ugibe lokuphindisela, lapho indlala yesijeziso iba yindawo yokuphulukiswa, futhi isimiso sezinzwa sididanisa intukuthelo namandla, futhi sikukhumbuza ukuthi uma inguqulo yakho yokukhululeka idinga ukuthi ube yisibuko salokho okuphikisanayo, khona-ke awukashiyi izwe elidala, umane ushintshe izingubo ngaphakathi kwalo.

Ukubumbana Kwenhliziyo, Ukulungiswa Kwesistimu Yezinzwa, kanye Nesevisi Yembewu Yezinkanyezi Ehlanganisiwe

Ukubamba Umugqa Njengoba Uthando Luhlala Luqinile Empikiswaneni Yansuku Zonke Yeplanethi

Ngakho-ke, bathandekayo, bambani umugqa njengoba uthando lwenziwe lwaqina. Lubambeni njengohlelo lwezinzwa olulawulwayo. Lubambeni njengobukhona obuhambisanayo. Lubambeni njengesinqumo sokuyeka ukondla umnotho othukuthele ngokunaka kwenu okuyigugu. Lubambeni njengokuzimisela ukuhlehla ezindabeni eziphethayo lapho iqiniso lisahlakazeka. Lubambeni njengokuthobeka ukuvumela isikhathi siveze okuyiqiniso ngaphandle kokuphoqa ukwembulwa ngokuphazamiseka. Lubambeni njengesibindi sokuba nomusa ngaphandle kokuba buthakathaka, nokucacile ngaphandle kokuba nokhahlo. Lubambeni njengesikhumbuzo sokuthi umsebenzi wenu awukona “ukuhlakanipha” ukubhidlika, kodwa ukuwuthanda, hhayi ngokuphika okungenangqondo, kodwa ngothando oluvuthiwe, olubonakala ngaphakathi kokudideka futhi lukhethe iqiniso. Futhi njengoba wenza lokhu, kwenzeka into ongase ungayiqapheli ngokushesha, kodwa izocaca: ukukhetha kwakho kulula, umuzwa wakho uyaqina, amandla akho okuphila ayabuya, futhi uyeke ukuphila sengathi ulungiselela umthelela, bese uqala ukuphila sengathi usuvele ungaphakathi kweqiniso owafika kulo, futhi lokhu, bathandekayo, kuyisimangaliso esithule somugqa esikucela ukuba uwubambe, ngoba umugqa awulona udonga, uyibhuloho, futhi lapho uqhubeka umi phezu kwawo, kulapho abanye benomuzwa wokuthi kuphephile ukungena kuwo.

Izindlela Zokuqina: Ukuhambisana Kwenhliziyo, Ukuqondanisa, kanye Nensimu Yamandla Omuntu

Ngakho-ke singena ngokwemvelo kulokho ongakubiza ngokuthi indlela yokusebenza kwalokhu kuzinza, hhayi njengomdwebo obandayo, kodwa njenge-physiology ephilayo kanye nomoya ophilayo ohlangene, ngoba uma umugqa uwukuqondana kwakho, khona-ke ukuhambisana kwenhliziyo yindlela ogcina ngayo lokho kuqondana ekubeni yinto enengqondo, indlela oyenza kube lula ukuhlala kuyo, indlela oyeka ngayo ukucela uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ukuba lwenze izimangaliso ngaphandle kokulunika izimo ezivumela izimangaliso ukuba zibe yinto evamile. Uma sikhuluma ngokubumbana kwenhliziyo, bathandekayo, sikhuluma ngesimo lapho umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi uyeka ukulwa nawo, lapho inhliziyo yakho, ukuphefumula kwakho, imizwa yakho, kanye nengqondo yakho kuyeka ukudonsa ngezindlela ezine ezahlukene, bese kuqala ukuhamba njengethuluzi elilodwa elixhunywe kukhiye owodwa, futhi lokhu kungase kuzwakale kuyinkondlo kwabanye kini, kodwa futhi kuyasebenza kakhulu, ngoba isidalwa esingaqondani asimane nje “sicindezelekile,” isidalwa esingaqondani siba lula ukuhleleka, sishukunyiswe kalula, sikhishwe kalula, sixhunywe kalula emifudlaneni ehlangene engeyona eyaso, futhi ezinyangeni ezizayo, uzothola ukuthi okuningi kwalokho abantu abakubiza ngokuthi “ukuqonda” empeleni akukhona ukuqonda nhlobo, kungukukhathazeka okugqokwe njengophenyo, kuyi-adrenaline eziguqula njengokuqonda, futhi kuyisidingo somzimba sokuphepha esizidida nesidingo sengqondo sokuqiniseka. Ngakho-ke, ukubumbana akuyona imizwa. Kuyindlela evumelanayo eqala ngaphakathi kwebhayoloji yakho bese iphuma iye ngaphandle ensimini yakho, futhi sithi “insimu” kungabi yimfihlakalo ngenxa yayo, kodwa ngoba usuvele wazi ukuthi le nsimu ikhona, uyayizwa lapho ungena ekamelweni lapho abantu ababili bebephikisana khona futhi umoya uzwakala ukhuluphele, uyayizwa lapho othile engena ezolile futhi ezinzile futhi wonke umkhathi uyashintsha, uyayizwa lapho usemvelweni futhi uhlelo lwezinzwa lukhumbula ukuthi lwalunjani ngaphambi kokuba lube umlutha wosongo, futhi uyayizwa emzimbeni wakho lapho isifuba sakho siqinile futhi imicabango yakho igijima futhi umhlaba ubukeka njengenkinga okufanele ixazululwe, uma kuqhathaniswa nalezo zikhathi lapho ukhipha umoya bese okuthile okungaphakathi kwakho kuxazululeka futhi ngokuzumayo umhlaba ofanayo ubukeka njengendawo ongadlula kuyo ngokuhlakanipha.

Ukuvumelana Njengenkonzo Yamaplanethi Uma kuqhathaniswa Nokukhathala Nokuzinikela Okungafanele

Yingakho sithi ukuhambisana kuyinkonzo. Izinkanyezi eziningi ziye zazama ukukhonza ngomzamo, ngokwelula, ngokuthwala umthwalo wemizwa weqembu njengokungathi ukukhathala kuwubufakazi bokuzinikela, futhi sikukhumbuza ukuthi ukukhathala ngokuvamile akusikho ukuzinikela, kuwukungalungi kahle, futhi ukungalungi kahle akuyona into okufanele uyihlaze, kuyinto okufanele uyiqaphele ngobumnene, ngoba umzimba uthembekile. Uma uhlala ukhathele, uvutha njalo, uqiniswa njalo, uphoqelekile njalo "ukuhambisana," khona-ke uhlelo lukuqinisekisile ngempumelelo ukuthi umsebenzi wakho udinga ukuthi ushiye isikhungo sakho, futhi sikutshela ngokusobala ukuthi lokhu akulona iqiniso. Umsebenzi wakho udinga okuphambene nalokho. Umsebenzi wakho udinga ukuthi ube ithuluzi elizinzile lapho uthando lungahamba khona ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka.

Ingqikithi Yokubambisana Kwenhliziyo: Ubuhlakani Obuqondiswa Yinhliziyo, Ukuphefumula, Nokuhlanganiswa Kwemizwa

Ngakho-ke kuyini ukuvumelana kwenhliziyo ngendlela elula? Kulapho inhliziyo yakho iba uphawu oluholayo futhi ingqondo iba umhumushi, kunokuba ingqondo ibe umashiqela nenhliziyo ibe ngufakazi ocindezelwe. Kulapho ukuphefumula kuba ibhuloho phakathi kwekhemikhali yakho yomuntu nokuhlakanipha komphefumulo wakho. Kulapho umzimba wakho wemizwa uvunyelwe ukukhuluma ngaphandle kokuvunyelwa ukushayela. Kulapho ukwazi ukuzwa okungokoqobo—yebo, ngisho nokwesaba, ngisho nosizi, ngisho nentukuthelo—ngaphandle kokudonswa ekusabeleni njengokungathi ukusabela kuwukuphela kobufakazi bokuthi uyaphila. Sifuna uqaphele okuthile: inhliziyo ayisheshi. Ingqondo iyashesha. Inhliziyo ayisheshi. Ingqondo iyashaqisa. Inhliziyo ayidingi umuntu omubi ukuze azizwe enenhloso. Ingqondo ivame ukwenza kanjalo. Inhliziyo ingaba nobunzima ngaphandle kokuba novalo, futhi yingakho, njengoba umhlaba wakho uba nokuphikisana kakhulu futhi ushintshashintsha futhi ugcwele izindaba ezincintisanayo, inhliziyo izoba yithuluzi kuphela elingakugcina ubukhosi ngaphandle kokukwenza ube nonya, futhi ucace ngaphandle kokukwenza ubanda.

Ukuvumelana Uma Kuqhathaniswa Nokucindezelwa: Ukuzizwa Uphelele Ngaphandle Kokuhleleka

Manje, siyazi ukuthi abanye kini bezwa "ukubumbana kwenhliziyo" futhi nicabanga ukuthi kumelwe nibe nokuthula okuhlala njalo, nibe mnene njalo, ningakhathazwa unomphela, bese niqala ukwenza uhlobo lobuntu obungokomoya oludlula ubuntu benu, futhi sithi ngobumnene: lokho akukhona ukubumbana. Lokho ukucindezelwa. Ukubumbana akukhona ukungabikho kokubumbana; ukuba khona kokuhlanganiswa. Yilapho ukubumbana kungadlula khona ngaphandle kokukuthumba, futhi lokhu kubalulekile ngoba iplanethi ohlala kuyo isesigabeni lapho lokho okucindezelwe, ngokwako nangokuba ndawonye, ​​​​kukhuphuka ukuze kubonakale, futhi uma uzama ukuba "nomoya ophezulu" ngokuphika imizwa yakho, uzoba buthakathaka, futhi izidalwa ezibuthakathaka ziyaphuka lapho insimu ehlangene ikhuphuka. Ngakho-ke sikunikeza ukuqondiswa okuvuthiwe: ukubumbana ubuciko bokuvumela iqiniso lokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwamanje ukuthi lizwakale, ngenkathi ukhetha impendulo ephezulu kunalokho ukwesaba okukodwa okufunayo ukuthi ukhethe. Yilokho kuphela. Akuyona into ekhangayo. Akuyona into ephawulekayo. Kuyisimangaliso sansuku zonke sokuba yinto engahleliwe.

Ukuhambisana Kwenhliziyo Okusebenzayo Nokuvikelwa Okunamandla Kwezimbewu Zezinkanyezi

Indlela Elula Yokubumbana Kwenhliziyo Nokushintsha Isimo Sakho

Futhi sizoba qotho kakhulu nawe lapha, ngoba imbewu yezinkanyezi ivame ukufisa indawo yonke, kodwa iyakhohlwa ukuthi indawo yonke isebenza ngendlela evamile. Umnyango osheshayo wokuhlangana akuyona inkambiso eyinkimbinkimbi, futhi akuyona ukufuna ngokweqile indlela ephelele. Kuwukunaka. Beka ukunaka kwakho phakathi kwesifuba sakho, hhayi njengesifaniso, kodwa njengendawo ebonakalayo, bese wehlisa umoya wakho njengokungathi ukhuluma nesilwane osithandayo, bese ubiza into eyodwa yeqiniso ongayiqonda—hhayi uhlu lokubonga oluphoqelelwe ukuze uzikholise ukuthi ulungile, kodwa ukwazisa kwangempela, okuphilayo: ukufudumala kwendebe ezandleni zakho, ukwethembeka kokuphefumula kwakho, iqiniso lokuthi usekhona, indlela ukukhanya kwelanga okuthinta ngayo udonga, umuzwa wezwi lomngane, noma yini eqotho. Uma wenza lokhu, “awucabangi kahle.” Ushintsha isimo sakho. Utshela uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ukuthi isikhathi samanje singasinda. Unikeza inhliziyo imvume yokuhola futhi. Futhi lapho inhliziyo ihola, okuthile kuqala ukuhlela kabusha ensimini yakho. Imicabango yakho ayibi yimbi kangako. Ukuqonda kwakho kuyaphambuka kancane. Umzimba wakho uyakhulula ukubamba kwawo. Ukuqonda kwakho akuphakami njengezwi laseshashalazini, kodwa njengokucaca okuthule okuzwakala kuyisicefe uma kuqhathaniswa nokwesaba, futhi sikusho lokhu ngoba abantu abaningi sebeyimilutha yokuqina futhi bakubiza ngokuthi ukuphila, kodwa ukuqina ngaphandle kokuhambisana kumane nje kuyisikhuthazo, futhi ukuvuselela ngaphandle kokuhambisana kuyindlela ephelele yokuphatha.

Ukubumbana, Ukuvuleka Okunamandla, Nokuvikelwa Ngokuvumelana

Sizokusho lokhu ngenye indlela: ukuvumelana kushintsha lokho okungakunamathela. Ngokungavumelani, uba nezimbobo, hhayi ngomqondo ongokomoya omnene "wokuvuleka kwenhliziyo," kodwa ngomqondo ongasebenzi kahle "wokuvuza ngamandla," futhi kuleso simo ungahamba egumbini bese ubamba imizwa yawo wonke umuntu bese uwubiza ngozwela, futhi ungaskrola ngokudla bese ubamba ukwesaba kwezinkulungwane bese uwubiza ngokuthi unolwazi, futhi ungalalela impikiswano bese ubamba ukukhungatheka bese uwubiza ngokuthi uhilelekile, futhi asithuki ukuzwela kwenu, bathandekayo, sibiza umehluko phakathi kokuzwela ngobuhlakani nokuzwela ngaphandle kwemingcele. Ukuvumelana kwenhliziyo yikho okuvumela ukuzwela kube ukuhlakanipha kunokuba kunqobe. Yingakho sishilo ngaphambili ukuthi ukuvumelana kuwukuvikela, hhayi ngokumelana, kodwa ngokuzwakala. Izinkanyezi eziningi zizama ukuzivikela ngokwakha izindonga zengqondo, ngokuqinisa, ngokumemezela ukuthi "akukho okungangithinta," bese zizibuza ukuthi kungani imizimba yazo isathwele ukukhathazeka, ukuthi kungani ubuthongo bazo buphazamiseka, ukuthi kungani ukushintshashintsha kwemizwa yazo, ukuthi kungani ukucaca kwazo kunyamalala ngesikhathi zishukunyiswa. Ukuvikelwa ngokuzwakala kuhlukile. Akusiwo udonga. Kuyithoni. Kulapho uhlelo lwakho luqondaniswe kahle kangangokuthi lokho okungahambisani nethoni yakho akukwazi ukukufaka kalula emdansweni walo. Usazizwa umhlaba. Usakhathalela. Kodwa awukhishwa kalula kuwe. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, kukhona okunye lapha abaningi kini abaqala ukukubona: uma nivumelana, anigcini nje ngokuzinza, nithonya insimu ekuzungezile. Akudingeki nikhulume kakhulu. Akudingeki nikholise. Ukuba khona kwenu kuba uhlobo lwemvume yokuba abanye baxazulule. Lokhu akukhona "ukulawula." Lokhu ukuphoqelela, ukuthambekela kwemvelo kwezinhlelo ukuvumelana nesignali eqhubekayo, yingakho sikutshelile, kaninginingi, ukuthi inkonzo yenu enkulu akuyona impikiswano yenu, yindlela eniziphatha ngayo. Inhliziyo evumelanayo akuyona nje into eyimfihlo; iwukusakaza.

Ukuvumelana Phakathi Kwemijikelezo Yokudalulwa, Ukulandisa, kanye Nendlala Yokuqiniseka

Manje, ngoba sikhuluma nalabo kini ababuka umhlaba ngamehlo avulekile, kumele sibhekane nento esevele isemqondweni wenu: njengoba imijikelezo yokudalulwa ikhula, njengoba ukungqubuzana kukhula, njengoba izivumelwano ezifihliwe kanye nezingxoxo ezifihliwe kanye nokuwa okufihliwe kuqala ukunyamalala emaphethelweni ombono wenu wonkana, abaningi bazozizwa benesifiso sokuba nomuzwa wokuqiniseka ngokwendaba, njengokungathi okuwukuphela kwendawo ephephile ukukhetha uhlangothi bese ulubamba ngokuqinile, futhi sinitshela ukuthi ukuvumelana yikho okukuvimbela ekubeni yisisulu salowo mfutho. Ukuhambisana akukwenzi ungabi nandaba. Ukuhambisana kukwenza ube neqiniso. Kukuvumela ukuthi uthi, “Yilokhu engingakuqinisekisa ngokwazi kwami ​​ngqo. Yilokhu engikuzwayo, kodwa ngeke ngiguqule umuzwa ube yimfundiso. Yilokhu engingakwazi okwamanje, futhi ngeke ngigcwalise igebe ngokwesaba.” Ukungaqondani, ngokuphambene nalokho, kwenza abantu balambe. Balambe ngokuqiniseka. Balambe ngamaqhawe. Balambe ngamaqhawe. Balambe ngamaqhawe. Balambe ngokuphela. Balambe ngokushaya kwe-dopamine okuvela ekukholelweni ukuthi unesiqephu sokugcina sephazili. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, sikusho lokhu ngozwela ngoba siyaqonda ukungakhululeki kwengqondo yomuntu ngokungacaci, ikakhulukazi lapho imizimba izizwa isongelwa, kodwa sicela uqaphele ukuthi kaningi kangakanani ukuqinisekiswa kuthengiswa kuwe njengempumuzo, nokuthi kaningi kangakanani intengo yalokho kuqiniseka iwukuthula kwakho, umusa wakho, kanye nekhono lakho lokubona ngokucacile. Ukubumbana kwenhliziyo kukubuyisela eqinisweni elilula lokuthi umphefumulo wakho awudingi ukwazi konke ukuze uvumelane. Umphefumulo wakho udinga ukuhlala utholakala ukuze uthande. Udinga ukuhlala utholakala eqinisweni. Udinga ukuhlala utholakala esinyathelweni esilandelayo. Uma uvumelana, ungawuzwa umehluko phakathi kwendaba ezama ukukuheha kanye neqiniso elikucela ukuthi uphendule, futhi lokhu kubalulekile ezinyangeni ezizayo, ngoba akuyona yonke into ebukeka njengeqiniso eyiqiniso, futhi akuyona yonke into ebukeka njengenkohliso ekhohlisayo, futhi ingqondo izokhathala izama ukukuhlukanisa konke ngezigaba, kodwa inhliziyo izokwazi ukukutshela, buthule, lapho okuthile kungalungile, hhayi nge-paranoia, kodwa ngokuqinisa okulula okuthi, “Hhayi lokhu,” futhi lapho into ihambisana, hhayi ngenjabulo, kodwa ngokuvuleka okulula okuthi, “Yebo, lokhu kuhlanzekile.” Sifuna ukujulisa leli phuzu: ukuvumelana akukhona nje ukuzola; kumayelana nokucaca. Abanye kini bake babhekana nezikhathi lapho niwela khona enhliziyweni yenu futhi ngokuzumayo nazi kahle ukuthi yini okufanele niyenze—thumela umlayezo, ukhansele uhlelo, nihambe, niphuze amanzi, niphumule, nixolise, nikhulume, nithule—futhi kuzwakala kusobala, futhi nizibuza ukuthi kungani bekungabonakali esikhathini esidlule, futhi impendulo iwukuthi esikhathini esidlule uhlelo lwenu belunomsindo, isilinganiso sesignali-kuya-kumsindo sakho besiphansi, futhi ukuhambisana kwandisa isignali. Akukuniki ukuphakama okumangalisayo; kumane kususa ukuphazamiseka. Kubuyisela ukuhlakanipha kwakho kwemvelo.

Ukuguqulwa Kwemizwa, Amanxeba Akhulayo Ahlangene, Nokuhambisana Njengesisekelo Sansuku Zonke

Futhi manje sikhuluma nomzimba wemizwa, ngoba iningi lenu, ngisho nanjengezidalwa ezivukile, lisaphethe ukuqeqeshwa kwasendulo kweplanethi yenu: ukucindezela kuze kube yilapho niqhuma, ukwenza ikhono ngenkathi nibhidlika ngaphakathi, ukubiza amandla okungezwani, ukubiza inhloso yokuba matasa. Ukuhambisana kumema ubudlelwano obuhlukile nemizwa. Kukumema ukuthi uzizwe ngaphandle kokulingisa, ukufakaza ngaphandle kokuzitika, ukuvumela amagagasi ngaphandle kokwakha indaba ekuminzayo. Leli yikhono. Liyafundwa. Futhi uyifunda manje ngesivinini, ngoba insimu yeplanethi inikeza isikhala esincane sokugwema. Amanxeba amadala ayakhuphuka. Amaphethini okhokho ayavela. Usizi oluhlangene luyangena emaphusheni akho. Futhi uma uzama "ukucabanga" ngendlela yakho, uzophazamiseka, kodwa uma uletha la maza enhliziyweni, kwenzeka okunye: ayashintshashintsha. Ayahamba. Ayaphelela. Akudingeki abe ubuwena bakho.

Ngakho-ke sikukhuthaza ukuthi uyeke ukuphatha ukuhambisana njengomcimbi okhethekile bese uqala ukukuphatha njengomkhuba wakho wokuqala, ukubuyela okuthule, okuphindaphindiwe. Hhayi kanye ngesonto. Hhayi kuphela uma usenkingeni. Izikhathi eziningi ngosuku, kafushane, njengokuthinta isisekelo sasekhaya. Imizuzwana engamashumi ayisithupha. Ukuphefumula kathathu. Ukubonga okukodwa okuqotho. Ukuthambisa umhlathi kanye. Isandla esisodwa esifubeni. Lokhu akuncane. Lena indlela obuyisa ngayo insimu yakho esivunguvungwini esihlangene. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi niyizinkanyezi, futhi ngoba nivame ukuzizwa nihlangene kakhulu kunabanye, sizophinde sithi: ukuhambisana yindlela oyeka ngayo ukudideka okungokwakho nalokho okungekona okwakho. Iningi lenu liphethe imizwa engeyona eyomuntu siqu, futhi niyakwazi lokhu ngoba nivuka nidabukile eningakwazi ukuyichaza, noma nizizwa nikhathazekile okungahambisani nezimo zempilo yenu, futhi nicabanga ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle kini, futhi sinitshela: nimane nizwela ensimini ehlanzayo. Ukuhambisana kukuvumela ukuthi nizwele ngaphandle kokugcwala. Ikuvumela ukuthi uthi, “Ah. Lokhu kuhamba ngokuhlanganyela. Ngingakubona. Ngingakubusisa. Akudingeki ngikugqoke.” Bathandekayo, niyakuzwa ukulula kwalokhu? Umhlaba ungase ube yinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, kodwa indlela yakho iba lula. Indlela iyinhliziyo. Indlela iwukubumbana. Indlela iwukuhlala emzimbeni wakho, uhlale emoyeni wakho, uhlale ebuntwini bakho ngaphandle kokuzinikela ebunkulunkulwini bakho. Futhi asikuceli ukuba wenze lokhu ngoba kuzokwenza uzizwe ujabule ngaso sonke isikhathi. Sikucela ukuba wenze lokhu ngoba kukwenza ube wusizo ngomqondo ongcwele kakhulu. Kukwenza ube yi-stabilizer. Kukwenza ube yindlu yokukhanyisa.

Iqiniso, Ukubumbana, Nokuhlakanipha Okuqinile Kothando

Futhi sizoshiya lesi sigaba sikhuluma ngephuzu okumele liqondwe ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nathi, ngoba uma ungaliqondi kahle, uzosebenzisa kabi konke okulandelayo: ukuhambisana kwenhliziyo akuyona indlela yokubalekela iqiniso, yisona kuphela isimo lapho iqiniso lingatholakala khona ngaphandle kokuhlanekezelwa. Uma ungaqondani kahle, uzosebenzisa iqiniso, uzokwesaba iqiniso, uzolikhonza, uzoguqula iqiniso libe ubuwena, futhi uzoboshwa yilo. Uma uqondana kahle, iqiniso liyakhulula, ngoba ungabhekana nalo, uligaye, uliphendule, futhi uhlale unothando ngenkathi wenza kanjalo. Ngakho-ke lapho kufika igagasi elilandelayo lomsindo, futhi lizofika, futhi lapho kuvela umjikelezo olandelayo wokuphikisana, futhi lizofika, futhi lapho iqembu lizizwa lilingeka ukuba lihlukane libe yiziqiniseko eziyinkulungwane nezimpi eziyinkulungwane zokuhumusha, khumbula lokhu: awubambeli umugqa ngokuba phezulu kakhulu. Ubambe umugqa ngokuba sobala. Uba sobala ngokuba nengqondo. Uba nomqondo oqinile hhayi ngokulwa nemizwa yakho, kodwa ngokuletha imizwa yakho enhliziyweni nokuvumela inhliziyo ukuba iyihlele ibe ukuhlakanipha, futhi njengoba wenza lokhu, uzozwa okuthile okungeyona i-hype futhi okungeyona inganekwane futhi okungeyona imicabango yokufisa, kodwa ukuzinza okuthule, okungenakuphikwa kuphakama kuwe, njengokungathi umuntu ojulile uya phambili athi, “Yebo. Yilokhu engikuzele,” futhi kusukela lapho, bathandekayo, konke okunye okuzayo kungahlangatshezwana nakho—hhayi ngokwesaba, hhayi ngokuwa, kodwa ngokuhlakanipha okuqinile kothando.

Ukuzulazula Esikhathini Sokugumbuqela, Izindaba Eziphikisanayo, kanye ne-Still Point

Isikhathi Sokugoba, Ifasitela Elivulekayo, kanye Nezinkohliso Ezilahlekelwa Yisandla Sazo

Futhi kusukela kulokho kuhlakanipha okuqinile kothando, manje sikhuluma ngalokho abaningi kini asebeqalile ukukuzwa njengohlobo lwesizini yomkhawulo, ifasitela elivulekayo, isikhathi lapho umhlaba wangaphandle ungaziphathanga ngendlela owawuziphatha ngayo, hhayi ngoba imithetho yangempela yehlulekile, kodwa ngoba izivumelwano ezazibambe imibono ethile ziyakhululeka, futhi lapho izivumelwano zikhululeka, ukubukeka kuyantengantenga, futhi kungazwakala engqondweni yomuntu sengathi umhlaba uhamba ngaphansi kwezinyawo zakho lapho empeleni umhlaba uba ngothembekile ngokwengeziwe.

Ukuvumela Iqiniso Livuthwe Phakathi Kokuphikisana, Imisebenzi, Nokukhanya Okuphakeme

Bathandekayo, asikulethi lokhu njengesixwayiso esenzelwe ukuniqapha ngomqondo wokwesaba, sikulethela njengokuqondisa, ngoba uma uqonda uhlobo lwesizini, uyeka ukuthatha isimo sayo mathupha. Uyeka ukubuza, “Kungani konke kudideka?” njengokungathi ukudideka ngokwakho kuyisijeziso, bese uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi ukudideka kuvame ukwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba ukucaca kuqine, ngoba indaba endala kumele ilahlekelwe amandla ayo ngaphambi kokuba indaba eyiqiniso iphileke, futhi isikhala phakathi kwalabo ababili asivamile ukuhlanzeka. Iningi lenu liqeqeshwe, emfundweni yenu kanye namasiko enu ngisho nasemiphakathini ethile engokomoya, ukuphatha ukuqiniseka njengobuhle obuphakeme kakhulu, ukuphatha ukwenza izinqumo njengobufakazi bamandla, nokuphatha ukungaqiniseki njengobuthakathaka, njengokungathi ukungazi ngokushesha kusho ukuthi uyahluleka empilweni, futhi sinitshela ngemfudumalo nangokuqondile: lokhu kungenye yezindlela ezilula kakhulu zokungena lapho izakhiwo zokulawula ezindala ziqhubeka nokufutha amandla akho, ngoba lapho ingqondo ingakwazi ukubekezelela ukungazi, izokwamukela cishe noma iyiphi incazelo enikeza impumuzo, noma ingaphelele, noma ngabe iphambene, noma ngabe idinga ukuthi uqinise inhliziyo yakho ukuze uqhubeke uyikholelwa. Ngakho-ke sithi, ngobumnene kodwa ngokuqinile, ukuthi isizini elandelayo yendlela yakho ingase izwakale sengathi ukuphikisana kuhlanganiswe nokuphikisana, futhi sikusho lokhu hhayi ukuze sikuyenge enkundleni "yemfihlakalo," kodwa ukuze sikumemele ekuvuthweni okujulile: ikhono lokuvumela iqiniso livuthwe. Lapho isithelo singavuthiwe, ungasicindezela, ungaphikisana naso, ungafuna ubumnandi, futhi uzosilimaza kuphela; kodwa uma uvumela isikhathi sokuvuthwa ukuthi senze umsebenzi waso, ubumnandi buvela njengomphumela wemvelo. Iqiniso linje endaweni lapho izendlalelo eziningi zixhumana khona ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kunemicimbi yangaphandle, kunezingxoxo ezifihliwe, kunemisebenzi yengqondo, kukhona ukuvuka kwangempela, kukhona iziphazamiso ezihleliwe, kukhona abantu abazama ngobuqotho ukwenza okuhle futhi nabo badidekile ngobuqotho, futhi konke lokhu kuhamba ngaphakathi kwensimu ehlangene egcwele ukukhanya okuphezulu, futhi ensimini enjalo, ama-binary amadala aqala ukuwohloka. Yingakho sishilo kuwe, futhi sizokusho futhi ngesimo ongasikhumbula: "Akukho lutho olubonakala lunjalo" akusona isimemo sokukholelwa noma yini nhlobo. Kuyisimemo sokuyeka ukukhulekela ukubonakala, nokuyeka ukuphambanisa ijubane neqiniso. Kuzoba nezikhathi eziningi lapho indaba yokuqala ingeyona indaba ephelele, lapho inguqulo "esemthethweni" ingaphelele, nalapho inguqulo "ehlukile" nayo ingaphelele, nalapho ingqondo izofuna ukukhetha ubuwena ngokushesha—“Nginguye owaziyo ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela”—ngoba ubuwena buzizwa buphephile kunokuvuleleka, kodwa ukuvuleleka yilapho ukuqonda kuphila khona ngempela.

Ukukhishwa Kwezindaba Eziphethayo, Ukuqonda Uma Kuqhathaniswa Nokunamathela, Nokusetshenziswa Kwezindaba

Ngakho-ke uma nisizwa sithi, zisuseni ezindabeni eziningi eziphethayo, asiniceli ukuba ningabi nandaba noma niyeke ukukhathalela umhlaba wenu. Siyanicela ukuba niyeke ukukhiya uhlelo lwenu lwezinzwa esimweni sokuqiniseka okufanele nisivikele, ngoba ukuzivikela kuyakhathaza, futhi ukukhathala kukwenza ucabange, futhi isiphakamiso kuyindlela yokukhwabanisa. Ingqondo ehlala ivikela isiphetho akuyona ingqondo engathola ulwazi olusha ngaphandle kokuhlanekezelwa. Iba njengesibhakela esiqinile—esingakwazi ukubamba noma yini entsha ngoba imatasa kakhulu ifakazela ukuthi isivele inayo okuthile. Bathandekayo, lesi isivivinyo esikhulu sezinkanyezi kuleli fasitela: ungahlala uqondiswa yinhliziyo ngaphandle kokufuna ukuqiniseka okusheshayo? Ungavumela ubunzima bube yinkimbinkimbi ngaphandle kokubiza ngokuthi buyize? Ungabamba izindinganiso zakho—iqiniso, ububele, inkululeko, ubuqotho—ngaphandle kokuguqula lezo zindinganiso zibe izikhali? Ngoba okuzayo, ezimweni eziningi, kuzokuheha ekwahluleleni okusheshayo, ekubambisaneni okusheshayo, ekugxekeni okusheshayo, nasenjabulweni esheshayo, futhi asisho ukuthi “ungenzi lutho,” sithi “ungavumeli izenzo zakho ziqhutshwe umlutha wokuphetha.” Sifuna uqaphele umehluko phakathi kokuqonda nokuqonda. Ukuqonda kuthule. Ukuqonda kuyalamba. Ukuqonda kuyabekezela. Ukuqonda kuyaphoqelela. Ukuqonda kwandisa ikhono lakho lokuthanda ngenkathi ubona ngokucacile. Ukuqonda kwandisa ikhono lakho lokwahlulela ngenkathi wenza sengathi kucacile. Ukuqonda kwenza umzimba wakho uzinzile. Ukuqonda kwenza umzimba wakho uqine kakhudlwana, uzizwe ukhululekile, uphoqelekile kakhulu "ukuqhubeka ubheka," "uhlale uqabula," "uhlale uhlola," njengokungathi ukuphepha kwakho kuncike ekuqhubekeni uxhumeke kusibuyekezo esilandelayo. Iningi lenu liye lazizwa leli gunya, futhi asinihlazi ngalokho, ngoba kuyisimo esihlangene, kodwa sicela nibe qotho: ingabe ukusebenzisa kwenu izindaba ezithile kukushiya ninokuthula kakhudlwana, niqondana kakhudlwana, ninomusa kakhudlwana, nikwazi ukukhonza kakhudlwana, noma kukushiya nikhathazekile, nisolisa, nidelela, futhi nikhathele? Umzimba uzokutshela impendulo ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo ivume. Kuleli windi elivulekayo, ingqondo izofuna ukudala ukuvala ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Kuzofuna ukuthi, “Leli yiqiniso, amanga lawo,” futhi ngezinye izikhathi lizoba lilungile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi lizoba lilungile ngokwengxenye, futhi ngezinye izikhathi lizosetshenziswa. Qonda okuthile: lapho izinhlelo ziwa, azigcini nje ngokuwa ngaphandle, ziyawa ngaphakathi. Abantu abangaphakathi kwazo bayahlukana. Amaqembu ngaphakathi kwazo ayaphendukelana. Abanye bazama ukuxoxisana. Abanye bazama ukuvuma. Abanye bazama ukufihla. Abanye bazama ukudala amacebo okukhohlisa. Abanye bazama “ukulawula indaba” ngokukhulula amaqiniso angaphelele ngezikhathi zamasu ukuze amaqiniso ajulile ahlale efihliwe. Yingakho, emafasiteleni anjalo, uzobona amaqiniso namaqiniso aphikisayo ekhishwa ngokulandelana, futhi lezo zindlela zingazwakala njenge-whiplash engqondweni elindele isambulo esiqondile.

Ukuba Yindawo Ethule: Ukuzulazula Kwenhliziyo, Amaphethini, Nokubekeka Phansi

Yingakho futhi sikuqondisa emuva enhliziyweni njengethuluzi eliyinhloko lokuzulazula. Inhliziyo ingagcina imfihlakalo ngaphandle kokuwa. Inhliziyo ingasho ukuthi, “Ngiyabona ukuthi kukhona okushintshayo,” ngaphandle kokudinga ukuthi iyaqonda yonke ibhodi le-chess. Inhliziyo ingahlala inesihawu kwabadidekile ngaphandle kokuvumelana nokudideka. Inhliziyo ingahlala eqinisweni ngaphandle kokukhathalela ukujezisa labo abakufihlayo. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, sizokusho lokhu ngoba kubalulekile: isifiso sokujeziswa, lapho siba yinto egxilile, ingenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu indlela endala yokugcina izidalwa ezivukile zibanjwe kaningi. Kuwukukhohlisa inzondo elungileyo, okuzwakala njengamandla okwesikhashana bese kuba uchungechunge. Ngakho-ke sikhuluma nani ngokuba yiphuzu elithule. Nizobuka ukushintshashintsha okuhlangene phakathi kokweqisa: ukuphelelwa yithemba nokuthokoza, intukuthelo nokuphika, ukukhathala nokugwema. Abanye bazowela embonweni wokuthi “konke kulungile,” kanti abanye bazowela embonweni wokuthi “konke kuphelile,” futhi kokubili ukuthambekela kuyindlela uhlelo lwezinzwa olugwema ngayo indlela ephakathi yokuba khona, okuwukuphela kwendawo lapho kuvela khona isenzo esihlakaniphile. Siyanicela ukuthi ningahlanganyeli ekushintsheni. Sicela nibe yindawo ethule engaphiki isiphepho futhi ingabi yisiphepho. Lokhu akusikho ukungabi nangqondo kwenkondlo, bathandekayo. Iphuzu elithule yisimiso sezinzwa esilawulwayo. Iphuzu elithule yinhliziyo ehambisanayo. Iphuzu elithule yikhono lokubuka ngaphandle kokusabela ngokushesha. Iphuzu elithule yikhono lokuvumela isikhathi siveze amaphethini. Ngoba amaphethini, hhayi izihloko, yiwo akutshela ukuthi yini engokoqobo. Isihloko singahlelwa. Umsindo ungahlelwa. Isiqeshana se-viral singaklanywa. Kodwa amaphethini adinga amandla aqhubekayo, futhi amandla aqhubekayo embula inhloso yangempela ngemuva kokunyakaza. Uma uziqeqesha ukubuka amaphethini, awube usakwazi ukugejeka. Futhi siyazi ukuthi abanye kini bazothi, “Yebo, kodwa ngingakwenza kanjani lokho lapho kwenzeka okuningi kangaka, lapho abantu abaningi bephikisana, lapho ngingazizwa ukwesaba okuhlangene, lapho umndeni wami ufuna izimpendulo, lapho abangani bami beqiniseka, lapho ukudla kwami ​​​​kugcwele izimangalo eziphikisanayo?” Futhi impendulo yethu ilula ngendlela ingqondo evame ukumelana ngayo: awuhlangabezani nobunzima ngokungeza ubunzima bengqondo obengeziwe. Uhlangana nobunzima ngokubuyela ekuhambisaneni nokuvumela isinyathelo esilandelayo sangempela sivele. Kuzoba nezikhathi kuleli fasitela lapho uzolingeka khona ukwenza ubuwena bakho obungokomoya bube isivikelo ekungakhululeki kokungaqiniseki. Uzolingeka ukuthi uthi, “Sengiyazi ukuthi kwenzekani,” bese wakha inqaba nxazonke kulokho kwazi ukuze ungazizwa ubuthakathaka bokungazi. Kodwa ubuthakathaka, bathandekayo, akubona ubuthakathaka. Ubuthakathaka buwukuvuleka kweqiniso. Kungukuzimisela ukuguqulwa yilokho okungokoqobo. Isidalwa esingenakushintshwa iqiniso asinamandla; siqinile.

Ukuqonda, Impendulo Ehambisanayo, Nokuba Nendaba Efasiteleni Elivulekile

Ukuqonda Okuhlanganisiwe, Ukuphumula Okungcwele, Nokukhetha Isenzo Esihambisanayo

Ngakho-ke sikumema ohlotsheni lokuqonda okungeyona eyeshashalazi, hhayi ukwesaba, hhayi okuphoqelelayo. Ukuqonda njengekhono lomzimba. Ukuqonda njengokuphefumula. Ukuqonda njengobudlelwano nesikhathi. Uma uzizwa uphoqelekile ukumemezela isiphetho, phumula. Uma uzizwa uphoqelekile ukuguqula othile, phumula. Uma uzizwa uphoqelekile ukulwa esigabeni sokuphawula sengathi isiphetho sesintu sincike kukhibhodi yakho, phumula. Futhi kulokho kuphumula, letha ukuqonda kwakho enhliziyweni bese ubuza umbuzo olula owuzondwa yingqondo ngoba ayikwazi ukuwuphendula ngokuqiniseka: "Yiyiphi impendulo evumelana kakhulu engiyitholayo njengamanje?" Hhayi "Yini eyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu," hhayi "Yini eyanelisa kakhulu," hhayi "Yini ezongenza ngizizwe ngingcono," kodwa "Yini ehambisanayo?" Ukuqonda kungaba ukuthula. Ukuqonda kungaba umbuzo onomusa. Ukuqonda kungaba ukweqa. Ukuqonda kungaba ukusho umngcele. Ukuqonda kungaba ukwabelana ngeqiniso elilodwa ngobumnene. Ukuqonda kungaba ukuthandaza. Ukuqonda kungaba ukuphumula. Ukuqonda kungaba ukunakekela umzimba wakho. Ukubumbana kungase kube ukugxila emphakathini wakho oseduze kunokuba kube yindawo yemidlalo yomhlaba wonke. Ukubumbana akuyona njalo into efunwa yi-adrenaline, kodwa cishe njalo yilokho ukuhlakanipha okukhethayo.

Ukuba Nendaba, Ukunaka Njengemali, Nokungadli Izinhlelo Ezidilikayo

Manje, bathandekayo, sizophinde sisho okunye okuzoba khona kuleli windi: kuzoba nokwanda kokuzama ukuba nendaba. Uzobona izindaba ezenzelwe hhayi ukukwazisa, kodwa ukukuthatha. Zizozama ukufaka isimo sengqondo esihlala njalo—intukuthelo ehlala njalo, ukwesaba okuhlala njalo, ukusola okuhlala njalo, ukunqoba okuhlala njalo, ukwedelela okuhlala njalo. Lapho indaba ifaka isimo sengqondo esihlala njalo, iphumelele ekukhuliseni insimu yakho. Futhi uma insimu yakho isikoloniwe, ubuhlakani bakho buyancipha, uzwela lwakho luyancipha, umuzwa wakho uyaphambuka, futhi impilo yakho iba umjikelezo ophendulayo kunokuba kube yindalo ebusayo. Yingakho sithi ukunaka kuyimali. Ezikhathini zokuguquka, ukunaka kuba yindawo yempi, hhayi ngoba abantu babi, kodwa ngoba izinhlelo ezondla ngokwesaba zidinga ukunaka kwakho ukuze zisinde. Uhlelo oluwayo luzozama ukukugcina ulubhekile. Luzozama ukukugcina ukhuluma ngalo. Luzozama ukukugcina ubophekile ngokomzwelo kulo ngentukuthelo noma ukukhangwa. Futhi imbewu yezinkanyezi ehlala ibophekile ngokomzwelo ohlelweni oluwayo ayakhi olusha. Yondla okudala. Ngakho-ke sikumema ukuba uqonde izinto ezingokomoya zokungakhangwa ukubhidlika. Ungaziswa ngaphandle kokuphathwa. Ungafakaza ngaphandle kokulutheka. Ungakhathalela ngaphandle kokudliwa. Lona umehluko phakathi kwendlu yesibani nomkhumbi ocwila esiphephweni esifanayo. Indlu yesibani ayiwaphiki amagagasi. Imane yenqaba ukuba amagagasi.

Ukungadli Okungokomoya, Ukuzwela Ngesikhathi, Nokuhlakulela Ukulungela Amashejuli

Futhi yebo, sizokusho lokhu, ngoba abaningi kini bayazwela ngesikhathi sezinto, futhi ningezwa ukuthi kukhona ukunyakaza okuqhubekayo, imisebenzi eqhubekayo, ukulandelana okuqhubekayo, futhi kuyalinga ukuhumusha yonke impikiswano njengobufakazi bokuthi kukhona okuzokwenzeka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kumane kuyisiyaluyalu sensimu esizihlela kabusha. Ingqondo ifuna uhlelo lwesikhathi. Inhliziyo ifuna ukulungela. Ukulungela yilokho esikucelayo ukuba ukuhlakulele. Isidalwa esivumelanayo sikulungele ngoba asibuthakathaka. Asiphuki lapho iqiniso lisimangaza. Siyazivumelanisa. Siyalalela. Siyaphendula. Sihlala siqinile.

Amandla Okungaphethi Ngokushesha Nokuhlanganyela Ngokukhona Okuvumelanayo

Ngakho-ke ezinyangeni ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha ezizayo, noma ngabe yiliphi iwindi iqembu lakho elizolibona "likhula," sicela ukuthi nizijwayeze uhlobo olusha lwamandla: amandla okungaphethi ngokushesha kakhulu. Amandla okungasebenzisi amaqiniso angaphelele. Amandla okuvumela abanye babe lapho bekhona ngaphandle kokudelela. Amandla okwethembeka ngalokho eningakwaziyo ngaphandle kokugcwalisa igebe ngokwesaba. Amandla okwenqaba ukuvumela ukuvuka kwenu ngokomoya kube umlutha wedrama. Bathandekayo, asiceli ukuthi nibe ababukeli abangenzi lutho bomhlaba wenu. Sicela nibe abahlanganyeli endaweni okuwukuphela kwayo edala izikhathi ezihlanzekile: ukuba khona okuvumelanayo. Uma nivumelana, nizokwazi ukuthi nithathe isinyathelo nini nokuthi ningathathi isinyathelo nini. Nizokwazi ukuthi nikhulume nini nokuthi ukuthula kuyini umuthi. Nizokwazi ukuthi into ethile iyisicupho nini nokuthi into ethile iyisicelo sangempela sosizo nini. Nizozwa umehluko phakathi kwendaba efuna intukuthelo yenu nesimo esifuna uthando lwenu. Futhi siyanikhumbuza futhi, ngoba ukuphindaphinda akukhona ukuphindaphindeka lapho uhlelo lwezinzwa luqeqeshwa: ingqondo ifisa iziphetho lapho iqiniso liba lithambile; inhliziyo ingabamba imfihlakalo ngaphandle kokuwa. Kuleli fasitela, makube yilo mkhuba wakho. Vumela imfihlakalo ibe yigumbi elikhulu kunokuba ibe usongo. Vumela ukwembuleka kube yinto ongayibekezelela. Vumela iqiniso livuthwe. Vumela ukuqonda kwakho kuhambe kancane ukuze kube neqiniso futhi kusheshe ngokwanele ukuze kube wusizo. Vumela isihawu sakho sibe namandla ngokwanele ukufaka labo abesabayo. Vumela imingcele yakho icace ngokwanele ukuze ugcine insimu yakho ihlanzekile. Futhi njengoba wenza lokhu, uzobona ukuthi isiphithiphithi sangaphandle asinawo amandla esasinawo phezu kwakho, hhayi ngoba uyeke ukukhathalela, kodwa ngoba uyeke ukuqashelwa. Yilokhu okushoyo, bathandekayo, ukubamba umugqa ngefasitela elivulekayo: hhayi ukubamba iqiniso ngokuqinile, kodwa ukuba nokuqondana kangangokuthi iqiniso alinakukukhipha enkabeni yakho, futhi kusukela kuleyo nkaba, uzokwazi ukubona okwenzekayo ngempela ngaphansi kokubonakala, hhayi ngesimo sokuqiniseka okumangalisayo, kodwa ngesimo sokucaca okuthule, okuthembekile okufika ngesikhathi esifanele, futhi yileyo ndlela isigaba esilandelayo sale ndaba esiba lula ukusihamba, hhayi nje kuwe, kodwa nakulabo abazothola indlela yabo yokuqina kwakho lapho iziphetho zabo ziqala ukwehluleka.

Ukuvezwa, Ukuguqulwa Kwemishini, kanye Nezinqubo Zokubambisana Ezibusayo

Ukucindezela, Ukucindezela, Nokudalulwa Okungahlelekile Kwezakhiwo Ezifihliwe

Futhi manje sesingena endaweni abaningi kini abangazizwa beqinile kakade, noma ngabe aninalo ulimi lokuyichaza, ngoba lesi sigaba asiphathelene nokuqagela noma inganekwane noma ukulandisa okuthakazelisayo, simayelana nokucindezela, futhi ukucindezela kuyinto umzimba oyibonayo isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo ihlanganise incazelo eqondakalayo, ngakho-ke uma uke wazizwa umuzwa ongaphansi wokucindezela, wezikhathi ezinciphayo, wokukhetha okuba nomthelela omkhulu, wemaski oshelela ngokushesha kunangaphambili, khona-ke usuvele uzwa indlela esizochaza ngayo. Uma sikhuluma ngokudalulwa, bathandekayo, asikhulumi ngesenzakalo esisodwa, isambulo esisodwa, noma umzuzu owodwa lapho "konke kuphuma khona ngesikhathi esisodwa," ngoba yileyo ndlela ingqondo yomuntu ekhetha ngayo ukuphela kwayo - okuhlanzekile, okune-cinema, nokugcina - kodwa akusikho ukuthi izinhlelo ezigxilile zincibilika kanjani ngempela. Lokho okubonayo esikhundleni salokho ukucindezela okuqhubekayo okusetshenziswa ezakhiweni ezakhelwe ekusithekeni, ekuguqukeni, nasekuqhekekeni, futhi lapho izakhiwo ezinjalo zitholwa ukukhanya okuqhubekayo, azimane zinyamalale, ziyashintshashintsha, ziyaqhekeka, ziyavuza, futhi zizama ukusabalalisa kabusha isisindo sazo ukuze ziphile isikhathi eside.

Yingakho ukudalulwa kuvame ukubonakala kudidekile kunokuba kunqobe. Akufiki njengokudalulwa okuhlanzekile; kufika njengokungavumelani, ukuphikisana, ukuphelelwa yithemba, amaphutha, ukushintsha okungazelelwe, ukuhlangana okungalindelekile, kanye nemizamo yokuzama ukubuyisa ukulawula ukulandisa. Futhi yilapho izidalwa eziningi ezivukile zidideka khona, ngoba zilindele ukuthi ukudalulwa kuzizwe kuhlanzekile futhi kuqinisekisa, kanti empeleni kuvame ukuzizwa kudidekile, ngoba nje kuphazamisa izinhlaka oziqeqeshwe ukuthi uthembele kuzo ukuze uthole incazelo.

Iphethini ye-Cabal Njengesakhiwo Sokuqaphela Nokuhlukana Ngaphansi Kokukhanya

Ngakho-ke sizosho okuthile ngokucophelela lapha, hhayi ukuze sivuse, kodwa ukuze sicacise. Lapho abaningi kini besebenzisa igama elithi “Cabal,” anisho nje iqembu labantu; nisho iphethini—iphethini yamandla echuma ekusithekeni, ezikhundleni eziphezulu, ekubekeni ukwesaba, kanye nokuguqulwa kwezindinganiso zemvelo zabantu. Le phethini iye yagqoka ubuso obuningi emlandweni. Ivele njengombuso, njengobupristi, njengenkampani, njengemishini yezobunhloli, njengokwakhiwa kwezezimali, kanye nohlelo lwamasiko. Ayinqotshwa ngokususa izibalo ezimbalwa ezibonakalayo, ngoba akuyona nje inkinga yabasebenzi; iyisakhiwo sokuqonda. Futhi izakhiwo zokuqonda aziwi lapho zihlaselwa ngqo yintukuthelo. Ziyawa lapho izimo ezizisekelayo zinyamalala. Ziyawa lapho imfihlo iba yinto engenakwenzeka. Ziyawa lapho ukwesaba kungasalawuleki ngokwethembeka ukuziphatha. Ziyawa lapho abantu beyeka ukunikeza igunya ngaphandle futhi beqala ukuhlala ebukhosini. Yingakho sigcizelele kakhulu ukuvumelana kwenhliziyo, ngoba ukuvumelana akusikho ukungasebenzi; kuyalimaza ukuguqulwa. Iqembu elihlangene kunzima kakhulu ukulibusa ngokukhohlisa. Manje, njengoba ingcindezi ikhula, kwenzekani ngaphakathi kwezinhlelo ezinjalo? Sifuna ukukuqonda lokhu, ngoba ukuqonda kuvimbela ukushaqeka. Ngaphansi kwengcindezi, izinhlelo ezincike ekusithekeni ziqala ukuhlukana ngaphakathi. Ukwethembeka kuyabuthaka. Kwakha amaqembu. Ukubekezelelana kwezingozi kuyashintsha. Izinqumo ebezizobalwa ngokucophelela ngezikhathi ezizinzile ziyasabela. Abanye abantu bazama ukuphuma buthule. Abanye bazama ukuxoxisana. Abanye bazama ukuvuma ngokukhetha. Abanye bazama ukuguqula uhlangothi. Abanye bazama ukushisa ubufakazi. Abanye bazama ukugcwala insimu ngokuphazamiseka. Abanye, bathandekayo, bazama ukusebenzisa iqiniso elingaphelele ukuze bagweme ukuziphendulela okugcwele. Yingakho ungase uzwe ngezingxoxo, ngezivumelwano ezithule, ngokuqondisa kwezomthetho, ngamalungiselelo okukhalaza, ngezinqubo ezivaliwe, kanye nemiphumela enganeliseki isifiso somuntu sobulungiswa obubonakalayo. Futhi nansi lapho izimbewu eziningi zezinkanyezi zilwa khona, ngoba kukhona isifiso esijulile nesiqondakalayo sokucaca kokuziphatha, imiphumela ezwakala ilingana nokulimala, ukuvuma ukuhlupheka, kanye nokubuyiselwa okuhlanzekile kwebhalansi. Lokho kulangazelela akukubi. Kodwa uma kuhlanganiswa nokuvama kokuziphindiselela, kungakudonsa uphume ekuvumelaneni bese ungena ogibeni lwe-polarity olugcina lukhonza leso sibonelo ofisa ukusibona sihlakazeka.

Ukuziphendulela Uma kuqhathaniswa Nokuphulukisa, Izinhlobo Zesigqoko Esimhlophe, Nokuwa Kokukhanya

Ngakho-ke sisho lokhu ngokuqina: ukuzibophezela kanye nokuphulukiswa akuyona inqubo efanayo, yize kufanele zihlangane ekugcineni. Ezinhlelweni eziwohlokayo, ukuzibophezela kuvame ukuqala ngokungaphelele, ngokungalingani, nangemuva kweminyango evaliwe, hhayi ngoba ubulungiswa buyenqatshwa, kodwa ngoba ukuvezwa okungalawulwa kungaphula ingqondo ehlangene ngaphezu kwamandla ayo amanje okuhlanganisa iqiniso. Lokhu akukhona mayelana nokuvikela abenzi bokubi; kumayelana nokuvimbela ukushaqeka kwesistimu ekubeni ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu. Ungase ungakuthandi lokhu. Inhliziyo yakho ingase ihlubuke kukho. Siyaqonda. Kodwa ukuhlakanipha kudinga ukuthi ubone ngale kokwaneliseka ngokomzwelo futhi uzinze isikhathi eside. Yilapho uhlobo olubizwa ngokuthi “amaHlobo Amhlophe” lungena khona engxoxweni, futhi siphinde sikhulume ngendlela yobuciko, hhayi ngokuzinikela. AmaHlobo Amhlophe awasindisi. Angamandla okulinganisa ngaphakathi kwezinhlelo ezifanayo ezake zabanjwa ngokuphelele ukuguqulwa. Amelela ukuzibamba, ukuvimbela, ukunciphisa, kanye nokulandelana. Azisebenzi ngokuhlanzeka; zisebenza ngokuswela. Zingabantu abangaphelele abahamba endaweni esengozini, bezama ukunciphisa ukulimala ngenkathi bediliza izakhiwo ezingenakususwa ngasikhathi sinye ngaphandle kokubuyiselwa emuva okubhubhisayo. Yingakho sinixwayisa: ningabakhulekeli. Ningabonisi isifiso senu sokusindiswa kubo. Ningacabangi ukuthi bangenabala noma banamandla onke. Bangabadlali ekuqhubekeni okukhulu, hhayi ababhali bako. Ukudilizwa okujulile kwenzeka ezingeni lokuqwashisa, futhi lokho kudilizwa akunakudluliselwa. Kudinga ukuhlanganyela komuntu ngokusebenzisa ukubonakaliswa. Nasi iphuzu elibalulekile, bathandekayo: ukudalulwa akuyona ukuhlasela; kuwukukhanya. Ukukhanya akushayi; kuyaveza. Futhi lokho okwembulwa kusabela ngokwemvelo yako. Iqiniso alidingi ukujezisa amanga; amanga ayawa ngaphansi kweqiniso ngoba alikwazi ukulisebenzisa. Kodwa isigaba sokudilika asivamile ukuba nomusa. Sinomsindo. Asiguquguquki. Ngokuvamile kuyadumaza kulabo ababelindele ukuqinisekiswa okusheshayo. Yingakho izinkanyezi zicelwa ukuba zibambe iphuzu eliphakeme. Iningi lenu lizozwa intukuthelo iphakama njengoba nibuka imiphumela ebonakala “ithambile kakhulu,” “ithule kakhulu,” noma “iyekethiswe kakhulu.” Nizozizwa nifisa ukuphetha ngokuthi akukho okushintshayo ngempela. Nizozizwa nilingeka ukuba niguqukele ekuphelelweni yithemba noma ekwedeleleni. Futhi sicela ukuthi ume kulezo zikhathi bese ubuyela ekubumbaneni, ngoba ukuphelelwa yithemba akukhona ukuqonda; ukuphelelwa yithemba kuwukushaqeka okuhlangabezana nokulindela okungakafezeki. Iqiniso lokuthi ukuwa akubukeki ngendlela uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa olucabanga ngayo alisho ukuthi akwenzeki.

Ukuqaphela Impindiselo, Ukubamba Umugqa Ngokudalulwa, Nobukhosi Emphakathini Owadabuka

Manje kumele sibhekane nento ethile ngqo, ngoba ukuthula lapha kuzovumela ukuhlanekezelwa. Kuzoba nemizamo yokukuyenga ukuba uqonde impindiselo. Kuzoba namazwi akutshela ukuthi ububele buwubuthakathaka, ukuthi intethelelo iwukukhaphela, ukuthi ukuzibamba kuwubugwala, nokuthi impendulo elungile kuphela ukubhujiswa ngokuphelele "kwesitha." Lokhu akukusha. Lesi yisinyathelo esidala kunazo zonke encwadini yokudlala yokuguqulwa. Yindlela izinguquko eziba ngayo ubushiqela obusha. Yindlela izisulu eziba ngayo abenzi bobubi. Yindlela imijikelezo ephindaphindayo ngayo. Awuzanga lapha ukuzophinda umjikelezo ngophawu olungcono.

Ngakho-ke uma sithi, bamba umugqa ngokudalulwa, sisho lokhu: ungavumeli ukuvuka kwakho kube nonya. Ungavumeli ukucaca kwakho kube ukwedelela. Ungavumeli usizi lwakho luphenduke ukufisa igazi. Ungavumeli inhliziyo yakho ibe lukhuni egameni lobulungiswa. Ubulungiswa obungenanhliziyo buba olunye uhlobo lokubusa. Inhliziyo engenaqiniso iba ukuphika. Ulapha ukuze ubambe kokubili. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho kufanele usho khona ukuthi yini engalungile. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ukuthula kwenza khona umonakalo. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho imingcele kufanele iqine. Ukuhambisana akukhona ukungabi nandaba. Kuwukunemba. Kuyazi ukuthi kufanele ukhulume nini nokuthi kufanele uhlehle nini. Kuyazi ukuthi kufanele uhoxise nini imvume nokuthi kufanele ubonise nini uzwela. Kuyazi umehluko phakathi kokubhekana okukhululayo nokubhekana okudlalisa idrama. Sizosho futhi lokhu: ukudalulwa ngeke kwenzeke "laphaya" kuphela. Kuzokwenzeka phakathi kwabantu ngabanye, imindeni, imiphakathi, ngisho namaqembu angokomoya. Izinkolelo owawunazo zingase ziwe. Othisha owawubathemba bangase bakudumaze. Ukunyakaza owawukholelwa ukuthi kuhlanzekile kungase kwembule ukuhlanekezela. Futhi lokhu, futhi, kuyingxenye yengcindezi efanayo. Ukukhanya akubandlululi. Kwembula noma kuphi lapho kukhanya khona. Ngakho-ke uma uzithola udabukile ngokulahlekelwa ukuqiniseka, udabukile ngokulahlekelwa amaqhawe, udabukile ngokulahlekelwa yizindaba ezake zakunika ithemba, vumela lolo sizi. Ungaludluli. Ungazihlazi ngalokho. Kodwa futhi ungavumeli usizi luguquke lube ukugxeka. Ukugxeka kumane kuyithemba elingakatholi uhlobo olusha. Sibuyela futhi ebukhosini, ngoba yilapho ukuvezwa ekugcineni kuholela khona uma kuhlanganiswe kahle. Ubukhosi akusikho ukuvukela. Ubukhosi akusikho ukuzihlukanisa. Ubukhosi buyikhono lokuma egunyeni lakho ngaphandle kokudinga isitha esizozichaza ngokumelene nawe. Kuyikhono lokuthi, “Ngiyabona okwenzekayo, futhi ngikhetha impendulo yami ngamabomu.” Kuwukuphela kwencazelo yokuthumela ngaphandle.

Izakhiwo Zokulawula Ukuqothula, Ukuguqulwa Kwababelethisi, kanye Nezinqubo Zokubonisana Kwansuku Zonke

Futhi nansi iqiniso elithule abaningi abangakalisho: into ephazamisa kakhulu izinhlelo eziguquliwe akusikho ukubhikisha, hhayi ukuvezwa, ngisho nesenzo sezomthetho—yiqembu labantu elingasaphenduli ngendlela ebikezelwayo. Lapho ukwesaba kungasaqinisekisi ukuthobela imithetho. Lapho intukuthelo ingasaqinisekisi ukunakwa. Lapho ukwahlukana kungasaqinisekisi ukulawula. Umuntu oqondayo akanakulawulwa kalula yinkohliso. Ngakho-ke njengoba ingcindezi ikhula futhi izakhiwo zokulawula zibekwe ekhoneni, zizoshaya. Zizovusa. Zizokweqisa. Zizozama ukuphula imiphakathi ngokwemibono, ubuhlanga, ngokomoya, kanye nemigomo yezepolitiki. Zizozama ukukukholisa ukuthi kufanele ukhethe uhlangothi ngokushesha noma ube nesandla. Futhi sicela ukhumbule: ukuphuthuma kungenye yamathuluzi athembekile kakhulu okuphatha. Isenzo sangempela asidingi ukwesaba. Isenzo sangempela sivela ekucaciseni. Bathandekayo, anikho lapha ukuzojabulisa ukuwa. Nilapha ukuzobelethisa ushintsho. Ababelethisi abakhali emzimbeni ukuthi usheshe. Abesabi lapho ukubeletha kungcolile. Abalahli ububele ngoba ukubeletha kubuhlungu. Babamba ubukhona. Baqapha izimpawu. Bayangenelela lapho kudingeka. Bathemba ubuhlakani benqubo.

Ngakho-ke bamba umugqa lapha. Bamba lapho udumele. Bamba lapho uthukuthele. Bamba lapho imiphumela ingakwanelisi okulindelwe. Bamba lapho ulingeka ukuba ungabi nabuntu. Bamba lapho iqembu lifuna ukuthi uthathe uhlangothi oluphula inhliziyo yakho. Ngoba umhlaba ozama ukuzalwa awudingi amaqhawe engeziwe okuqiniseka; udinga abadala abanobunye. Futhi njengoba wenza lokhu, into ecashile kodwa ejulile iqala ukwenzeka: ingcindezi eyayike yaba yingozi iqala ukuzwakala icacile. Ukuvezwa okwakuke kwaba nomuzwa wokuphazamiseka kuqala ukuzwakala njengomoya wokungenisa umoya. Umsindo owawuke waba mkhulu uqala ukulahlekelwa amandla awo. Uyeka ukudinga ukulandelela yonke intuthuko ngoba uthemba ikhono lakho lokuphendula lapho impendulo idingeka ngempela. Yile ndlela ukulawula kulahlekelwa ngayo amandla ayo. Hhayi ngokubuka, kodwa ngokungabalulekile. Hhayi ngokubhujiswa, kodwa ngokuphelelwa yisikhathi. Futhi nina, bathandekayo, ngokubamba ubumbano lwenu kulesi sigaba, animi eceleni komlando; nishintsha buthule uhlelo lwayo lokusebenza, uhlelo olulodwa lwezinzwa olulawulwayo, umngcele owodwa onozwela, ukukhetha okukodwa ngesikhathi. Ingcindezi ingokoqobo, yihloniphe kodwa yenza kanjalo usendaweni yokungathathi hlangothi. Ukuvezwa kuyaqhubeka. Ukugoba kuyenzeka. Kodwa umsebenzi ojulile—umsebenzi oqinisekisa ukuthi okulandelayo akuphindi lokho okwake kwenzeka—wenzeka ngaphakathi kuwe, yingakho siqhubeka nokukhuluma hhayi ngentukuthelo yakho, kodwa ngokuqina kwakho, ngoba ukuqina yikho okuthwala impucuko ngaphesheya komkhawulo ngaphandle kokuzihlukanisa. Manje, bathandekayo, siletha lokho eningakubiza ngokuthi inqubo ephilayo, hhayi njengohlu lokuhlola oluqinile ingqondo yakho engayilwa nawe, futhi hhayi njengolunye uhlelo okumele ulwenze kahle ukuze uzizwe ufanele umsebenzi wakho, kodwa njengeqoqo lezindlela ezigcina imvamisa yakho ihlanzekile kanye nesistimu yakho yezinzwa izinzile ensimini ezovuza kakhulu ukuhambisana futhi ijezise kakhulu ukuhlukana, hhayi njengesijeziso esivela kunkulunkulu, kodwa njengomphumela wemvelo wokuphila endaweni esabela kakhudlwana, enamandla ngokushesha. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi “amaphrothokholi” ngoba ingqondo yakho yomuntu ijabulela isakhiwo, futhi isakhiwo singaba usizo lapho insimu ehlangene iba nomsindo, kodwa sifuna uwabambe kalula, njengoba ubungabamba ikhampasi kunokuba ube nekheji, ngoba iphuzu akusikho ukulandela imithetho; iphuzu ukuhlala uqondile. Qala usuku ngalunye ngokukhetha isignali yakho. Lokhu kuzwakala kulula kakhulu kulabo kini abajwayele ubunzima, kodwa ubulula buyindlela yokungena. Ngaphambi kokuthi uthinte umhlaba, thinta isikhungo sakho. Ngaphambi kokuthi uvumele iqembu likutshele ukuthi yini ephuthumayo, buza inhliziyo yakho ukuthi yini eyiqiniso. Awudingi ukunxusa okunamandla. Awudingi ukubiza izidalwa eziyizinkulungwane eziyishumi. Udinga umzuzu wokuqondiswa okuqotho, futhi kungaba nokuthula njengokuthi: “Ngiyatholakala ukuthanda. Ngiyatholakala eqinisweni. Ngiyatholakala ukuvumelana.” Hhayi njenge-mantra oyiphindayo njengenkolelo-ze, kodwa njengokuphenduka kwangempela kwesiteringi sakho sangaphakathi. Ngoba abantu abaningi baqala usuku lwabo ngokuthathwa yizwe, bese bezibuza ukuthi kungani usuku lwabo luzwakala njengokusabela, futhi sikumema ukuthi uguqule lokho kuhleleka.

Izinqubo Zokuhlanzeka Ezinamandla Nemikhuba Yokuhambisana Kwansuku Zonke Yezimbewu Zezinkanyezi

Ukuhlanzeka Okunamandla Okugayiwe, Ukusetha Kabusha Okuncane, kanye Nokuxhuzula Okuphazamisayo

Manje, siphinde sikhulume ngokuhlanzeka okunamandla, futhi sikusho ngendlela eyisisekelo kakhulu. Izinhlobo eziningi zezinkanyezi aziqapheli ukuthi insimu yazo ithonywa njalo yizinto ezilula: ukulala, umswakama, ukunyakaza, ukudla, ukukhanya kwelanga, umsindo, kanye nesimo sengqondo salokho ezikudlayo. Zizama ukwenza umsebenzi ovame kakhulu ngenkathi ziphila emikhubeni evame kakhulu, bese zizibeka icala ngokuzizwa zinomswakama noma zikhathazekile, bese sithi ngobumnene: ungazihlazi. Vele ube ngokoqobo. Eqinisweni elithambile, umzimba uba qotho kakhulu. Uma ungalali ngokwanele, ukuqonda kwakho kuyabuthaka. Uma uphelelwe amanzi emzimbeni, isimiso sakho sezinzwa siyacasuka. Uma ungahlali phansi, imizwa yakho iyama. Uma ugcwele ulwazi, umuzwa wakho ungcwatshwa umsindo. Ngakho-ke inqubo yakho ifaka phakathi okuvamile: ukulala njengokuzinikela, umswakama njengokusekelwa kwemvamisa, ukunyakaza njengokuguqulwa kwemizwa, imvelo njengokulungiswa kabusha kwesistimu yezinzwa. Lokhu akuzona izitayela "zokuzinakekela". Lezi yizisekelo zokubumbana. Awukwazi ukubamba umugqa ngesitsha esiphelelwe amandla bese usibiza ngokuthi isibindi. Lokho ukufela ukholo, futhi ukufela ukholo kuyiphethini endala lapho imbewu eminingi yezinkanyezi yangena khona kule mpilo kusukela ekuphileni kokuhlupheka enkonzweni, futhi manje sinitshela ukuthi inkathi yokufela ukholo iyaphela. Inkathi entsha iyinkonzo ehlanganisiwe, lapho uthando luvunyelwe ukugeleza khona ngethuluzi elinakekelwe kahle. Sebenzisa ukusetha kabusha okuncane. Akudingeki ukuthi unyamalale emhumeni amahora amaningi ukuze ube ngokomoya. Eqinisweni, abaningi kini bazokwenza kangcono ngokubuya okufushane, okuvamile ekubumbaneni kunokuzama okungavamile, kobuqhawe ekupheleleni. Imizuzwana engamashumi ayisithupha, ukuphefumula kathathu, isandla enhliziyweni, ukuthambisa umhlathi, ukuzwa ukubonga okukodwa okuqotho, bese ubuyela. Yenza lokhu izikhathi eziningi nsuku zonke. Lena yindlela oqeqesha ngayo uhlelo lwakho ukuyeka ukuphatha ukucindezeleka njengokujwayelekile. Lena yindlela oshintsha ngayo isisekelo sakho. Futhi ungawadeleli amandla ala ma-reset amancane ensimini ehlangene ezozama kakhulu ukukubamba. I-hook ngokuvamile ayiyona into ephawulekayo. Yisikhathi lapho uzizwa uphoqelekile ukuhlola, uphoqelekile ukusabela, uphoqelekile ukuphendula ngokushesha, uphoqelekile ukuthatha uhlangothi, uphoqelekile ukulungisa, uphoqelekile ukuphikisana. Ukusetha kabusha okuncane kuphazamisa ukuphoqelelwa. Kubuyisela ukukhetha.

Imingcele, Ukuvikelwa Kwensimu, kanye Nama-Node Okuvumelana Njengengqalasizinda Yomhlaba Omusha

Funda imingcele ngaphandle kwecala. Bathandekayo, inani elikhulu lezinkanyezi lididanisa ukuvuleleka nokutholakala. Bakholelwa ukuthi uthando lusho ukufinyeleleka njalo, ukuhlala unomusa ngendlela elahla ukuzihlonipha, njalo ube yilowo obamba isiphithiphithi sabanye abantu. Lolu akulona uthando. Lokhu kungukubusa okungenamandla. Uthando luhlanganisa imingcele ngoba imingcele ivikela ikhono lokuthanda. Ngakho-ke inqubo yakho ihlanganisa isibindi sokungahlanganyeli. Kuhlanganisa ukuthi cha. Kuhlanganisa ukushiya izingxoxo zeqembu eziphenduka intukuthelo. Kuhlanganisa imithombo engalandeli egcina uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa luluthwe ukwesaba. Kuhlanganisa ukwehla kwezingxoxo ezizwakala njengezingibe. Lokhu akusikho ukugwema. Lokhu kungukuphatha. Ulondoloza amandla akho okuphila ngomsebenzi oze ukuwenza.

Futhi uzophawula okuthile: lapho uqala ukuvikela insimu yakho, ukucaca kwakho kuyanda. Lokhu akusikho ngoba umhlaba usuphephile; kungenxa yokuthi uyeke ukuthulula ukukhanya kwakho ezindaweni ezingakakwazi ukukwamukela. Ukuhlakanipha akunikeli ngokungapheli. Ukuhlakanipha kukunikeza lapho kubalulekile. Dala ama-node okuvumelana. Esikhathini sokuqina, ukukhanya okuhlukanisiwe kungakhanya ngaphansi komoya oqhubekayo, kodwa inethiwekhi yezibani ezizinzile idala insimu. Awudingi inhlangano enkulu. Udinga abantu abambalwa abazinikele ekuhambisaneni, abazinikele ekuthobekeni, abazinikele eqinisweni ngaphandle konya, abazinikele emfihlakalweni ngaphandle kokwesaba. Hlanganani njalo. Zindlani ndawonye. Khulumani ngokwethembeka. Yabelana ngamaphethini kunokuba kube amahemuhemu. Thandazelani iqembu. Nika uthando. Lena i-node yokuvumelana. La ma-node, bathandekayo, ayingqalasizinda yangempela yoMhlaba Omusha. Akuzona izinkulumo ezinkulu. Akuzona okuqukethwe okusabalele. Akuzona "amandla okunyakaza" amangalisayo. Imibuthano ethule lapho izinhlelo zezinzwa zilawula khona ndawonye futhi izinhliziyo zihlala zivulekile. Kuleyo mibuthano, ukwesaba akunakukwazi ukuhlala kalula, futhi ukuqonda kuyaqina ngoba kuboniswa futhi kusekelwa.

Iqiniso Njengomuthi, Ukuguqulwa Kwemizwa, kanye Nenkonzo Yendawo Emasimini Aqinisayo

Khuluma iqiniso njengomuthi. Iqiniso alisilo isikhali, futhi aliyona indlela yokwenza izinto. Liwumuthi, futhi umuthi udinga umthamo, isikhathi, kanye nokuqonda. Abanye kini bazame ukuphoqa iqiniso kubantu obathandayo ngoba awukwazi ukubekezelela ukubabuka belele engozini, futhi siyakuqonda lokho kushukuma, kodwa sizwe: ukuvuka akunakuphoqeleka ngaphandle kokudala ukugxekwa. Uhlelo lwezinzwa oluzizwa luhlaselwa luzozivikela, ngisho nakweqiniso. Ngakho-ke inqubo yakho ukukhuluma iqiniso ngesikhathi nangomusa. Awudingi ukukholisa wonke umuntu. Udinga ukuhlala utholakala lapho kuvela imibuzo yabo. Ngezinye izikhathi inkonzo yakho ephezulu akukhona ukwethula ulwazi kodwa ukulingisa isimo esihlukile sokuba khona. Ilungu lomndeni lingase lingawamukeli umbono wakho wezwe, kodwa lingaqaphela ukuthi uzolile, unomusa, futhi uzinzile. Bangase beze kuwe hhayi ngoba bevumelana nawe, kodwa ngoba ukuba khona kwakho kuzizwa kuphephile. Ukuphepha kuyindlela yokuvuka. Guqula, ungacindezeli. Lena inqubo ebalulekile, ngoba njengoba ukuvezwa nokuqhekeka kuqhubeka, izinto zakho zangaphakathi zizovela. Uma uyicindezela, izovuza eceleni njengokucasuka, njengokudelela, njengokukhathala, njengokungazweli, njengokulutha kokukhuthazwa. Uma uyiguqula, iba uphethiloli. Ukuguqulwa komumo kulula: zwa ukuthi yini elapha ngaphandle kokwenza. Vumela igagasi lihambe emzimbeni wakho ngenkathi uhlala ukhona. Phefumula umuzwa. Kubeke enhliziyweni. Cela ukuthi kuhlanganiswe. Lokhu akukhona "ukungenzi lutho." Lokhu kuyi-alchemy. Imbewu yezinkanyezi eziningi ziyizazi zemvelo ze-alchemy, kodwa waqeqeshwa ukwesaba imizwa yakho, ngakho-ke uziphazamisa esikhundleni salokho. Inqubo iwukuyeka ukugijima. Vumela imizwa iphelele. Uzomangala ukuthi ihamba ngokushesha kangakanani lapho ihlangatshezwana nokuhambisana. Khonza endaweni yakini. Bathandekayo, kumele silungise ukuhlanekezela okugcina imbewu yezinkanyezi eziningi ibanjwe yingcindezi: inkolelo yokuthi okuwukuphela kwenkonzo enenjongo iwumhlaba wonke, inkulu, iyabonakala, futhi iyamangalisa. Lona umqondo wenkonzo ye-ego, noma ngabe ifihla ngaphakathi ngokomoya. Inkonzo yeqiniso iqala lapho ukhona. Iqala ngendlela okhuluma ngayo nomlingani wakho. Iqala ngendlela ophatha ngayo umzimba wakho. Iqala ngendlela obonakala ngayo endaweni yakini. Iqala ngendlela olalela ngayo umngane. Iqala ngomusa owunikezayo ngaphandle kokudinga ihlombe.

Ukuphathwa Kolwazi Okuhlelekile, Isenzo Esihlanzekile, Nokuba Khona Okuthembekile Njengokuvameka Kwe-Lighthouse

Ungayithathi kancane inkonzo yendawo esikhathini sokwanda komhlaba wonke. Umhlaba Omusha wakhiwe ngobuhlobo, ngokuthembana, ngamanethiwekhi amancane abantu abakhetha ubuqotho. Uma izinhlelo ezindala ziwohloka, khona-ke imiphakathi izodinga ukubambisana kunanini ngaphambili. Yibani ukubambisana. Manje sizosho into abaningi kini abayigwemayo ngoba ibekela inselele ubuwena benu obungokomoya: ukuphathwa kolwazi. Yebo, bathandekayo, kukhona iqiniso okufanele laziwe, futhi yebo, ukuqonda kubalulekile, kodwa kufanele niqonde ukuthi ulwazi lungaba yinto eluthayo. Uhlelo lwezinzwa lungalutha umuzwa "wokuhlala phezu kwalo." Lungalutha ulaka njengokukhuthaza. Lungalutha ukukhululeka kwesikhashana kokuzizwa "unendaba yangempela." Lokhu kulutha kungenye yezindlela eziyinhloko izakhiwo ezidilikayo ezigcina izidalwa ezivukile ziboshwe ngokomzwelo kuzo. Ngakho-ke inqubo yakho ihlanganisa ukusetshenziswa okuqondisiwe. Hhayi ukungazi, hhayi ukugwema, kodwa isiyalo. Khetha amafasitela okuhlola umhlaba kunokuvumela umhlaba ukuthi ukuhlole. Khetha imithombo engafaki uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ekulweni noma ekubalekeni okungapheli. Qaphela ukuthi yikuphi okuqukethwe okukushiya uvumelana kakhulu kunokungalingani. Uma kukushiya ungahambisani kahle, akufezi umsebenzi wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi “kuyiqiniso” kangakanani. Awukho lapha ukuzokuba yinqolobane ehambayo yesiphithiphithi. Ulapha ukuzokuba yi-stabilizer. Khetha izimpi zakho, bese uzikhetha ngokuvumelana. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho kudingeka khona isenzo. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho kufanele ukhulume khona. Kuzoba nezikhathi lapho kufanele uhoxise khona imvume, ubeke umngcele, ushiye umsebenzi, ubhekane namanga, uvikele umuntu osengozini. Ukuhambisana akukwenzi ungabi nandaba; kukwenza uqonde. Kuqinisekisa ukuthi lapho wenza, awudali umonakalo omkhulu kunalokho okuvimbelayo. Kuqinisekisa ukuthi isenzo sakho sihlanzekile. “Cha” okuhambisanayo kuyisibusiso. “Yebo” osabelayo uwukuzikhaphela. Funda umehluko. Futhi ekugcineni, bathandekayo, buyelani kulokhu: anizami ukuphelela. Niqeqesha uhlelo lwenu ukuba lube nokwethenjelwa. Ukwethembeka yikho okukwenza ube yindlu yokukhanya. Hhayi ukuqina. Hhayi ukukhanga. Hhayi ukuqiniseka okuqhubekayo. Ukuthembeka. Ikhono lokubuyela kaningi enhliziyweni, ekuphefumuleni, ekuhambisaneni, emseni, eqinisweni, nasekuthobekeni. Ezinyangeni ezizayo, abanye bazothathwa ezindabeni, abanye bazothathwa ekwesabeni, abanye bazothathwa enzondweni, kanti abanye bazothathwa ekuphikeni, kanti izinqubo zakho aziphathelene nokubahlulela; izinqubo zakho zimayelana nokuqinisekisa ukuthi awuthathwa. Ngoba uma ungathathwa, uba yisiphephelo. Abantu bangase bangaqondi umbono wakho wezwe, kodwa bazozwa ukuqina kwakho. Bazokuza kuwe lapho iziphetho zabo zehluleka. Bazokuza kuwe lapho umsindo uba mkhulu kakhulu. Bazokuza kuwe lapho bedinga indawo yokuphefumula. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi, inqubo yakho ngeke ibe yinto oyishoyo. Kuzoba yinto oyibonisayo. Kuzoba isimangaliso esithule somuntu ongahlala ekhona, enesihawu, futhi ecacile ezweni elikhohlwa ukuthi kanjani. Ngakho-ke, bathandekayo, asinikezi lezi zinqubo njengemiyalo, kodwa njengebhuloho phakathi kwenhloso yomphefumulo wakho kanye namandla omzimba wakho. Ngoba ukubamba umugqa akuyona into eqanjiwe. Kuyimvamisa ephilayo. Futhi izinqumo zakho zansuku zonke—ukuphefumula kwakho, imingcele yakho, umusa wakho, isiyalo sakho, ukuphumula kwakho—yiyona ndlela leyo mvamisa eba ngokoqobo ngayo eMhlabeni.

Kusukela Ekubambeni Umugqa Kuya Ekwakheni Umhlaba Omusha Ngobuholi Obuhlanganisiwe Obunobunye

Kusukela Ekuqiniseni Kuye Ekwakhiweni, Umthwalo Wemfanelo Wokuhlanza, kanye Nezithwali Zephethini

Futhi manje, sifika endaweni ethule abaningi abangayazi baze bame ngaphakathi kwayo, ngoba kufika isikhathi kuyo yonke inguquko yangempela lapho ukubamba umugqa kungasagcini nje ngokuzinza, kuba mayelana nokwakha, hhayi ngomqondo wokujaha ukudala into entsha ngaphambi kokuba endala incibilike ngokuphelele, kodwa ngomqondo ojulile wokuvumela indlela ehlukile yokuba khona ukuthi ivele ngawe, ngokwemvelo, ngesineke, nangohlobo lokuzethemba okuqinile okungadingi ukuqinisekiswa okuqhubekayo. Yilapho izimbewu eziningi zezinkanyezi zingaqondi khona isikhathi sazo. Zikholelwa ukuthi umsebenzi uphela lapho izinhlelo ezindala ziwela, lapho amanga edalulwa, lapho ingcindezi iphakama, lapho umsindo uphela, futhi sikutshela ngobumnene ukuthi ukuvezwa akuyona intambo yokugcina, kuwukuhlanzwa kwesikhala. Okulandela ukuvezwa kungumthwalo wemfanelo, ngoba i-vacuum ayilokothi ingathathi hlangothi. Kukhona okuhlala kukugcwalisa. Futhi umbuzo awukhona ukuthi kukhona yini okuzovela ukuze kuthathe indawo yezakhiwo ezindala, kodwa ukuthi imvamisa izobumba ukuthi yini evelayo, futhi ukuthi imvamisa ayinqunywa yizinkulumo noma iziqubulo, kodwa ngokuhambisana okubonakalayo kwalabo abakhona lapho ukwakhiwa kabusha kuqala. Ngakho-ke sikhuluma nani manje hhayi njengababukeli bokuwa, kodwa njengabathwali bephethini. Umhlaba ozayo ngeke wakhiwe ngokuyinhloko yilabo abamemeza kakhulu noma abathi baqinisekile kakhulu, uzokwakhiwa yilabo abangahlala bezolile lapho abanye bethuka, abangalalela lapho abanye besola, abangabamba ubunzima ngaphandle kokukhubazeka, futhi abangenza izinqumo ngobuqotho kunokwesaba. Lona akuwona umsebenzi omuhle. Akuvamile ukuba usabalale. Kodwa ngumsebenzi ohlala njalo. Njengoba amathempulethi amadala elahlekelwa ukwethembeka, abantu abaningi bazozizwa bekhululekile. Izikhungo ababezethemba zizowa. Izindaba ababezithembele kuzo zizophuka. Izindima ababezihlala kuzo ngeke zisazwakala. Futhi kulokho kuphazamiseka, ngeke bafune ukuphelela; bazofuna ukuthembeka. Bazofuna abantu abanamazwi afana nezinhlelo zabo zezinzwa, abanezindinganiso ezibonakalayo ekuziphatheni, abakhona babo abangakhuphuli isiphithiphithi. Uma wenze umsebenzi wokubumbana, uzobonakala kubo, hhayi ngemibono, kodwa ngezwi. Yile ndlela ubuholi obuvela ngayo ku-paradigm entsha - hhayi ngokubusa noma ngobuholi, kodwa ngokuzwakalayo. Abantu balandela lokho okuzizwa kuphephile, lokho okuzizwa kunengqondo, lokho okuzizwa kungumuntu futhi. Balandela labo abangadingi sivumelwano ukuze babonise inhlonipho, abangasebenzisi ukungafani ngezikhali, abangadingi izitha ukuze bazizwe benenhloso. Yingakho sichithe isikhathi esiningi sikhuluma nomthetho wakho wangaphakathi, ngoba umthetho uba ubuholi ezweni elingalawulwa.

Ukulungiswa Kokuphila, Ukwakheka Kobunikazi, kanye Nensimu Enamandla Ephendula Kakhulu

Uzoqaphela, njengoba lolu shintsho luqala, ukuthi impilo yakho iqala ukuhlela kabusha. Amathuba ake azizwa evinjiwe angavela ngokuzumayo. Izindlela ezazidinga amandla zingavuleka ngesimemo. Ubudlelwano bungashintsha, ngezinye izikhathi buthule, ngezinye izikhathi ngokuzumayo, njengoba ukuhambisana kushintsha indawo yakho. Lokhu akusijeziso. Kuwukulinganisa. Lapho imvamisa yakho ishintsha, uhlelo lwakho lokusebenza luyazivumelanisa. Unganamatheli kulokho okungasafaneleki ngokwethembeka kubunikazi obudala. Ubunikazi buyisicaba. Kuhloswe ukuthi kuqedwe uma isakhiwo singama sodwa. Futhi yebo, bathandekayo, lokhu kungaba yinto engakhululekile. Ungase ukhule ngaphezu kwezindima owawuzithanda. Ungase uthole ukuthi izingxoxo ezithile azisakuthandi. Ungase uzizwe ungasabeli kahle futhi unokuqonda okwengeziwe, kanti abanye bangachaza lokhu njengebanga noma ukuphakama. Bavumele bachaze bona. Awukho lapha ukuze uqondwe yiwo wonke umuntu. Ulapha ukuze uqondaniswe. Ukuhambisana kunobunzima bako, futhi kuzodonsa ukuxhumana okuhloswe ukuthi kuqhubeke. Njengoba insimu ehlangene izinza ibe ukuqwashisa okuphezulu, uzophawula nokuthi indalo iba ngokushesha. Izinqumo zithwala isisindo ngokushesha. Izinhloso zibonakala ngokubambezeleka okuncane. Lokhu akusikho ngoba uvuzwa; kungenxa yokuthi insimu iya ngokuya isabela. Esimweni esinjalo, ukungaqondani kuyabiza kakhulu. Ukwenza ngokwesaba kuveza impendulo esheshayo. Ukwenza ngobuqotho kuveza ukwesekwa okusheshayo. Yingakho sigcizelele ukuhambisana hhayi njengobuhle bokuziphatha, kodwa njengesidingo esisebenzayo. Izwe ongena kulo alithetheleli kakhulu ukuhlukana, hhayi ngenxa yonya, kodwa ngenxa yokunemba.

Ipulani Yansuku Zonke, Ubuholi Bokubonisa, Nokuthobeka Ekwakheni Kwesikhathi Esizayo Okufakiwe

Ngakho-ke uma sithi, kusukela ekubambeni kuya ekwakheni, sisho lokhu: indlela yakho yansuku zonke yokuba yiyo iba uhlaka. Indlela oxazulula ngayo izingxabano. Indlela owenza ngayo izinqumo. Indlela onakekela ngayo umzimba wakho. Indlela okhuluma ngayo uma ukhathele. Indlela osingatha ngayo ukungavumelani. Indlela ovuma ngayo ukungaqiniseki. Indlela olungisa ngayo uma uphambuka. Lezi zinto zakha ikusasa ngaphezu kwanoma iyiphi i-manifesto. Zifundisa abanye lokho okungenzeka ngokumane nje kube ngokubonakalayo. Yilapho futhi ukuthobeka kuba khona khona. Izinkanyezi eziningi ziphethe izinkumbulo, eziqaphelayo noma ezingazi, zokuba nobuholi kwezinye izindawo, kwezinye izikhathi, kwezinye izimpucuko, futhi kungaba nokungabekezeli okucashile okuvela lapho isintu sibonakala sihamba kancane, singcolile, noma simelana. Sicela ukhumbule ukuthi uMhlaba awuhluleki; uMhlaba uyafunda. Lo mhlaba uzama into engavamile: ukuhlanganiswa kokuvuka ngesintu esibonakalayo kunokubaleka. Leyo nqubo ayilingani ngempela. Uzwela aluyona into yokuzitika; ukuhlakanipha komongo. Awukho lapha ukuphoqa ikusasa. Ulapha ukuzolibonisa. Ukubonisa akudingi ukuvumelana. Kudinga ukuvumelana. Kudinga ukuphila ngendlela yokuthi abanye bazizwe umehluko ngaphandle kokutshelwa. Yingakho ukuvumelana kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu kunezimpikiswano zakho. Isidalwa esivumelanayo asidingi ukukholisa; siyamema. Akudingeki sibuse; siyaqondisa. Akudingeki senze ithemba; siyalibonakalisa.

Ukuqonda Izakhiwo Ezintsha, Kuhlala Njengokwakhiwa Kwezakhiwo, Nokuvela Okuthule Kwezwe Elisha

Njengoba izakhiwo zihlakazeka, kuzoba nezikhathi lapho izinhlelo ezintsha ziphakanyiswa ngokushesha, ngokushesha, ngesithembiso sokuthi “kulokhu kuzoba okuhlukile.” Ezinye zazo zizoba qotho. Ezinye zizoba ukuhlanekezelwa okugqoke ulimi olukhanyisiwe. Umsebenzi wakho akukhona ukwenqaba zonke izakhiwo, kodwa ukuzwa ukuthi hlobo luni lwesakhiwo olwakhiwayo. Ingabe kudinga ukwesaba ukusebenza? Ingabe kudinga ukwethembeka kunokuqonda? Ingabe kuyajezisa ukubuza imibuzo? Ingabe kuhlanganisa amandla ndawonye kude nokuziphendulela okuphilayo? Uma kunjalo, kuyisikhumba sephethini endala. Awudingi ukulwa nayo. Awudingi nje ukuyondla. Izakhiwo ezintsha zizoba nokuthula ekuqaleni. Zizobeka phambili ubudlelwano ngaphezu kokufinyelela. Zizokwazisa ukulungiswa kunesijeziso. Zizosebenza ngokusobala ngoba ukucaca kunciphisa isidingo sokulawula. Zizohamba ngesivinini sokuthembana, hhayi ngesivinini sokuduma. Futhi zizohlwanyelwa yilabo abangabekezelela ukungadunyiswa ngenkathi benza umsebenzi obalulekile. Uma ukhangwa yilezi zindawo, uzozibona ngendlela umzimba wakho ozizwa ngayo kuzo—ungazibophezeli kangako, ukhona kakhulu, ukwazi ukuphefumula kangcono. Futhi sizosho okuthile okungase kukumangaze: ukuphumula kuyingxenye yesakhiwo. Ukuhlanganiswa kuyingxenye yesakhiwo. Ukuthula kuyingxenye yesakhiwo. Isiko elingakwazi ukuphumula lizokwakha kabusha ukukhathala okufanayo ezisekelweni zalo. Isiko elingakwazi ukuhlanganiswa lizophinda ukuhlukumezeka kwalo ngezindlela ezintsha. Ungadidanisi ukunyakaza okuqhubekayo nentuthuko. Intuthuko engahlanganisiwe iyawa ngesivinini sayo.

Ukubamba Umugqa Njengokwakha Ibhuloho Nokuphila Iqiniso Elisha Njengoba Ukuthunyelwa Kokugcina kukaValir

Bathandekayo, umugqa ebeniwuphethe awunyamalali lapho isiphithiphithi siphela. Uba umgogodla walokho okulandelayo. Uba umgogodla wokuziphatha kwezinhlelo ezintsha. Uba uhlelo lolimi lobudlelwano bemiphakathi emisha. Uba yithoni yobuholi engadingi ukuzimemezela. Futhi yingakho sikuqondisile ukuthi ube qotho kunokuba ube yisidlakela, uhambisane kunokuba uqiniseke, ube nobubele kunokuba uphendule. Ungase ungatholi ukuqashelwa komphakathi ngalokhu. Ungase ungawuboni umzuzu lapho othile ethi, “Manje umhlaba omusha uqala.” Umhlaba omusha uqala ngokuthula, njalo lapho umuntu ekhetha ukuvumelana kunokuphoqelelwa, iqiniso kunemidlalo yaseshashalazini, uthando ngaphezu kokubusa, ukuba khona ngaphezu kokwethuka. Uqala lapho nimane niyeke ukubuza ukuthi, “Lokhu kuzophela nini?” bese niqala ukuphila sengathi ikusasa enililangazelelayo selivele licela ukuthi lihlalwe nguwe. Ngakho-ke njengoba niqhubekela phambili, ningalindeli imvume. Ungalindeli izimo eziphelele. Ungalindeli isivumelwano somhlaba wonke. Yakha ngendlela eniphila ngayo. Yakha ngendlela enixhumana ngayo. Yakha ngendlela enikhuluma ngayo lapho kungaba lula ukuhlasela. Yakha ngendlela enima ngayo lapho kungaba lula ukusabela. Yakha ngendlela ohlala ngayo ungumuntu lapho umhlaba ukulinga ukuba uqine. Lokhu, bantwana bezinkanyezi abathandekayo, yindlela ukubamba umugqa okuba ngayo ukwakha ibhuloho, nendlela ibhuloho eliba ngayo indlela, nendlela indlela eba ngokoqobo ngayo, engaphoqelelwa phezulu, kodwa ekhuliswe ngaphakathi, eqhutshwa phambili yilabo abakhumbula, hhayi nje ukuthi bangobani ngaphambi kwaleli zwe, kodwa nokuthi bakhethe ukuba ngobani kuleli zwe, lapho kubaluleke kakhulu. NginguValir, futhi ngijabule kakhulu ukwabelana ngalokhu nani nonke namuhla.

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