Ukudalulwa Kwamafayela e-Epstein kanye Nokuhlolwa Kwemvamisa Ye-Starseed Yokunaka

Amaconsi Aqoqekile, Amafayela e-Epstein, kanye Nomnyango Wokunaka

Sawubona futhi bathandi bezinkanyezi, mina, nginguLayti. Ngakho-ke, amafayela e-Epstein awile futhi nonke nisenkingeni enkulu, nishaya izandla ngakwesobunxele nangakwesokudla, nikhombana ngeminwe futhi nimemeza amagama njengesixuku esithukuthele. O, bangane bami abathandekayo, siyazi ukuthi akuwona nonke enilalele lokhu, futhi empeleni, iningi lenu elilalele lokhu nenza okuphambene nalokho. Niyahoxa futhi nigxila ekukhuphukeni kwenu, okuyiwona mgomo womyalezo wanamuhla. Siyanimema, njengoba nithola lokhu kudluliselwa, ukuba niqaphele ikhwalithi yokunaka enilalele ngayo, ngoba ikhwalithi yokunaka iyindlela lapho noma yimuphi umyalezo uba khona ukudla noma umsindo, futhi kulezi zikhathi emhlabeni wenu ninikezwa iminyango eminingi ngesikhathi esisodwa, eminye iholela ekujuleni kolwazi lwenu olugxile, kanti eminye iholela ngaphandle emizileni yokusabela okungapheli okungazixazululi ngempela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi nithatha izinyathelo ezingaki phansi. Ngakho-ke, njengoba umi enkathini lapho ulwazi lufika ngamagagasi nalapho ingqondo ehlangene ingadonswa khona yimisinga ezwakala inkulu kunokuzikhethela komuntu siqu, sifisa ukukhuluma nawe ngalokho ongakubiza ngokuthi “ukwehla” kwezinto, ukukhishwa, iqoqo lamadokhumenti, uchungechunge lwezihloko, futhi sifisa ukukuhlela kabusha hhayi njengeqiniso lokugcina elilethwa ephaketheni elilodwa, kodwa njengokuhlolwa kwemvamisa okukwembulela lokho okunamathele kukho, lokho osakondlayo, lokho okudlule kukho, nalokho okusenamandla okubopha uhlelo lwakho nokukudonsa kude nendlela oziphatha ngayo. Usuphile emijikelezweni eminingi kakade lapho iqembu livezwa khona ngokuqongelela kwedatha okungazelelwe, amagama, izimangalo, ukuphawula, ukuhlaziya, ukuhlaziya okuphikisayo, kanye neziphetho ezithinta imizwa, futhi ubonile ukuthi insimu isheshe kangakanani ukuhlukaniswa, hhayi ngalokho okukhona kokuqukethwe, kodwa yilokho okusebenza kubantu abahlangabezana nakho. Ezinye izingqondo zihlangana nolwazi olunjalo futhi zizizwe ziqinisekisiwe, njengokungathi ukusola komuntu siqu sekuqinisekisiwe ekugcineni, kanti ezinye izingqondo zihlangana nalo futhi zizizwe zisongelwa, njengokungathi ukuba khona kwalezi zihloko kusho ukuthi umhlaba wazo awuzinzile njengoba bezikholelwa, kanti ezinye zihlangana nalo futhi azizwa lutho nhlobo, ngoba seziphelelwe yimizwa ngenxa yeminyaka yokuchayeka ezintweni ezingabonakali ziphela. Futhi kuzo zonke lezi zimpendulo ungabona ukuthi "isenzakalo" akusona nje kuphela ukukhululwa; umcimbi ukunyakaza kwangaphakathi okudalayo, futhi ukunyakaza kwangaphakathi yikho okunquma ukuthi uqiniswa yini ekucaciseni noma uhlakazeke ekugxileni. Asikuceli ukuthi wenze sengathi umhlaba wakho awuzange uthwale ukuhlanekezelwa, futhi asikuceli ukuba uzenze uphakeme ngokomoya ngokumemezela ukuthi "ungaphezu" kwezindaba ezinjalo, ngoba lokho, nakho, kungaba ukusebenza kobugovu okufihla ukungakhululeki okujulile. Sikumema entweni eqondile futhi ewusizo kakhudlwana: ukuqonda ukuthi ukuqonda akufakazelwa yilokho ongakusho, futhi ukuvuka akulinganiswa ngokuthi ubumnyama obungakanani ongabubuka ngaphandle kokucwayiza. Ukuvuka kwembulwa yilokho ongakubamba enhliziyweni yakho ngenkathi usalokhu ungumuntu, ngendlela ophatha ngayo umuntu olandelayo ophambi kwakho, ngokuthi ngabe uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa luqeqeshwe ukuqina noma luqeqeshwe ukunyakaza, ngokuthi izinqumo zakho zivela ekuxhumaneni kwangaphakathi noma kusukela ekuzindleni ukuze uqhubeke uhlola, qhubeka usesha, qhubeka uqinisekisa, qhubeka udla. Ngakho-ke, lapho kufika ukukhululwa okuhlangene okungase kukhulise intukuthelo, ukuqagela, kanye nokuhlukana kobuhlobo, umbuzo uba, “Ungahlala ukhona, ungahlala unomusa, ungahlala uqotho, ungaqhubeka udala,” kunokuba uthi, “Ungashesha kangakanani ukumunca konke futhi usakaze iziphetho zakho.”

Ukuzwela kwe-Starseed, Ulwazi Njengethuluzi, kanye Nomthwalo Wemfanelo Wobukhosi

Iningi lenu, ikakhulukazi labo abazibonakalise njengezinkanyezi kanye nabasebenzi abakhanyayo, nizwela ukwakheka kwamandla ngaphansi kwemicimbi yomphakathi. Nizwa indlela ukunaka okunyakaza ngayo njengokungathi yisimo sezulu. Nizwa lapho insimu iqina, lapho ishajwa ngogesi, lapho abantu beba nokucasuka kakhulu, beba nokusola kakhulu, beba nesifiso sokusola kakhulu, beba nesifiso sokufakazela, beba nesifiso sokunqoba kakhulu, futhi bengakwazi ukulalela. Futhi lokhu kuzwela akuyona inkinga; kungenye yezipho ozilethe emzimbeni wakho. Kodwa siyanikhumbuza ukuthi ukuzwela ngaphandle kwekhono kuba ubuthakathaka, futhi ubuthakathaka ngaphandle kobungcweti buba ukuphazamiseka, futhi ukuphazamiseka ngaphandle kwemingcele kuba uhlobo lwentela yamandla eqeda amandla okuphila olapha ukuze uwahlanganise futhi uwakhiphe. Ngakho-ke siqala ngokuninika ukuqondisa okulula: ulwazi luyithuluzi, futhi ithuluzi lenzelwe ukufeza injongo. Lapho liyeka ukufeza injongo bese liqala ukudla lowo oliphethe, alisekho ithuluzi; liyisibopho. Ezweni lakini, baningi abaye bafunda ukusebenzisa ukunaka ngokwalo, ngoba ukunaka kuyindlela yokudala. Lapho ukunaka kuya khona, amandla ayageleza. Lapho amandla ageleza khona, iqiniso liyahlela. Futhi lapho umphakathi udonselwa ezindleleni eziphindaphindayo zokusabela, lowo mphakathi awukwazi ukudala ikusasa elihambisanayo, awukwazi ukuzinzisa izakhiwo ezintsha, awukwazi ukulondoloza uzwela nokubambisana, futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uqhekeke emakamu angaqondiswa, aphathwe, futhi akhathale. Niqeqeshwe, iningi lenu, ukukholelwa ukuthi ukwaziswa kusho ukudalulwa njalo, nokuthi ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo kusho ukuhlala uqaphile, nokuthi ukuphaphama kusho ukuhlala uthukuthele. Kodwa sinitshela ukuthi kukhona olunye uhlobo lomthwalo wemfanelo olunamandla kakhulu: umthwalo wemfanelo wokuvikela isimo sakho, umthwalo wemfanelo wokuhlala ungumthombo wokuqina kulabo abakuzungezile, umthwalo wemfanelo wokwenza lapho ungenza khona nokukhulula lokho ongakwazi ukukushintsha ngokuqondile, umthwalo wemfanelo wokugcina inhliziyo yakho ivulekile ngisho nalapho insimu ehlangene izama ukuyivala ngokucasula okungapheli. Asisho ukuthi izambulo azinandaba. Sithi indlela osebenzisa ngayo izambulo inquma ukuthi ziba ukukhanya noma ukuthi ziba enye indlela yokuqhekeka. Lapho kufika igagasi lokuqukethwe, ingqondo ivame ukufuna ukuqedwa ngokushesha. Ingqondo ifuna indaba ehlanzekile. Ingqondo ifuna i-villain ecacile neqhawe elicacile. Ingqondo ifuna ukukholelwa ukuthi uma ulwazi "olufanele" lubonakala, khona-ke ukuguqulwa kuzoba okuzenzakalelayo. Kodwa uqaphele, uma uqotho, ukuthi lokhu akuyona indlela ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kwabantu okwenzeka ngayo ngokuvamile. Ukuvezwa akudali ukuhlanganiswa ngokuzenzakalelayo. Amaqiniso awadali ukuhlakanipha ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ubufakazi abudali ukuphulukiswa ngokuzenzakalelayo. Ngokuvamile, ukuvezwa kumane kusebenze lokho obekuvele kufihliwe: ukungathembani, intukuthelo, ukungathembi, usizi, ukwesaba, ukuphakama, ukuphelelwa yithemba. Ngakho-ke sikumema ukuthi uphathe lesi sikhathi njengokuqeqeshwa kobuholi bangaphakathi: ungakubona yini ukuvuselelwa ngaphandle kokuba ukuvuselelwa.

Imisindo Yokwanda Okuhlangene, Ukukhululeka Ekunakweni Okuthathwe Ngenkani, Nokuqaphela Amaphethini Amadala

Kukhona isigqi salokhu kukhula okuhlangene. Okokuqala kuza ukunaka okugxilile, bese kuba ukukhuliswa ngeziteshi zomphakathi, bese kuba izimpi zokuhumusha, bese kuba imizamo yokuhlambalaza, bese kuba nezihibe zokuqagela, bese kuba ukukhathala, bese kuba, kaningi, ukubuyela ngokuthula empilweni evamile ngaphandle kokuba kwenzeke noma yikuphi ukuhlazeka kwangempela, ngoba uhlelo lwezinzwa selusetshenziswe lwaba yisimo sokukhathala kunokuba lukhule lube yisimo sokuhlakanipha. Futhi sinitshela lokhu hhayi ukuze nibe ngabangabazayo, kodwa ukuze nikhululeke. Inkululeko yikhono lokubamba iqhaza ngaphandle kokuphathwa, ukuzibandakanya ngaphandle kokuthunjwa, ukunakekela ngaphandle kokudliwa. Inkululeko akuyona ukunganaki; inkululeko iwubukhosi. Sifisa futhi ukunikhumbuza ngento abaningi kini abavele beyizwa: okuningi kwalokho okuvele esikhathini senu akukusha ngempela ezingqimbeni ezijulile zengqondo yomuntu. Ngisho nalabo abangakwazi ukukuchaza baye bezwa, ngezindlela ezingacacile, ukuthi izivumelwano ezifihliwe zikhona, ukuthi amandla asetshenziswe kabi, ukuthi izakhiwo ezithile ziye zasebenza ngemuva kwamakhethini. Izinkanyezi eziningi, ikakhulukazi, ziye zathwala ingaphakathi eliqhubekayo lazi ukuthi ukuxhashazwa nokuphathwa kuye kwahlanganiswa ezinhlelweni isikhathi eside. Ngakho-ke lapho kuvela okuqukethwe okubonakala kuqinisekisa lokho obukuzwile kakade, ungase ukholelwe ukuthi kufanele uqhubeke ubukele, uqhubeke ulandela, uqhubeke ubhala kukhathalogi, ngoba ingqondo ithi, “Uma bengivele ngazi, khona-ke kufanele manje ngikubonise ngokungapheli.” Kodwa sithi kuwe: ukuqashelwa akuyona isivumelwano sokuzikhathaza. Ukuqashelwa yisikhathi lapho uqaphela iphethini bese ukhetha ukuthi uzokwakhani ngenxa yalo.

Uma kufika ukukhululwa futhi kuvuselela uhlelo lwakho ukuba luqaphele, sikumema ukuthi ume ubuze, “Ngifunani kulokhu?” Ingabe ukuphepha. Ingabe ukulawula. Ingabe ukuqiniseka. Ingabe ukuba yingxenye. Ingabe umuzwa wokuba ohlangothini olufanele? Ingabe impumuzo yokuba nombono wakho uqinisekiswe? Ingabe isifiso sokuba yingxenye yeqembu "esikutholayo." Akukho kulokhu okungalungile ngokwemvelo, kodwa uma ungaziboni, zingakushukumisela ekusebenziseni okuphoqelelwe. Futhi ukusetshenziswa okuphoqelelwe akudali uMhlaba omusha. Ukusetshenziswa okuphoqelelwe kudala insimu yokunaka okumlutha, futhi insimu yokunaka okumlutha iqondiswa kalula. Ungase futhi uqaphele ukuthi iqembu linomkhuba wokuguqula izambulo zibe ubuwena. Abantu baqala ukuzichaza ngalokho abakukholelwayo ngokuqukethwe, ngalokho abakusolayo, ngalokho abakwenqabayo, ngalokho ababelana ngakho, ngokuthi ubani abamsolayo, ngokuthi ubani abavikelayo. Futhi uma ubuwena buhilelekile, inhliziyo ivame ukuvala, ngoba injongo ayiseyona iqiniso; injongo iba ukunqoba. Ngaleso sikhathi, insimu iyaphuka. Ubudlelwano buyaqina. Imiphakathi iyahlukana. Imindeni iyayeka ukukhuluma. Abantu baqala ukubonana njengezimpawu kunokuba babone imiphefumulo. Futhi sikutshela ukuthi lokhu kungenye yezingozi eziyinhloko zalesi sikhathi: hhayi ukuthi ulwazi lukhona, kodwa lolo lwazi luba ucezu oluguqula abantu babe abaphikisi lapho bedinga kakhulu ukukhumbula ubuntu babo obuhlanganyelwe.

Ukubambelela Ngaphambi Kokuzibandakanya, Ukuhlonipha Indima Yakho, Nokumela Iqiniso Lomhlaba Omusha

Ngakho-ke, kulesi sigaba sokuqala, sikumema ukuba wenze umkhuba olula ongewona owedrama futhi ongewona osebenzayo, kodwa oqinisa kakhulu: qala nge-anchor, bese uhlanganyela. Faka i-anchor ngaphambi kokufunda. Faka i-anchor ngaphambi kokubukela. Faka i-anchor ngaphambi kokwabelana. Faka i-anchor ngaphambi kokukhuluma. Vumela i-anchor ibe ukubuyela emzimbeni, ukubuyela ekuphefumuleni, ukubuyela enhliziyweni, ukubuyela kulokho okusheshayo nokungokoqobo. Bese kuthi, uma uhlanganyela, kwenze lokho ngemingcele yesikhathi kanye nenhloso ekhonza impilo yakho. Zibuze, “Ngizokwenzani ngendlela ehlukile namuhla ngoba ngihlangane nalokhu?” Uma impendulo ithi, “Ngizojikeleza,” khona-ke unesiqondiso sakho. Uma impendulo ithi, “Ngizophatha abantu ngobumnene ngoba ngibona ukuthi ubuhlungu bungakanani,” khona-ke unesiqondiso sakho. Uma impendulo ithi, “Ngizosekela izakhiwo zokuvikela abantu abasengozini,” khona-ke unesiqondiso sakho. Uma impendulo ithi, “Ngizoba nonya enkulumweni yami,” khona-ke unesiqondiso sakho. Sikumema futhi ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi akuyona yonke into efika endaweni yakho ehlangene eyenzelwe ukugaywa yiwo wonke umuntu. Kunezindima. Kukhona ukubizwa. Kukhona abantu abanomsebenzi osemthethweni, ophenyayo, ovikelayo, ovuselelayo. Kukhona abantu abamsebenzi wabo owelaphayo, ohlobene, osekelwe emphakathini. Kukhona abantu abamsebenzi wabo uwukuzinza ngokomoya, ukubambisana okunamandla, ukuphathwa kwensimu. Uma uzama ukwenza yonke indima ngesikhathi esisodwa, wehlisa ukusebenza kwakho. Futhi izinkanyezi eziningi ziye zajwayela ukukholelwa ukuthi kumele zithwale konke, ukuthi kumele zibambe wonke umthwalo, ukuthi kumele zibe nesibopho sokulandelela yonke intambo, ngoba ububele kuzo bungasetshenziswa kalula bube ukuzidela. Kodwa-ke siyakukhumbuza ukuthi ukuzidela akufani nenkonzo, futhi inkonzo ayidingi ukuzephula. Makwanele, ngezinye izikhathi, ukukhetha izenzo ezincane zabantu ezigcina umhlaba wakho uhlanganisiwe. Makwanele ukuletha amanzi emzimbeni wakho, ukuletha ukuphumula ohlelweni lwakho, ukuletha isineke ezingxoxweni zakho, ukuletha imfudumalo ekhaya lakho, ukuletha umusa olula osukwini lomuntu ongamazi. Asisho ukuthi lezi "zincane" ngomphumela wazo; sithi zilula ngesimo sazo. Ezikhathini lapho iqembu lidonselwa ekusolweni nasentukuthelweni, isidalwa esihlala sikwazi ukuba mnene siba yi-node yokuzinza, futhi ama-node okuzinza yindlela izikhathi ezintsha eziba ngayo ukuphila. Awakhi ikusasa kuphela ngalokho okuvezayo; uyalakha ngalokho okubonisayo. Ngakho-ke sicela ukuthi ucabangele ukuthi lesi sikhathi, kwabaningi kini, asimayelana nokufunda okuthile okusha kodwa simayelana nokukhetha ukuthi uzoba ngubani ngenkathi iqembu liqhubeka. Ingabe uzoba nolaka? Ingabe uzoba ngcono? Ingabe uzokhathala? Ingabe uzoba umlutha wentukuthelo? Noma ingabe uzoba sobala, uzinzile, uqonde, futhi uthanda buthule, hhayi ngoba uphika iqiniso, kodwa ngoba wenqaba ukuvumela iqiniso lintshontshe ikhono lakho lokuba ngumnyango ophilayo oya kokuthile okuphakeme. Njengoba udlula kuleli gagasi, khumbula ukuthi iqiniso aliyona nje isethi yamaqiniso avelayo; iqiniso futhi liyi-vibration engaphilwa. Uma uphila iqiniso, awubi nentshisekelo yokudonselwa emigwaqweni yokusabela okungapheli, ngoba uzwa, ngokuqondile, ukuthi amandla akho okuphila anezisetshenziswa ezingcono. Futhi uma uphila iqiniso, awudingi ukufakazela ukuvuka kwakho ngokuzibandakanya njalo nokuqukethwe okuvusa inkanuko kakhulu, ngoba ukuvuka kwakho kufakazelwa ukuhambisana kwensimu yakho, ukuqina kokuba khona kwakho, ngendlela izinqumo zakho ezidala ngayo ukuphepha nesithunzi ezindaweni ozithintayo.

Ukuqhekeka Kwesikhathi, Amagagasi Omphakathi, kanye Namasiko Obudlelwano Nomhlaba Omusha

Ukuphatha Ithonsi Njengensimbi Engaphakathi Nokuqonda Izikhathi Zesikhathi Njengemihubhe Ephilayo

Sikumema ukuba uphathe “ithonsi” hhayi njengomyalo wokuzihlakaza, kodwa njengensimbi ekubiza ngaphakathi. Makukhumbuze ukuthi ubuyisele ukunaka kwakho. Makukhumbuze ukuthi ukhethe isimo sakho. Makukhumbuze ukuthi ugxile ngokugxila kwakho, ngoba ukugxila kuyibhulashi lokupenda ofaka umbala ngalo isikhathi sakho. Makukhumbuze ukuthi awukho lapha ukuze udonswe kuyo yonke imihubhe yokuqhekeka kwezwe elidala; ulapha ukuze ume njengebhuloho lokuya kulokho okulandelayo, futhi amabhuloho awaphikisani nomfula—ahlala eqinile ngenkathi amanzi ehamba, evumela abanye ukuba bawele ogwini oluqondakalayo. Lapho insimu ehlangene ishukunyiswa izinto ezithwala umthwalo wokuziphatha, ukushisa ngokomzwelo, kanye nesiphakamiso sezakhiwo ezifihliwe, into ebikezelwa kakhulu iqala ukwenzeka, futhi ayiqali emhlabeni kuqala, iqala ngaphakathi komzimba womuntu, ngaphakathi kwezivumelwano ezicashile abantu abanazo ngokuphepha, ezindaweni lapho ukuqiniseka kuye kwasetshenziswa khona esikhundleni sokwethembana, kanye nasezingxenyeni zengqondo ezizizwa, ngokuvamile ngaphandle kwamazwi, ukuthi uma zingaqoqa indaba efanele zizovikelwa ekugcineni esiphithiphithini. Yilapho ukuqhekeka kuqala khona, hhayi ngoba ulwazi luwukuqhekeka ngokwemvelo, kodwa ngoba ubudlelwano bomuntu nolwazi buhlanganiswe empini, futhi ukulwa kuyisithako esiqeda ukuvumelana phakathi kwezidalwa. Usizwe sikhuluma ngezikhathi njengezindlela ezakhiwe ukukhetha okuphindaphindiwe kokuqonda, futhi sizokwandisa lokhu lapha ngendlela ewusizo kunokuba kube yimfihlakalo: isikhathi asiyona nje ukulandelana kwangaphandle kwezenzakalo, siwumzila ophilayo wesipiliyoni owakhiwe kulokho uhlelo lwezinzwa olukuprakthizayo, lokho ingqondo ekuphindayo, lokho inhliziyo ekuvumelayo, lokho izwi elikukhethayo, lokho izandla ezikwenzayo, nalokho umphakathi okukwenza kube ngokwejwayelekile. Lapho kufika ukukhuphuka komphakathi okunamandla okwanele ukudonsa izigidi zezingqondo emhubheni ofanayo ngesikhathi esisodwa, kuba uhlobo lwephuzu elijikelezayo elihlangene, hhayi ngoba umbhalo owodwa noma isihloko esisodwa "sidala" iqiniso, kodwa ngoba ukunaka kuleso silinganiso kusebenza njengokudonsa phansi, kubumba lokho abantu abakuqaphelayo, lokho abakuhumushayo, nokuthi baphathana kanjani ngenkathi bekuhumusha. Esikhathini sakho samanje, indlela yokuqhekeka isebenza kahle kakhulu ngoba akuyona nje okuqukethwe okuhlukanisayo; kuyisidingo sokuthi abantu bamemezele ukuma ngokushesha. Insimu idinga isivinini, ukusebenza, ukuhambisana, ubufakazi bokwethembeka, ubufakazi bokuthukuthela, ubufakazi bokungabaza, ubufakazi bokuqaphela, ubufakazi bokuthi ungowakwamanye amazwe. Futhi lapho isivinini sidingeka, ukungafani kuyancishiswa; lapho ukungafani kuncishiswa, abantu baba yizicucu emehlweni omunye nomunye; futhi lapho abantu beba yizicucu, uzwela alukwazi ukuhlala lukhona kalula. Ube usubona lokho okubukeka “njengengxabano yezepolitiki,” kodwa ngaphansi kwayo kukhona into eyisisekelo: ukuqhekeka kwamandla obudlelwano, ukulahlekelwa ikhono lomuntu lokuhlala ndawonye ekungaqinisekini ngaphandle kokuguqula ukungaqiniseki kube ukusolwa.

Ukulandelana Okubikezelwayo Kokudonsa, Ukushisa, Ukuhlunga, kanye Nokuqhekeka Kwendwangu Yomphakathi

Qaphela ukulandelana okuvame ukuvela, ngoba ukubona iphethini yindlela ophuma ngayo ngaphandle kokuphika. Okokuqala kuza ukudonsela—ukungena kwezikhala, ukuphawula, iziqeshana, ukusabela, izithombe-skrini, ukuhumusha. Bese kuza ukushisa—intukuthelo, usizi, ukunengeka, ukuzithethelela, ukwesaba, umuzwa wokuthi kukhona okumele kwenziwe njengamanje, noma ngabe akukho senzo esicacile esitholakalayo. Bese kuza ukuhlunga—obani “abaphapheme,” “abalele,” “abahlanganyelayo,” “abangenalwazi,” “abalawulwayo,” “abayingozi,” “abahle.” Bese kuza ukuphoqelelwa komphakathi okucashile—abantu baqala ukuhlolana, hhayi ngesifiso sangempela, kodwa ngengcindezi, ngemibuzo eholayo, ngokugxeka okugcona, ngokuphikelela ukuthi ukuvumelana kuyindlela kuphela yokuziphatha. Kulesi sigaba, umphakathi awuxoxi nje ngolwazi; uqala ukuzihlela kabusha ube amaqembu. Yingakho sishilo, ngezindlela eziningi, ukuthi izakhiwo ezindala azidingi ukuthi ukholwe nganoma yini ethile ukuze uphathwe; zidinga nje ukunaka kwakho ukuthi kubanjwe futhi ubudlelwano bakho bube buthakathaka. Lapho omakhelwane beyeka ukubonana njengomakhelwane futhi beqala ukubonana njengezinsongo, lapho imindeni iyeka ukukhuluma, lapho izinhlangano ezingokomoya ziba yizinkundla zempikiswano, lapho ubungane buncishiswa baba ukuhlolwa kobumsulwa bemibono, isisekelo senhlalo siba buthaka, futhi isisekelo esibuthakathaka siba lula ukusibusa ngokwesaba, kulula ukusilawula ngentukuthelo, futhi kulula ukusiqeda ngempikiswano engapheli. Inhlekelele iwukuthi izidalwa eziningi zikholelwa ukuthi “zilwa nohlelo” kuyilapho, empeleni, zondla omunye wemiphumela yalo ethembeke kakhulu: ukwahlukana.

Kusukela Ekusetshenzisweni Kuya Ekugcwaleni: Ukulutheka Kuya Ekubonakalisweni Uma kuqhathaniswa Nenkonzo Kuya Kokuhle

Sizokhuluma ngobuhlakani lapha, ngoba asifisi ukuguqula ukuhlupheka kwabantu kube yinto emangazayo, futhi asifisi nokugwema iqiniso lokuthi kukhona ukulimala emhlabeni wakho. Kodwa-ke sicela ukuthi ubone ukuthi ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi iqembu lingadonselwa ohlotsheni olungavamile lokusebenzisa, lapho ingqondo iqhubeka ifuna imininingwane eyengeziwe, isiqinisekiso esengeziwe, amagama engeziwe, ubufakazi obengeziwe, ubufakazi obengeziwe, njengokungathi ukugcwala kuzogcina kuletha impumuzo. Akuvamile ukwenza kanjalo. Ukugcwala kuvame ukukhiqiza ukuba ndikindiki noma ukuphikelela, futhi zombili lezi zimo zinciphisa ikhono lomuntu lokuba khona, abe nomusa, futhi asebenze kahle. Ngakho-ke sinikeza umbuzo oqondayo osebenza njengefoloko lokulungisa: ingabe ukuzibandakanya kwakho kwandisa ikhono lakho lokukhonza okuhle, noma kwandisa ikhono lakho lokuphikisana ngokubi.

Ukudlula Ngokomoya, Ukulutheka Kwemizwa, Nokusebenzisa Ubukhosi Obunesihawu

Kukhona futhi ungqimba lwesibili lokuqhekeka oluvela kulabo abazibheka njengabathanda izinto ezingokomoya, futhi lucashile ngoba lungagqoka isembatho sokuvuthwa. Abanye bazothi, “Akukho lutho kulokhu olubalulekile; konke kuyinkohliso,” futhi bazosebenzisa lelo gama ukuze bangabi nothando kakhulu, kodwa bangabi nothando ngokomzwelo. Abanye bazothi, “Lokhu yikho konke; lokhu kuwubufakazi; lokhu ukuphela,” futhi bazosebenzisa lokho kuqina hhayi ukuvikela ababuthakathaka noma ukwakha okusha, kodwa ukuthethelela ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo. Insimu ibe isihlukana phakathi kokudlula ngokomoya nokulutha ngokomzwelo, futhi ayikho kulezi zindlela emelela ngempela ubukhosi obuphakathi nobuzwela abaningi kini abaze babenza. Isizathu sokuthi lokhu kubalulekile enkambisweni yakho yokwenyuka silula: Umhlaba Omusha awusona nje isenzakalo sesikhathi esizayo; kuyisiko lobuhlobo. Kuyindlela yokuba nomunye nomunye engakhelwe ekusolweni, ekuhlazisweni, kanye nesidingo sokunqoba. Ngakho-ke njalo lapho igagasi lomphakathi likunikeza ithuba lokuzijwayeza ukuhlala ungumuntu—uhlale ukwazi ukulalela, uhlale ukwazi ukunakekela, uhlale ukwazi ukungavumelani ngaphandle konya—uqeqeshwa emisipheni eyenza amaqiniso aphezulu aphileke. Uma ungakwazi ukuhlala unomusa lapho kukhona ukucasuka, khona-ke ukucasuka kuba yisondo lokuqondisa. Uma ungakwazi ukuhlala ucabanga lapho kukhona ukungaqiniseki, khona-ke ukungaqiniseki kuba yisibopho. Uma ungakwazi ukuhlala unobuhlobo ngenkathi unolwazi, khona-ke ulwazi luba yisithiyo.

Izihibe Zokucasuka Kwemizwa, Ukuqhekeka Kwamaqembu, Nokuqaliswa Kobuholi

Ukulutheka Okubi, Ukuphazamiseka Kwemizwa, Nokuqwashisa Okukhulu Kwesimiso Sezinzwa

Sifuna uqaphele okunye okuvame ukuphuthelwa: ingxenye enkulu yokuqhekeka ayidalwa ulwazi ngokwalo, kodwa yi-loop yemizwa eyakheka nxazonke. I-loop inezici ezibonakalayo: ukuhlola ngokuphindaphindiwe izibuyekezo, ukuphinda ubuyekeze izinto ezifanayo, ukuxoxa ngazo ngokuphindaphindiwe nabantu abalingisa intukuthelo yakho, "ukubeka imephu yenhlekelele" ngokuphindaphindiwe, ukuphinda ubuyekeze amathuba amabi kakhulu, ucabanga ngokuphindaphindiwe izingxabano ozoba nazo, ukuqoqa ubufakazi ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuze uvikele ukuma kwakho. Le loop iqeqesha isimiso sezinzwa ukuba siqaphele kakhulu, kanti isimiso sezinzwa esiqaphele kakhulu senza umhlaba uzizwe uyingozi kakhulu kunokuba ungaba njalo ngesikhathi sakho esiseduze, okube sekwandisa ukucasuka, okube sekunciphisa ukubekezela, okube sekunciphisa uzwela, okube sekwandisa impikiswano. Ungabona ukuthi lokhu kuba ngokushesha kangakanani ukuzondla. Ngokombono wethu we-Arcturian, enye yezinganekwane ezingasizi kakhulu emhlabeni wakho inganekwane yokuthi intukuthelo iyinto efanayo nokunakekela. Ukunakekela kungafaka phakathi intukuthelo, yebo, kodwa ukunakekelwa akusekelwe yintukuthelo; ukunakekelwa kusekelwa ukuzinza, ukuqonda, imingcele, kanye nesenzo esisebenzayo esisekelwe othandweni. Intukuthelo, uma ingalawulwa, iba yisidakamizwa—ubuwena, indlela yokuxhumana nabantu, indlela yokuzizwa uphila, indlela yokuzizwa ulungile, indlela yokuzizwa uyingxenye yesizwe. Futhi lapho intukuthelo iba yindlela yokuxhumana, uzwela luba nemibandela, ngoba uzwela lunikezwa kuphela labo abavumayo, futhi luhoxiswe kulabo abangavumiyo. Yilapho ukuhlukana kuba khona ngaphakathi “njengokuvamile.”

Ukuqaliswa Kobuholi Obuhlangene Nokubamba Izinsimu Ezihambisanayo Esiphithiphithini

Sikumema ukuthi uphathe lesi sikhathi njengokuqala kobuholi obuhlangene, ngoba abaningi kini bacele, emithandazweni yenu nasekuzindleni kwenu, ukuthi kusetshenziswe okuhle, ukuba amathuluzi okuthula, ukusiza isintu sivuke. Sinitshela ngobuqotho ukuthi ukuba ithuluzi lokuthula akusho ukuthi uzonikezwa izimo zokuthula kuphela; kusho ukuthi uzocelwa ukuba ube nokuthula ezimweni ezikuyengayo. Ukuhlolwa akukhona ukuthi ungasho amagama afanele yini. Ukuhlolwa ukuthi ngabe insimu yakho ihlala ivumelana yini lapho indawo yomphakathi iba engavumelani.

Ukuwa Kwelukuluku, Ukufaneleka, Nokuwohloka Kokwethembana

Manje, sizocacisa kakhulu indlela ukuhlukana okwakheka ngayo emiphakathini. Ngokuvamile kuqala ngokuwa kwesifiso sokwazi. Esikhundleni sokubuza, “Ubonani,” abantu bayabuza, “Ungakwazi kanjani ukungaboni engikubonayo?” Esikhundleni sokunikela ngokuthi, “Nakhu engikutholile,” abantu bathi, “Uma ningavumelani uyingxenye yenkinga.” Esikhundleni sokulalela iqiniso elingokomzwelo lomunye umuntu, abantu bazama ukunqoba impikiswano. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi abantu banamathele ekubeni ngababodwa, abaningi bazovumelana nomphakathi ngenkathi bezizwa bedidekile ngasese, noma bazovukela obala ngenkathi bezizwa benesizungu ngasese. Kuzo zombili izimo, ubuqiniso buyaphazamiseka, futhi lapho ubuqiniso buyaphazamiseka, ukusondelana kuyabhidlika. Yile ndlela umphakathi olawulwa ngayo: hhayi ngokuvimbela kuphela, kodwa ngokuqothulwa kokuthembana phakathi kwabantu.

Ukuxhumana Komphefumulo Nomphefumulo, Ukuzibandakanya Okungeyona Izikhali, Nokubuza Ngesabelo Sakho

Asikutsheli ukuthi ugweme izihloko ezinzima. Sikutshela ukuthi uhlanganyele ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izikhali. Uma ukhuluma, khuluma njengomphefumulo okhuluma nomphefumulo, noma ngabe umphefumulo ophambi kwakho uyesaba, uvikela, uyagxeka, noma uyadelela. Uma wabelana, yabelana ngenhloso yokusekela ukucaca, hhayi ngenhloso yokuhlazisa abanye ukuze bavumelane. Uma ungavumelani, ungavumelani ngaphandle kokwedelela, ngoba ukwedelela kuyindlela esheshayo yokuphula ibhuloho, futhi uma ibhuloho seliphukile, iqiniso lakho alikwazi ukuhamba noma kunjalo. Futhi uma uzizwa udonselwa emjikelezweni ojwayelekile othi “Kumelwe ngikholise, kumelwe ngilungise, kumelwe ngidalule,” hlala isikhathi eside ngokwanele ukuze ubuze, “Ingabe lesi yisabelo sami okwamanje, noma lokhu kuyisifiso sami.”

Isiqondiso Esiwusizo: Ukunciphisa Ukudla, Ukunaka Isikhathi, Nokukhetha Izikhathi Zokulungisa

Ungase uzibuze-ke ukuthi yini esiyicebisayo ngendlela engokoqobo, futhi sizoyinikeza ngokucacile ngenkathi sigcina uhlaka olujulile lungashintshi. Nciphisa ukudla kwakho. Gcina isikhathi sakho sigxile ekunakeni. Khetha umthombo owodwa noma emibili kunemifudlana engamashumi amahlanu. Yeka ukufunda uma ubona umzimba wakho uqina, umoya wakho ufushane, ingqondo yakho igijima, ithoni yakho ibukhali. Nquma kusengaphambili ukuthi yisiphi isinyathelo ozosithatha esakhayo, ukuze ukuzibandakanya kwakho kube nendlela eya eqinisweni kunokuba kuzungeze ngokungapheli emcabangweni. Uma kungekho senzo esakhayo esitholakalayo kuwe namuhla, khona-ke isenzo sakho esakhayo kakhulu kungaba ukubuyela ekubumbaneni kwakho, ngoba ukubumbana akugcini nje ngokungenzi lutho; ukubumbana kuwukusakaza okuzinzisayo. Siphinde sikucele ukuthi ukhumbule ukuthi ukuqhekeka okuhlangene akubukeki nje njengezimpikiswano; futhi kubukeka njengokuphelelwa yithemba, ukuwa, kanye nokuhoxa. Abanye bazothi, “Akukho lutho olungashintsha,” futhi bazobuyela ekunganaki. Abanye bazothi, “Wonke umuntu mubi,” futhi bazobuyela enzondweni. Abanye bazothi, “Angikwazi ukwethemba muntu,” futhi bazobuyela ekuzihlukaniseni. Lokhu futhi kuyizimfa, ngoba kususa ukuzimisela kwesidalwa ukuhlanganyela ekwakheni kabusha. Umhlaba Omusha udinga ukuhlanganyela. Kudinga isibindi sokuhlala uvulekile ngenkathi uqaphela, ukuhlala unethemba ngenkathi ungokoqobo, ukuhlala unomusa ngenkathi unemingcele, ukuhlala uhilelekile ngaphandle kokudliwa. Ngakho-ke sikumema ukuba ubambe iso eliphakeme: ingozi enkulu yokwanda okunjalo komphakathi akukhona ukuthi kukhona, kodwa ukuthi kuba yisibuko esanda imikhuba engavuthiwe yeqembu - isivinini, ukuqiniseka, ukusola, ukuphakama, ukuphelelwa yithemba - kuze kube yilapho leyo mikhuba izwakala sengathi ingubani. Uma ungakubona lokho, ungakwenqaba ngaphandle kokuphika iqiniso. Ungakhetha ukuma okuhlukile: ukuhamba kancane, okusekelwe, okunesihawu, okuhlobene, okugxile phambili. Ungaba uhlobo lomuntu ongabona umhlaba omdala uqhekeka ngaphandle kokuba yikhophi yawo. Yingakho sithi ukuhlukana kuba ukuhlukaniswa kwesikhathi, hhayi njengephupho, kodwa njengomphumela ophilayo: lapho abantu bekhetha ukwedelela, umhlaba wabo uba nokwedelela okukhulu; lapho abantu bekhetha ukubekezela, umhlaba wabo uba nesineke kakhulu; lapho abantu bekhetha ukusola, umhlaba wabo uba nokwesolisa okukhulu; lapho abantu bekhetha ukulungisa, umhlaba wabo uba nokwesolisa okukhulu. Awudingi wonke umuntu ukuba akhethe ukulungisa ukuze ukulungiswa kuqale; Udinga ama-node anele okuzinzisa ukuthi insimu inendawo ethile yokufika kuyo. Ngakho-ke, njengoba siqhubeka kulokhu kudluliswa, ake isigaba sesibili singene kuwe njengokwazi okulula: okuqukethwe akukhona nje "ngabo," kodwa futhi kumayelana nawe, mayelana nendlela obamba ngayo ukunaka kwakho, mayelana nendlela okhuluma ngayo nomndeni wakho, mayelana nendlela ophatha ngayo labo abangavumelani, mayelana nendlela olawula ngayo isimo sakho sangaphakathi, mayelana nendlela ogcina ngayo inhliziyo itholakala ngisho nalapho ingqondo ibona ubunzima. Lena yindawo lapho ubuholi beqiniso buqalwa khona, ngoba ubuholi akulona ikhono lokumemeza kakhulu ngalokho okungalungile; ubuholi buyikhono lokugcina uthando luqinile ngenkathi ukucaca kujula, nokuqhubeka nokwakha okusha ngenkathi imizamo yakudala yokukudonsela emuva ezingxeni zayo ezijwayelekile.

Ukuzwela kwe-Starseed, Izingibe Zokuqashelwa, Nokuhlanganyela Komhlaba Omusha Ovuthiwe

Ugibe Lokuqashelwa Ngaphandle Komthwalo Wemfanelo Nokuqapha Okungapheli

Futhi manje, njengoba sijulisa le nkinga, sifisa ukukhuluma ngqo ngesilingo esithile esibonakala kakhulu kulabo kini abanozwela, abavukile, abanozwela, futhi abasuqalile ukuqaphela ukuthi umhlaba wenu uthwale izendlalelo zokuphambuka isikhathi eside, ngoba yilo kanye lolu zwela olungadonselwa ogibeni olucashile, ugibe olungazisho ukuthi luyisilingo, kodwa luziveza njengomsebenzi, njengokuqapha, njengomthwalo wemfanelo wokuziphatha, ngisho nokuvuthwa ngokomoya, kanti empeleni lungaba uhlobo lokuthunjwa okunamandla okuqeda kancane kancane amandla enize lapha ukuzowahlakulela. Iningi lenu libe nomuzwa wokuthi indaba esemthethweni ayiphelele kusukela ebuntwaneni. Abanye kini bazizwe njengokungahambisani okuthule lapho abantu abadala bekhuluma ngokuqiniseka ngezinhlelo ezingazizwa zihlanzekile. Abanye kini bazizwe njengobunzima obungazelelwe lapho ningena ezikhungweni eziziveza njengezivikelayo kodwa ezingazizwa zivikela. Abanye kini bazizwa njengomuzwa wokubuka ubuso nokufunda phakathi kwamagama, ngoba ingxenye yenu yafunda kusenesikhathi ukuthi lokho abantu abakushoyo nalokho abantu abakwenzayo ngezinye izikhathi kwakuyizinto ezimbili ezihlukene. Lokhu akuyona ingozi, futhi akuyona ubufakazi bokuthi uphukile; kuwubufakazi bokuthi uyaqonda, nokuthi umphefumulo wakho awufikanga kulesi sikhathi ngokunganaki. Uze nokuqashelwa kwephethini. Uze nohlobo oluthile lwe-radar yangaphakathi yokukhohlisa, ukuphoqelela, ukuphathwa kwezithombe, kanye nezivumelwano ezifihliwe. Ngakho-ke, lapho kuvela amaza olwazi akhomba ekuxhashazweni, ekusithekeni, ekuhlanganyeleni, nasekusetshenzisweni kabi kwamandla, abaningi kini abazizwa beshaqekile ngendlela abanye abenza ngayo. Kunalokho, nizizwa niqashelwa ngokuhluzeka, njengokungathi umhlaba wangaphandle ekugcineni uqamba lokho enikuzwile buthule. Futhi kulesi sikhathi, ingqondo yomuntu ozwelayo ingenza into ebikezelwa kakhulu: ingazama ukuguqula ukuqashelwa kube yiphrojekthi engapheli, futhi ingazama ukuguqula ukuqonda kube ukuqongelela ubufakazi, futhi ingazama ukuguqula ububele bube ukuzidela, ngoba ikholelwa, kaningi ngaphandle kokuqaphela, ukuthi uma ingaqoqa imininingwane eyanele, idatha eyanele, amagama anele, izikhathi ezanele, izithombe-skrini ezanele, khona-ke ekugcineni ingaqinisekisa ukuphepha, ekugcineni iqinisekise ubulungiswa, ekugcineni iqinisekise ukuvalwa. Yilokhu esikushoyo ngogibe lokuqashelwa ngaphandle komthwalo wemfanelo. Ukuqashelwa kuyisipho; yikhono lokubona iphethini. Umthwalo wemfanelo yilokho okhetha ukukwenza ngamandla akho okuphila ngemva kokukubona. Ugibe luvela lapho ingqondo ikholelwa ukuthi "engikwenzayo" kumele kube "ukuhlala uqaphile," kunokuba "uhlale wakha." Futhi ukuze sicace kahle, asisho ukuthi uphenyo aludingeki ezweni lakho. Sithi akuzona zonke izinto ezihloselwe ukuphila ekuphenyweni njengobunikazi bansuku zonke, futhi labo kini ababizelwe ukuba ngabaqinisi, abaphulukisi, othisha, abaculi, abakhi bomphakathi, abazali, abanakekeli, kanye nokuba khona okuvumelanayo kuzolimaza umsebenzi wakho uma uzivumela ukuba udonseleke ekuqapheni okuphoqelelwe, ngoba ukuqapha okuphoqelelwe akuvezi imvamisa ephulukisayo; kudala imvamisa elindele ukulimala.

Yebo Wangaphakathi Ohlanzekile Uma kuqhathaniswa Nokuphoqeleka Kokukhathazeka Nezindleko Zokuthwala Konke

Bathandekayo bezinkanyezi, qaphelani umehluko phakathi kuka-yebo wangaphakathi ohlanzekile kanye nokuphoqelelwa kokukhathazeka. U-yebo wangaphakathi ohlanzekile uzwakala njengokucaca okuzinzile. Unemingcele. Unesikhathi. Unesinyathelo esilandelayo esakhayo. Ukuphoqelelwa kokukhathazeka kuzwakala njengokuxineka, ukuphuthuma, umuzwa wokuthi uma uyeka ukubheka into embi kuzokwenzeka, umuzwa wokuthi uma ungavuselelwa awunasibopho, umuzwa wokuthi kufanele uqhubeke ufunda ngisho nalapho umzimba wakho ucela ukuphumula. Lokhu kuphoqelelwa kokukhathazeka kuvame ukuzifihla njengobuhle, kodwa akusibo ubuhle; kuyisimiso sezinzwa esiqeqeshwe ukuskena, futhi ukuskena akufani nenkonzo. Manje, sifisa ukukhuluma nezinkanyezi ngokuqondile, ngoba iningi lenu linobuthakathaka obuthile lapha, futhi buzalwa uthando lwenu. Iningi lenu lizwa ubuhlungu obuhlangene njengokungathi bungobakho. Iningi lenu lizwa ubuthakathaka bezingane, ubuthakathaka bokwethembana, ubungcwele bobumsulwa, futhi uma nizwa ukuthi ubungcwele buphuliwe noma kuphi, inhliziyo yenu ifuna ukuphendula. Leyo mpendulo ayilungile. Okungaphambuka yindlela eniphendula ngayo. Uma uphendula ngokudla njalo izinto eziphazamisayo, ungase ukholelwe ukuthi “ufakaza,” kodwa lokho ovame ukukwenza ukuqeqesha uhlelo lwakho ukuba luphile ngezikhathi zosongo, futhi uhlelo oluphila engozini alukwazi ukuveza kalula ukuvumelana okudingekayo ukuvikela, ukuphulukisa, ukuqondisa, nokwakha ezinye izindlela. Uyakhathala. Uyacasuka. Uba nokungabaza. Uba nolaka olufushane nalabo abakuzungezile. Uyeka ukulala kahle. Uyeka ukudala. Ububele bakho buyancipha. Bese uzibuza ukuthi kungani uzizwa ungakhanyi kangako. Akukhona ngoba ubumnyama “bunqobile.” Kungenxa yokuthi ukunaka kwakho kusetshenziswe njengomugqa wokudla. Sikhuluma lokhu ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Sikhuluma ngoba sibona ukuthi kaningi kangakanani abakhathalela kakhulu baphelelwa buthule yinkolelo yokuthi kumele bathwale konke. Abanye kini bafundisiwe, ngisho nasezindaweni ezingokomoya, ukuthi ukuphaphama kusho ukuthi kumelwe umunce isithunzi somhlaba wonke futhi uhlale uzolile. Lokho akukhona ukuvuka. Lokho kuwukuzihlukanisa nokugqoka ulimi olungokomoya. Ukuvuka yikhono lokuhlala enhliziyweni yakho ngenkathi uqaphela, ukuhlala ukhona ngenkathi unolwazi, nokuthatha isinyathelo ngokulingana nendima yakho yangempela, hhayi ngokulingana nobukhulu bensimu yabezindaba.

Ukuqashelwa Komquba Ekudalweni Okunesibopho, Ubulungiswa, Nezinhlelo Ezihambisanayo

Mhlawumbe sizokunikeza isithombe, hhayi njengesifanekiso sokusebenza, kodwa njengendlela yokuzijwayeza: cabanga ngamandla akho okuphila njengamanzi esitsheni. Uma uwathululela ekuphawuleni okungapheli, imijikelezo engapheli yentukuthelo, ukuvuselela okungapheli, isitsha siba yize, futhi lapho isitsha sakho singenalutho awunalutho ongalunikeza abantu abaphambi kwakho abafinyeleleka ngempela, empeleni empilweni yakho, abatholakala ngempela ukuxhumana. Kodwa uma uvumela ukuqashelwa kube umquba kunokusetshenziswa, usebenzisa lokho okubonile njengophethiloli ukuze ujulise izinqumo zakho: uzibophezele kakhulu ebuqothweni, uba uvikela kakhulu abasengozini endaweni yakho, uba sobala kakhulu ngemingcele, uba nombono ojulile emphakathini wakho, uba ngozinikele kakhulu ekudalweni kwamasiko angajwayelekile ukuxhashazwa. Lokhu kungumthwalo wemfanelo. Manje, abanye kini bazothi, “Kodwa uma ngingaqhubeki ngibhekile, ngiyashiya ubulungiswa.” Futhi sicela ukuthi uhlole lokhu ngobumnene. Ubulungiswa abuthuthukiswa ukuqwasha kwakho. Ubulungiswa abuthuthukiswa ukucabanga kwakho okuqhubekayo. Ubulungiswa buthuthukiswa yizinhlelo ezihambisanayo, ngezinqubo zomthetho, ngezakhiwo zokuvikela, ngokushintsha kwamasiko, ngemfundo, ngokuphulukisa, ngokuziphendulela, nangokubuyiselwa kwesithunzi somuntu empilweni yansuku zonke. Uma ungeyena uchwepheshe wezomthetho, umphenyi, umenzi wenqubomgomo, umeluleki osebenza ngqo nabasindile, noma ummeli onendlela ethile yesenzo, khona-ke umnikelo wakho onamandla kakhulu kungaba ukuzinza kokuqonda endaweni yakho eseduze, ngoba isiko elizinzile yilokho okuvimbela ukulimala ukuthi kuphindaphindwe.

Ukubumbana Kobuhlobo, Ukuvusa Abanye Ngenkani, Nokwethuka Uma Kuqhathaniswa Nomthethonqubo

Sifisa futhi ukusho okuthile abaningi kini abakuzwile kakade, futhi sizokusho ngokucophelela: labo abenza okubi bavame ukuthembela ekusithekeni, ekuthuleni, nasekuqhekekeni komphakathi. Lapho imiphakathi ingenakuthembana, abasengozini abavikelwe kakhulu. Lapho imindeni ihlukana, izingane azibonakali kangako. Lapho omakhelwane besola, bambalwa abantu abangenelelayo. Ngakho-ke uma ukuzibandakanya kwakho nalesi sihloko kukwenza ungathembi wonke umuntu, uhoxe emphakathini, uphathe abanye njengezitha ezingaba khona, khona-ke ukuzibandakanya kwakho kukhiqiza izimo zomphakathi ezivumela ukuxhashazwa ukuba kuqhubeke. Yingakho sigcizelela ukuhambisana kobuhlobo. Umhlaba Omusha awuyona nje "indlela ephakeme." Uyisakhiwo sangempela somphakathi lapho ubuthakathaka buhlangatshezwa khona ngokucophelela kunokuxoshwa, lapho imingcele ihlonishwa khona, lapho amandla elandisa khona, nalapho iqiniso lingakhulunywa khona ngaphandle kokuba umuntu abhujiswe ngokukhuluma. Izinkanyezi zivame ukuba nesinye isibonelo esisebenza lapha: isifiso sokuvusa abanye ngenkani. Ngoba ubona iphethini, ufuna nabanye bayibone. Ufuna ukususa isihenqo ngokushesha. Ufuna ukubabonisa lokho okukholelwayo ukuthi kusobala. Kodwa ingqondo yomuntu ayivuli njalo ngamandla; ivame ukuvala. Uma uzama ukuvusa umuntu ngokumhlazisa, udala ukumelana. Uma uzama ukuvusa umuntu ngokumxina ngokuqukethwe, udala ukungakhululeki. Uma uzama ukuvusa umuntu ngokufuna isivumelwano esisheshayo, udala ukwahlukana. Sikumema endleleni evuthiwe: yiba ubufakazi bokuvuka ngokuqina kwakho. Khuluma lapho ucelwa. Nikeza lapho umenyiwe. Yabelana ngokukhetha. Vumela impilo yakho ibonise ukuthi kunendlela ehlukile yokuba ngumuntu kunezindlela zokusabela ezibusa ingxenye enkulu ye-ecology yakho yemidiya. Yingakho futhi sikuxwayisa ngokuziguqula ube yi-courier yolwazi, lapho uzizwa sengathi kufanele udlulise zonke izibuyekezo, wonke amahemuhemu, yonke incazelo, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi ukwabelana kufana nokusiza. Ukwabelana kungasiza, yebo, uma kuhlelwe, kutholakala, futhi kunikezwa ngokunakekela. Ukwabelana kungalimaza futhi lapho kuba ukusabalala kokwesaba, lapho kuba ukutheleleka komphakathi, lapho kuba yindlela yokukhipha ukukhathazeka ezinhlelweni zabanye abantu. Iningi lenu liye laphawula ukuthi ngemva kokufunda izinto ezithile, uzizwa unesifiso sokutshela othile ngokushesha, njengokungathi ukukhuluma kuzokhulula ukucindezeleka. Sikumema ukuthi ubone lowo mfutho ngalokho okuyikho: uhlelo lwezinzwa olufuna ukulawulwa. Kunezindlela eziningi zokulawula ezingadingi ukuqasha abanye ukuba bangene ekukhathazekeni kwakho. Ukuphefumula. Ukunyakaza. Imvelo. Umthandazo. Ukuthula. Umsebenzi wokudala. Ingxoxo egxile ekunakekeleni hhayi ekusoleni. Lokhu kulawula. Ukusabalala kokwesaba akulawuli; kuyanda.

Ukuvela Ngale Kobufakazi Bangaphandle, Imidlalo Yobuholi Obungokomoya, Nokukhetha Ukuhambisana Kothando

Manje, kukhona ungqimba olujulile lapha esifuna uluzwe, ngoba luyisisekelo sesigaba sesithathu: ukuqonda kwakho kuyashintsha ngale kwesigaba lapho udinga khona ubufakazi bangaphandle ukuqinisekisa lokho umphefumulo wakho osukwazi kakade. Iningi lenu selichithe iminyaka, ngisho namashumi eminyaka, nilungisa ukuqonda, nifunda ukuthemba umuzwa, nifunda ukuzwa iqiniso emzimbeni, nifunda ukuqaphela ukuxhashazwa ngaphandle kokudinga umuntu okhohlisayo ukuba avume. Lesi yisigaba sokuthuthuka ekuvukeni kwenu: ukushintsha ekudingeni ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle kuya ekuphileni kusukela ekuhleleni kwangaphakathi. Kodwa uma ubuyela ekulandeleni okungenangqondo, uzidonsela emuva uye esigabeni lapho ukuzinza kwakho kuncike ekulandeleni kwangaphandle, lapho ukuthula kwakho kuncike ekutheni idokhumenti entsha iyakhishwa yini, ukuthi kuqanjwe umuntu odumile emphakathini, ukuthi icala liyathuthuka yini, ukuthi umhlaziyi "uyayinqoba" impi yokulandisa. Lokhu akuyona inkululeko. Lokhu kuwukudlulisela ngaphandle uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ezweni langaphandle. Asikutsheli ukuthi ungabi nandaba. Sikutshela ukuthi uqine ngaphakathi, ukuze ukunakekelwa kwakho kukwazi ukuziveza ngesenzo esihlakaniphile kunokuba kusetshenziswe ngokuphoqelela. Kukhona uhlobo lokunakekela olusheshayo nolusebenzayo, futhi kukhona uhlobo lokunakekela oluzolile nolusebenzayo. Isimo sokuzola asibanda. Simane sinamathele. Luhlobo lokunakekela olungahlala nobuhlungu bomunye umuntu ngaphandle kokuwela kulo, olungalalela ngaphandle kokugcwala, olungenza ngaphandle kokudinga ihlombe, olungavikela ngaphandle kokuba novalo. Lokhu ukunakekela okwakha umhlaba ophephile. Siphinde sikukhumbuze ukuthi lapho izambulo ezihlangene ziqina, kuvame ukuba nokwanda kwemidlalo yokuzazi ngokomoya: “Ngangazi kuqala,” “Ngibona okwengeziwe,” “Angikhohliswa,” “Ngingaphezu kwakho konke,” “Ngingakwazi ukubhekana nakho,” “Abanye balele.” Lezi akuzona izimpawu zobungcweti. Ziyizibonakaliso zokuthi i-ego izama ukuguqula ukuzwela ibe yi-hierarchy. Lapho i-ego iphenduka i-hierarchy, idala ukwahlukana phakathi kwalabo ababengabambisana. Futhi, ukwahlukana kungenye yemiphumela eyinhloko yesakhiwo esidala. Ngakho-ke sikumema ukuba wenqabe isifiso se-hierarchy. Vumela ukwazi kwakho kuthobeke. Vumela ukucaca kwakho kube mnene. Vumela ukuqonda kwakho kuthule. Awudingi ukumemezela umbono wakho ukuze ube ngokoqobo. Uma ufuna indawo yokuhlola ehlanzekile nesebenzayo, sizokunikeza manje, futhi sikumema ukuthi uyisebenzise ngokuphindaphindiwe ngaphandle kokuyenza ibe ngumthetho oqinile: ngemva kokuhlanganyela nanoma yisiphi isihloko esinzima, zibuze, “Ingabe nginothando kakhulu njengamanje?” Anginalo ulwazi oluningi. Angiqiniseki kakhulu. Anginalo uthando oluningi. Nginesineke kakhulu. Ngikhona kakhudlwana. Ngikwazi ukuba nomunye umuntu onomusa. Uma impendulo ingucha, khona-ke unesiqondiso sakho. Usudlule amandla akho amanje, noma ungene endaweni engakusizi. Buyela emuva. Buyela ekuhambisaneni. Khetha isenzo esilula. Khetha ukulungisa. Khetha ukuphumula. Khetha impilo yangempela. Ngoba leli yiqiniso abaningi kini abalisondelayo: lapho ukwazi kuphakama, isifiso sakho sokudla siyashintsha. Awubi nentshisekelo yokuhlala ngaphakathi kwemigwaqo yezwe elidala, noma ngabe leyo migwaqo iqukethe ukudalulwa kwangempela, ngoba uzizwa, emathanjeni akho, ukuthi amandla akho okuphila ayigugu, futhi uzele ukudala. Uzele umphakathi. Uzele ukuzinikela. Uzele imikhuba ephilayo ekhiqiza isiko elihlukile. Ngakho-ke, njengoba okuningi kwembulwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abaningi kini bazothola ukuthi anizizwa sengathi nizizwa nishesha. Ngeke nizizwe ninesidingo sokukhempa ngaphakathi kwendaba. Nizozizwa nifisa ukuqhubeka nihamba phambili, ukuqhubeka nakha, ukuqhubeka nithanda, ukuqhubeka nokukhetha izinto ezilula zabantu ezilungisa insimu yomphakathi. Lokhu ukuvuthwa. Yilokhu okubukeka ngakho lapho izinkanyezi ziyeka ukuxoxisana ngokuvuka bese ziqala ukuphila ngakho. Anikuphiki okubonakalayo, kodwa anikuvumeli ukuthi kulawule indawo yenu yangaphakathi. Niyakubamba, nibusisa okuyiqiniso, nizibophezele ekuvikelweni nasekuziphenduleni ezindaweni eningazithonya, bese nibuyela emsebenzini wokuba yimvamisa ephilayo abanye abangazizwa. Eqenjini eliqhekekile, into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza ukuhlala uvumelana ngaphandle kokuba lukhuni, ukuhlala uqonda ngaphandle kokuba namahloni, ukuhlala unolwazi ngaphandle kokuba ngumuntu othanda izinto, nokuhlala ungumuntu ngenkathi insimu izama ukuguqula abantu babe yizitha.

Ubunzima, Ukucabanga Okuyinhloko, Nokuqonda Ekudalulweni Komphakathi

Izihluthulelo Eziyinhloko Zomucu Owodwa, Ukuphazamiseka, kanye Neqiniso Lobunzima

Futhi njengoba uzizwa umehluko phakathi kokuqashelwa kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo ohlala ohlelweni lwakho, manje sandisa uhlaka futhi, ngoba enye yezindlela ukuphazamiseka okuthola ngayo amandla ukukholisa ingqondo ukuthi intambo eyodwa ingachaza yonke i-tapestry, futhi lapho ingqondo ikholelwa ukuthi ithole ukhiye owodwa oyinhloko, iba yisivikelo futhi ibe sengozini ngesikhathi esisodwa—ikhuliswe ngoba inomuzwa wokuthi ithwebule yonke indaba, futhi ibe sengozini ngoba manje ingaqondiswa yinoma ubani ofunda ukudonsa leyo ntambo eyodwa. Yingakho, sikubuyisela ngokuphindaphindiwe ebubanzini, ekwakhiweni okukhulu, ekuqondeni ukuthi uMhlaba awushukunyiswa yi-lever eyodwa ngesikhathi, kodwa ngezinhlelo ezixhumene ezingabambisana, zingqubuzane, zifihle, futhi zembule ngasikhathi sinye, ngezinye izikhathi ngezindlela ezibonakala ziphikisana nengqondo eqondile, kodwa zihambisana kahle nethonya elijulile. Sifisa ukusho okuthile ngokucacile ekuqaleni kwalesi sigaba: ubunzima abuyona imbangela yokukhubazeka, futhi ubunzima abuyona imbangela yokungakholwa. Ubunzima bumane buyinto engokoqobo emhlabeni lapho izisusa eziningi zingqubuzana khona, izikhungo eziningi ziyahlangana, futhi abantu abaningi bazama ukulondoloza ukuphepha ngezindlela abaziyo, okuhlanganisa nokulawula, okuhlanganisa nokulandisa, okuhlanganisa nesikhathi. Lapho kufika ukukhululwa komphakathi, ikakhulukazi okuthinta ukuvinjelwa, amandla, kanye nokulimala kokuziphatha, kuvame ukuba yisigaba lapho ama-ajenda amaningi angagibela khona igagasi elifanayo. Kungaba nemizamo yangempela yokuziphendulela. Kungaba nezinqubo zomthetho ezihamba nemingcele. Kungaba nokuzivikela kwezikhungo. Kungaba nezisusa zabezindaba. Kungaba nethuba lezepolitiki. Kungaba nobunjiniyela bezenhlalo. Kungaba nosizi lwabantu oluqotho. Kungaba nokuvusa imizwa. Konke lokhu kungaba khona ngesikhathi esisodwa. Futhi siyakukhumbuza: lapho amandla amaningi esebenza ndawonye, ​​​​ingqondo izofisa isigebengu esilula, iqhawe elilula, indaba eyodwa, ngoba ukulula kuzwakala njengokuphepha. Kodwa ukuvuthwa ngokomoya akudingi ukulula; kudinga ukuqina ekubunzimeni.

Enye yezindlela ezilula zokulahlekelwa yisikhungo sakho ukudideka ulwazi olungaphelele nencazelo ephelele. Isethi yedokhumenti ingaba ingxenye. Ukuvezwa kungaba ingxenye. Indaba ingaba ingxenye. Ngisho nendaba eyiqiniso ingaba ingxenye. Futhi lapho indaba eyiqiniso kodwa engaphelele iphathwa njengephelele, iyaphambuka, hhayi ngoba amaqiniso angamanga, kodwa ngoba iziphetho zakhiwa ngokweqile. Ingqondo iqala ukugcwalisa izikhala ngokuqagela. Umcabango uqala ukuhlanganisa izilandelana. Indawo yomphakathi iqala ukuvuza isiqiniseko esinesibindi. Ngokushesha uba nomshini wokwakha izinganekwane ohlangene osebenza ngesivinini esigcwele, futhi inganekwane ingaba nezici zeqiniso, kodwa kuseyinganekwane ngoba isetshenziswa njengethuluzi lobunikazi, njengendlela yokuhlunga umphakathi, njengendlela yokuzithola esizweni. Yingakho sikuxwayisa ngokuphatha noma yikuphi ukukhululwa okukodwa "njengesihluthulelo esikhulu." Akukhona ukuthi isihluthulelo asikwazi ukuvula umnyango. Kungukuthi indlu enkulu ozama ukuyiqonda ineminyango eminingi, amaphasishi amaningi, amazinga amaningi, kanye nabantu abaningi abahamba ngesikhathi esisodwa.

Isikhathi, Imicimbi Engahleliwe, Nogibe Lokuqiniseka Kwangaphambi Kwesikhathi

Siphinde sikucele ukuthi ucabangele ukuthi isikhathi sisebenza kanjani emhlabeni wakho. Isikhathi asikona nje lapho kwenzeka okuthile; isikhathi siyindlela into ehlelwe ngayo, lapho yethulwa, yini enye eyenzekayo ngenkathi yethulwa, yiziphi iziteshi ezikhulisayo, yimaphi amazwi aphakanyisiwe, yimaphi amazwi alahlwayo, yimiphi imizwa ekhuthazwayo, nokuthi yimaphi amaqembu avuselelwa ekuxabaneni. Isikhathi siwuhlobo lwamandla. Ngakho-ke, lapho kufika ukukhululwa, abanye kini banomuzwa wokuthi, “Lokhu bekungahleliwe.” Lowo mbono ungase ube nokunemba. Kodwa ingqondo ivame ukugxuma isuka kokuthi “hhayi ngokungahleliwe” iye kokuthi “ngakho-ke ngiyazi isizathu esigcwele.” Sikumema ukuthi wehlise ijubane khona lapho. Akukho okungahleliwe akusho ukuthi nenjongo eyodwa. Akukho okungahleliwe kungasho injongo ehlanganisiwe. Akukho okungahleliwe kungasho amandla ancintisanayo. Akukho okungahleliwe kungasho umfutho wehhovisi ohlangana nezikhuthazo zabezindaba. Akukho okungahleliwe kungasho izinqubo zomthetho ezingqubuzana nemijikelezo yezepolitiki. Akukho okungahleliwe kungasho ukubonakala kwemvelo kwentambo esifinyelele iphuzu layo lokucindezela. Isimo esihlakaniphile sithi: yebo, isikhathi sibalulekile, futhi cha, awudingi ukuphoqa incazelo esheshayo nephelele.

Sigcizelela lokhu ngoba lapho umzimba wakho ukholelwa ukuthi uthole isiqiniseko, uyeka ukulalela. Futhi lapho uyeka ukulalela, uyeka ukufunda. Uyeka ukuzivumelanisa nezimo. Uyeka ukuqonda. Uyeka ukucasuka. Futhi ukucasuka kuphazanyiswa kalula yimininingwane elandelayo ephikisanayo, indaba elandelayo ephikisayo, ukucasulwa ngokomzwelo okulandelayo. Yile ndlela abantu abaphonswa ngayo: isiqiniseko, bese bewa; isiqiniseko, bese bewa; isiqiniseko, bese bewa. Kudala ukukhathala. Kudala ukuphelelwa yithemba. Kudala umuzwa wokuthi iqiniso alinakufinyeleleka. Futhi kulokho kuphelelwa yithemba, izidalwa eziningi ziyahoxa zibe ukunganaki, noma ziqine zibe yinzondo, noma ziba umlutha wokuqagela ngoba ukuqagela kubanika umuzwa wesikhashana wokulawula. Akukho neyodwa yale miphumela ekhonza izwe elisha olizalayo.

Ukuhlelwa kabusha, Ukungazi, kanye Nendlela Ephakathi Yokuqonda

Manje, ake sisho isici esibaluleke kakhulu salokhu: ukuhlehliswa, ukushiywa, kanye nokungahambisani. Embusweni wakho, lokhu kungenzeka ngezizathu eziningi—ezinye zivikela, ezinye zilandela inqubo, ezinye zizisebenzela, ezinye zilandela amasu. Ingqondo evuthiwe ayihumushi ukuhlehliswa ngokuzenzakalelayo njengobufakazi bokonakala okuphelele, futhi ayihumushi ukuhlehliswa ngokuzenzakalelayo njengobufakazi bokungabi nacala. Iyaqaphela ukuthi ukwethulwa kolwazi olungaphezulu kulolongwe izinhlelo ezinemingcele nezisusa. Ngakho-ke, ukuba khona kwezingcezu ezingekho akusona isimemo sokwethuka; kuyisimemo sokubekezela. Ukubekezela akusikho ukungabi nandaba. Ukubekezela kuyikhono lokubamba ukungaqiniseki ngaphandle kokudala ukuqiniseka okungamanga ukuze uziduduze. Yebo zingane zezinkanyezi ezithandekayo, siniqondisa emisipheni “yokungazi” njengamandla kunokuba ubuthakathaka, ngoba ukungazi okubanjwe enhliziyweni kudala ukuvuleka, futhi ukuvuleka kuvumela iqiniso elijulile ukuthi lifike ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kokubamba kwakho ngokomzwelo.

Sifuna futhi uqaphele ukuthi uma kukhona ubunzima, ingqondo ingaphendukela ezintweni ezimbili ezibucayi. Esinye esibucayi sithi, “Akukho lutho olungathenjwa, konke kuyinkohliso,” futhi lokhu kudala ukuphelelwa yithemba nokuzihlukanisa. Esinye esibucayi sithi, “Konke kuhambisana kahle nombono wami,” futhi lokhu kudala ukuqiniseka okukhulu kanye nobudlova emphakathini. Zombili lezi zinto ezibucayi ziyizinhlobo zokubamba. Zombili lezi zinto ezibucayi zidala ukuqhekeka. Zombili lezi zinto ezibucayi ziqeda amandla okuphila okudala. Indlela ephakathi ukuqonda: ikhono lokuhlola ngaphandle kokudliwa, ikhono lokubamba amathuba amaningi ngaphandle kokuguqula amathuba abe ubuwena, ikhono lokuthi, “Ngiyabona amaphethini,” ngaphandle kokuthi, “Ngingumnikazi wendaba yokugcina.” Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu kulabo kini abazibiza ngokuthi bayizimbewu zezinkanyezi, ngoba abaningi kini banokuqaphela okunamandla kwephethini kanye nokuzwa okunamandla okunengqondo, futhi lezi zipho zingokoqobo. Kodwa ngisho nezipho zangempela zingasetshenziswa uma zingahlangani nokuthobeka. Ukuthobeka lapha akusho ukungabaza; kusho ukuthi awuguquli ukuqonda kube ubugovu. Awuguquli ukuqonda kube ukuphakama. Awuguquli ukuqonda kube yisikhali. Uma wenza kanjalo, uba yingxenye yokuqhekeka. Uma ungakwenzi lokho, uba yingxenye yokuzinza.

Ukubambelela Ebudlelwaneni Bangaphakathi, Izindima Zomsebenzi, kanye Nezicupho Zokudalula Uchungechunge Olulodwa

Sizokwabelana, ngendlela engokoqobo, ngalokho esikubona njengogibe oluyisisekelo: isifiso sengqondo sokulawula ukungakhululeki ngokomzwelo kokuphila eplanethini eguqukayo. Umhlaba usesijikelezweni esivezayo. Izakhiwo ezindala zingaphansi kwengcindezi. Abantu bavuka ngezindlela ezingalingani. Ukwethembana kuyashintshashintsha. Iningi lenu lingazizwa sengathi umhlaba omdala awuzinzile ngesimo sawo samanje. Futhi lapho umhlaba omdala uzizwa ungazinzile, ingqondo ibamba isiqiniseko noma kuphi lapho ingasithola khona. Ukukhululwa okukhulu komphakathi kungazizwa sengathi kuqinisekile. Kungazizwa sengathi, “Manje sengiyaqonda.” Kodwa uma uqinisa ukuzinza kwakho ngokomzwelo ekwambulweni kwangaphandle, uzonyakaziswa yiwo wonke amagagasi. Uzophila ngokusabela. Uzoqondiswa yisihloko esilandelayo. Sikucela ukuthi uqinise kwenye indawo: ekuxhumaneni kwakho kwangaphakathi noMthombo, ezindinganisweni zakho zokuphila, ezenzweni zakho zansuku zonke zobuqotho, emandleni athule okuba khona.

Ngoba nakhu esifuna ukukuqonda: ukuguquguquka kwangemuva kwezehlakalo kungokoqobo, kodwa awudingi ukumaka yonke imihubhe efihliwe ukuze uhlale emsebenzini wakho. Kunezidalwa emhlabeni wakho ezinendima yokuphenya. Zivumele ziphenye. Kunezidalwa ezinendima yokushushisa. Zivumele zishushise. Kunezidalwa ezinendima yokululeka nokuphulukisa. Zivumele zelaphe. Indima yakho, uma usizwa ngokuzwakalayo, ivame ukuhlala iyi-node ehambisanayo—umuntu ongaba nozwelo nokucaca ngesikhathi esisodwa, umuntu ongavimba umphakathi ukuthi ungazahlukanisi, umuntu ongakwazi ukulingisa indlela yokuba ngumuntu ngaphandle kokuba nonya, umuntu ongakhumbuza abanye ukuthi ikusasa lakhiwa yilokho esikukhethayo ngokulandelayo, hhayi kuphela ngalokho esikudalulayo. Manje, sizongena ngokujulile, ngoba abanye kini banomuzwa wokuthi ukudalulwa kwesinye isizinda kuvame ukuhlangana nokudalulwa okukhulu ezizindeni eziningi: ukubusa, ezezimali, ubuchwepheshe, abezindaba, umlando, ngisho namaqiniso emkhathini. Asikho lapha kulo myalezo ukukudonsela enkingeni yezimangalo. Silapha ukuzokhomba isimiso: lapho izendlalelo eziningi zishintsha ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukuhumusha ngomucu owodwa kuba yingozi kakhulu, ngoba kungakuholela ekugxileni ngokweqile emcimbini ongokomfanekiso ngenkathi uphuthelwa ukunyakaza okubanzi kokuguqulwa okwenzekayo eqenjini lonke. Kungakuholela ekushiseni wonke amandla akho emzileni owodwa kuyilapho impilo yakho yonke—ubudlelwano bakho, impilo yakho, ubuhlakani bakho, insizakalo yakho—inganakekelwa. Bese kuthi, noma ngabe iqiniso elikhulu liba sobala, uphelelwe amandla kakhulu ukubamba iqhaza ekwakheni lokho okuthatha indawo endala. Yingakho sikubuyisela ngokuphindaphindiwe emazwini owawusuvele uzizwa ezingxenyeni zangaphambilini: akuhlakaniphile ukufunda okuningi kakhulu entweni eyodwa. Hhayi ngoba ayinandaba. Ngoba akuyona yonke into. Futhi uma uyiphatha njengeyonke, uba sengozini yokukhohliswa yinoma ubani ongakunikeza incazelo ethokozisa ukuqiniseka kwakho. Sikubona lokhu njalo: abantu abalambele incazelo baba lula ukubaqoqa emakamu, kulula ukubabangela ezingxabanweni zomphakathi, kulula ukubaqeda amandla baze baphelelwe yithemba. Isixazululo akukhona ukungazi. Isixazululo ukuqonda okubanzi.

Konke Kuxhumene, Ukulinganisela Kokungena, Nokuhambisana Njengokusebenza Kwangempela

Sifisa futhi ukusho ukuthi "konke kuxhumene" kungaba kanjani ugibe uma kusetshenziswa njengesizathu sokuxosha izixhumanisi ezingapheli. Yebo, konke kuxhumene. Kodwa wena, njengomuntu, unaka okulinganiselwe. Ngakho-ke, umkhuba awukona ukulandela yonke inethiwekhi; ukukhetha ukuthi yikuphi ukuxhumana okubalulekile ngendima yakho kanye nempilo yakho. Umuntu owakha isikhungo somphakathi akadingi ukwazi yonke imigwaqo eyimfihlo emkhakheni wezepolitiki ukuze akhe isikhungo somphakathi. Umzali okhulisa ingane ngothando akadingi ukuphawula okungapheli ukuze akhulise ingane ngothando. Umphilisi osiza abanye ukulawula ukuhlukumezeka akadingi ukujikeleza phakathi kokuqagela okungapheli ukuze asize abanye balawule ukuhlukumezeka. Umdali owenza ubuciko obuphakamisa iqembu akadingi ukuhlala ebumnyameni ukuze apende ukukhanya. Indima yakho inquma ubudlelwano bakho obufanele nobunzima. Ngakho-ke sikunikeza isimiso esiqondisayo esikugcina uphephile ngaphandle kokukwenza ungabi nangqondo: vumela ulwazi luhambisane nesenzo. Uma ungathathi isinyathelo namuhla esidinga elinye ihora lokudla, khona-ke ungathathi elinye ihora lokudla. Uma ukudla kwakho kukhulisa ukukhungatheka ngenkathi kunciphisa ukuziphatha okwakhayo, akusasebenzi. Uma ukudla kwakho kukwenza ube nolaka kulabo obathandayo, akusasebenzi. Uma ukudla kwakho kudla ngokuba ngcono, akusasebenzi. Uma ukudla kwakho kukwenza ukhohlwe ukudla, ukuphumula, ukuthinta utshani, ukukhuluma ngomusa, ukudala, ukuthandaza, ukuhleka, khona-ke ukudla kwakho sekuyindlela yokuzidela.

Siyazi ukuthi abanye kini bazomelana nalesi seluleko ngoba ingxenye yenu ikholelwa ukuthi ukuqina kulingana nokusebenza kahle. Kodwa-ke siyanitshela: ukusebenza kahle kakhulu ukuvumelana. Ukuvumelana yikho okuvumela ukuthi kuvele isenzo esihlakaniphile. Ukuvumelana yikho okuvumela ukuqonda ukuthi kusebenze. Ukuvumelana yikho okuvumela ukuthi ukhulume ngaphandle konya. Ukuvumelana yikho okuvumela ukuthi uzizwe usizi ngaphandle kokuwa. Ukuvumelana yikho okuvumela ukuthi ubhekane neqiniso ngaphandle kokuliguqula libe yisikhali. Njengoba uqhubeka nalesi sigaba phambili, sikumema ukuthi uzijwayeze into ebonakala ilula kodwa, empeleni, ithuthukile: bamba ubunzima ngaphandle kokuwa ube umlutha wendaba. Bamba amathuba okuthi amandla amaningi ayahamba ngaphandle kokudinga ukuwasho wonke. Bamba ukuqaphela ukuthi isikhathi siyindlela ehlelekile ngaphandle kokuguqula yonke into ibe yimephu eyodwa yozungu. Bamba ukuzibophezela ebulungiseni ngaphandle kokuguqula impilo yakho ibe yigumbi lokuthukuthela. Bamba isifiso seqiniso ngaphandle kokwenza iqiniso libe yisizathu sokulahlekelwa ubuntu bakho. Futhi sizophetha lesi sigaba khona kanye emngceleni olandelayo: ngoba uma uyeka ukuzama ukuxazulula yonke i-tapestry ngentambo eyodwa, uqala ukutholakala kohlobo oluhlukile lomsebenzi, umsebenzi othule futhi ojulile—uqala ukuba khona okuzinzile ezweni lakho, umuntu ongasiza abanye bahlale bengabantu, bahlale bexhumene, futhi bahlale begxile ekwakheni okulandelayo, ngisho noma izakhiwo ezindala zishaya futhi zembula futhi zizama ukudonsa ukunaka emuva emigwaqweni engapheli yokusabela.

Umusa Ovamile, Ukuphepha Okuncane, Nokuvuselelwa Kwamasiko Emhlabeni Omusha

Izinqumo Ezivamile, Isiko Lomhlaba Omusha, kanye Nomthelela Ekuxhumaneni Komuntu Nomuntu

Ngakho-ke, njengoba singena kulesi sigaba esilandelayo, singazizwa kanjani ukuthi izingqondo zenu zingase zizame kanjani ukuhlukanisa lokho esizokusho ngokuthi “okuncane,” njengokungathi okumnene akunakuba namandla, njengokungathi okujwayelekile akunakuba yisu, njengokungathi umusa umane nje umhlobiso omuhle obekwe phezu komhlaba oqhutshwa amandla aqinile. Futhi siyanikhumbuza, ngejubane nesakhiwo enisicele ukuba sihlale sithembekile kuso, ukuthi okujwayelekile kuyindlela lapho okungavamile kuba khona okuzinzile, ngoba uMhlaba Omusha awuyona into edlula impilo yakho yansuku zonke; kuyisiko eliphilayo, futhi isiko lenziwa ngalokho okukhetha ngokuphindaphindiwe ngezikhathi ezingabukeki zimangalisa. Lapho insimu ehlangene ishukunyiswa izambulo, amahemuhemu, imijikelezo yentukuthelo, kanye nomuzwa wokuthi izinto ezifihliwe ziyavela, omunye wemibuzo ebaluleke kakhulu uba: lokhu kwenzani ekuxhumaneni komuntu nomuntu? Ingabe kwenza abantu basole kakhulu. Ingabe kubenza babe nolaka kakhulu? Ingabe kubenza baphume bodwa? Ingabe kubenza baphathe umashi, umakhelwane, ilungu lomndeni, umuntu ongamazi ku-inthanethi, njengesitha, njengesiwula, njengophawu. Ngoba yilapho inkundla yempi ikhona ngempela—hhayi kudatha ngokwayo, kodwa endleleni idatha esetshenziswa ngayo ukuphula isisekelo senhlalo noma ukuvusa isisekelo senhlalo sibe sesivuthiweni esijulile.

Umusa Njengomthetho Wesistimu Yezinzwa kanye Nezindlela Zokuphepha Ezinamandla

Sikutshelile ukuthi umusa awubuthakathaka, futhi sizokusho futhi ngendlela ewusizo: umusa uhlobo lomthetho. Kuyisibonakaliso ohlelweni lwezinzwa ukuthi ukuphepha kungaba khona lapho kukhona ukungaqiniseki. Kuyisibonakaliso ensimini yobudlelwano ukuthi abantu basengakhetha ukunakekelwa ngenkathi umhlaba unomsindo. Kuyisibonakaliso engqondweni ukuthi umuntu akadingi ukuba nonya ukuze abe nobuhlakani. Futhi lapho inani elanele lezidalwa likhetha umusa phakathi kokukhungatheka okuhlangene, yonke insimu iba yinto engashisi kakhulu. Lokhu akuyona ifilosofi. Lokhu kuyindlela yamandla. Uhlelo lwezinzwa olulawulwayo alusetshenziswa kalula. Umphakathi olawulwayo awuhlukani kalula. Inhliziyo elawulwayo ayisetshenziswa kalula.

Imikhuba Yokuphepha Okuncane Njengomsebenzi Olula Othuthukisiwe Empilweni Yansuku Zonke

Ngakho-ke, sifuna ukukhuluma ngqo nezinkanyezi kanye nabasebenzi bokukhanya, ngoba iningi lenu linomkhuba wokukholelwa ukuthi umnikelo wenu kumele ube mkhulu, ukuthi insizakalo yenu kumele ilinganiswe ngokuthi ningakwazi ukumunca okungakanani, ukuthi ningakwazi ukuguqulela okungakanani, nokuthi ningakwazi ukuthwala okungakanani, futhi siyanikhumbuza ukuthi enye yezindlela ezithuthuke kakhulu zomsebenzi wokukhanya ukudala njalo ukuphepha okuncane endaweni eseduze. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho ukhuluma kancane kunokuba ukhulume ngokuqhafaza. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho ubheka umuntu emehlweni bese umbona ngempela. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho ungaphazamisi. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho uxolisa ngokuhlanzekile. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho ungahlebi. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho uzimisele ukuthi, “Angazi,” ngaphandle kokuguqula ukungaqiniseki kube yimpikiswano. Ukuphepha okuncane kudalwa lapho uletha ukufudumala ekhaya lakho, ukuhleleka endaweni yakho, amanzi emzimbeni wakho, ukuphumula ohlelweni lwakho. Lezi zenzo zibukeka zincane engqondweni eqeqeshwe ukuxosha umbukwane, kodwa zikhulu ensimini, ngoba ziqinisa ithuluzi lomuntu lapho amaza aphezulu angageleza khona ngempela.

Ukugcwala Kokudalulwa, Ulaka Noma Ukungabi Nangqondo, kanye Nokusetshenziswa Kwesiko Kokuziphatha Okuhle

Manje, kunesizathu esijulile sokuthi lokhu kubalulekile kulo mjikelezo wamanje, futhi sifisa ukuthi uzizwe: lapho amagagasi okudalula edlula emhlabeni wakho, kungaba sezinkundleni zezepolitiki, ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, noma kwezinye izindawo, uhlelo lwezinzwa oluhlangene lungagcwala. Ukugcwala kuveza omunye wemiphumela emithathu evame kakhulu: ulaka, ukuwa, noma ukuba ndikindiki. Ulaka luhlasela ngaphandle. Ukuwa kuhoxa ngaphakathi. Ukuba ndikindiki kuyanqamuka. Akukho neyodwa yale miphumela eyakha okusha. Nokho, umusa ubuyisela abantu ebukhoneni. Ubuyisela ukuxhumana. Uvuselela ubuntu. Futhi ukuvuselelwa kobuntu akuyona imizwa; kuyisakhiwo. Umphakathi ongenabo ubuntu ungabekezelela unya. Umphakathi ohlaziyiwe awukwazi ukubekezelela ngendlela efanayo, ngoba uzwela luphinde lusebenze, futhi uzwela lufuna izinhlelo ezingcono. Siyazi ukuthi abanye kini bangase bathi, "Kodwa umusa awushushisi izigebengu." Kodwa-ke siyanikhumbuza ukuthi ukushushiswa kwenzeka ngaphakathi kwamasiko, futhi amasiko abunjwa yilokho abantu abakwenza kube yinjwayelo. Uma abantu bekwenza kube yinjwayelo ukwedelela, bazobekezelela izinhlelo ezakhiwe ngokwedelela. Uma abantu bekwenza kube yinjwayelo ukunakekelwa, bazofuna izinhlelo ezakhiwe ngokwedelela. Ngakho-ke ungawuthathi kalula amandla amasiko okuziphatha okuhle okuvamile. Kushintsha okulindelwe okuyisisekelo kwalokho okwamukelekayo. Kushintsha lokho abantu abazokuvumela. Kushintsha lokho abantu abazokungabaza. Kushintsha lokho abantu abazokuvikela.

Umusa, Izenzo Zokulungisa, Nezinto Ezilula Zobuntu Ezikhathini Zokuphazamiseka Okuhlangene

Ukwenqaba Ukudlulisa Ukuphazamiseka Kwengqondo Phambili Nokukhetha Izenzo Zokulungisa Zansuku Zonke

Siphinde sikukhumbuze ngento evame ukuphuthelwa: lapho abantu bevuselelwa ngokomzwelo ulwazi olunzima, bavame ukulukhipha kumuntu oseduze kakhulu, okungavamile ukuba umthombo wangempela wokulimala. Balukhipha kubangani, ozakwethu, abantu ongabazi ku-inthanethi, izisebenzi zesevisi, amalungu omndeni. Basakaza ukungasebenzi kwabo, futhi insimu igcwele umonakalo obalulekile. Enye yezindlela ezinembile kakhulu zobuholi obungokomoya kulesi sikhathi ukwenqaba ukudlulisa ukungasebenzi kahle phambili. Uzwa ukushisa, uyakubona, uyaphefumula, ukhetha impendulo engasabalalisi umlilo. Lokhu akukhona ukucindezela. Lokhu kuwubungcweti. Umehluko phakathi kokuba yindlela yokuxhumanisa isiphithiphithi esihlangene nokuba yisiqinisi esiphazamisa isiphithiphithi esihlangene. Futhi manje sifisa ukuba ngokoqobo kakhulu, ngoba lesi sigaba senzelwe ukuphilwa, hhayi nje ukuvunyelwana ngaso. Ezikhathini lapho ingqondo ehlangene idonselwa ekuqageleni nasekuxabaneni kokuziphatha, sikumema ukuthi ukhethe "isenzo sokulungisa" esisodwa sansuku zonke, into ongayimemezeli, into ongayiyenzi ku-inthanethi, into engokoqobo nje. Kungaba umlayezo kumuntu omdelelekile, hhayi ukuxolisa okukhulu, kodwa ukufinyelela kwangempela. Kungase kube ukuphatha ukudla komuntu omdala. Kungase kube ukuletha ukudla kumngane. Kungase kube ukuhlala ngemva komhlangano womphakathi ukuze kubekwe izihlalo. Kungase kube ukuhlanza ikhaya lakho ukuze indawo okuyo iyeke ukondla ukuphazamiseka kwangaphakathi. Kungase kube ukuvala idivayisi nokuhlala nengane yakho ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kungase kube ukuhambahamba nokubingelela abantu ongabazi njengabantu. Kungase kube ukunikeza ithiphu ngomusa. Kungase kube ukulalela ngaphandle kokuzama ukulungisa. Kungase kube ukukhetha ukunganqobi impikiswano. Lezi zenzo zincane ngomqondo wokuthi ziyenzeka, kodwa zinkulu ngomqondo wokuthi zibhala kabusha insimu.

Umusa Njengokuvikelwa Okuvamile kanye Namandla Ezinto Ezilula Zabantu

Sikumema futhi ukuthi uqonde ukuthi umusa uyindlela yokuvikela imvamisa. Uma ukhetha umusa, ugcina inhliziyo yakho itholakala. Uma inhliziyo yakho itholakala, uhlala uxhumene noMthombo. Uma uhlala uxhumene noMthombo, uhlala uqondiswa. Uma uhlala uqondiswa, ungenza ngokuhlakanipha. Uma wenza ngokuhlakanipha, inkonzo yakho iba yimpumelelo. Uma ulahlekelwa umusa, uvame ukulahlekelwa isiqondiso, ngoba ungena esimweni lapho ingqondo isebenza khona, futhi ingqondo, engaphansi kosongo, ivame ukukhetha amasu okulawula kunokuba ithande amasu. Ngakho-ke, umusa awugcini nje ngokuba nobuntu; uyindlela yokuhamba. Ukugcina uqondiswe. Manje, sizokhuluma ngomqondo "wezinto ezilula zabantu," ngoba ucele ukuthi lokhu kufakwe, futhi kubalulekile. Izinto ezilula zabantu azizona iziphazamiso ekuvukeni; ziyisigaba lapho ukuvuka kuqinisekiswa khona. Kulula ukukhuluma ngokunyuka ngenkathi udelela umlingani wakho. Kulula ukukhuluma ngobunye ngenkathi udelela umakhelwane wakho. Kulula ukukhuluma ngokuqonda ngenkathi udelela umzimba wakho. Izinto ezilula zabantu—ukulala, ukudla, amanzi, ukunyakaza, ukuthinta, ukuhleka, ukudlala, ukulalela, ubungane, ukudla okwabelwana ngakho, ingxoxo eqotho—azikho ngaphansi komoya; ziyizitsha ezibamba imvamisa yokomoya. Uma ungayinaki isikebhe, uyavuza. Futhi uma uvuza, usengozini enkulu yegagasi elihlangene, usengozini enkulu yomjikelezo wentukuthelo, usengozini enkulu yesilingo sokuguqula ulwazi lube umlutha wemizwa.

Umusa Wangempela Uma Uqhathaniswa Nobuhle Obungokomoya Nokugxila Kulokho Ongakuthinta

Sifisa futhi ukuvuma ukuthi abanye kini, uma nizwa “umusa,” bazocabanga ngokushesha “ngobuhle obungokomoya,” futhi asikukhuthazi lokho. Umusa awukona ukugwema iqiniso. Umusa iqiniso elinikezwa ngaphandle konya. Umusa uyimingcele enikezwa ngaphandle kwenzondo. Umusa ukuqonda okunikezwa ngaphandle kokuhlazeka. Umusa ukuzimisela ukuvikela ababuthakathaka ngenkathi usakhumbula ukuthi ngisho nalabo abadidekile basengabantu. Umusa awusho ukuthi uyakwamukela ukulimala. Kusho ukuthi awubi yingozi ngenkathi uphikisa ukulimala. Lo mehluko uyikho konke. Izinguquko eziningi ziyahluleka ngoba abavukeli baba yizifanekiso zalokho abakuphikisayo, bephethe indelelo efanayo, ukwehliswa kwabantu okufanayo, indlala efanayo yokubusa. Umhlaba Omusha awunakwakhiwa ngaleyo ndlela. Kudinga indlela entsha, isimo esisha semizwa, ukuziphatha okusha kobudlelwano. Manje, sifuna ukuxhumanisa lokhu ngqo nezindlela zokuphazamisa esixoxe ngazo. Icebo elikhulu lesakhiwo esidala ukukugcina ugxile kulokho ongakwazi ukukuthonya, ukuze udebeselele lokho ongakwazi ukukuthonya. Ungathonya ithoni yakho. Ungathonya indawo yasekhaya lakho. Ungathonya amasiko akho ansuku zonke. Ungathonya indlela okhuluma ngayo nomndeni wakho. Ungathonya indlela ophatha ngayo umphakathi wakho. Ungathonya ukuthi unikela yini ekuhlebeni noma ekulungiseni. Ungathonya ukuthi usakaza uvalo noma usakaze ukuthula. Lawa akuzona izithonya ezincane; ayizakhi zokwakha isiko. Lapho abantu abaningi bekhetha la mathonya, kulandela ukushintshashintsha kwe-macro, ngoba i-macro yenziwe ngama-micro amaningi.

Imisebenzi Yomhlaba Omusha, Abaphathi Bokuhambisana, Nokubeka Ubudlelwano Obuseduze Eqhulwini

Siphinde sikukhumbuze ukuthi "imisebenzi yoMhlaba Omusha," njengoba usho, ayizona nje izenzakalo zesikhathi esizayo. Ziyizinketho zamanje ezikuvumelanisa neqiniso elihlukile manje. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha wakha umbuthano wendawo wokusekela. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha uqala ingadi yomphakathi. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha udala ubuciko obuphakamisayo. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha ukhetha ibhizinisi lokuziphatha. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha ufundisa izingane ukulawula imizwa. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha uwukuzithandela. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha ukwabelana ngezinsiza. Umsebenzi woMhlaba Omusha ufunda ukuxazulula izingxabano. Lezi zenzo zingase zibonakale zingahlobene nomjikelezo wehlazo lomphakathi, kodwa zihlobene ngqo ngoba zakha ingqalasizinda eyenza umhlaba ube nobulungisa. Uma uvumela umjikelezo wehlazo ukuthi udle amandla akho okuphila, ubambezela ukwakhiwa kwaleyo ngqalasizinda. Ake sikhulume futhi ngendima enamandla yenkanyezi ensimini yezenhlalo. Iningi lenu lilapha njengabaphethe ukuvumelana. Lesi akusona isihloko esihle. Kungumsebenzi ophilayo. Umnikazi wokuvumelana ngumuntu ongangena egumbini lapho abantu bexinekile futhi, ngaphandle kokushumayela, ngaphandle kokulawula, ngaphandle kokwenza, athambise insimu ngokuba khona. Bayalalela. Bayaphefumula. Bakhuluma kancane. Baqinisekisa imizwa ngaphandle kokudla uvalo. Babuza imibuzo ngaphandle kokusola. Bakhumbuza abanye ngobuntu obufanayo. Baqondisa esenzweni esakhayo. Akudingeki babe ngabakhuluma kakhulu. Akudingeki babe nolwazi oluningi. Badinga nje ukuzinza. Ngezikhathi zokuphazamiseka kweqembu, isidalwa esizinzile siwumuthi.

Ukwandisa Umusa, Ukuvikela Ubudlelwano Obubalulekile, Nokuzinikela Ngesikhathi Esithule

Futhi manje sizoletha iseluleko esiqondile kakhulu, ngoba kungenye yezindlela eziphumelela kakhulu zokuvimbela ukuqhekeka: beka phambili ubudlelwano bakho obuseduze kunentukuthelo yakho ekude. Uma unomlingani, umlingani wakho ungumkhuba wakho. Uma unomndeni, umndeni wakho ungumkhuba wakho. Uma unabangane, abangani bakho bawumkhuba wakho. Uma unomphakathi, umphakathi wakho ungumkhuba wakho. Ukuzijwayeza akusho ukuthi ubekezelela ukulimala; kusho ukuthi uphatha lobu budlelwano njengezindawo ezingcwele zokubonakalisa izindinganiso zakho. Unganikeli umshado wakho emjikelezweni wokucasuka. Unganikeli umuzwa wokuphepha wengane yakho ekuthandeni kwakho izindaba. Unganikeli ubungane bakho ekuhlolweni kokuhlanzeka kwemibono. Lokhu kuzidela akuvezi ubulungiswa; kukhiqiza isizungu nokuqhekeka, kanti ukuqhekeka kuyinhlabathi lapho kukhula khona ukuphelelwa yithemba. Sikumema futhi ukuthi uqonde ukuthi umusa uyanda. Uma unomusa kumuntu oyedwa, uvame ukuthonya ukuxhumana okulandelayo lowo muntu anakho. Uma uzinzisa othile, abasabeli kahle kumuntu olandelayo. Yile ndlela insimu eshintsha ngayo. Ungase ucabange ukuthi umusa wakho awubalulekile ngoba awuthambeki. Kodwa ukuthambekela akusona isilinganiso sokuguquka. Ukuguquka kuyisilinganiso sokuguquka. Futhi ukuguqulwa kuvame ukuhamba buthule ekuqaleni, njengezimpande ngaphansi komhlabathi, kwakha amandla ngaphambi kokuba kuvele noma yini ebonakalayo. Ngakho-ke, njengoba silungiselela ukungena esigabeni sokugcina ngemva kwalokhu, sicela ukuthi uvumele isigaba sesihlanu sibe yimfundiso ephilayo kunokuba kube umcabango ophefumulelayo: usuku ngalunye, khetha isenzo esisodwa esilula somuntu esenza umhlaba uphephe kancane, ube nomusa kancane, uqondane kancane. Kwenze ngaphandle kwesimemezelo. Kwenze ngaphandle kokudinga isivumelwano. Kwenze njengesenzo sokuzinikela esikhathini osifinyelele kuso. Ngoba ekugcineni, okuchitha izakhiwo ezindala akugcini nje ngokudalulwa. Kungukushintshwa. Kungukwakhiwa okuqhubekayo kwesiko lapho ukuxhashazwa kungenakucasha khona ngoba abantu baxhumene, bakhona, banesibindi, futhi bayakhathalela. Futhi njengoba ubambelele kulokho, sesikulungele ukukungenisa esenzweni sesithupha salo myalezo, lapho sizokhuluma khona nge-arc ephezulu, indlela ukuqonda okuguquka ngayo kuze kube yilapho ngisho nezambulo ezibalulekile zingasenazo isikhungo sakho semizwa, ngoba isikhungo sakho sesithuthele ekudalweni, emphakathini, ekuqhubekeni phambili, empilweni ehlanganisiwe yoMhlaba Omusha ongawuthembi nje kuphela, kodwa oqala ukuwuphila. Futhi manje, njengoba sifika kule ntshukumo yokugcina, sikumema ukuthi uzwe ushintsho lwezwi olungesilo ukushintsha iqiniso, kodwa ukushintsha ukuya endaweni enkulu iqiniso elihloselwe ukuyisebenzela, ngoba asilethi ulwazi njengesiphetho ngokwalo, sinikeza ukuqondiswa, sinikeza ukuhlaziywa kwamandla, sinikeza ukubuyela engxenyeni yakho engafakaza ngaphandle kokuba ngumuntu, futhi sikubuyisela, ngokuphindaphindiwe, ekuqaphelisweni ukuthi ukuqonda kwakho akuyona umdlalo wababukeli—kuyinjini yesikhathi sakho.

Umbono Ophakeme Wokuqaphela, Ubudala Obungokomoya, Nokudalwa Komhlaba Omusha Okuhlanganisiwe

Ukuvuthwa Kancane Kancane, Ukushintsha Kokudla, Nombuzo Wokuthi Yini Okufanele Uyithwale

Kukhona ukuvuthwa abaningi kini ababhekana nakho njengamanje, futhi kucashile ngokwanele ukuthi ingqondo ingakuphuthelwa ngenkathi kwenzeka, ngoba ingqondo ivame ukukala intuthuko ngezikhathi ezivusa imizwa eziphawulekayo, ngokuvuka okungazelelwe, ngokushaqeka kwesambulo, ngamandla e-catharsis, kodwa ukuvela ngokomoya kuvame ukuzola kunalokhu. Kungukushintsha kancane kancane kwesifiso sokudla. Kungukushintsha kulokho okuzwakala kufanele ukunakwa kwakho. Kungukushintsha kulokho umzimba wakho ozobekezelela. Kungukushintsha kulokho inhliziyo yakho ezokondla. Futhi abaningi kini bathola, ngezinye izikhathi ngokumangala, ukuthi awukwazi ukuphila ngendlela owawuphila ngayo—awukwazi ukudla ngokungapheli, awukwazi ukuphikisana ngokungapheli, awukwazi ukuzulazula ngokungapheli, awukwazi ukuzijwayeza ukwesaba ngokungapheli—ngoba okuthile okujulile kuwe sekuqalile ukugcizelela ukuthula, hhayi njengesimo sengqondo, kodwa njengesisekelo seqiniso. Sifuna nizwe lokhu ngokucacile: njengoba okuningi kubonakala ezweni lenu, abaningi kini ngeke bakhathalele umbukwane wokuvezwa kodwa bakhathazeke kakhulu ngeqiniso elingokoqobo lalokho enikwakhayo. Hhayi ngoba usuphelelwe yimizwa, futhi hhayi ngoba udlula ubuhlungu, kodwa ngoba ekugcineni usuqalile ukuqonda umehluko phakathi kokufakaza nokukhulekela, phakathi kokubona nokondla, phakathi kokuvuma okwakufihliwe nokuvumela okwakufihliwe ukuba kuphile ngaphandle kokwenza iqiniso libe yinkosi yakho. Lena yindlela ephezulu: uba nekhono lokubamba iqiniso ngaphandle kokwenza iqiniso libe yinkosi yakho. Kulesi sikhathi, lapho into ivele khona—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukukhishwa kwedokhumenti, impikiswano yomphakathi, igagasi lokuphawula, ukwanda kokusolwa—awusheshi ungene enkundleni ehlangene njengokungathi insindiso yakho incike ekuhlanganyeleni. Uyama kancane. Uyaphefumula. Uhlola ukuvumelana kwakho kwangaphakathi. Ubuza, ngobuqotho, umbuzo ohlukanisa ingqondo endala nomqondo omusha: “Yini engizoyenza, nokuthi yini okungeyona eyami okufanele ngiyithwale?” Futhi uma ubuza lowo mbuzo ngokwethembeka, uqala ukuthola ukuthi okuningi kwalokho okwakukudlile ngaphambili kwakungakaze kube isabelo sakho ngempela. Kwakuwukudonsa ngamandla. Kwakuwukudonsa komphakathi. Kwakuwumlutha ohlanganyelwe wokuqina. Kwakuwumkhuba wokuphila ngokusabela. Sifuna futhi ukubhekana nenkulumo oyisebenzisile—“awuzukukhathalela”—futhi uyilungise, ngoba amagama angadukisa uma ethathwa ngendlela elula. Asisho ukuthi uzoba ongenandaba nokulimala. Sisho ukuthi uzokhululeka ekuphoqweni. Uzokhululeka ekubanjweni ngokomzwelo. Uzokhululeka esidingweni sokuqhubeka ubuyela emzileni ofanayo wentukuthelo njengokungathi intukuthelo iwukuphela kobufakazi bokuthi ungumuntu omuhle. Uzokhululeka ekunakekeleni ngendlela ehlanzekile, eyakhayo, futhi ezinzile—ukunakekela okungenza, ukunakekela okungavikela, ukunakekela okungasekela ukuphulukiswa—ngaphandle kokuba ithuluzi elikhathele lentukuthelo. Yilokhu okwenziwa ukuqwashisa okuphezulu: kukwenza kube lula ukuqondisa. Futhi sikutshela, ngendlela efanayo oyibonayo ekudluliseleni kwethu, ukuthi ukuba lula ukuqondisa kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ongaba yizo kulesi sikhathi, ngoba isakhiwo esidala somhlaba wakho asisekelwe kuphela ekusithekeni; sakhiwe ngokubikezela. Siyazi ukuthi singavusa kanjani. Siyazi ukuthi singavusa kanjani ubuwena. Siyazi ukuthi singavusa kanjani ubuzwe. Iyakwazi ukukukhathaza uze uqine ube yiziwula noma uhlehle uye phansi. Umbono ophakeme ukuthi uyeke ukubikezela ngaleyo ndlela. Uyeka ukunikeza amandla akho okuphila ngomyalo.

Ukuphila Okuhleliwe, Ukushintsha Kwemingcele, Nokushintshwa Esikhundleni Sokubalekela

Manje, abanye kini bangase bazibuze: uma ningathululeli amandla enu emphakathini, nihlanganyela kanjani ekwelapheni umhlaba wenu. Futhi siphendula: nihlanganyela ngokubonakalisa, ngokwakha amasiko, ngokwakha okuzinzile kwezinye izindlela. Nihlanganyela ngokuphila sengathi ikusasa lingokoqobo manje, nangokuvumela usuku lwenu lube uhlelo. Uhlelo aluyona inkulumo. Luwumklamo. Luyiphethini ephindaphindwayo. Luyisethi yezindinganiso eziphilwa ngabantu ezivezwa ngokukhetha. Futhi lapho abantu abaningi bephila uhlelo, izinhlelo ziyashintsha ngoba umkhawulo ohlangene uyashintsha. Sikhulume ngemingcele kwezinye izindlela zokudlulisela, futhi sizoletha leso simiso lapha ngaphandle kokusiguqula sibe yinto engabonakali: umkhawulo yiphuzu lapho okujwayelekile okusha kwenzeka khona. Ezweni elidala, izinto eziningi zazibekezelelwa ngoba abantu babehlukene, bekhathele, benamahloni, bengenakuxhumana, noma besaba. Ekuqondeni okusha, izinto eziningi azibekezeleleki hhayi ngoba abantu bethukuthele kakhulu, kodwa ngoba abantu baxhumene kakhulu, bakhona kakhulu, bazimisele kakhulu ukukhuluma ngokuthula, bazimisele kakhulu ukwenza izinto ndawonye, ​​​​bazimisele kakhulu ukuvikela, futhi bazimisele kancane ukuzithethelela. Lokho ukushintsha komkhawulo. Yakhiwa ukuqinisa kwansuku zonke indwangu yobudlelwano—zona kanye “izinto ezilula zabantu” esikuqondise kuzo esenzweni sangaphambilini. Ngakho-ke uma sithi ukunaka kwakho kuzoya emisebenzini yoMhlaba Omusha, asichazi ukuphunyuka. Sichaza ukushintshwa. Ukuziveza kuphela akuyona izwe elisha. Ukuziveza kuwukuqhekeka. Okubalulekile yilokho okwakhayo esikhaleni esivulekayo lapho ikhethini lidonswa emuva. Uma ugcwalisa leso sikhala ngokuphawula okwengeziwe nokulwa okwengeziwe, isikhala siba enye indawo yokudlala. Uma ugcwalisa leso sikhala ngomphakathi, ubuqotho, ubuhlakani, insizakalo, kanye nokunakekelwa okusebenzayo, isikhala siba yisisekelo.

I-Arc Ephakeme Njengokukhetha Kwansuku Zonke, Ubudala Obungokomoya, Nezakhiwo Zokuvikela Ezakhiwe Ngokuvumelana

Manje, sifisa ukukhuluma ngomqondo "womphetho ophakeme" ngendlela eqondene nomuntu siqu, ngoba ngamunye wenu uzohlangana nakho empilweni yakhe njengesikhathi sokuzikhethela. Kuzobukeka kanje: uzozwa ukudonswa kokuhlola futhi, ukufunda futhi, ukuphikisana futhi, ukuvuselela futhi, futhi uzobona ukuthi ukwenza kanjalo kukwenza ube mncane, uqine, ungabi khona kakhulu. Bese uzizwa enye inketho—inketho ethule—ethi, “Vala. Sukuma. Phuza amanzi. Phuma ngaphandle. Khuluma ngomusa nothile. Sebenza entweni oze kuyo ukuzoyidala lapha. Thambekela ebuhlotsheni obukade ungabunaki. Buyela enhliziyweni yakho.” Futhi okokuqala lapho ukhetha inketho ethule, kungase kuzwakale kulula kakhulu ukuba kungabalulekanga. Kodwa lokho kulula kuwubufakazi bokuthi uyaphuma endleleni endala yokukhohlisa. Kuwubufakazi bokuthi awusaphili njengeqabunga emoyeni wengqondo ehlangene. Sifuna uqonde ukuthi lokhu kuphothula akusho ukuthi uyeka ukubona. Kusho ukuthi ubona ngaphandle kokuhudulwa. Kusho ukuthi ungabheka ubunzima kodwa ugcine umgogodla wakho ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakho. Kusho ukuthi ungavuma ububi ngaphandle kokuguqulwa ube yisikhali. Kusho ukuthi ungasekela ukuziphendulela ngaphandle kokuvumela intukuthelo ibe yinkolo yakho. Lokhu kuwukukhula ngokomoya.

Futhi ukuba mdala ngokomoya yilokho kanye umhlaba wakho okudingayo, ngoba kuzoba namagagasi amaningi. Kuzoba nokwembulwa okwengeziwe. Kuzoba nezindaba eziningi eziphikisanayo. Kuzoba nezikhathi eziningi lapho iqembu lizama ukunquma, ngokushesha, ukuthi ubani omuhle nokuthi ubani omubi, ubani ofanele futhi ongekho, ubani okufanele axoshwe futhi ubani okufanele abekwe umqhele. Uma ulandela lezo zifiso, uzosiza ekuphuleni insimu. Uma uhlala emdala ngokomoya, uba yingxenye yomuthi: ukuqonda okuzolile, ukucaca kozwelo, isenzo esakhayo, ukuba khona okuzinzile. Sifuna futhi ukukhuluma nokwesaba okuthile okuhlala ngaphansi kwesibopho sokuqapha lezi zihloko: ukwesaba ukuthi uma uyeka ukunaka, ukulimala kuzoqhubeka kungalawulwa. Lokhu kwesaba kuyaqondakala, futhi kuvela engxenyeni yakho efuna ukuvikela impilo. Kodwa-ke sicela ukuthi uhlole ukuthi ukuqapha njalo kuye kwandisa yini ukuvikelwa endaweni yakho eseduze, noma ukuthi kuye kwandisa yini ukucasuka kwakho kwangaphakathi. Ukuvikelwa akwakhiwa ngokuqwashisa kuphela; kwakhiwe ngezakhiwo. Ngemingcele. Ngokuqapha komphakathi okuhlobene kunokuba kube ukwesaba. Ngemfundo. Ngokunamathela okunempilo. Ngabantu abakhona ngokwanele ukuqaphela lapho kukhona okungahambi kahle emibuthanweni yabo. Ngabadala abalawulwa ngokwanele ukuba babe yizikhonkwane ezithembekile zezingane. Ngamanethiwekhi lapho ubuthakathaka buhlangatshezwa khona ngokuphendula kunokuxoshwa. Lezi yizakhiwo zokuvikela, futhi zakhiwa ngabantu abagcine amandla abo okuphila, hhayi ngabantu abawashise ngokusetshenziswa okungapheli. Ngakho-ke yebo, makube yinto ebalulekile, kodwa makube yinto ebalulekile ngendlela eshintsha umhlaba ngempela: makube yinto evuthiwe. Makube yinto ejulile ekuzibophezeleni kwakho ekwakheni izindawo eziphephile. Makube yinto ecwenge ukuqonda kwakho. Makube yinto ekufundisa ukubaluleka kokubambisana komphakathi. Makube yinto ekhulisa ukuzimisela kwakho ukuba uhlobo lomuntu omdala ongasondela kuye, uhlobo lomngane onokwethenjelwa, uhlobo lomholi ongadingi ukubusa ukuze aphumelele.

Ukuqinisa Ama-Beacons, Ukuqeqeshwa Kwesistimu Yezinzwa, kanye Nekhampasi Ecacile Yokuzibandakanya

Sifuna futhi ukusho iqiniso elinamandla iningi lenu eliqala ukulizwa: uma ubamba imvamisa yakho kancane kancane—ngomusa, ngokuba khona, ngokwenqaba ukusabalalisa i-hysteria—uba yisibani esizinzayo, futhi labo abakuzungezile bangena ngokungazi kulokho kuzinza. Lokhu akuyona inganekwane. Lena indlela izinhlelo zezinzwa ezisebenza ngayo eduze. Umuntu ozolile ekamelweni anganciphisa ukusabela kwegumbi. Izwi eliqinile lingathambisa ingxoxo enzima. Ukuma okunesihawu kungavimbela ukungezwani ukuthi kuphenduke ukwedelela. Lawa amakhono oMhlaba Omusha, futhi angase abukeke engathandeki engqondweni efisa idrama, kodwa yiwo kanye amakhono azothwala isintu phakathi noshintsho ngaphandle kokuzihlukanisa. Manje, ekuvaleni lo mugqa wokudlulisela, sifuna ukukunikeza ikhampasi yangaphakathi ecacile ongayisebenzisa njengoba umhlaba uqhubeka nokuhamba. Kulula ngokwanele ukukhunjulwa futhi kujule ngokwanele ukuba kushintshe impilo: Uma ukuzibandakanya kwakho nezinto ezisindayo ezihlangene kukwenza ungabi nothando, ungabi khona, ungabi ngumuntu, ungakwazi ukukhonza okuhle endaweni ephambi kwakho, buyela emuva, ngoba usuwelele ekuqondeni wangena ekuphazamisekeni. Uma ukuzibandakanya kwakho kukwenza ube nesihawu kakhudlwana, usekelwe kakhudlwana, ugxile kakhulu esenzweni ngezindlela ezisebenzayo, uzibophezele kakhulu ekwakheni lokho okuthatha indawo yakudala, khona-ke usebenzisa ulwazi njengethuluzi kunokuba uluvumele lukusebenzise. Lena yindlela ephezulu. Uba uhlobo lomuntu lapho "iqiniso elivela ekukhanyeni" lingeyona into edlulayo, kodwa inqubo ongayibona ngesithunzi. Awudingi ukusheshisa inqubo. Awudingi ukuphoqa indaba ukuthi iphethe. Awudingi ukuba ngumuntu ophethe yonke imininingwane. Uba khona emsebenzini wakho wangempela: ukudalwa okuqhubekayo, kwansuku zonke, okungakhazimuli, okuyisimangaliso kwesiko elisha elingenakwakhiwa phezu kwentukuthelo, ngoba kumele lakhiwe phezu kokuhambisana. Ngakho-ke, njengoba siphetha lesi sigaba sokugcina, sikumema ukuthi uvumele ukunaka kwakho kubuyele empilweni yakho ngendlela engcwele kakhulu—hhayi njengokuhoxa, kodwa njengokuzinikela. Ukuzinikela ekhaya owakhayo. Ukuzinikela ebuhlotsheni obulungisayo. Ukuzinikela emseni owukhethayo. Ukuzinikela ekudaleni okulethayo ku-inthanethi. Ukuzinikela emiphakathini oyiqinisayo. Ukuzinikela ekuthuleni kwangaphakathi lapho isiqondiso seqiniso siba sobala khona. Lena yindlela oqhubeka ngayo uhamba phambili ngenkathi izwe elidala liziveza, futhi yile ndlela oqinisekisa ngayo ukuthi isambulo siba yinkululeko kunokuba kube omunye umjikelezo wokuphazamiseka. Ngoba uMhlaba Omusha ozwayo awulindeli isihloko esiphelele. Ulinde abantu abazelwe emzimbeni abenqaba ukuba yizimfantu, abakhetha ukuba amabhuloho, futhi abaqhubeka nokwakha—ngokuthula, ngokuqhubekayo, ngothando—kuze kube yilapho lokho okwakuvame ukuba yinsakavukela kuba umhlaba ophilayo. NginguLayti, futhi ngiyajabula ukuthi ngilethe lolu lwazi kini nonke namuhla.

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